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  2. Posted

    Penguins over Flyers

    Golden Knights over Kings

    Bruins over Maple Leafs

    Predators over Avalanche

    Jets over Wild

    And 1st round there is always at least 1 surprise, so mine is:

    Devils over Lightning

    Almost the same:

    Pens over Flyers

    Bruins over Leafs

    Predators over Avs

    Jets over Wild

    Caps over Columbus

    Lightning over Devils (Lightning are too strong for Devils IMO)

     

    My upset:

    Kings over Golden Knights (Time for GK's fairytale season to end but what a year)

     

    Sharks vs. Ducks is a toss up. I'll go Ducks over Sharks.

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    A couple of things on this stuff.

     

    In general, pointing people to external sites is frowned upon, but right now I think it's reasonable to make an exception. BP being shut down is a seriously big deal for people whose livelihoods rely on it. If we want to be any sort of community at all, we probably ought to give a shit about the sex workers who are wondering how the hell they're going to pay the rent at the end of this month now that they can't advertize, and help out as we can.

     

    On what's allowed here and what isn't: this subject has come up many times over the years, but I'm afraid I'm too lazy to dig out the old threads right now. The consensus has always been that we're happy here to avoid the negativity and nastiness that goes with allowing people to say when they've had a bad experience; it often turns out that clients who had a bad experience did so because they were assholes, and sorting out the bad client from the bad provider rapidly becomes tiresome. There are other boards that exist for people who want that, and to be honest I don't see what we'd gain by turning this board into a clone of those.

     

    The general quietness here had a lot to do with C36; we lost a lot of regular posters around that time and many more are still around but mostly don't post any more. There isn't much we can do about that; people will come back eventually. What will really bring people back is interesting and worthwhile threads and conversations about things that inspire people to join in.

     

    On getting banned: I think most of us have managed to mess up and break the rules at some point (my record isn't clean either :) ). From what I've managed to work out, what gets people banned is persistent rule-breaking and refusing to heed the warnings from Mod, not the occasional step over the line.

    Similarly:

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    I think we're really on the same page. I do mourn the loss of the days of 'cerb.ca' in the pre-bill C-36 era. I don't believe there are any 'floodgates' to open this site is simply trying to keep its' proverbial nose clean to help discourage interest in it from LE. Maybe with the situation created by the FOSTA/SESTA stuff there is currently an opportunity for lyla to grow and have broader interest across Canada.

     

    I agree that loosening things up a little might help but I just think it would be a big challenge. Posts #26 and #28 by the mod in this thread touch on some of issues:

    https://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=253584&page=3

    I'm glad we're on the same page.

     

    I wasn't here pre-C-36 but I wish I would have as I'm sure it must have been great. TBH, I feel Lyla is still a great place with the best community and threads that touch on so many topics. I'm not asking for much. All I would like to see loosened up on is members helping each other out. I thought this was one reason why this site was created, let alone how we as people should be in this world...help each other out.

     

    A little over a year ago when I first joined I felt I could share and I like to help. I respected what was permitted and when gentlemen members would post threads seeking info about a Provider who had no info here I would simply post, "Send me a PM." I didn't mind. Other Gents would then post, "Send me one as well. I'm also interested." I didn't mind that either. Later, weeks or a couple months would go by and another member would be interested in info so I would receive a PM about it. Great! I'll help a brother out, NP. I started thinking about why I should have to send and deal with this in PMs so on such threads I started posting links to where they could find info, others would be able to find it as well and I wouldn't be PMed...everyone would be happy. I was in the wrong, this isn't permitted.

     

    Last month on a thread where a fellow member was looking for info about a Provider I posted, "She has a review...somewhere. I can't post what is said." The next day when I attempted to log in I couldn't. I received my second infraction for this and a seven day ban. Now I'm not debating my being banned. I did something that is not permitted BUT I didn't post a link to anywhere, specifically mention another site nor did I say anything negative.

     

    Now I find myself no longer wanting to help fellow members, I can't risk another infraction or I risk permanent ban so I won't be helping out in this any longer and for that I apologize. I like this site too much to risk being banned.

     

    Cheers,

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    I don't really follow your statements. Sophia made no mention of 'censorship' per se....

     

    There is nothing currently preventing anyone from becoming a member of lyla (aside from previous serious infractions x3). Being a contributing member and remaining a member is virtually entirely dictated by our own posts, statements and on-line actions.

     

    The distinction between 'harsh', 'classless', 'the not so good' and 'the ugly' is a quagmire that this free site likely can't effectively moderate. There are other sites like terb, merb, ter etc. if you need to make a 'well informed decision'. I'm not a member on those boards but I seriously doubt they would assist any decision of mine. I'm not prepared to wade through a mile of shit to admire a rose.

     

    Any censorship we need to worry about is coming from the good ol' US of A.

    I'm aware she didn't mention 'censorship', I did.

