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  1. [B][U]The state re-enters the bedroom with new legislation on prostitution[/U][/B] Jesse Klein [URL="http://fullcomment.nationalpost.com/2014/06/04/jesse-kline-the-state-re-enters-the-bedroom-with-new-legislation-on-prostitution/?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=twitter"]http://fullcomment.nationalpost.com/2014/06/04/jesse-kline-the-state-re-enters-the-bedroom-with-new-legislation-on-prostitution/?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=twitter[/URL] [QUOTE] Pierre Trudeau had many deeply flawed ideas, but he was right about one thing: â??Thereâ??s no place for the state in the bedrooms of the nation.â? The way this country deals with prostitution has traditionally followed the idea that the government has no business interfering in Canadiansâ?? private sex lives, so long as economic transactions for sexual services are conducted in private. Before the Supreme Court stuck down many of Canadaâ??s prostitution laws late last year, selling sex was perfectly legal, but practices that took place in public â?? such as negotiating on the street and running a brothel â?? were illegal. This was better than criminalizing prostitution completely, because it gave sex workers and johns a legal way to engage in a voluntary economic transaction. But it also made life much more dangerous for those who worked in the sex trade. [URL="http://fullcomment.nationalpost.com/2014/06/04/jesse-kline-the-state-re-enters-the-bedroom-with-new-legislation-on-prostitution/?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=twitter"]Read Moreâ?¦[/URL] [/QUOTE]
  2. Backgrounder on Bill C36 - "Protection of Communities and Exploited Persons Act" http://news.gc.ca/web/article-en.do?mthd=tp&crtr.page=1&nid=853729&crtr.tp1D=930 This only just happened. It's just a first reading. Summary and explanation of the proposed bill from Pivot Legal Society, who worked on the Bedford SCC ruling: http://www.pivotlegal.org/the_new_sex_work_legislation_explained
  3. The new prostitution bill had been tabled: http://ow.ly/d/2e8g Backgrounder: http://news.gc.ca/web/article-en.do?mthd=tp&crtr.page=1&nid=853729&crtr.tp1D=930
  4. Nordic Model proponents do not really believe that it's "okay" to sell sexual services. In fact, quite the opposite. The ideology believes that all sex workers are victims of male violence, pimps, mental issues, and "the patriarchy". It's grandiose purpose is unabashedly the complete outright abolition of sex work. It's plan is to achieve this by scaring clients from buying sexual services (with criminalisation), and therefor ending all demand for sexual services. Those who want to introduce a Nordic Model style of law to Canada believe that through basic legislation and criminalisation, Canada will be the only place on earth without prostitution. Here is a simple fact sheet about why we strongly oppose the failed Nordic model: http://chezstella.org/docs/Infosheets/En/ciminalizing_the_purchase_140322.pdf And here is a fact sheet about the "New Zealand model", which we propose (full decriminalisation of sex work): http://chezstella.org/docs/Infosheets/En/new_zealand_140322.pdf And yes, post Bedford decision, a Nordic style law will be challenged, and will not pass constitutional muster. Canada will have decriminalisation of sex work, maybe soon, maybe in 15 years. Truth is, clients are already criminalised through bawdy house laws and solicitation laws. They do not stop clients from purchasing sexual services, and the SCC said those laws were unconstitutional. This kind of law would be too. I'm really waiting to see what the new legislation will be, before getting ahead of myself though. It's coming down this week.
  5. The new legislation is being presented this week. Let's wait to see what the new legislation actually IS, before we get ahead of ourselves. I'll post again when it comes down, along with a brief from our Canadian sex worker rights legal team about what it will actually mean for all of us. Follow or check out @CDNSWAlliance for all the latest. This is an alliance of all the main sex worker advocacy and rights groups from across the country. You don't need to have a Twitter account to see their tweets or click the links they post.
