duke748 100 Report post Posted April 3, 2014 Been lurking for while until I had something worth while posting up, and recently have been wondering on the proper etiquette when asking sp's on non-posted rates. Is it a "if you have to ask you can't afford it" kind of thing? Or are most sp's pretty relaxed talking about it? I guess my own personal fear, for lack of a better term, is asking and having the rate be more than I am prepared to spend.....sorry that sounds like im being cheap but I dont quite know how else to put it. Any tips/advice in this regard would be most appreciated. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OSaab 574 Report post Posted April 3, 2014 I think most are open to discussing them privately as long as you ask them in a polite and respectful fashion. If it is out of your price range you can simply thank them and say that you do not have that much saved up at this time. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted April 3, 2014 If the lady doesn't post her rate, or you are looking for a longer encounter which she doesn't have a posted rate for then in your contact email it is OK to ask what the donation is And once given, do not try to haggle. The lady's rate is her rate, haggling may find you not getting your email returned RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Irina Adler 5376 Report post Posted April 3, 2014 Asking about rates is perfectly appropriate if they are not posted already. However, keep the following in mind: - Look at the SP's profile or advertisement to find directions on how to discover more. Rates may not be posted everywhere, but there may be instructions on how to contact her, or which website to visit in order to see her price list. Once you have exhausted those avenues, it is perfectly alright to PM her and ask. Making the effort to explore her website/profile first shows you are serious. - If you wish to ask for a session duration shorter than those she has listed prices for, do so at your own risk. Some SP's may be offended because they frequently state outright that the lowest price is the minimum and shorter sessions are not available. - Make sure you read about any restrictions before asking for prices for those services. As stated previously, it shows you aren't very serious if you don't know what the SP offers. - Never negotiate, or ask for discounts. Most SPs will instantly blacklist you. - Never insult the SP by telling her the price is outrageous, or too high. It's just best to say no thanks and move on. No need to be rude. We all understand that clients are not made of money, so don't be afraid to ask an SP his or her rate just because it may be too high for you. All you need to do is say "Thank you, I will keep that in mind." The best advice is be polite and you will get the same in return :) Have fun! 20 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ice4fun 78396 Report post Posted April 3, 2014 I agree with all the advice already given and would suggest that it is only reasonable to ask if the information has not already been provided in the ad or website. Just like with anything that we pay for there will be times when there are things we would like have buy can't always afford and SP'S understand that... the trick is to be sure to have your discussion in a manner that does not leave her with the impression that you think the rate is too high or that you don't have that much and are looking for a bargain. In my experience just like in any human interaction sometimes no matter how tactful we may have thought we were we.. may me misunderstood... if that happens... just be a gentleman... apologize for the misunderstanding and wish the lady good night /day Just my opinion. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest P**aq Report post Posted April 3, 2014 As the other's posted, I see no harm in asking if the information isn't available. I had instances with some SP's whom I have been a regular, that on a whim, I may notify by text that I would like to see her after work for x-amount of time that I may not pull from memory from her web site (which obviously I cannot access from the office!). So I just politely text, "are you available at 4pm for 120mins, and could you please remind me how many roses for that time because I am brain dead from my job to remember...". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
duke748 100 Report post Posted April 4, 2014 Many thanks for the advice, it is very helpful. As for haggling a price, I personally find that to be about the lowest thing a person can do. I've seen drunk idiots do this in Amsterdam....made me sick. Anyways, thanks again everyone. I definitely have a better idea of how to go about things now ;) Additional Comments: Many thanks for the advice, it is very helpful. As for haggling a price, I personally find that to be about the lowest thing a person can do. I've seen drunk idiots do this in Amsterdam....made me sick. Anyways, thanks again everyone. I definitely have a better idea of how to go about things now ;) Additional Comments: Many thanks for the advice, it is very helpful. As for haggling a price, I personally find that to be about the lowest thing a person can do. I've seen drunk idiots do this in Amsterdam....made me sick. Anyways, thanks again everyone. I definitely have a better idea of how to go about things now ;) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cat 262460 Report post Posted April 4, 2014 The key to a good appointment is ensuring you and the provider are on the same page. If you do your research and still have questions then the logical next step is communication. Ethical providers understand this and welcome the opportunity to engage with you. We all prefer to have a guest walk thru the door that understands our hard limits service wise and and the business model we employ. It makes for an enjoyable visit so don't back away from asking questions of any sort! If a provider isn't open to questions, just move on knowing you two probably aren't a good fit... cat 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mrgreen760 37785 Report post Posted April 4, 2014 If no rate is posted....then ask. If a service you're interested in isn't listed....then ask. If some one is offended by that then move along. Peace MG 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Layah 7013 Report post Posted April 16, 2014 Personally, I have no problem with a gentleman asking me for pricing information provided it is done respectfully and politely. For example, questions such as "How much for a BJ?" are unacceptable to me. Asking what my donations are, how much for my time, how many roses they should bring, etc are all good in my opinion. As a side note, when a lady gives you her pricing information, it is in extremely bad taste to attempt to haggle. If she says $200 and you only have $175 opt for lesser time instead of trying to convince her to take a lesser amount. Many of us are insulted by such inquiries. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