     

    She did mention how she would like to see Lyla grow, that men and women are being banned and losing the safety of the community (I'm aware this is from what is currently permitted and that every individual is responsible for their actions), that it would be refreshing to see more activity here, how 70% of her business came from here but now it's 1% and that she would like Lyla to not just be a discussion forum. For all of this I, personally, attribute the largest part to the current 'censorship'. You can choose a better word if you'd like.

     

    I clearly stated, "...not insinuating 'open the floodgates' nor permitting anything and everything," but "maybe, just maybe, loosening up a little." so there is no need, "to wade through a mile of shit to admire a rose", as you so put it.

     

    Similar to I cannot speak for everyone, you doubt more information would change any decision of yours but perhaps it would change other's. Perhaps it would help with all things Lady Sophia mentioned. A well informed decision is only attainable with the most amount of information available, not based on what is permitted.

     

    Sigh...ya censorship is a rough one. But even on other sites, its the same. I tried to write my description on leolist today to write about a new massage skill I have picked up, " Marama massage is a facial massage for optimal relaxation" and it wouldnt let me write it, then I tried face...nope not that either.

     

    This site does have a warning section. I think more could be done with that. But to write bad reviews is touchy. On one hand, what YOU might consider a bad experience another may not.

     

    Case in point:

    The thread about Legit providers that was in NB ( now its gone) someone made a post about a lady here, and said PM him for the " real" story. Turns out after they spoke one on one about the situation is a misunderstanding on what GF* meant to one another and what safe service meant. He could have ruined her reputation and she would have lost massive income security. all because both had a different version of what they meant. They made up and all is well hahahah.

     

    Another case:

    I once made a gent upset when I went to kiss him. It made him very uncomfortable. Then another guy was upset with me for not trying to kiss him lol.

     

    Or Another case:

    I worked with a lady years ago. She had a killer body. But her face would not be considered beautiful in a traditional way. He then after the appt, wrote a nasty post about how horrified he was:( That was sad, I mean beauty is shown in many forms. Eye of the beholder right? That post circulated for while and I know it did hurt her income. Meanwhile her regs thought highly of her.

     

    So is that a bad experience or just a disappointing one?

     

    There are big differences in say a bad experience to a disappointing one. So many factors to consider. Bad would be, robbed, intoxicated and belligerent, finding out a child is there, switch and bait, no show. These examples are considered dangerous and people should be warned.

     

    I agree, there is a difference between a bad experience and a disappointing one and there are many factors to consider. Yes, disappointing and bad reviews can potentially hurt a provider's income, but on the flip side it doesn't mean that every punter will enjoy their time with every Provider with a Recommendation.

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  7. Posted

    I personally would like to see lyla remain and grow as Canada's site. Lyla is uniquely designed to weed out the untrustworthy and potentiality illegal providers.

    As for the point KarmaKiss mentioned that some providers have been banned, well this is true and valid. And for these women and men, they will be in a situation of loosing the safety of community. Without being able to have ANY avenue to advertise safely.....well they may find themselves " walking the avenue" (pardon my dry humor) and for that reason, we need alternate sites as back ups.

    BUT ALSO, it would be refreshing to see more activity here! I mean, in the good days on this site....Almost 70% of my bookings came from here and started as a PM.

    NOW it's like 1%lyla and was 60%BP and the remaining is repeats and googel search.

    We need to grow as an advertising and verification board not just a discussion forum.

     

    Censorship?!?

     

    Now I'm not insinuating 'open the floodgates' nor permitting anything and everything including letting everyone become members but maybe, just maybe, loosening up a little. Also, not permitting harsh or classless reviews but allowing members to openly share some information about the good, the not so good and even some ugly.

     

    Yes PMs can help with some of this, those receiving them, but information is key.

    Every member should have the right to make a well informed decision.

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  9. Posted

    With all due respect, please don't presume anything about me in order to attempt to gain the upper hand. I'm not the type that looks for deals or ever attempts to negotiate on rates.

     

    Does the topic of stolen pics touch a nerve? Yes, ads that use stolen pics touches a nerve with me. I consider it false advertising. I understand she is an acquaintance of yours and you are defending/standing up for her. This is very admirable of you, a sign of someone who cares and makes you a good friend to have. In the future, please refrain from personal attacks/slander type statements. You should be above/better than this.

     

    Cheers,

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  10. Posted

    Pics from a smartphone are free and produce fairly high quality pictures, enough for someone who doesn't charge high rates or doesn't want to cover the cost of a photo shoot. At least the pics would be hers, that's what really matters! I know SPs who do this and it's not too difficult to remove tattoos and not show your face. Just my 2 cents.

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  11. Posted

    Lyla has its perks, like a great community and a more balanced input from both sides of the industry, but due to recommendations only and positive only comments it is not a true reflection of the industry as a whole. IMO, members should publicly be made aware of sub par experiences since experiences in the industry are not all rosie, positive and perfect. So in some aspects Lyla is only a fraction of the truth.

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    Hands down, a Caribbean sandy beach.

    I prefer to discover as much as I possibly can about places I visit, not find out more about a ship.

     

    When do you prefer to travel; early, mid or near the end of the winter season?

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