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Sex workers are not a high-risk group for STD's or STI's.

Several recent threads in different places have raised questions about sexual health and sexually transmissible infections (STIs). I thought it might be worthwhile to review and discuss some basic information. 1. Perfectly nice, respectable and trustworthy people can carry STIs without knowing it because they may have no symptoms. They can infect other equally reliable people without intending to cause any harm to them. 2. Everyone is responsible for their own sexual health. Only you can ensure that you are practicing safe(er) sex and that you are not at risk of being infected, actually infected or transmitting infections. 3. Free and trustworthy confidential sexual health testing is available in every major centre in Canada. If you're not comfortable asking your doctor for tests, you can go to a free clinic where you will not be questioned or judged. I do this, myself, every two months. The staff are friendly, pleasant, efficient and easy to work with. 4. STI test results are only a "snapshot" of your sexual health status when the tests were performed. They are not a guarantee that you do not have an STI a few weeks later. In fact, since some STIs incubate for weeks or months before producing symptoms, markers in blood samples or showing up in vaginal swabs, even though your STI test results are clear, you can still be harboring an infection that has not yet made its presence known. 5. STI tests should be repeated for at least six months before you can consider yourself likely to be infection-free, assuming that you have not changed sex partners during that time and that your partner(s) also have not had new partners. 6. Most STIs are easily treated with antibiotics. Some, such as herpes, cannot be cured but can be managed with antiviral medication. HIV/AIDS is increasingly becoming a manageable infection in Canada's larger cities. 7. HIV/AIDS is probably the most-feared STI. It is also a very fragile virus that does not communicate easily. You can't get HIV from doorknobs, sharing a plate or a glass, from kissing or from doing someone's laundry. HIV needs easy entry to one's bloodstream, usually via a cut, a tear in one's vaginal or anal mucous membrane, or a contaminated injection needle. In North America, heterosexuals who do not use illegal injectable drugs are at low-risk for having or transmitting HIV/AIDS. The problem, of course, is that because we cannot be certain about our sexual partners' other partners, it is not safe to assume that there is no HIV risk when having sexual contact with anyone. 8. Condoms offer the best protection against STIs. Condoms are effective for oral sex as well as vaginal and anal sex. Non-latex condoms are available and effective for those who are allergic to latex. Female condoms are not made of latex and are also effective for those who have allergies. Condoms made of sheep intestines and other materials are effective for preventing pregnancy, but not effective for preventing STIs. Sperm are significantly larger than viruses and bacteria, which can slip through the membranes of these "natural" condoms. 9. There really is no such thing as "safe" sex. Things such as condoms, dental dams and gloves can make sex safer, however. Even so, the herpes virus is "shed" by up to 5% of infected people even when they are not experiencing outbreaks. This means that one may transmit or contract herpes unknowingly. 10. Some STIs are more prevalent in some parts of Canada than in others. For example, a syphilis epidemic has been going on in Vancouver since the early 1990s. Syphilis is one of the viruses that can inhabit a human throat for months without any symptoms. Nonetheless, even if you and your companion both live in Saskatoon, it may be difficult to be sure that neither of you has had contact with anyone who may have come in contact with syphilis recently. 11. Common wisdom about STIs is usually inaccurate and untrustworthy. For example, one will hear that "everyone knows" there is only negligible risk in oral sex performed on a man. In fact, giving and receiving oral sex places both parties at high risk of STI transmission for all infections other than HIV, in which case the risks are lower. 12. Sexually active people have a responsibility to ensure that they have the best, up-to-date information about STI risks. Only with accurate information can we make informed choices about our sexual behaviour and infection risk. You can get this information many places including the Health Nurse's Sexual Health Information website and the B.C. Centre for Disease Control's STD Resource website.

If you've asked me when I'm going to be in your city, or to let you know about my plans, I think it's perfectly legitimate for me to PM you and say that I'll be there on these dates and, if you're available, I'd love to see you. This would be part of a conversation we're already having. If I'm planning to go to a certain city, I could put a note in the Advertisement section for that city, saying that I'm considering making a trip and give the dates. Interested parties could contact me, then, and ask about my availability. What I would NOT do is PM or e-mail members with whom I'd had no conversation and pitch my ads to them directly. That would be a kind of solicitation that's not only outside the bounds of this board, but also pretty tacky and tasteless, too, in my view.

In the end we all have to be responsible for our own sexual health. Asking an SP to reassure you is not taking full responsibility of your own health....its asking her to reassure you that you're safe, and no SP can do that because we're SPs...not doctors. Best to go get tested regularly if you are having multiple partners (this includes SPs and especially non SPs)..... asking someone if they are sure they are clean and asking for proof is kinda like asking someone if they're lying....or at least it feels like it on our end.

This has been well covered so I will keep this short. I have had many a conversation in my adult years with my grandfather who spent his entire military career in Europe during WWI. He was single, whether that actually mattered, but regardless he always told me it was for "companionship" more than the sex. To talk to and touch a lady and relax and unwind and .....yes have sex, but have fun and laugh. He became friends with one and saw her every time he had a chance, which was rare. There where the ones indeed that wanted to get their rocks off but in his experience it was about the companionship and closeness for him and the majority of what he saw. I realize this was war time but really.....I don't think things have changed that much since then. My opinion only.....It always has been about the combination of companionship and sex, and fun ! This all can lead to sooo many wonderful and amazing experiences. In my case laying on your back for an hour doesn't work. But Hey....thats just me :)

There are escorts and there are companions - just like there are amazing clients and not so wonderful ones. there is something for everyone, but it is about finding what you are looking for. Not everyone is seeking a slam..bam..thank you maam...There is way more to this business than just sex....A lady has every right to voice her opinion when she offers so much more than sex....I am very sorry that you feel that it is a lady's job to just lay on her back and take it.....

I've learned... ... that there is no shame in being an SP. ... that I have a responsibility to myself to explore my sexuality. ... that I am not as shy as I once believed ;) ... there are amazing people in this industry- not the stereotype. ... this business is a lot more organized and respectful than I may have once assumed. ... it's a helluva lot of fun!

Thanks to Mod for giving us the opportunity to show our appreciation to these amazing ladies who greatly contribute to making what CERB is all about. I had the opportunity to express my vote, confidentially of course, but I must say that all these ladies do make great contributions in their own way. Best wishes to all of them. toine

so? what does it change? Maybe not the best idea of the century but what does it change? I like drinking also, does this make me "lower" then those that don't drink? nah.

