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The Pre Date Ritual - A Man's Perspective

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I don't believe I've seen a post on this but thought the Men of CERB could provide their planning and preparation rituals for their dates. After a couple of meetings I think I have my routine generally established however, depending on circumstances, adjustments do need to be made.

 

First off, I am generally a long term planner and rarely would book a meeting at the last minute. This usually provides me with ample time to find a lady I think I might connect with and hopefully begin some kind of initial dialogue to get to know each other. Planning and research is a big part of my preparation. I love reading a woman's posts on CERB. It helps me really get to know them. And even better if we've had the chance to chat.

 

My activities usually take place when I'm travelling. I generally stick with women I know and could be classified as a regular when I've connected with a particular woman in a specific city. However, some cities to me haven't resulted in finding a 'local' lady, so in these cases I have to us CERB and other sites to find travelling ladies. Then schedules really get tricky and often things don't align but I'll rarely sacrifice what my interests are. I would rather meet few ladies but have great times than book appointments cause I want one. Of course depending on whether a touring lady or I'm travelling often then also determines if Incall or Outcall. I'm OK with either but would be nervous of some incall locations if I don't know where I am.

 

As date night gets closer I try and learn more about the lady. In particular if I am hosting. For example, does she like a particular beverage for our meeting. I treat it like being a host so try to have 'extras'. This may also include room service for snacks - should we need them. I also make sure my hotel room is tidy.

 

If I'm travelling to an incall I probably do the 'm*pqu*st' thing and may even walk the route so I know where I'm going. This is planning not stalking.

 

I'll also often consider a gift or something unique about me or her that I think is appropriate. This then requires added shopping time but I find it fun to do.

 

I make sure I have the correct donation. I probably seperate and count the money multiple times just so I make sure its right.

 

Just before the date is obviously time for showering, trimming below, shaving, and teeth brushing. Ok, I have at times brushed my teeth 3 times before a date and gargled twice. Figure out what to wear, iron clothes and get dressed.

 

Sometimes, if I'm hosting I will see if I can find good music on my laptop or on the radio to set the mood correct. I probably adjust the lighting a few time to get it just right.

 

At this point my heart is beginning to race. If I'm travelling to an incall I try to not walk so fast that I'm there early and out of breath. Although it has happened. If the lady is coming to me maybe time to brush my teeth again, check my hair, etc.

 

Then that knock on the door. And the fun begins! Deep breaths!

 

Cub

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I to am also a planner...and I'm talking about outcalls. Since I live in Smalltown Ontario, my hobbying requires travelling, thus planning to make sure I have a free weekend.

I like getting a nice hotel room...no motels or Motel 6's for this guy.

Prior to the date/encounter, I'll email the lady, find out if she has any refreshment requests (it's usually wine). The bottle will be chilin (if white wine) in an ice bucket. I'll also have some juice and water available

I'll have purchased a gift, and the gift and an envelope with her fee will be sitting in a gift bag on the coffee table or dresser

I'll brush/floss the night before. Seeing as I'm going to be all nerves day of the date, I won't be eating...that said, to avoid bleeding gums I'll brush morning of the day of the date, but no flossing. I will use mouthwash liberally throughout the day...not to mention breath mints.

Night before, I'll shave down there

I'll have a shower/shave about 1 1/2 hours before the lady is to arrive

Change into slacks and a shirt...wait by the phone for any last minute call.

Heart is thumping right up into my throat by now...look at the watch, look at the door, pace, check the time again, again again, heart pitter patter pitter patter then that soft knock on the door, and you open it, a beautiful lady has arrived

Much harder with incalls, 3 1/2 hour drive, all the way stomach in knots, heart pitter pattering away...but thats another story

RG

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Thanks for sharing with us Guys! To be honest I am a little surprised the men are as nervous as us, well, I get nervous the first time meeting someone, can't speak for everyone! I think it makes me a little less nervous knowing that!

 

Thanks again guys!

 

xoxo

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Thanks for sharing with us Guys! To be honest I am a little surprised the men are as nervous as us, well, I get nervous the first time meeting someone, can't speak for everyone! I think it makes me a little less nervous knowing that!

 

Thanks again guys!

 

xoxo

 

Believe it or not, the nervousness and excitement in anticipation of the date is part of the fun. It means the encounter is something special, and the lady's company is being looked forward to and appreciated. And if I wasn't nervous, I'd be dead, or close to it.

RG

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Thanks for the laughs Old Dog! It's hilarious...but you can really rent hamsters?

 

Oh yeah... and it`s so much easier than trying to find hardcore gay hamster porn on bluray.

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Too much information this early in the morning

At least it wasn't a gerbil...could lead to gerbiling (google it if you don't know what that :icon_eek:is)

RG

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I think this is an interesting question.

 

I am very much a last minute guy, so days of planning and prepartion are not part of my routine.

 

That said, I give myself about an hour between calling and booking and inbetween get myself ready. I grab a shower and make sure that it is a good one, cleaning cleaning and making everything squeaky clean. Then I shave, put on dedorant, brush teeth and mouthwash. I try to make sure my hair is neat and check my nails to see if they need trimming. If so, I trim and then file them down so they are not sharp, don't want to have them rough. It is okay for my tongue to be sharp though, I think the ladies like that.

 

Change my clothes, clean undies, etc. and then am ready to go. Hate the winter, especially if really cold and need to wear a hat, messes the hair. I live downtown, so often walk to my dates, so hence the concern about needing to wear a hat.

 

Basically try to look presentable for my date, so that hopefully gives just a little more to the experience. So that is it. Hope the ladies find this acceptable preparation.

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I usually make the date at least a week in advance. (This is usually a 90 or 120 minute session).

Two days before the date I make sure to have drinks (juice, white wine and tea) as well as snacks (veggies and dip) on hand.

the day before the date I make sure the apartment is clean with fresh sheets on the bed. I also make sure to have supplies on hand (just in case she forgets - it has happened).

The day of the date the lady usually calls about 4-6 hours before to confirm the date. I am nervous and excited from that point on. At least 2 hours before the lady arrives, I will shower, shave and brush teeth, pick out a nice outfit and put on clean underwear and socks :icon_wink:. I also give the bathroom a once over for cleanliness and to ensure there are clean towels and a full role of extra soft toilet paper :icon_wink:. Then I put on some classical music. Twenty minutes before the lady arrives I put out the snacks (veggie platter) and start making the tea. (Yes, tea, I do not drink alcohol as a rule). I also give my mouth a quick rinse with mouthwash. Then I dim the lights to set the mood. Now I pace the floor in anticipation for her arrival at 8 pm.

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