drakonis17 1010 Report post Posted Wednesday at 03:46 PM Unfortunately there are so many scammers out there almost seems like there are more then real people. But they get so angry and offended when I ask. I try to be very polite about asking and I've even offered to pay for it. Also I find I'm being asked for deposits almost everytime too. Something I don't mind doing but not without verification from her end. I just wanna find an SP I connect with to be a regular with them Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RobertDion 140 Report post Posted Wednesday at 04:58 PM Yeah, when more and more they ask US for proof of ID and verification, but they conveniently ensure that they don't want to provide any more photos or info to prove that they exist or that they are in fact in town, not until they get a deposit, then..... poof, they vanish. WE are the customers, WE are the ones losing out on money, Yes there's creeps out there, but THEY offer the service, WE pay for the service, at what point have the tables turned that WE are the ones needing to pay up front, WE are the ones being scammed far more often then them, so I don't understand why they need to prove that they wont con us. They claim it's for their personal safety. We are the ones losing out with all these deposit scams, fake ads, bogus SPs claiming to do this and that out of their own personal safety, when all I'm seeing on these forums (literally some dedicated solely to out the con artists) are stories of how we have to navigate through all this slop to find anyone that isn't out to screw us over. Imagine if you hired a carpenter to re-build your back deck, and they came over to see the house, and asked for money up front so they can 'buy the lumber', asked for proof of ID, a copy of your hime insurance, a picture of your drivers licence, and an Amazon gift card, you know, just to make sure you were "Serious" and you weren't going to back down. Like, WTF... you don't LOSE anything by me cancelling, buddy.... I'm hiring you to build my deck, why are you wanting all this proof of ID that YOU could use to steal my identity with or black mail me with it later?? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Incog 1171 Report post Posted Wednesday at 05:46 PM It's not "wrong" to ask, but in reality, the question should be "why" are you asking? It's been discussed at length I know, but I can't seem to help myself from repeating this. With only one possible exception that I've read about in the past 5 or so years, this typically only happens when you're trying to save pennies on that scandolous "LeoList witch-hunt"...and once you've been scammed/blackmailed, you haven't saved a thing... The companions with active Twitter/X accts. & legit websites/reviews are not scamming people for deposits. They are, as has been oft repeated, simply looking to confirm your name, for nothing more than their own safety. There's a lot of people out there, having a lot of fun, because verifying an established SW'er is not a challenge at all, and they don't shy away from paying a deposit... Why argue with anyone for verification when there are so many established (& "verified") companions around? Many local, and seemingly even more visiting in a fairly steady stream... Just my unpopular opinion... 6 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fun4rob 97 Report post Posted Wednesday at 06:33 PM 31 minutes ago, Incog said: It's not "wrong" to ask, but in reality, the question should be "why" are you asking? It's been discussed at length I know, but I can't seem to help myself from repeating this. With only one possible exception that I've read about in the past 5 or so years, this typically only happens when you're trying to save pennies on that scandolous "LeoList witch-hunt"...and once you've been scammed/blackmailed, you haven't saved a thing... The companions with active Twitter/X accts. & legit websites/reviews are not scamming people for deposits. They are, as has been oft repeated, simply looking to confirm your name, for nothing more than their own safety. There's a lot of people out there, having a lot of fun, because verifying an established SW'er is not a challenge at all, and they don't shy away from paying a deposit... Why argue with anyone for verification when there are so many established (& "verified") companions around? Many local, and seemingly even more visiting in a fairly steady stream... Just my unpopular opinion... Well, I wouldn't say unpopular, but not everyone shares this view. I happen to fully agree with you. SPs take risks with strangers we can't fully comprehend. If they choose not to verify themselves for legitimate or less savoury reasons, or require a deposit and that doesn't jive with someone's preference then those folks should move on to someone more accommodating or more easily verifiable through other means. There are lovely verifiable women throughout this board, and many visiting beauties who rock our worlds...all we need to do is respect their person, their wishes and their boundaries. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MikeyInHalifax 366 Report post Posted Wednesday at 06:38 PM To be fair, more and more SP's are verifying themselves with social media, OF, Twitter accounts etc. the majority of the ladies I've seen recently all have "verified" using other apps etc. I haven't been disappointed in a long time by any bait and switch scams. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AdamSandler 267 Report post Posted Wednesday at 06:41 PM 52 minutes ago, Incog said: The companions with active Twitter/X accts. & legit websites/reviews are not scamming people for deposits. They are, as has been oft repeated, simply looking to confirm your name, for nothing more than their own safety. I will say this is often true but there is at least one SP I can think of who advertises all the time (although it has been a while) and she does seem to scam people. Website, active twitter, etc. I won't name names but she has changed her name about 10 times in the past couple years. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Pamela Luscious 223 Report post Posted yesterday at 02:40 AM It's your job to do the proper research and choose someone that makes you feel safe. A legitimate swer has already done her part proving she's real. https://www.lyla.ch/topic/214084-how-to-screen-an-indépendant/ 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
StephanieMystique 1930 Report post Posted 23 hours ago It is wrong and honestly, imo, disrespectful. The legitimate SPs have gone to great lengths to provide information to validate themselves as true and authentic. Websites, photoshoots, multiple ad platforms, social media accounts (which in today's age are super hard to maintain against the algorithm that are constantly banning us), online content platforms like OF and NLDTCONNECT and recommendations/reviews. Most valid SPs will have at least 2 or those available. Most of us have spent 1000s of dollars and hours to create this. If you haven't followed the links provided in the ad to verify them, that's on you. For the rare ad that was stolen from one platform and placed on another, most of us are google-able. If someone is new and is just building up, that will be up to you on how you want to move forward. If someone is constantly changing names, that should be a red flag it's self. If you take a couple of minutes to think with the big head vrs the little one, you should be able to make an informed decision of seeing someone or not. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites