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A male friend of mine (purely platonic) exited a relationship not too long ago, and has confided in me that he is finding it very difficult to go from regular sex to no sex. In fact, he's been complaining about this for some time now. He knows what I do, and I suggested to him he contact an escort and even suggested Berlin (she is totally his type). He has the financial means to do so. He informed me that he "wasn't desperate enough to pay for it". Meanwhile he continues to complain about his situation while doing nothing to change it. With all the negativity that I've noted on the board lately, I wanted to throw out something positive and that's that I admire hobbiests for knowing what they want and going for it!

I saw on television the other day that there r plans to remake Dirty Dancing I'm sure the other ladies will agree that this is an untouchable! Posted via Mobile Device

I agree with Ottawa Lindsay (and gave her a Nomination for it), and I also agree with Elizabeth and Nicolette. Don't put your life on hold for this woman, Castle. She sounds a bit desperate, looking for a port in the storm or for someone to rescue her. She doesn't seem to be in any danger, though. She doesn't want to take responsibility for the situation she's in--a marriage that she may not be happy in plus an affair that may be abusive. You can't help her. She has to help herself. If she wants out of her marriage, well and good. My advice to her would be to spend a year or two raising her son without being in a heavy relationship with anyone so that she can figure out what she really wants and needs in a relationship. She also has no real idea of how her husband would react to her decision to end the marriage. Who gets custody of the child, for example? It could be messy and ugly! What you can offer her is help to leave and move into a safe place of her own, NOT a relationship. She's going to be a different woman a year or so after she ends her marriage, believe me. The struggle to end that relationship and to be solo-parenting most of the time tends to change everyone who does it. Usually for the better, in my experience. Be careful, Castle. You seem like a good guy.

That's the thing. Every time I fulfill a fantasy, I seem to develop a new one. My list never seems to get shorter.

the only thing really that i want to try is: a threesome being tied up and having the sp controle everything

In no particular order; - shower sex (wet and naked is just such a turn on and as common as it might be for most...I'm still a virgin) - the classy pick-up (ok, I must admit that some of this was in my mind and some comes from the writings of a special CERB lady. The idea of me sitting at the bar in a high end hotel having a scotch. In walks the classy looking lady. She sits close enough we can make eye contact but not too close. Ok I'm living it in my mind again...you get the rest) - the get-away (Being away for a couple days with a particular special lady I've connected with. The idea of just being able to spend more natural time together) - and I do very much have a dream to meet a few special CERB ladies but our travel plans just haven't aligned. Soon I hope. Hmm now I have goals. Anyone wanna help me achieve them? JK Cub.

I don't think anyone should even think about remaking "the man with no name" movies (i.e. A Fistful of Dollars, For a Few Dollars More and The Good, The Bad and The Ugly.)

well thank you gentlemen - these are some very nice words and i do appreciate you all appreciating my sexy puffies :-)) xo come worship them !

JessicaPRabbit, with her imprimatur (I just noticed this is post 666 on this thread. I hope it doesn't catch fire ;))

I admire the guts it takes to start talking/emailing one of us. To be open and vulnerable is part of the process, and every man takes a risk when he contacts any of us. We are all beautiful women; the industry demands it. But every man who calls or writes to us knows that beauty is only one aspect of the thing. Really, he wants to like her. Even more, he wants her to like him, but he may feel a lot more like a putz than anyone would know. What if he wants something the companion doesn't do? He doesn't want to offend her, but, frankly, maybe he's had a rough time getting that one special thing, maybe he's never been able to have it. Once he summons his nerve to ask about it, it's hard to hear that she doesn't do it. Maybe she knows someone who does. Maybe she'll consider it after she's met him a time or two. Whatever the case may be, the ball (so to speak) is in her court and he's exposed as a guy who likes, or hopes he will like, that. It's a tough place to be, no question about it. However, on the up-side of things, men who are honest in their vulnerability are wonderfully attractive! Really, they are!

Hey Castle, I'm going to do my best to keep this post coherent (no promises, I'm not always the best with words). When I read about your situation it made me think about how I could wind up in the exact same mess, I tend to want to help people... Which can often end badly for me. I've waited a bit before posting, trying to line up all my thoughts and reasoning concerning this subject. In the end, I keep coming back to my initial gut reaction, I can't provide good arguments or reasons for it, sorry. This whole situation is a god damn mess that you really don't have to be a part of. Good chance your involvement could make things worse and you'll get hurt. Fuckin' bail dude. For me, the GIANT red flag in all of this is the fact that she actually asked her child to lie to his own father who she's still married to! Who the fuck would put their kid in that kind of situation? Sorry, I know i'm being a bit of a cold-hearted jerk, but as others before me in this thread mentioned, she is an adult and her own person. She's going to do whatever she feels is best for her, whether or not it's healthy, smart, or whatever. There's a good chance you'll just get caught in the emotional crossfire and end up so much worse for your trouble. If you love something, set it free... Yep, I totally just ended this with a crappy cliche, my apologies yet again

one word: sexy

I prefer to call it body art, as apposed to a tattoo. I really like what some people (male or female) decide to design on their body, it is a form of art. And I agree there should be a specific meaning at the very least, it may show your personality. I'm over 50 and did get my first one, it has meaning behind it, and it is in a hidden spot.

I know it's probably not what you want to hear, but the best advice I can give you comes from much experience: She'll only hear what she wants to hear. And only when she's ready to hear it. Which basically means that she's gotta come to her own realizations on her own time. It sucks to have to watch it happen, but there's truly nothing else you can do without really sticking your neck out there. Be a good friend. Be there when/if she needs you to be. Support her unconditionally. Hopefully she'll wake up and see what an unhealthy relationship she is in. If not, it may be time to consider moving on because people who perpetually have bad relationship habits will almost always continue to in the future. I wish there was something more I could offer, but the cold hard truth is always the best remedy.

I totally agree Megan. I had a conversation with a client mine yesterday who's been a regular for quite sometime. I could honestly say that I would defend my clients till the end: these people are some of the most respectful, lovely, caring and fun people i've ever met. Before I started working, I had some really shitty sex experiences, but this job has really changed that. All of my clients could trust that if ever need be, I will have their back i.e. ensuring that our relationships stay secret from those whom they need to be hidden from etc. Love to all of you! xo Sky

And what a great way to cool off...

The Conclusion Our first and only hitch arose when we discovered that because of it being a holiday, restaurant choice # 1 was closed, and then restaurant choice # 2 was closed, so we eventually settled on a smaller and certainly less fancy place than originally intended. The fates then stepped in as they do when Cathy is involved, and we found ourselves in a small room off of the main restaurant area. There were a few tables in there, and, no one else other than she and I. "Oh oh", I thought to myself, "I am in trouble." You see, Cathy is not shy, she is not shy at all. Now me, I am, and she had been teasing me mercilessly for weeks about restaurants, about the potential benefits of long tablecloths, about creating headlines in the local paper. But no I had decided, "Cathy would behave and be my girl next door``. I was certain of it, that it was all just teasing and talking. So here we were in our mostly private room, facing each other across the table, ordering, chatting about whatever, when up she stands, comes around the table and perches in the chair beside me. Now there were the two of us at a table side by side, backs to the end wall, and facing the door to our private room. ``Oh oh``. I have no idea how we got away with it. Before leaving home she had put on her brand new dress, and before our meal was complete I knew what the lingerie was like underneath that demure exterior. It was not girl next door underwear. I knew what its cut and style was, its color, its texture, and then what was underneath that. And, SHE knew what affect that was having on me. There were times when if our waitress or another patron had entered the room that there would have been no hiding what was going on! I was petrified and excited beyond belief, and both at the same time. Cathy I KNOW took great delight in it all and delighted in the knowledge that she was bringing me to previously unexplored territory. I shall never forget that meal, and now I wonder what would have been had there been those long tablecloths that she had been hoping for. All of this before we were even in the privacy of my own home! It was going to be an interesting evening to say the least. Following our meal being successfully completed and thankfully uninterrupted at inappropriate times, we headed for home with a mostly full evening still ahead of us. Some of what followed is a blur, and as is per usual in the way that I write, is between she and I. However, sharing the tub together was unbelievable. I was still so distracted by everything that I never did light the multitude of candles and tea lights that I had previously placed in the room. Cathy has a way of making one forget `plans` , creates her own and goes with her impulses, desires and passions. Her impulses, desires and passions are fun, intense, and for me, boundary pushing experiences which she has a way of understanding. Our next stop was in the bedroom and wow. Our time together went from soft and caring to what for me is kinky and raunchy. I believe by Cathy's definition of those words, I have not seen anything yet! Certainly not yet being time for sleep we retired downstairs again and enjoyed each others company over a bottle of wine. We just talked. We talked about her and we talked about me. It was unbelievably comfortable to do so and topics ranged from very serious to very frivolous. She is so easy to talk with, a great listener, and she has a great laugh to go along with it. It was so comfortable that the time slipped away and all of a sudden, it was late. Bedtime. I mean like `traditional` bedtime. You know, like, going to sleep. A BIG thing for me. I was scared and I was nervous. I knew that this was going to be awesome or it was going to be a disaster. She deserved her sleep, and happily, she got it. For me it was, and maybe as boring as some of you might find it one of the absolute best parts of her visit. The ability to sleep beside a woman. To have a person there to curl up to and curl around. To touch, each time one awoke or to watch sleep peacefully. It is something that I miss terribly and was something ever so special for me to be able to do again. We are both early risers and the morning arrived with the sun. A beautiful spring day. For those who do not know Cathy, she is an athlete. She trains conscientiously at the gym and at home and has a regular running routine. Her training regime shows clearly in her body and in her mind set and her personal confidence. I had told her that if she wanted to bring her gear then this is a great area for her to get her morning run in, and she did just that. While she was gone I whipped up a light breakfast and it was ready on her return. She lives a healthy lifestyle and she eats that way as well. The shower was the next stop and a mutually pleasing experience it was with lots of soap and slipping and sliding. Cathy is a talented woman with many interests and skill sets. She is a Reiki master and is also a body point therapist. We had spoken about Reiki previously and she did her first Reiki treatment on me. It was something that I have gone back to her for again, and for the Reiki alone. Of course, the massage table was yet to play its role and a massage turned into a lot more. Yet again Cathy fulfilled a fantasy and did so with enthusiasm and desire. What can I say. I have said a lot here, but it represents for me perhaps the most special experience that I have had. Clearly you can see that Cathy is a special person. She is so open and fun, and likes to describe herself as the girl next door but with the kinky side always ready for anything that you might care to explore, and she does mean just about anything. It is a beautiful and enlightening and wonderful combination. Needless to say, I am recommending Cathy as a woman that you will really enjoy seeing, as a woman who takes great pride in what she does, and whether it be a massage, or an extended date, it will be an experience that you will always recall with pleasure and fondness. Thank you again Cathy for being you, for all that you have done for me in ways that only you and I know.

With her permission... The Lovely Dorinda