  6. Results from the online survey: http://www.ctvnews.ca/canada/majority-of-canadians-thinks-selling-sexual-services-should-not-be-illegal-report-1.1848419
  7. Happy to see this thread back in action. :) I have recently merged my blog and my official escort website into one convenient location. I've moved all my content, and my full blog is now found at: www.SweetEmilyJ.com/blogasms
  8. [B][U]Criminalizing Sex Work is Harmful[/U][/B] [URL="https://twitter.com/celinebisette"]Celine Bisette[/URL] | May 13, 2014 [URL="http://www.ottawacitizen.com/opinion/op-ed/Criminalizing+work+harmful/9834353/story.html"]http://www.ottawacitizen.com/opinion/op-ed/Criminalizing+work+harmful/9834353/story.html[/URL] [QUOTE] Member of Parliament Joy Smith wants to criminalize the purchase of sex, an act that has never been illegal in Canada. She hopes to rid society of prostitution because she believes the exchange of sexual services for money is inherently harmful, even when the exchange occurs between consenting adults. Smith also claims that people only engage in prostitution due to â??economic need.â? Her claim implies that selling sex is not a legitimate choice, but rather, an act of desperation. As a sex worker myself, I take exception to this implication. As far as I can tell, the overwhelming majority of people working in any field engage in labour because of â??economic need.â? Thatâ??s why people work, isnâ??t it: for money? Letâ??s not kid ourselves about why most people do their jobs. People work for money, not for fun. Some of us are lucky enough to wake up every day and feel thrilled about going to work, but most of us probably donâ??t. Folks work in the fast food industry for money. They work in retail for money, and they collect garbage for money. Do any children dream of doing these jobs when they grow up? Probably not. Most of us dream about pursuing a glamorous profession like astronaut, lawyer, or actor. When we grow up and realize that not everyone can have one of these â??topâ? jobs, we generally suck it up and choose the least horrible job from among whatever options are available to us. The fact that someone dreams of becoming the next Bill Gates but instead winds up driving a bus does not invalidate his choice to do the work that he does. Likewise, I am a sex worker. Did I dream of becoming a sex worker when I was a little girl? No. But I didnâ??t dream about working at McDonaldâ??s either, and yet that was my first job. Having a need to earn money â?? as we all do unless we are heirs to family fortunes â?? does not negate an individualâ??s decision to choose a particular form of labour. People need money to pay for housing, food, and clothing. Thatâ??s just life. Some people choose to engage in physical labour, and they do jobs like construction, while others choose to perform creative labour, and they sell their writing or artwork. I choose to sell sexual labour, which means that I offer sexual services to those who pay me. As far as I am concerned, no labour is shameful. We all need to work, and we canâ??t all be the next Stephen Hawking or Madonna. Casting shame on sex workers for selling sexual labour is discrimination plain and simple. Our work is considered distasteful, dirty, and wrong, and so some people want to get rid of prostitution altogether because itâ??s â??ickyâ? and makes them feel uncomfortable. They wonâ??t come out and say it like that, though. Prostitution abolitionists claim that they are concerned about the well-being of sex workers, and they maintain that they want to protect us from abuse and exploitation. If that were true, they would not support criminalizing the sex trade. If Smith truly cared about sex workers, she would support an approach that keeps us as safe as possible. Scientific evidence shows that criminalizing the sex trade increases the risk of harm to sex workers. Not only is this approach morally suspect, but there is good reason to believe it is unconstitutional. The Charter of Rights and Freedoms states that people have the right to security of the person. Last December, the Supreme Court ruled that sex workers have the right to be safe at work and they have the right to take steps to protect themselves from harm. Criminalizing the purchase of sex interferes with sex workersâ?? ability to keep themselves safe, and is therefore a violation of our rights. I donâ??t buy Smithâ??s argument. If she actually wants to help people in the sex trade, she will focus her efforts on two tasks: one, work to eradicate poverty so that no person is forced to sell sexual labour out of utter economic desperation, and two, work to ensure that rights and protections are given to those who do choose sex work from among the employment options that are available to them. Itâ??s time to put the moralizing aside and start taking sex workersâ?? rights seriously. Sex workers are human beings and we deserve to be treated with dignity. Celine Bisette is a Toronto-based escort and writer with nine years of experience working in the sex trade. [/QUOTE]
  9. What Does A Representative Sex Worker Look Like? By Celine Bisette | May 13, 2014 http://rabble.ca/blogs/bloggers/views-expressed/2014/05/what-does-representative-sex-worker-look?utm_content=buffer4b7bf&utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_campaign=buffer
  10. Conservatives and abolitionists are missing the big picture on sex work BY JASON CONGDON | MAY 6, 2014 http://rabble.ca/news/2014/05/conservatives-and-abolitionists-are-missing-big-picture-on-sex-work?utm_content=buffer0e7ea&utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_campaign=buffer
  11. If you ever encounter any sort of problems with anyone while working, anything ranging from sexual assault to theft, intimidation, abuse, harassment, threats, stalking or anything else, and want to talk directly to a female officer who will listen and help (if you want it), here is the name of an Ottawa officer who has been helpful to sex workers in the past: Sergeant Patricia Ferguson Sexual Assault Section Tel. 613-236-1222, ext. 5463 Or, to anonymously report to the police any kind of bad behaviour you've experienced: Bad Date Line Call 1-800-303-5407 - anonymously. http://www.ottawapolice.ca/en/ServingOttawa/SectionsAndUnits/saca/baddateline.aspx From Ottawa Police Services: Working in the sex trade can make you a vulnerable target, and predators count on the fact that you may not report crimes against you. We need your help to identify and track serial and predatory offenders. The anonymous reporting system is for individuals victimized while engaging in the sex trade. By calling the toll free number (1-800-303-5407), you will be prompted to leave a message regarding the details of your assault along with as much of an offender description as possible. Information gathered could be the missing link needed in identifying a serial predator. The anonymous and free Bad Date Line gives you an opportunity to report sexual and physical assault without revealing your identity. For more information about the Ottawa Bad Date Line, download their pamphlet (PDF, 206k). The Ottawa Police Service understands the desire of victims to remain anonymous and supports the Bad Date Line in an effort to identify potential serial offenders preying upon victims who they believe will not report the attack to police. The Bad Date Line does not subscribe to caller ID and no attempts will be made to identify callers. It is preferred that victims contact police directly to report an assault so that a proper investigation can be conducted and ensure a predator is removed from the street. Ottawa Police treat all victims fairly and equitably. If you wish to speak with an officer regarding an assault or receive more information regarding the investigation process, you may contact the Sexual Assault Unit directly at 613-236-1222, ext. 5944.
  12. This article is a few years old, but still very interesting. [B][U]Research Demolished the Stereotype of the Underage Sex Worker[/U][/B] By Kristen Hinman [URL="http://www.phoenixnewtimes.com/2011-11-03/news/new-research-demolishes-the-stereotype-of-the-underage-sex-worker/full/"]http://www.phoenixnewtimes.com/2011-11-03/news/new-research-demolishes-the-stereotype-of-the-underage-sex-worker/full/[/URL] [QUOTE] [I]â?¦ ...Most astonishing to the researchers was the demographic profile teased out by the study. Published by the U.S. Department of Justice in September 2008, Curtis and Dank's findings thoroughly obliterated the long-held core assumptions about underage prostitution: â?¢ Nearly half of the kids â?? about 45 percent â?? were boys. â?¢ Only 10 percent were involved with a "market facilitator" (e.g., a pimp). â?¢ About 45 percent got into the "business" through friends. â?¢ More than 90 percent were U.S.- born (56 percent were New York City natives). â?¢ On average, they started hooking at age 15. â?¢ Most serviced men â?? preferably white and wealthy. â?¢ Most deals were struck on the street. â?¢ Almost 70 percent of the kids said they'd sought assistance at a youth-service agency at least once. â?¢ Nearly all the youths â?? 95 percent â?? said they exchanged sex for money because it was the surest way to support themselves. In other words, the typical kid who is commercially exploited for sex in New York City is not a tween girl, has not been sold into sexual slavery, and is not held captive by a pimp. Nearly all the boys and girls involved in the city's sex trade are going it alone.[/I] [URL="http://www.phoenixnewtimes.com/2011-11-03/news/new-research-demolishes-the-stereotype-of-the-underage-sex-worker/full/"]â?¦Read Moreâ?¦[/URL] [/QUOTE] And another similar oneâ?¦ [B]Most of What You Think You Know ABout Sex Trafficking Isn't True[/B] [URL="http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2014/04/23/study_of_sex_workers_and_pimps_reveals_how_the_market_for_underage_sex_actually.html"]http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2014/04/23/study_of_sex_workers_and_pimps_reveals_how_the_market_for_underage_sex_actually.html[/URL]
  13. Clients: How do you feel about auto-replies (to acknowledge the receipt of your message and/or send back some info) when you e-mail a provider, or fill out a booking form? Discuss.
  14. [B]â??Decriminalization Saves Lives,â?? Sex Worker Tells Senate Liberals[/B] By Laura Beaulne-Stuebing | Apr 30, 2014 [URL="http://www.ipolitics.ca/2014/04/30/decriminalization-saves-lives-sex-worker-tells-senate-liberals/"]http://www.ipolitics.ca/2014/04/30/decriminalization-saves-lives-sex-worker-tells-senate-liberals/[/URL] [QUOTE] When the federal government tables its much-anticipated legislation tackling Canadaâ??s prostitution laws, expect backlash from advocacy groups and sex workers themselves. Justice Minister Peter MacKay will likely be leaning heavily on the Nordic model â?? one that leaves selling sex legal, but criminalizes the purchase of sex. Earlier this month the minister noted that the legislation would be coming before the summer. But as advocates pointed out at the Senate Liberal open caucus meeting Wednesday, that model isnâ??t supported all-around. They say criminalizing the buying of sex doesnâ??t take into account the needs of sex workers, and leaves them out of the discussion. Christine Bruckert, a professor at the University of Ottawa, told the group gathered on Parliament Hill that decriminalizing sex work â?? something New Zealand has done â?? is an equality issue. Itâ??s a feminist issue, she added, and one that would allow women to make their own choices and have autonomy over their own bodies. She noted that taking a broad brush stroke and claiming that all sex work is inherently violent is â??problematic.â? When thereâ??s violence against prostitutes, as seen in Vancouverâ??s downtown Eastside, itâ??s because the women were sought out by predators. And, she said, the lack of supports and protections for sex workers makes them vulnerable to being preyed upon. Emilie Laliberte, a sex worker from the Stella advocacy organization based in Montreal, believes prostitutes need to be at the heart of any new law. Sheâ??s worried the Nordic model will only take women into the dark corners of cities, not allow them to screen clients, nor allow them to work in safe locations. â??Decriminalization saves lives,â? she said, by providing workplace rights and safety measures to be put in place. But Kim Pate of the Elizabeth Fry Society, who also appeared as a speaker at the meeting and raised serious concerns about decriminalization, said following that model would increase the demand for sex, as well as increase the commodification of women as sex objects. Pate said her argument â?? and the argument of other groups, such as the Native Womenâ??s Association of Canada, that oppose decriminalization across the board â?? is about equality, and not about morals. She supports women in their choices, but not in allowing for demand to increase or for the very common result of women getting stuck in the system and not being able to find a way out. Bruckert agreed with Pate, in a way. Along with the idea that prostitutes should have their own say about their work and their bodies, Bruckert said no one should be working in the industry if they donâ??t want to be in it. â??I would like to see Canada take the lead of New Zealand, obviously a made in Canada model,â? she said. Along the lines of what theyâ??ve done in that part of the world, Bruckert wants to see an assurance of health and safety rights for prostitutes and other elements, such as waiving wait times to get employment insurance if a sex worker wants to get out of the industry. [/QUOTE]
  15. [B]Legalising the Sex Trade Means State-approved, Monetised Gangbangs[/B] Tanya Gold [URL="http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/apr/30/legalising-prostitution-state-ruper-everett"]http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/apr/30/legalising-prostitution-state-ruper-everett[/URL] [QUOTE] [I]The campaign to legalise prostitution has an advocate in the [URL="http://www.theguardian.com/film/2013/apr/21/rupert-everett-sex-is-over"]actor Rupert Everett[/URL]. He has made a two-part series for Channel 4 called [URL="http://www.theguardian.com/cities/2014/apr/28/rupert-everett-london-soho-prostitution"]Love for Sale[/URL], in which he interviews prostitutes and punters; there are no pimps, of course, pimps being black-hearted with much to hide. Everett is obviously a romantic who romanticises what he finds because he is drawn to what his interviewee [URL="http://www.theguardian.com/culture/russell-brand"]Russell Brand[/URL] calls "maligned outsiders". At one point he compares prostitution to his own profession, although it is hard to imagine a co-star placing a penis in his mouth, or anus, and giving him money.[/I] [URL="http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/apr/30/legalising-prostitution-state-ruper-everett"]Read Moreâ?¦[/URL] [/QUOTE]
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  20. I Don't Want Your Pity: Sex Work and Labor Politics By Belle Knox http://www.huffingtonpost.com/belle-knox/sex-work-politics_b_5148528.html
  21. As someone who does most of my communications, including all first-time interactions by e-mail, I would never feel comfortable answering an introductory e-mail (or any other, to be honest) with a one line response like that. For this reason, e-mails always wait until I have sufficient time to sit down and write a personal, thoughtful response. E-mail goes to my phone, but unless it's time-senstive, it won't get answered until later on when I get home, after dinner, after I'm done entertaining, or after I'm done whatever else I need to do right now. I consider my communications as part of the whole experience I offer, and so I don't half-ass it, or rush it. Good communication (on both sides) can set the whole tone of a potential encounter, and I know that my e-mails have made new clients, or nervous folks feel 100% more confident about what may come. I don't like receiving one line e-mails, so I don't send them. But while I make special time to properly answer e-mails, I may still have spare moments throughout the day, while waiting for a guest to arrive, or waiting in line at Loblaws, to send out a tweet, bump my BP ad, etc. Also, for me, I actually do my due diligence with potential client's information, including their name, e-mail, phone number, and other information I might have about them. It takes a bit of time to run it though different bad date databases, Google, and do a few other top-secret hooker tricks. So I need to sit down and pay attention to doing these things, before I can respond to the e-mail. Also, if there is a reference to check, this can bring another party into the mix, which might also extend the response time. As well, e-mails that have all the proper information, included with a friendly introduction, always get answered much sooner the other ones that I dread answering where I have to press for more info. Sometimes I also take a day or two off, when I often cut myself off from non-essential work-related communications. If I get an e-mail on Saturday, looking for an appt next Thursday, I might not answer instantaneously. At this time I might be hanging out with my family, or Tweeting online, reading and responding to threads on CERB, or whatever else I feel like doing. Then on Monday when I consider myself "back to work", I'll take the necessary time to thoughtfully respond to gentlemen's inquiries. :) I say this, but I still often reply to e-mails on my days off; I just don't feel like I am obligated to be available 24/7 to answer inquiries. Overall I think I'm a pretty good communicator, and very good with response time. The only reason I'm responding to this thread, is that I have encountered situations exactly like this, (and I know many other ladies have too), where I've had clients who I haven't even met yet, e-mail a second time questioning me because they saw me do something online before receiving a response to their initial e-mail. While I want to be reliable, accommodating, and communicate well, a while back I made a promise to myself never to be a slave to my phone, e-mail, money or clients. Because this job can sometimes be unconventional in terms of hours & scheduling etc, it's important to set personal boundaries like this. I need time for me, otherwise I'd go crazy and wouldn't be useful or fun for anyone.
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