Men's body types

[SamanthaEvans 166766]

We've had many conversations about the terms for women's body types and how subjective the standard terms are.

 

It seems odd to me that, while we companions must go to great lengths to describe ourselves so that a potential new client will be happy with the person he meets at the door, the assumption is that we will easily entertain anyone who pays the fee, regardless of his size, age or personal habits.

 

Frankly, I do think that most women are much more open to engaging with a wide variety of male shapes and sizes, but it's also true that we may have difficulty accommodating certain types.

 

For example, I'm a curvy woman, yet meeting the needs of a new client who visited me before Christmas was a challenge. He must have weighed close to 400 pounds, and what he really wanted was to have missionary sex. I did try, but I just couldn't breathe with him on top of me.

 

In my experience, men are generally less accurate in their descriptions of themselves than most women are. Have a look at dating sites and personal ads. Nearly every man over 40 believes he looks 10 years younger than his chronological age. It also seems that an average weight for a six-foot tall man ranges from 175 to 240 pounds. A man has to weigh close to 300 pounds before he's likely to state that he's overweight.

 

I don't expect the double standard to go away anytime soon.

 

I also live in the real world and I greatly prefer the company of middle-aged and older men. I don't expect any of them to be an Adonis. Most of the men who visit me are senior executives, lawyers, doctors, and other sedentary professionals. Almost every one of them is overweight to some degree.

 

I don't mind, most of the time, but it does make a difference to our encounter. It's not about aesthetics, gentlemen. The sad fact is that your body type probably affects your performance and I want you to have a good time.

 

If I know that you're a big guy or that you smoke, I will also know that you're likely to have some erectile difficulties and that your stamina may not be what it once was, with or without Viagra. You're more likely to have high blood pressure and/or diabetes, too, and any medications you may take for these conditions will probably affect you.

 

On the other hand, if you're six feet tall, weigh no more than about 200 pounds and you don't smoke, I will know that you're far less likely to have erectile trouble and are far more likely to be able to go for more than one round in a couple of hours.

 

Your size and physical fitness do make a difference to the kind of encounter we may have no matter how beautiful you may consider me to be.

 

To have a good time, you may care about looks. I care about your health.

[Catfish101 171]

that was super lame.

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[Boomer 33202]

Hopefully that 400 lb guy reads these forums and will be a little more considerate.

 

I think your points are well thought out. I'm one of those guys whose nearly six foot and my weight has crept up from about 180 during my forties to my present 235 lb. I quit smoking and take my medication for colesertol and blood presure. As I've turned sixty, I'm still adjusting to changes in my libido. As they say, there may be snow on the roof, but that doesn't mean the fire has gone out.

[Mutau 2516]

Excellent thread, Samantha. It is one which has entered my mind, but for which I never started a thread. Everyone seems so concerned about the body types for the ladies of CERB, but rarely do we discuss the men. :icon_lol:

 

My personal belief is that body types are simply classifications. Being a sexual adventurer, nothing is a disincentive. An individual's personality is what counts, not the container. And how does one really discover the personae? Make an appointment, communicate honestly and be respectful of others. Voila.

[S**********o 258]

You spent a lot of time describing large men. How about the other side of the spectrum? I myself am below average height and weight. Probably closer to the size of most women and I can tell you from experience that this turns a lot of women off in my normal life. What is your and other SPs view of the little guy?

[SamanthaEvans 166766]

Thank you, friends.

 

I should say that I wouldn't have turned away the 400 pound man. He was very kind, respectful, clean and engaging. I would have liked to have had time to consider some options instead of doing it on the fly, so to speak, after he'd felt embarrassed to be asking too much of me, and I'd felt awkward about not being able to give him what he wanted. From that point, everything risked seeming second best, which could have been avoided.

 

Mention health problems when you book. I recognize that this can be humbling, but it will help us to prepare to create a wonderful, pleasurable engagement for you!

[mikkismitty 197]

Being a bigger man myself when I book an appointment with an SP that I have chosen and connected with (via mail or phone) I like to send a pic of myself. I feel that it gives the SP the right of first refusal so to speak and let's her know that I am being considerate of her as well. As I am open about my hobbying, I think it is fair and respectful but I also know it is not the way for everyone. Just my humble opinion.

