No one is entitled to a SWER’s time. If someone isn’t comfortable with an escort who screens, has clear boundaries and remains selective, then they were simply never her target client. And just because you consider yourself a good client doesn’t necessarily mean you are a good client for her. A good client for her is someone who does not question her limits or her screening process.
Not all money is good money, and I think it’s positive to see more and more SWERs able to prioritize their safety and their standards. Being selective is a luxury and unfortunately it’s not a reality for everyone in this industry. But those who can do it are also helping normalize healthier boundaries.
I also think it’s powerful to see women able to choose, to be free in how they work and to decide what is right for them. Our freedom and autonomy should never be negotiable. No one has control over our choices, our limits or how we choose to manage our careers.
We also shouldn’t be afraid to be firm in our boundaries out of fear of blackmail, pressure or fake bad reviews. Setting clear limits from the start isn’t being difficult, it’s simply respecting yourself and protecting your safety.
The more we normalize screening, freedom of choice and respect for boundaries, the healthier this industry becomes for everyone.