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  1. Posted

    Happy to report, my friend has seen the light so to say. Had a very scary situation happen the day I wrote this. Since then, my friend has made a doc apt and has been sober. It is only the beginning of a long road home, but I am hopeful. I am trying to make activities that do not resemble old habits, crafts, working out and focusing on home life.

    Thanks to everyone who posted here, it really helped me to "not give up" on my friend. :)

     

    That is great news, and I hope your friend has turned a corner. I've seen two friends go down this road, and sadly neither was able to make that change. In one case, a friend ended up drinking herself to death. We didn't give up on her, and tried to be there as much as we could, without it affecting our own lives and well-being. But it was hard. There are also lots of support groups for friends and families of people with drinking problems. We didn't take advantage of those, and looking back on things I wish we had.

     

    Porthos

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    service providers are, indeed, wonderful. And they provide a lot of things we might be missing in our lives, including both physical and emotional intimacy. Over time, if you build a relationship with a regular, they may even become a friend. Even there, the boundaries and parameters of that friendship may be different than other friendships. It is a hard line to travel, for both the lady and client.

     

    Don't be surprised that the occasional "hello" message doesn't get replied to. As Nat rightly says, there can be lots of reasons why this might be. It doesn't necessarily have anything to do with you, whether you were nice or not. Don't interpret it as a negative commentary on you, but you may want to reassess your expectations of what you want from seeing providers.

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  7. Posted

    I just put a cottage roll on.

     

    the ham is in a pot, just covered with water and will simmer on the stove top with some onion, celery, pepper corns, and cloves. When the meat is done, I take it out, and in goes potatoes and carrots. then, right at the end, some cabbage goes in.

     

    The leftovers will all go into a delicious pea soup later in the week.

     

    Porthos

  8. Posted

    Hello everybody

     

    I just have one concern about this:

     

    As much as I'm sure a good-bye kiss is welcomed by some gentlemen, I am always super-careful not to leave any traces of make-up on my visitors, once they have taken their end-of-appointment shower. I don't wear heavy make-up, but I wouldn't want to risk leaving any sparkly stuff on my visitors.

     

    A gentleman who is single may not mind, but I always respect the fact that some gentlemen have 'another life' that they do not wish to perturb.

     

    So I generally end my appointments with a hug, and I even tell my gentlemen that I don't want to leave any make-up on them, and I think most appreciate that.

     

    I would love to hear others' thoughts on this ;)

     

    I think many gents would appreciate that care and your concern.

  9. Posted

    I think, in general, as long as it's a reasonably mildly scented product things are fine. So long as it's relatively "soap" smelling, it likely won't even be noticeable. Heck, one can always blame a new scent on the soap dispensers at work if challenged by the SO.

     

    I realize people will differ, but something like Dove or some of the other major brands are just fine.

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  10. Posted

    Welcome to the board. There is a ton of information here, and it would be nearly impossible to summarize it all. If you look at the top of this forum, there a number of threads labelled "sticky". This contains almost all the essential reading that a newbie should do. I would recommend the "advice for newbies" thread, as well as the "how to have sex with escorts" thread. The "Valuable information prior to visiting a service provider" thread really is a must read. Pay careful attention to the advice from the ladies about how to behave and how to contact them.

     

    Follow their rules, be a gentleman, and you will have a lot of fun.

     

    Porthos

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    I would think that 50% is high. However, I think this is an issue that needs to be discussed.

     

    You won't have chemistry with everyone. I'm not going to lie and say every time I see someone it's amazing. Chemistry is very important. I suggest sending a few notes to anyone you're interested in, personalities show more in PMs than advertisements. Recs are important but not a huge deal in my opinion, every experience is different.

     

    Worst case scenario you meet a girl and you guys don't have an awesome connection - it doesn't have to be a huge disappointment. It never hurts to communicate with her. You might find she doesn't want to disappoint you and is playing it safe. You never know.

     

    Be clean. Be respectful. Communicate. You'll get good results. Promise. :)

     

     

    This is very good advise. I think in general YMMV has more to do with how the gentleman conducts himself, than with attractiveness. If you are clean, respectful, and treat the lady well, then you should receive good service. That doesn't mean you'll hit it off, or that the session will be one that just leaves you breathless. That's chemistry, and that is slightly different than YMMV. But even where there isn't that chemistry, you can still have a very enjoyable time with a beautiful woman.

     

    Attraction and chemistry go both ways as well. I know I've had lacklustre sessions where the problem wasn't the lady, but rather it was me. I didn't find her as attractive as I had hoped for, or I wasn't enjoying our conversation, or there was just a lot of crap in my life and I couldn't give the lady the attention she deserved. it was fine, I had a good time, but not an awesome time.

     

    Over time I think you get much better at judging people's personalities and which ladies you'll have a connection with. When the chemistry is right, that's when you become a regular, and, in my experience, things only get better after that.

     

    Porthos

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  14. Posted

    the last time I was out west, there were no champagne rooms or lap dances. The girls make money by receiving tips on stage. It kind of forces the girls to do more of a "show".

    I think it was Alberta where the guys couldn't lay on the stage or even put the cash on the gstring; there, they threw loonies and toonies at the girl while she danced (I found it quite disturbing).

     

    Yes, I've seen the throwing of loonies and toonies ... it is very disturbing.

     

    I don't know whether it is still this way in Manitoba, but Winnipeg clubs used to have a system where the women sold tickets for a dance. $2.00 per ticket, and when they sold enough to cover the cost of the $20 dance they took the tickets to the DJ who would draw the winning number. So people tended to try and hedge their bets. Only 10 tickets in the draw, so if you buy 4 tickets at $8.00 you have a reasonable chance of winning a "free" dance. Or at least a discounted dance. The dancer would then try to convince you to stay for more, but given the "no-touching" rule it was frequently a hard sell.

     

    Porthos.

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