This post is just about my thoughts on a subject, it's just my opinion, I'm not saying it is right, I'm not saying it is wrong, it just my views. First a little bit about myself, I'm in my mid-twenties. I've been in short relationships, long relationships (longest 3 years), but for pretty much this past year, I've been single. Dated a few girls, but nothing really that I would consider a serious "relationship". Something I have noticed though is especially in August aka "Wedding Season" is that a lot of what used to be my core friends are all getting married or are in pretty serious relationships. I've noticed that myself and my other "single" friends have slowly been indirectly pushed out of our social circles. Now, it's not that our "couple friends" are assholes or anything like that, they are great awesome people, it's just that "couples" hang out with "couples". While single people are slowly pushed to the curb. Mind you, this is just my opinion, it may not be the case all the time. So what is a single person to do? They are suppose to get back into a relationship. Society programs us to find someone else whether it be the bar, dating websites, the grocery store, or whatever else. And too, even if you find someone, you will always have that dreaded shadow behind you of past relationships. The public seems to think that just because a past relationship ENDS it equals FAILURE. How is that even fair? How is that even correct? Singleness is treated like a disease, like it needs to be fixed. It's treated like a state that one surely needs to change as quickly as possible, and a change we should all strive for. If you are single, friends view you as miserable, something is wrong you, and that they need to make sure you are going to make it. Western society drives the thought into children at a young age thru the media & even sometimes in real life, that a person should always be striving for romance or sexual desire. Being single does not represent success and happiness. The stigma of singleness needs to be removed. The devaluation of it needs to come to a halt. For example, what if in Ottawa, happiness didn't equal getting married, moving away from downtown, and moving into a house in Kanata or Orleans, then starting a family. Another example would be what if little girls weren't driven by society to organize their life around a heterosexual relationship as the focal point, then put other things like friends, a career, living arrangements etc. around that relationship wherever it may fit. What really is wrong with living with roommates? What really is wrong with living members of the opposite sex without dating? What really is wrong with living alone? This not only allows us to experience different social living structures but also allows us to escape the linear line that Western culture tries to cultivate upon us. Life doesn't need to be centered around sex or a relationship. Happiness can be found in numerous other bits & bytes in your life. Just because single people don't centralize their life around sex or a relationship, does not mean they are deficient. There's nothing deficient about being single, and pursuing the kind of life you want. If we as a society just expand our idea on what lives are acceptable, whether you are a middle aged male, divorced, single young lady with career aspirations, gay, lesbian, poly, or even straight married people living in Kanata/Orleans, basically ALL kinds of people, I just think we would be a lot better served.

Ten years ago I was still in the corporate world. That morning I was interrupted by a phone call telling me to go to CNN.com. No other information. Just go. I went. I watched in horror as those events played out. When I could take no more, I sat and wept on the entrance steps. Some coworkers came and asked me what was wrong. They'd been on a sales call and had not heard the news. "They're killing my people." That was all I could say. I am American. Should you want to, I can discuss politics and policies all day long about that day or anything else. But the root event of that day? I still weep when I go there. Like now. One thing cheers me about that day. I feel immense gratitude and pride in my adopted country for the actions Canada and Canadians took that day in receiving the thousands of airline passengers and treating them well. Yin and yang.

Awww, I know it is hard at first. I had waited for like months for my first recco to be posted....dont despair, once you get one posted more will fallow. Keep your chin up:)

IMO it is only polite to say hello and to thank any visitors and I always do when able to. To complain that someone said hello and thank you, no solicitation type posts whatsoever. Is just plain sad. IMO. You do have the option to delete and/or not approve the message. Everyone is entitled to complain, it's human nature. I do hope that a solution that would enable each person to turn on or off this feature will be an option soon.

I have learned: 1. That the friendships I have fostered here are genuine. Those that have been to my home, and the yet to visit all have a place in my heart. You know who you are... now you know how I truly feel. 2. That although we may not always see eye to eye, we can enjoy each other's company despite our differences on certain issues. 3. That the most beautiful, desirable women on the planet are also the most intelligent, witty and soulful people I have ever encountered. 4. That if the naysayers and abolitionists actually paid attention to what was written here, they would have a completely different opinion about the industry they ignorantly rally against. 5. That this is a place that can easily occupy many hours of my time and still not be considered time wasted. 6. That sooooo many people set me up for one liners.... In actuality, I think I would be a lesser person had I not found this site... you all make me so much better!

I agree with what Elizabeth has said. I get tested every two months at a free clinic. The test results have no identifying information on them so, while they're meaningful to me, you would never know if they were my results or someone else's. Most independent, indoor sex workers are almost rabid about safe sex practices and won't compromise or perform bareback services for additional fees. Frankly, I'm more concerned about your experience of condom slippage. This is something your companion could not have known about in advance. Slippage usually happens when a man loses his erection, partially or fully. He may also have decreased sensation when he's softer. My very strong advice to you is to use a cock ring from now on. You can find them in adult toy stores. They come in several different configurations. Some are stretchy acrylic. Decide what you think you'll be most comfortable using. When the condom goes on, put the cock ring on next. It will hold the condom in place and it will also help you maintain your erection. However, even if you don't stay hard, the condom won't slip off. Don't be embarrassed about using a cock ring! Most of us are very familiar with them and find them to be a terrific accessory to help middle-aged and older men have a complete, fulfilling experience.

Things I have learned in my life: 1. To be capable of loving, you MUST love yourself. 2. If you think you need someone else to "complete" you, you are selling yourself short. 3. Many of the friends you had as a young person will not be the friends that you have later on in life. As circumstances change, so does your group of friends. It's just a fact of life. 4. You only have one shot at life. LIVE it. Lamenting what could have been, what would have been or what should have been will only cause unneeded pain. 5. Love can and will be fleeting. Those who are able to capture it forever are truly blessed. You can't force it, trap it or tame it. It pounces upon you unexpectedly, and can leave with equal speed. Embrace it while you can. 6. Be comfortable being you. 7. You may have people that rely upon you, but the greatest reliance you must heed is to yourself. 8. Fill your life with joy and laughter. It comes from within. 9. KNOW who you are and what you need. To be cliche, the grass is NOT always greener in the other guy's backyard. You should print your thoughts today, and look back at them 10 years from now; then you can show them to your divorced buddies. Food for thought.

I don't think I've read a sadder public post by another paid companion. What you've written here, IslandIndependent, honestly breaks my heart. If this has been your experience in our industry, I can only say that it hasn't been mine, for the most part. I want better for you. I agree that there are plenty of men who pay for the opportunity to get right down to what they want without having to go through a lot of preliminaries. Long ago, I used to have a lot of these meetings. The transactions were simple and clear. Feeling like I was only something to pound was rare, for me, but it happened sometimes. After awhile, I realized that I'm not submissive enough to just lie there and take it, or simply to follow directions compliantly. I don't need romance, but feeling bored isn't good for me, either. I decided to change things. I took a good look at what I know about myself, what my strengths and limitations are, what interests me, how I most enjoy relating to other people, how I want to be seen and understood, what I most appreciate about men, what I enjoy in bed and out of it, what I know about my own body's workings and what I know about men's bodies, too. From all of that, I recognized that I could offer a very fine, complete and rewarding experience to anyone with whom I chose to spend my time. I was right about it and I've never looked back. I welcome clients who want to spend some time with not just any woman, but with me. They've usually gone to the effort of getting to know something about me, whether by reading my website or reading what I've written in other places before they contact me. They try to present themselves as people I might be interested in meeting. We take it from there. A few e-mail exchanges, one or two phone conversations, then we meet, having recognized that we each think we'll enjoy spending a few hours together. If this will be the only time we'll ever meet, it will at least be worthwhile. And yeah, sure, we'll have sex, too. I've found that, almost without exception, men who will take a bit of time before the meeting will be concerned about what I want, too. They want the encounter to be good for me. I want the same for them. If they had specific things they wanted to do or to try, they will have told me about that at some point and I will have said whether I'm interested in or comfortable with those things. If the mood and energy is right, they will probably happen. If it's not right, they won't, but there won't be any hard feelings, either, because we will have made the decision together. In the end, I don't feel used, degraded or ignored. I trust that my client will feel admired, appreciated and enjoyed. Time well spent! This longer dance of seductive engagement is not for everyone. But if it's what you want, you can be sure that there are plenty of good men who want it, too. They will treat you well and appreciate you. The last thing I want to say is that if you're feeling detached from what you're doing or what is being done to you; if you feel like you're not really there when that's where you are; if you don't believe you have choices and the right to say what you do and don't want to do; if you don't think that your preferences are important or would be respected.... please stop. Don't sacrifice your spirit for the sake of what your body can earn. The sex trade is not right for most women. If it feels like it's not right for you, listen to that voice. If you need help to leave, help is available: PM or e-mail me.

Very true about the YMMV scenario. Although I'm not a PSE companion (no anal and CIM) I do enjoy giving and receiving safe rimming (with a dental dam only). I know it's not the ultimate feeling but it's better than nothing and my temporary lover(s) and I still enjoy it very much! :biggrin: Needless to say that impeccable hygiene is a must in this case and not limited to this particular intimate activity! Have fun and be safe!! Additional Comments: Rimming your partner before giving him an awesome prostate massage makes for excellent relaxing preperation...

There has been lots of talk again recently about sp using stolen photo"s I would like to discuss stolen texts. Awhile back I reported two separate ladies who used stolen text (word for word copy paste) in there cerb advertisement. I was surprised to learn that this is NOT necessarily against cerb rules. Personally I spend little to no time on a ladies photo albums and most of my time on what they have to say in there advertising,cerb post, and web sites. I read any Reco's that they may have and how they interact with other cerb members. I use this information to see if this is someone I would like to meet and if we are compatible. So personally I feel any lady that uses a stolen text describing there personality or services offered is just as offencive and deceiving as a stolen photo just wondering how everyone else feel about this. Just a side not the two ladies that I reported for using stolen text were eventually banned for breaking other cerb rules so you can read into that what you want

I LOVE it! Ooh! ooh! And bite my neck too! (Not the kind that leaves marks) In other words...No Draculas!

And then it may slow down again for a bit! But, I am confident in myself and I know that my service is top notch. Just remember, when someone comes back to see you, it's obvious he enjoyed himself and that is all of the satisfaction you need :)

This is what I get told every time I have ever asked a woman to do it, whether its an GF, SP or One Night Stand. It's bittersweet because although it is flattering, it also means "no". haha

One thing I WILL NOT apologize for is my habit of thanking people for viewing my profile page. I thank women and men alike and have never posted a solicitation type message. IMHO if you don't like it you have the power to delete my sincerely nice message. On the reason for disabling this function, I commend the Mods for their vigilance in helping out the person who is being stalked. I am hoping this guy gets what's coming to him! A for the lady in question, stay strong!

A great forum thread, Daniel17. I hope to contribute more on this later, but I wanted to share this ca. 20 minute documentary that aired on CBC's The Current on Christmas Eve, 2010 that offers up some eye-opening statistics, dispels the myriad of myths about being single - by choice or accident -, and shares the stories of people living the lifestyle by conscious design. Having been single for long periods of my life and now approaching 50, I found this program to be very thought-provoking and validating. A great listen! Single File If the link above doesn't work, just scroll down to Dec. 24, 2010 on this page to find the podcast. http://www.cbc.ca/thecurrent/episode/

Darn, I guess I will not know if my obsessed groupies are following my every single post word for word, day-to-day now. I like to keep them close andhave my eye on them and see what they're up to.lol. In all seriousness though, if someone was ruining someone's business and the SP's safety was in question, that is enough to disable the feature and I credit the Mod for doing so. I hope he will find a way for members to be able to choose to have this function or not. I liked to see who was visiting me.

I agree with Elizabeth 100%. If he wants the relationship to be over, then he has to stick with that no matter how wonderful the offers of kinky sex and other things may be. Remind him that he can get all of that elsewhere without the problems he's getting from this woman. I hope your friend has told the woman as clearly as possible that he doesn't want to have any contact with her. If he has, what she's doing qualifies as criminal harassment. If she's also keeping track of his whereabouts, sitting outside his house, following him, etc., that's called "besetting," and it, too, is illegal. He should write down everything that's happened and keep track of every phone call, e-mail, text, mail and gift she sends him. He shouldn't hesitate to contact the police. They can be very helpful.

Stereotyping is not your friend. Be more tolerant. Be more open-minded. To appreciate my limits. To explore my limits. To understand the hobby.

Livy, who in her note to me giving me permission to post this, describes herself as a PAWG, a "pretty hot and tempting ass" WG. Definitely not a FAWG, for those who like acronyms. ;) I like this description. It fits.

Don't visit her then if you don't like her interests.... no need to bash the lady.. Positive vibes..

Guys, guys, guys. Now, where else would you get the chance for $30 to meet so many lovely nice ladies. Think about it, stripclub and one dance, you are there. And you wouldn't even have had the chance to socialize with them. If you aren't sure you can go, that shouldn't stop you from stepping up and putting up the cash. If you go great, if at the last minute you can't make it, you bought a couple of ladies drinks... Never will you have a better chance. :-)

Now you've got me worried, Em! ;)

My fave of the now is: http://youtu.be/B1wuJE7iQDs Seasick Steve, Jack White, and ... oh, I don't even wanna spoil who's on bass...

Does this count Angela: Linkin Park and Jay - Z

Mrgreen, with all due respect, maybe it is irrelevant to you but as a community, paid advertiser or not, everyone has to abide by the CERB rules and those rules do not permit solicitation. Gabriella Side note: advertising/promoting and solicitation are NOT the same.

I have learned here that our profession is much more sophisticated and organized then what the general public realizes. That there is many more positive sides to this than the "horror" stories that the media puts out there. I also have learned that a community like this becomes more than just a job, or a place to advertise, but get real support from other's, and how important that support is to me and my well-being. I also have learned not to let other people's opinions of other people to cloud my own judgment on who they are as an individual. I love cerb:)

I can understand at the moment when the incident happened that the OP was concerned (mind conjuring up thoughts) about his health and well being. It is a sensitive question that he asked and I can see how it could be deemed as rude. I am sure he was only looking for reassurance that all is well. In the end. it is up to each and everyone of us to take care of our own personal health and get the reassurances that we need.

On a very recent personal note I have a couple close girl friends that know what i do...well one of their boyfriends broke up with them a year ago and him and I are good pals, but somehow I found out last week that it was spread that we were sleeping together (not the case)....anyway that rumour didn't hurt as much as the one from the same gal-friend that went "oh man....you know shes a hooker right? [to the guy's ex girlfriend] you should go get tested for everything! especially HIV...like RIGHT NOW!"...meanwhile this guy had been with a lot of other bar chicks celebrating his new-found single-ness....but it was especially important that he get tested after all those flings because of the potential that he might have been with ME, an escort. I ended up telling her that if she was still boning the dude in question she should get herself tested anyway and him likewise but it made me wanna bang my head against the wall that they knew he was promiscuous but it only became an issue to get tested when I apparently (but wasn't ) involved. I wont lie....before becoming an escort I had some fun drunken bar flings where I woke up the next morning and went "what was I thinking...no condom?" but my first move wasn't calling up the dude and asking him if he was clean to make me feel better and leaving it at that......it was getting my ass to the clinic and getting a professional to ease my mind. As escorts we not only owe it to our clients to be clean but we also owe it to OURSELVES to not make the same mistakes that alcohol, youth or just plain stupidity involve......we love your bodies gents but we also treasure our own and we treat your bodies with the same respect we would our own. Sorry to vent but we will ensure that your body is safe.....but you have to do your part to make sure we are too.

I've only been here a little while, and have so much to learn. I guess the top 2 things are: 1. This industry isn't as terrible and fundamentally exploitative as the media would lead you to believe. It's possible to reconcile a respect for women with this hobby. In fact, if you don't have a respect for women, you've got no business here. 2. Any joke I come up with, Old Dog has already made.

I have also experienced mixed results with well-reviewed ladies, although I originally selected both of my current favs because they had been very well reviewed. I agree that it all comes down to chemistry and connection, which cannot be predicted based on ads, bios, reviews or recommendations. However, my experience has not led me to ignore reviews and recommendation. A large part of doing one's homework prior to selecting a lady consists of reading her reviews and recommendations. I also agree with ottawaadventurer that reviews and recommenations may be more useful in terms of helping us avoid bad encounters than ensuring good ones, but to ignore reviews and recommendations entirely essentially means you are TOFTT every time you vist a new lady. I also agree that speaking to a lady over the telephone prior to an appointment is probably the best way to predict whether you will "click" with her in person. However, it is not a guarantee. Also, some ladies make pre-arrangements via email only and not via phone. And for some, especially newbies, first telephone conversations with an escort are too stressful to be of much use as a means of determining whether there is a connection or not. The bottom line for me is that reviews and recommendations remain an essential element of selecting a lady, but are no way a guarantee of success.

I think everyone has their text stolen from time to time, I can currently name 4 websites and ladies ads with various versions of my home page, philosophy or a few of my ads. Only once did I let it stress me and that was one of the first times someone took my ad posted it as their own and actually got credit for it - someone posted on the board an inquiry about her and people said she sounded interesting based on her ads. Anyway it took almost a month but she was found out to not be the lady she claimed and I was happy I didn't get involved in it at all. I figure this industry is hard, for some people it's likely impossible to navigate and some may not have had the work opportunities and training I've been fortunate to have so their skill set may not include marketing, web development, etc. I may not approve of their tactics but in all businesses and across all industries there are people without integrity and people without the experience to put together a business plan, the difference is in this industry when you are new you often don't know where to go for help or don't know you can even get help. I believe if you act with integrity and have a clear professional approach to the industry and display maturity with your actions it speaks more about you than any ad you can post. When someone uses my text I think it's not the text that makes the ad but my response to the situation, as they say actions speak louder than words.

Here is a comment from a comedian, he said : " If i were standing at an intersection waiting to cross the street, and just seen 54% of the people get hit by cars.......would I really want to cross that street?" Of course this is referring to marriage........I laughed for days over that one!

In the case of aggressive soliciting on the guest books, is there an option to report that? I do show appreciation for viewing my profile ie: caught you peeking....or thanks for checking my profile. But not to every individual that happens to check me out. I think it distasteful, and looks desperate to come right out and solicit on a guest book. They will seek you if interested, no need to put someone on the spot like that.

First off, IslandIndependant, apologies for my earlier response. Seriously I don't function well without a morning pot of coffee, and should have waited till I got home from work before replying I read the lines starting with "If a man is paying..." and honestly, it sounds, even now more like some guys who have made posts that are disrespectful towards SP's For me, and I'm sure for a lot of the gentlemen here, seeing a escort is more than just about sex. Yes, most definitely, sex is part of the encounter, but not the whole encounter. I like the entireity of the encounter, the initial meeting, conversation, sex, kissing/cuddling Another way to put it, I like encounters of two to three hours. I'm fifty years old...do you really believe I have two to three hours sexual stamina at my age?...no, I like the company of women for more than just sex. I don't know whether you have such a narrow shallow view of escorting because it was your mindset before entering the profession, or you have only met guys as clients who view you solely as a means for their sexual gratification. But it should be mutually beneficial. And that, for me doesn't mean money for sex. It means money to compensate for the lady's time, with the benefit of no relationship complications. What happens during the time can be mutually enjoyable and pleasurable. Seeing ladies shouldn't be a zero sum game...that whatever the gentleman gains is at the lady's loss Some coffee laden thoughts RG

You know you're old when you remeber getting any new computer toy involved fiddling with jumpers and dip switches:

Honestly I have had encounters where it was just sex, just "wham bam thank you ma'am" because once I got there realized there was no genuine connection between me and this person. And trust me in each case I did not repeat. Many of us, myself included, are looking for more than just "wham bam thank you ma'am". No we're not looking for relationships or girlfriends....that's why we're here. But that doesn't mean we don't care about the woman getting pleasure out of being with us. At least in my case, I like to feel that I did everything possible to show her a good time. If we're not both enjoying ourselves, then the whole experience is ruined for me and I just leave feeling like, pardon the term, a pity fuck. No one likes to feel that way. A mutually pleasurable experience is much more satisfying in every way.

Some I watch over and over Primal Fear Goodfellas The Peacemaker (Clooney Kidman) The Sting Tommy Boy Smokey and The Bandit (The first was the best) L.A Confidential T.T.

I think that sometimes, especially lately on Cerb, the written word may be taken out of context and thus create a hostile environment. The advent of email and texting has corroded the human connection. Sometimes, a perfectly acceptable and accurate statement can be taken out of context and interpreted in a negative fashion when in fact it was meant to be the opposite. When we speak face to face, seldom do we get the wrong idea about the intent of the comment! My advice is, before jumping all over a post you may disagree with, re-read it and if clarification is required, approach the poster before jumping all over him/her. Let's keep this wonderful playground a fun place to be :)

Oh, yeah... sigh... Paid companions are better than girlfriends because we never make demands or talk about the future. A client can't walk though the door, at home, and have his partner naked and in bed within 5 minutes, or at least, not since the very early days of their marriage. But we're always ready, we always look as lovely as we can, and we always say yes to sex. The sex is always as good as we know how to make it. His pleasure comes first, or, at least, we don't have long meetings where we say, "Okay, so let me show you how I like it...". The men think that we're real, that women really can be this way all the time. They know that's not true, but they hope it might be. When a client says he loves me, I tell him I'm flattered. I change the subject. I know that what he means is that he feels something strong, right then. That's good, but it's still something that's all about him and not really about me, the woman who is not Samantha. Last summer, I had a client who became obsessed. Difficult. Demanding. Leaving flowers at my door, messages on my voice mail, in my inbox, whining when I didn't answer them at length. He wanted to drop by, take me to lunch, go for a walk, I said no over and over and over again. Then one day he came by my house and planted pink flamingos on the lawn, each holding a little card with a message for me. That's when I told him that if I ever heard from him again, I would report him to the police for harassment. A couple of months later, he created a new identity and a new e-mail, pretending to be someone else in the hope that he could get a multi-hour meeting with me at a downtown hotel. But my e-mail program picked up the fact that his IP address was the same as my harasser. I wrote a brief, straightforward e-mail and told him that I would report him if he tried that again and that I would be sure that the police knew all of his personal information so that they could find him and pay him and his wife a little visit. So far, that's kept him away. A couple of weeks ago, a new-ish client whom I'd seen four times said he thought he was falling in love with me. I told him it wasn't love, it was lust: he's in lust over the prospect of having his cock down my throat and fucking me in the ass. My policy is to believe very little of what a man says shortly before, or after, a blowjob. In my experience, the men who think they've fallen in love really want all the benefits of great sex without any of the relationship obligations. It's a great fantasy! I'm happy to explore this as often as they like . . . at my full hourly rate. :motion:

Gladly, I will define. I advertise an experience not a service. When I receive emails asking How much for a bj? ,what will $100 get me, or the best one is the local ladies charge $140 and do it all (seriously I was not born yesterday) it really puts me off. You can't pick and choose what happens in a encounter, it is not a pizza where you pick your toppings. If you want just a BJ look for a lady who offers just that in her sessions, if it is too expensive, save up (I do not wish to be high volume, therefore my donations reflect that, do not insult me by telling me I should charge less so you can be my regular) Don't ask ladies to tour if you don't plan on supporting them, 90% of us have fully detailed websites and the information applies to all cities so why play stupid with the "O I did not know your donation applied to my city or I did not know you were visiting" if you've been looking at the site for months, reading the ads and have been directed to the website for details, it is pretty plain and simple what is offered,what the donation is and when I will be in your city. It really sucks that nice and amazing gentlemen have to suffer because of the stupidity of others. We already played the naivety card in another thread and in this day and age, if you can sign up on CERB you can read the newbies section. There really is no excuse.

Jude provides an excellent massage. But she didn't discuss any option until I requested them. She removed her shirt and braw. Great breast (small and firm) and good HJ. Can't beat the price $100.00 . She's also better looking in person.