Isn't it Interesting?

[ThisOneWorks 4707]

Isn't it interesting how we can read through reviews and comments and yet our own experiences are sometimes different than our own expectations? This is a prime reason why negative reviews don't work!

 

I was with an escort recently, (and don't bother asking I won't reveal her name not even in a PM), and even though her reviews and pictures on here made her sound amazing my own experience was just average, not terrible, just average.

 

I guess it just goes to show that the only way to actually know if you "click" with a particular escort is to find out for yourself. This whole TOFTT concept doesn't really work that well.

 

I am trying really hard not to make this post negative, but rather to say that I am very glad that I DO know a couple of outstanding escorts that DO know what I want and how to make me leave with a big smile. This doesn't mean that I will never try someone new, but it does mean that I will always try things I know first.

[D-Blue 224]

Isn't it interesting how we can read through reviews and comments and yet our own experiences are sometimes different than our own expectations? This is a prime reason why negative reviews don't work!

 

I was with an escort recently, (and don't bother asking I won't reveal her name not even in a PM), and even though her reviews and pictures on here made her sound amazing my own experience was just average, not terrible, just average.

 

 

There are no "reviews" on here, it is a recommendation board!

[WildTiger 1296]

D-Blue, you are correct that there are no reviews on CERB, I suspect that TOW meant recommendations. Regardless, his points are valid. I have also had some very less than satisfying experiences whether it be due to misleading posts or photos or simply the lack of a connection between myself and the SP.

 

Fortunately I have also met some truly wonderful LADIES that will keep me coming back for more and keep looking for the next undiscovered gem. I know there are lots out there! :icon_wink:

[ottawaadventurer 5114]

I think that the recommendations here are more useful in terms of helping us avoid bad encounters than ensuring good ones. A good encounter is a function of 2 people, not one. There are so many variables. But the reco's here do help us ensure things like accuracy of pics, that many CERB members have had good experiences, etc...

 

Not sure I'm making sense. ;-)

[Guest E*******h S******s]

I guess it just goes to show that the only way to actually know if you "click" with a particular escort is to find out for yourself. This whole TOFTT concept doesn't really work that well.

 

I completely agree with you. Beauty and chemistry are very, very subjective things. I've never understood taking a stranger's word for something as intimate as sex. For professionalism, for booking issues, for cleanliness of location and personal hygiene, yes. But for the act itself? Not s'much.

 

Samantha Evans stated it beautifully: If there is chemistry during the booking process, there is great likelihood that there will be chemistry during the appointment.

 

I think you've hit the nail on the head with respect to doing your own homework. Rather than relying so heavily on another's perceptions of a lady, talk to her yourself. Explain to her (respectfully of course) what your expectations are. Keep in mind that you aren't going to have chemistry with every lady you see. We are as individual as you gentlemen are. I've found that the gentlemen who pick an escort quickly without spending time speaking to the lady first, tend to have more negative experiences than those who put in a little effort in getting to know the lady and what she's about first.

[Guest f***2f***]

I think this is also expressed in YMMV. You may get exactly the same service as the fellow writing a good review but if there's no chemistry there it will not be the same experience.

[Megan'sTouch 23875]

Chemistry plays a huge role in how the experience plays out. I consider myself to be a good service provider and I always do my best, but sometimes a guy just doesn't give me much to work with LOL. It's not anybody's fault! Some people click, others don't. C'est la vie!

[D-Blue 224]

sometimes a guy just doesn't give me much to work with LOL.

 

Some of us participate in this hobby because we don't give any woman anything to work with :icon_biggrin:

[Butterfly Kisses 2301]

I met my fav by taking a chance on her pics and bio. No previous contact. My first visit was one of the best, and perhaps YMMV was involved, but her attitude and enthusiasm brought me back. Now 5 years later there is obviously a connection and YMMV has expaned.

 

I don't think the first visit really includes a connection. That comes over time. The real YMMV initially comes from your appearance, cleanliness, and respect towards the lady.

 

First impressions help the SP determine your mileage, the connection develops after time.

 

Just my thoughts.

[renegade 11027]

I recently had a similar experience very ho hum but was it me that didn,t promote a better experience was i a dud to her or was it her that did,nt have me chomping at the bit or a combination who knows just like "normal" relationships they don,t always work -thats what makes the really good encounters so special !

[Badger133 183]

I think that the recommendations here are more useful in terms of helping us avoid bad encounters than ensuring good ones. A good encounter is a function of 2 people, not one. There are so many variables. But the reco's here do help us ensure things like accuracy of pics, that many CERB members have had good experiences, etc...

 

Not sure I'm making sense. ;-)

 

I couldn't agree with you more!

[Winnipegcub 21293]

I couldn't agree more with this theme. I have had some amazing experiences, average, and OMG. Absolutely some of the least memorable were with well respected and reviewed SPs. So I've learned to accept it can be me and the connection. Which has led me to learning the value of being a regular with a select few ladies. I have also learned about myself more and do better at identifying women I might be compatable with. (Where was that skill 30 years ago?) Thankfully we have enough different people that we can all find someone we click with. Cub

[ThisOneWorks 4707]

Yes D-Blue I used the word "reviews" and meant discussions, chats, recommendations, information, posts, etc, etc; put whatever other word makes you happy!

 

The bottom line is, and obviously I'm not the first person to bring this up, BUT it is a dual person experience! Sometimes, for various reasons by either party, it just don't click!

 

If you want to guarantee satisfaction, I guess you can always sit down in front of a computer screen, go to some of "those" websites, and type with one hand!

 

P.S. Have a tissue ready! ...... Or so I've heard! :-)

[whiterabbit 485]

I couldn't agree more with this theme. I have had some amazing experiences, average, and OMG. Absolutely some of the least memorable were with well respected and reviewed SPs. So I've learned to accept it can be me and the connection. Which has led me to learning the value of being a regular with a select few ladies. I have also learned about myself more and do better at identifying women I might be compatable with. (Where was that skill 30 years ago?) Thankfully we have enough different people that we can all find someone we click with. Cub

Sometimes I find the whole experience of seeing an SP to be completely surreal. Maybe I'm a minority but I actually don't expect fireworks every time... it does happen but it really does come down to chemistry and whether or not you are genuinly engaged in the moment. I've walked away (politely) when the chemistry hasn't been there... I know its frustrating for all you pooners out there if the experience doesn't go well but thats usually because you're frustrated with not feeling like you got your monies worth. Most newbie hobbyists tend to over think their selection when they are first looking to contact an SP which is why they often want to know every damn detail about a women. I don't rely on reviews really and if I think a women looks intriguing I'm more interested in finding out for myself what she is really like.

[RobX 2084]

I have also experienced mixed results with well-reviewed ladies, although I originally selected both of my current favs because they had been very well reviewed. I agree that it all comes down to chemistry and connection, which cannot be predicted based on ads, bios, reviews or recommendations. However, my experience has not led me to ignore reviews and recommendation. A large part of doing one's homework prior to selecting a lady consists of reading her reviews and recommendations. I also agree with ottawaadventurer that reviews and recommenations may be more useful in terms of helping us avoid bad encounters than ensuring good ones, but to ignore reviews and recommendations entirely essentially means you are TOFTT every time you vist a new lady.

 

I also agree that speaking to a lady over the telephone prior to an appointment is probably the best way to predict whether you will "click" with her in person. However, it is not a guarantee. Also, some ladies make pre-arrangements via email only and not via phone. And for some, especially newbies, first telephone conversations with an escort are too stressful to be of much use as a means of determining whether there is a connection or not. The bottom line for me is that reviews and recommendations remain an essential element of selecting a lady, but are no way a guarantee of success.

[milfhunter1967 2154]

I agree with RobX and whiterabbit reviews,recommendations etc play only a small part in my decision to see a particular SP. I also read her posts, see what kind of chemistry we have after first contact, I myself prefer e mail but some SP's prefer phone first. Occasionally you get to meet an SP at a social function like one of Chicas's party's, I met someone I have wanted to see for a while at his last one and now I'm really looking forward to finally get together with her, all we have to do is be in the same city at the same time! lol

[Guest f***2f***]

It occurred to me also since I put in my 2 cents that sometimes we have unrealistic expectations. I think if you've read a review, look at some hot pics you may have placed the lady on a pedestal that is hard for her to attain.

I like to go in with average expectations and let myself be pleasantly surprised.

 

There is also a human factor. Everyone has off days. The lady could be experiencing stress or just had a bad experience or might be tired for any number of reasons. I know that at my work I'm not on my game all the time. Most ladies can't be expected to be the perfect companion every single time for every single gent....and as mentioned before if the chemistry is not there it might be harder for her to make it as good as she and you might like.

[roamingguy 300291]

It is a case of YMMV. Two people have to click/connect/have some chemistry

and sometimes its a case of oil and water, just don't mix

Sometimes one of the parties may be off his/her game...we all have bad days

One well reviewed (on another board) lady I met, well this well reviewed lady was for me, a bad encounter...we just didn't click

But a bad encounter, in terms of chemistry doesn't mean the lady is bad or you are, sometimes two people just don't click/connect

I've only had one encounter that by objective criteria, was bad. The other two, it was chemistry, or lack of it

Some ramblings

RG

[SHE DEVIL 16331]

Interesting thread...

 

I don't like being put in a position where I am uncomfortable and it is more than obvious that this person doesn't like me/click with me or whatever. I would rather "let's not and say we did." I've always felt that the first few minutes can be more than enough time to decide if the session is good for chemistry. I will basically allow a full refund for a walk in and out and I'm happy to do that rather than have a person feel obligated to stay.

 

SD

[D-Blue 224]

Yes D-Blue I used the word "reviews" and meant discussions, chats, recommendations, information, posts, etc, etc; put whatever other word makes you happy!

 

The bottom line is, and obviously I'm not the first person to bring this up, BUT it is a dual person experience! Sometimes, for various reasons by either party, it just don't click!

 

 

The reason I made the distinction on the choice of words is because with recommendations, by definition, you only get the more positive comments from an encounter. You probably won't see anything written by someone who didn't click with the lady or where the encounter wasn't up to expectations even if those expectations were the imagination of the client.

 

There is more information out there and I'm not the only guy that has written negative comments on other boards about ladies that have glowing reco's on Cerb. It is our choice whether or not you make use of all the information available to us but we should at least be grateful that there is more information now than ever before. I don't even want to think what it must have been like to hobby before the Internet when all there might have been was a 10 word newspaper ad!

 

If you have not had much luck with a "dual person experience" have you tried a 3some? It has to be better than your computer option especially if you don't click with both palm sisters :icon_biggrin: