toklat77 4616 Report post Posted September 23, 2014 I have not been active hobbying since I have once again gotten into a relationship. Before that, I absolutely loved hobbying as it was so exciting meeting intelligent and sexy women. What I am finding which kind of surprised me, is that now that I am back in a relationship I really miss the hobbying to the point of seriously thinking if I can have my cake and eat it to by continuing with my relationship, but also occasionally hobbying as well. The woman that I am with now is absolutely great, but yet, I still find my thoughts straying to the hobbying. This has caused me to wonder that no matter what woman I had a relationship in the future with, even if the sex was incredible, would I still not want to continue hobbying? Has hobbying created this side effect? Does any other hobbyist feel the same way? For SP's: Do you ever wonder once you quit being a SP that it may affect your future relationships? That your side effect may be that you miss the excitement and variety that being a SP gave you? I would be really interested in any comments that both hobbyist and SP's can offer as I continue to struggle with my so called "side effect!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mrgreen760 37785 Report post Posted September 23, 2014 "Has hobbying created this side effect? Does any other hobbyist feel the same way?" Crickets lol....I expect this cuts a little too close to the bone for some. But there is no question in my mind. Peace MG 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cato 160314 Report post Posted September 24, 2014 Happiness, satisfaction, stress reduction, all good effects! 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest *Ste***cque** Report post Posted September 24, 2014 That side effect is called oxytocin and that feeling it induces can be like a drug so be careful. Once you can no longer control your actions to the detriment of your relationships you enter addictions territory, or at least straddle its border. Sometime you have to choose rather than "have it all" but that's gotta be your decision since the consequences are yours too. I wonder the same thing. Could I give this up if my wife and I started being intimate? Right now my actions likely wouldn't affect my marriage since I have "permission" but if that were to change... Good question. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cinelli 22184 Report post Posted September 24, 2014 I've done enough running around and could easily settle down with one lady. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S****r Report post Posted September 24, 2014 Very interesting comment. I think I can relate! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Brad 49548 Report post Posted September 24, 2014 I'm not sure I'd say it's a direct side-effect, but perhaps can serve as an eye-opener. What I mean is that while there are plenty of people who are naturally and happily monogamous by nature, there are also those who are more inclined and suited to a non-monogamous (or monogam-ish) lifestyle. I'd say it's similar to how different people have different sexual orientations. It might be that seeing escorts is what has made you realize monogamy may not be for you (as opposed to it being the cause of it). I'd argue a non-monogomous person can still have a meaningful and deeply loving relationship. It's just that more challenging because for the most part people and society are not approving of non-monogamous lifestyles. The truly unfortunate thing, I think, is that too often people only find out monogamy isn't for them when it's too late. 6 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Butterfly Kisses 2301 Report post Posted September 26, 2014 You could go broke, lol! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
loopie 15358 Report post Posted September 27, 2014 I've never had trouble being monogamous and only partake in this lifestyle when I am totally single. As soon as I become interested in somebody romantically, I generally lose interest in hobbying. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Jessica Lee 43328 Report post Posted September 29, 2014 interesting topic... I'm more of the feeling that sp-ing is the side effect of my previous relationships. I was involved in non-monogamous relationships, had the desire to safely enjoy continued variety, and found I could earn an income while doing so. So here I am :) 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
whatsup 11893 Report post Posted September 29, 2014 The positive side effect of hobbying is I can have a non-monogamus life and maintain a relationship with my SO, of which I found out she was not monogamus. It a whole lot less complicated than going to a dating site. I can arrange encounters that suit my lifestyle. We are still together after that massive kick in the gonads 10+ years ago. Cheers and Happy Hobbying. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
