Yep, what Happy and the ladies said. There have been times when "junior" was a no show, so to speak. This after I had arrived at the date. Honestly, I never let it bother me and was able to have a wonderful time pleasing the lady orally or cuddling naked and kissing or sharing a bath or even just laying in each other's arms having a wonderful conversation. A dinner date is also an option unless you have to be discreet. I'm a skinny, old, not super attractive guy and I'm with a gorgeous young lady who treats me like I'm a friggin leading man in a movie. It's a wonderful thing to be thankful for. In my experience the best times were the ones when the actual sex was almost an afterthought to the experience itself.