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Perhaps this is the right time to bring a subject that has bothered me. I did not mention it in any post and I have not read anyone grumbling about it strictly speaking...some similarities but not explicit as I am displaying it now. As we all know, the New Years are good for resolutions and here is my little input to try to modify a very rough and offensive approach to anyone; do not forget e-mails are an important exposure of your character. I'll start by saying that 90% of the Gentlemen I have met at CERB are genuinely that: "Gentlemen"; When they send a PM they use manners and social skills, and it is not because they could not cut corners and be abrupt like the others; rather they have what I usually call " social civil behavior"...nice acquisition in a person! I'll explain in a minute; My request is that the men as well as the women in this great Board, cooperate here with your thoughts about this issue. It will be great if it does not happen so often and "wonderful" if any of us receives one of those mails ever again...and if you gentlemen are receiving mailings in the rude and vulgar way I am exposing, PLEASE say it now; no person should put up with that written or verbal treatment! Here it goes: I had at least a 10% of the total PM's reading roughly like this: (four examples of what I have received in 3 months ) " I need a BBBJ. Where are you and how much for the job" " How much for GFE and all that fun" "Where do you live and what are your fees" and the worst of all (to me at least) "rates? abilities?" Now, I have to add here that, there was no other words in the PM's....not "hello" no "thanks" nothing...just plain rudeness and a treatment that I am not sure if they use all the time or just when they decide to. It is not too hard to introduce oneself and then approach the person who is receiving the message in an appropriate manner with all the questions one may have. I have talked to other SP's about this, and I was told that, yes, these men are out there. I decided to expose you guys, without saying who you are. Do you think we will respond to you in the same way that we will to a polite PM? Well, you guessed well, we wont. We receive many mails and those ones are not deserving a response. All of you who send messages like those, Please polish your manners from inside out! You are verbalizing your feelings, and much more who makes you unappealing and undeserving.:ablow: Thanks so much..... Tracie

I agree with you - it insults me when this minority of men think they'll get a reaction when they crudely ask for a bj or a quick fuck. Let me tell you something, mister! If you're going to talk to women as though they are sex toys for your gratification, you'll be having incalls with your hand instead! I thank all the wonderful and polite people I've met on Cerb who make me believe that chivalry is still kicking, screaming and scratching for survival. Hopefully, they will be looked upon as examples on how to behave cordially and professionally. Leave the dirty talk for after the doors have closed.

Personally, I believe that all SP's ,EP' s and courtesans in the business are very safe and take the necessary precautions not to mention regular testing. I feel much safer performing DATY on an SP than I would picking up some girl in a bar. I don't mean that with any disrespect to girls who sleep with guys they pick up in a bar, but I think it would be easy to make a mistake after a few drinks. I have yet to meet an SP that was drunk or stoned and if I did I would hightail my ass out of there so fast. ATH

Most of us who have been doing this for awhile would probably agree that it's probably best to see this as paid sex for fun which can be endlessly enjoyable, rather than some unrealistic (as well as an often sad - frequently pathetic - and sometimes dangerous - for all concerned - "love" fantasy.") That doesn't mean you can't have some really good friends - and once or twice perhaps (in my experience, at least - YMMV), if you are really honest with yourself - and she is as well, you can find someone you really love as a person - as opposed to being "in love with". And that's pretty damn good. But she's not your "girlfriend". Or your "wife". She's a true friend that goes way beyond this "life". And sometimes, that can be as good as, if not better than, any alternative.