[Genwar 101]

I agree, I too am heavy for my height, tipping the scale at 250 at 5'11". I'm very aware of my weight and my appearance, I always inform any potential lady that I visit of my size and weight and ask if it is going to be an issue. Very rarely am I refused a meeting, but I'm still concious of it. If being overweight offends the ladies on here or takes away from a meeting then they should say something up front before a meeting. At least I think they should. This would ensure that you are not un-comfortable as well.

[A***** A***** 510]

Good writing Samantha. I too like to be made aware of any issues there might be beforehand.

 

Please for the love of god, let me know a little bit about yourself before you show up, and before making an apt.

 

Don't just blindly show up, expect service, and then get your panties in a knot when the service is less than desired because your hygeine is less than satisfactory, and two you are twice the size of me! Makes it VERY difficult to provide what little service I could!

[VedaSloan 119179]

My only issue in terms of client's body types are men who are VERY LARGE and expect to engage in intercourse. As much as I would like to, the physics of it just won't work out.

[A***** A***** 510]

My only issue in terms of client's body types are men who are VERY LARGE and expect to engage in intercourse. As much as I would like to, the physics of it just won't work out.

 

That happened to me as well. Did my best to deal with it, but there wasn't much I could do.

[Guest tr*****e]

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Huh?:icon_confused:

[mrgreen760 37785]

I'm always upfront about my looks, age and body type.

 

I'm much better looking in the dark :) Not handsome but cute. I'm 56 and well into my second childhood. Husky but athletic still play sports and work out regularly. 5' 10" 195-200 lbs. Scarred up pretty good from a ruptured achilles and 2 knee reconstructions. A slight limp......

 

Reads quite delightful doesn't it :)......The line forms on the right.

 

Peace

MG

[Miss Scarlett 25073]

I don't mind smaller men at all, but sometimes getting hit with a bone is uncomfy, but not hard to work around. And it is harder with much larger clients, but as Samantha said there are things we can do to have fun. Just makes it easier to know a head of time, of YOUR limits. I clearly state on my site my limits, the least you can do is be honest with me of yours.

[jg24 3707]

Well interestine comments as a larger person as well I have not been sent away at the door and only know of one lady who wishes not to book with me

 

Yes we a larger but as someone said its not all about size personality sense humour how we respect the lady we are seeing.

Now if the person is causing stress because of his size on top of you the there is many other positions that can be tried

We are all creatures of God and we come in all shapes and sizes

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[rdymango 673]

I've always wondered if I should provide a description of myself before meeting an SP for the first time. I can see how having health issues and/or tipping the scale one way or the other would be important to mention prior to a first encounter. I've always felt the information was so one-sided. The ladies have to reveal quite a lot, yet the gentlemen don't. There's a part of me that feels it would be the courteous thing to do so that there are no surprises regarding my body type (I'm on the smaller side of the scale) and ethnic background. And then there's the part of me that thinks that if I describe myself to her that I'll get rejected because I'm not her type. It's kind of like asking the question to something that you might not like the answer to. Is that messed up or what? I really need to get over my fear of rejection! What did I do with that Therapists phone number....

[SamanthaEvans 166766]

I think that most companions understood, when we went into this business, that we would be entertaining men of all shapes, sizes and racial backgrounds and that we probably wouldn't know very much at all about new clients' physical characteristics before we saw them for the first time.

 

I've never seen anyone advertise that she won't entertain a man whose race is different from hers or who is either much larger, or smaller, than she is. Some of us prefer men in certain age groups and we say so in our ads. Personally, while I prefer to see men over 50, that doesn't mean I won't see someone younger. I will, and I do. I can have a great time with them, and they often re-book.

 

Men with significant physical disabilities always say so when they contact us. Not all companions may have experience working with particular limitations, but I venture to say that most of us are willing to try. I used to have a client who was quadriplegic. He couldn't move, but he was very sensitive to touch, he could get hard, stay that way and he could climax. Knowing about his needs and limitations in advance helped me plan to be with him in ways that could be a genuine expression of who I am and who he and I were together. I honestly enjoyed seeing him and he was one of the most appreciative clients I've ever had.

 

Those who are unusually well-endowed--guys who are equipped like porn stars--usually will say so when they ask for an appointment. Porn is about fantasy; one fantasy is that every woman can accommodate men who are a good 10" long, in any position, with deep, vigorous thrusting. The reality is very different.

 

Men who have erectile difficulties can still enjoy a huge range of activities and they can have very satisfying orgasms. In fact, it can be a lot of fun to find different ways to give pleasure without needing them to have hard or lasting erections. These are some of the most personal and intimate meetings I have and that's very appealing to me.

 

I understand that it can be a challenge to tell a companion about your physical needs and limitations, but remember that we're in the pleasure business. No one who is bigoted or judgmental will last long in this profession. And most of us appreciate that most clients visit us in large part because they want to experience something they don't find easily, or at all, in the rest of their lives.

[Hiya 105]

Letting the ladies know up front makes sense.

[roamingguy 300291]

I've always wondered if I should provide a description of myself before meeting an SP for the first time. I can see how having health issues and/or tipping the scale one way or the other would be important to mention prior to a first encounter. I've always felt the information was so one-sided. The ladies have to reveal quite a lot, yet the gentlemen don't. There's a part of me that feels it would be the courteous thing to do so that there are no surprises regarding my body type (I'm on the smaller side of the scale) and ethnic background. And then there's the part of me that thinks that if I describe myself to her that I'll get rejected because I'm not her type. It's kind of like asking the question to something that you might not like the answer to. Is that messed up or what? I really need to get over my fear of rejection! What did I do with that Therapists phone number....

 

You know what works with the ladies, really works...I'll give you a secret

I'm pushing 50, bald, tall but middle age spread...but foolproof way to avoid being rejected BE A GENTLEMAN, and treat the SP LIKE A LADY...that is the most important quality to have. Second, be clean, good hygiene is a must.

Most ladies want to see a gentleman

RG

[Kubrickfan 12836]

If I am seeing someone new, I always try to provide a physical description that is accurate. Not that I'm anything out of the ordinary, but its only fair to the ladies and I try to be accurate.

[Maverick 2873]

On the topic of things which the prospective client could tell the MA/SP before booking an appointment, in addition to the already mentioned weight/size, disabilities, health concerns, or extra-large member, I think that age and sexual experience could also be worth mentioning.

 

As a young and relatively sexually inexperienced man, I have, in my limited email interactions mentioned this in case the MA/SP I am dealing with could feel uncomfortable. There are some women who have age restrictions (whether they are rules or guidelines), but even for those who do not they may not be comfortable with people like myself. I have seen a couple of threads on terb about virgin males looking for SPs, and I imagine it could end up being awkward for an SP if she did not know before hand.

 

Basically the more the woman knows about you, it will probably make the session go better.

[rickkm 328]

you mean you could actually turn down sexual intercourse with a man who is VERY LARGE,.... I thought women wanted men who are VERY LARGE and never thought one would actually refuse....wow!! I'm of the VERY LARGE variety and I never had a problem with any woman on the issue....although my last one did say it had hurt but it was because we had gone at it a bit too fast...my fault!!

[PistolPete 61421]

I do the same thing giving ladies a physical description, also tell them the kind of erotic play I enjoy while behind closed doors. ;) Always helps breaking the ice prior to a event,tryst,appointment,date,love affair,Randy time,adventure,booking,session,rendez-vous,arrangement,time spent with,getaway,mini vacation...well.... what ever we call it :) :)

 

If I am seeing someone new, I always try to provide a physical description that is accurate. Not that I'm anything out of the ordinary, but its only fair to the ladies and I try to be accurate.

[moonshadow 369]

I have never given a description of myself to a new lady and I have never

been asked to provide any sort of details about myself. I really don't think it matters

that much to the the women what the guy looks like.

I think as long as they get a good vibe from you through your

communicvations with them, they don't care.

 

However, I wouldn't have a problem providing details if they asked.

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[ottawaadventurer 5114]

I am the typical middle-aged man... a little overweight but not fat, a little out of shape, but still quite active, a little bald, but not a ping pong ball.... I hate describing myself because I can only imagine the big *yawn* it will elicit... I find that words never really help, in fact. Pics do, of course, but I can't imagine sending a pic of myself to an SP before meeting her.

 

There is a double standard here, but it comes with the provider/client dichotomy. The provider of a product or service will always have to provide more information than the customer. Not saying it's an ideal situation, but it's reality.

 

It does make me realize that SPs and MPs are quite amazing people. It takes a special person to be willing to meet with a complete stranger and provide such an intimate experience that is mostly focused on providing pleasure to the client. I don't know how they do it. We are all humans, and many of us never get past the initial attraction/no attraction thing...