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Amanda careful what you ask for. I will address the elphant in the room and say that for some one who claims to be so well educated your spelling and grammar are horrible, it's embarrassing that you flaunt your higher education the way you do yet you can not spell the simplest words. Also for someone who is so intelligent, it's amazing that you don't understand how your comments could upset people so easily. Confidence has nothing to do with being on the receiving end of some of your thoughtless and hurtful comments, to say that women who where loved by their fathers are nicer is just plain ridiculous. Finally you have a real annoying habit of taking over other peoples threads, it's called highjacking and it's rude, or are you just too smart to understand that ? NOTE: AMANDA ASKED WHY PEOPLE GET SO DEFENSIVE ABOUT HER POSTS, but has since edited that remark, also not cool. My comments still stand and I know I speak for many. ONCE AGAIN AMANDA HAS EDITED HER COMMENTS with no explanation, making my comments and others look like uncalled for attacks on her. Let it stand for the record AMANDA asked why we were all so defensive, I ANSWERED.

In the last week, I have been contacted by 6 gentlemen that I have not even met asking for hotel details among other things for other ladies. While I have no problems helping out anyone, I will not divulge details about anything to anyone that I have not met. As well this has been a bit much. If a lady has a question, she can email/pm me privately for details. If I decide that I am not willing to offer the information she is requesting, please do not contact me for her. I will give you the same answer that i have previously given her (I am unable to help). I am not trying to come across as a bitch or selfish. Discretion is of the utmost importance to me at all times. I have found places that work for me with trial and error. You have to be willing to contribute back and not just take from others. We all have to start somewhere, but using other people to get what you want and not giving back is not right. Everyone of us has something to contribute at some point. I could have posted this in the ladies only area, but I believe that the gentlemen need to see both sides of this as well.

Amanda, as with most topics of discussion you are veering the subject off topic. The thread was about expenses and you are bringing up confidence, father figures and education. If you want to discuss this start a new thread and don't hijack someone else's.

Hi all, I'm an executive member of SPOC (Sex Professionals Of Canada), and tomorrow afternoon, we're finally receiving the decision from Justice Susan Himel of the Ontario Superior Court. We will receive the decision by fax, starting at 1pm, and we've called a press conference for 2:30 pm, to be held at the 519 Community Centre in Toronto. I'll be in attendance, along with Valerie Scott and Terri-Jean Bedford (two of the appellants in the case) along with Alan Young and the rest of our legal team. We'll be updating our website as soon as we've gone over the decision, but we've also decided to get the word out a bit earlier than that. I'll be updating my Twitter feed (@NikkiSPOC) with all the details, as soon as we've gone over the decision, and hopefully, just before our 2:30 press release. For too long, sex workers have been excluded from public policy debates regarding the criminalization of sex work in Canada, and this is one way that we can control the conversation. In the past, we were subject to the whims of the mass media, who would print only what they wanted to print. Now, thanks to new technologies and the power of the internet, we finally have a way of placing ourselves at the forefront of the discussion. So please, if you care about the safety and well-being of sex workers in Canada, I encourage you to follow (and if possible, reTweet) my posts tomorrow, and get the word out to all your followers. We have a unique opportunity to control the discussion in the public sphere, so let's make the most of it and make our voices heard!

This is not meant to be rude or malicious in anyway. If you book an appointment with me, please do me the favour of calling if you are not going to show up. It takes time and effort to look this good:boobies: When you book with me i take time and effort to make myself beautiful for you. I put fresh sheets out, light candles and incense and sit back ready to give 100% to you. Not to mention i have others i have to turn down to see you. Contrary to popular belief we do not sit around with rollers in our hair waiting to see someone. We are real people with lives and things to do. Nothing is more frustrating than leaving class early or cutting short social time with friends then rushing like a mad woman to make myself perfect, only not to have you show up. Please respect me and call when are not going to show.Some people might have the logic that if they change their mind and call I will be angry. Quite the opposite. I understand we all have these things called lives and things come up:) However nothing irritates me more than when someone takes my time just to disrespect me and not show up without any word whatsoever, when i could see a gentleman who wants to see me and i could spend quality time with. I would give you the coutesey of a phonecall if something came up as i respect you and your time. All i ask is the same. Thank you all and have a Luxielicious day!!!!:D:D:D

Good afternoon all, Is not very often that I share a personal experience in here, at least not in a thread I guess that is in an effort to keep my secret identity :cool: however something is really bothering me today and want to share it with you partly looking for advice and another part giving an example of how we can regret some of the choices we make and try to avoid them. I'm sure many of you have heard many times how going to extremes is not good. Well, I'm trying to fight that bad habit. In my case, for a long time I have been struggling with being too forgiving. I know being resentful is not good but I have had people do some very bad things to me and I forgive pretty easily even without being asked. So lately I have been working in finding the balance between being forgiving but with dignity. Well, it turns out I had a disagreement with my mother because of some personal stuff that for a while has been in the middle of our relationship. Anyway, yesterday that came up and after hanging up all upset I wrote her an email explaining how I felt and asked her to respond it before calling me, this in order for her to realize she did wrong and hurt me instead of as usual pretending nothing happened. I did not receive the email but did get a phone call last night which I chose not to answer since i was in a bad mood and did not want to get into another argument, BAD CHOICE! This morning I got some bad news, my grandma is very sick in the hospital which means my mom was calling me to tell me that and I'm pretty sure to tell me how she felt. Needless to say I feel horrible now as I have not been able to reach her. I guess the moral here and what I would like to suggest to all who may eventually be in a similar situation .. 'pick up the phone as we never know what is really going on and may regret not having done it' Now the question for you is how can I find that in-between not being resentful but at the same time getting respect from others? There's also another side of this story I want to share with you but I already made this thread too long so I will leave that for another time. Thank you to all the ones who actually read it all. xoxo

http://www.theglobeandmail.com/news/national/ontario/ontario-superior-court-judge-strikes-down-prostitution-law/article1730433/ Yay, I finally found an article before someone else!!! Bethany Xoxox

Well, the big day is finally here... we have no idea how things are going to go, but we've got our hopes and heads held high! I've changed my Twitter name to @NikkiSPOC, please adjust your searches accordingly, and thanks to everyone who's willing to reTweet my posts... let's take control over our own destiny, and ensure participation in the public debate! Additional Comments: We won!!! Ontario Superior Court strikes down all three laws (Sec 210, 212, 213) criminalizing sex work!!!

I normally do not make comments like I am about to, but this statement makes me very, very unhappy. If you had a great relationship with your father, that is wonderful, and I do agree that loving relationships are essential to personal well-being. However, Saying women who are loved by their dad are much nicer is such a broad statement and feels like a slap in the face to women, like me, who did NOT have such a relationship. I'm quite happy in the fact that I don't have a father - but by your statement, this means I'm not as nice as someone who did? Give me a break. I will assume your sentiment in this statement is again, 'loving relationships make nicer people', which is how I live my life. The loving relationships i've developed with my friends, my animals, my lovers, are all what make me the nice person I am - father not included! Now back to the original topic please...

I don't know which board you are referring to, but it isn't CERB, that's for sure. The one being indiscrete in this case was the SP who allowed you to look at that area. We have a saying, "no news is good news". We don't spend our time dreaming up ways to make you guys' lives difficult. If someone is listed in our bad dates section, it is because they have done something that the SP feels other SPs should be aware of such as no showing, showing up late, not being hygenically clean, expecting things not offered on the menu, not respecting boundaries, short changing us, etc. Then of course there are the downright nasty and dangerous types which fortunately are in the minority. Then we judge whether or not we think that person is worthy of us seeing. It is unfortunate that you had a bad experience on another board. I am in no position to judge whether they were warranted in blacklisting you, as you claim, but that is the risk one takes on boards. Just as not ALL Sps may be honest, it works the same way with hobbyiests. It's a two way street, with SPs sometimes complaining they have been unfairly reviewed. If you are on this board and trying to make a fresh start, I suggest you let that other stuff go. By drawing attention to it, you are just perpetuating what you claim you think you are not deserving of. The only "guarantee" you will get for not ending up on our so-called "blacklist" is to not piss anyone off. There are literally hundreds of hobbyiests who do not end up on our bad date list, nor do they seem worried about it either. Just some food for thought.

I had weird situations that I do not want to experience again, with people I did'nt knew... Drunk, punk, or junk, everything's out there for us... We need to protect ourselves, including refferences... Please, there's no such insult of being hung up after asking for a CERB handle... I need to know who you are, so I can feel safe and confident to offer you the best services...

Some bitch ruined my weekend plans!

Quirky little article in the Globe yesterday http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/family-and-relationships/how-i-learned-to-be-the-erection/article1728338/

I know you can't resist kittens, Cleo: Getting back to the topic at hand...yes, I have noticed a lot more hijacking lately. The only thing that comes to mind is: self-abosrbed!

I do nor know exactly what Scott had in mind with this thread. But I suspect that the examples Pete, Sara and Cat brought up would not fall under hijacking. To bring up a hypothetical example of hijacking would be a thread devoted to the beauty of female breasts, and a poster starts to rant about the adequacy (or lack thereof) of Canadian men. This example is purely fictional and is only meant to illustrate the meaning of hijack. :grin:

I agree with your post,but in responding to a lady's announcement,should not be absolutely off limits. Men like to hear a touring lady is coming to their city,and should feel freely to express their pleasure to her. I know the main concern why this is brought up,and it has happened a couple of times with a member,that goes off in another direction other than the topic of thread discussion, now that I agree with. The following post which Cleo has announced some great information to us in Ottawa. We should have the opportunity to comment or in fact congratulate that person, it is showing conviction,care and humor. Yes I have done it so as everyone else, and in fact the ladies do not mind it,as it bumps their thread and is viewed more often, and that itself is a great business venture for all parties involved. The thread sample http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=35594

Can people attend the press conference at 519 ? I would love to be there.

Chanel! I agree with you! Confidence comes from many places one of them it is been loved by our parents and families but mostly from going to school and doing my home work I am refering to the fact that after i went to the all Women's college at Concordia University in Montreal. I became more confident about public speaking, or stand out for myself. I dont have difficult entertaning a converssation with anyone. Women who have been loved by their dad, are much much nicer and if you have been loved by both even better! Unfortunately most fathers have been emotionally abscent, in fact too many!

I made the decision to travel to wpg to see a travelling sp whom i was interested in meeting, after agreeing on a day and time we had a "date" since its a 2 1/2 hour drive i asked her to tell me the part of wpg she was in as it can really effect how long it takes to get there,she supplied that info. that morning i left early and arrived in wpg with time to spare so i picked up a small gift for her and then called (30 mins before app) and left her a message that i was in wpg and on time,after parking in the hotel and making my way to the lobby, i was six minutes early and called to let her know i was there (no answer) this particular hotel has no access to the rooms, you must be met in the lobby by the person receiving you to take the elevator up,so obviously the front desk personal see everything, after standing there feeling very uncomfortable for 15 mins i headed for the parkade,of course she then calls explains her phone volume was turned down and she was in the bathroom ,when i said i was disappointed because she knew i was on time yet left me standing in the lobby she said "do you want to cancel"that stunned me momentarily then pissed me right off, i had,nt come a couple of blocks to see her-i didn,t feel at all like meeting at this point so i did something wrong as well -by now its 11:25 am and i lied and said i had a lunch appt at 12:30 so we no longer had time , If she had simply apologised first without the excuse i would have been fine with it-was i oversensitive ?

If I have an appointment for 1pm and my phone hasn't gone off by 1:00pm sharp, I go to check it. I also make a point of apologizing for any stumbles along the way, even if it's not technically my fault. You're not being overly sensitive; she is lacking in basic customer service.