Seymour 3970 Report post Posted October 16, 2008 We've read the posts on 'the hobby' and various experiences or fantasies we are after. The question I would like to ask is do you believe you can give it up, just one day walk away and engage your free time differently? Why am I bringing this up at this time - well, once in a while I like to stop for a reality check. Personally, right now I'm still having fun so I guess I'm not ready to give it up. Could this change in the future? Time will tell. Your thoughts. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Poker 125 Report post Posted October 16, 2008 Ya, I think I'll quit as soon as I stop loving women. Easy enough.:twisted: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest f***2f*** Report post Posted October 16, 2008 i've thought about this too...honestly at the moment I will be in serious withdrawal...this is extremely addictive...seriously....some of these sps should come with Government warning labels!!!!:twisted: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
corona 265 Report post Posted October 16, 2008 Seymour, two things: 1. quitting the hobby, that may be possible, but it is in our instincts to pollinate all the flowers of the world :), may as well have fun doing it. So possible, but difficult, and as Boner says, the ladies are addictive. Worse than cigarettes. 2. quitting sex, sweet and short, cut it off, that will do it, there is no other way :) 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Ou**or**n Report post Posted October 16, 2008 Sure, as long as your favorite lady is also retiring, your financial means have changed and you have gotten involved in a new and great personal relationship outside the hobby. Otherwise the temptation... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ottawasocial 477 Report post Posted October 16, 2008 Hobbying is extremely hard to quit....especially if you have an addictive personality. I quit for 5 years but within those five years I had the perfect woman by my side.... Its almost like quiting smoking....you take that first drag again and it feels like heaven all over again.... I decided to treat myslef on my birthday last week.....what an experience....but hear I am with two more appointments next week... I know they're are a handful of executives here who can afford a few SPs a week. But I'm sure I am just like the other guys with a car payment, mortgage, bills etc. I can't be seeing a few girls a week, let alone a month... Its a great hobby but very addictive and hard to quit.... But it does put a smile on my face... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kih 458 Report post Posted October 16, 2008 I quit hobbying at different times but in those times I had a significant other at my side. Its not so bad being single when there is an abundance of ladies around. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Capital Hunter 18263 Report post Posted October 16, 2008 I find the hobby very addictive. I started going to strip bars some 15 years ago (very expensive hobby) and have tried to quit that hobby several times with total failure everytime and the best I could do was to (partially) switch to escorts last year (which means going to strip bars only once or twice a month now). I have found escorts even more addictive. In spite of pressure from my family members and friends to find somebody and get married (they tell me that I am going to be a very lonely old man if I don't change), I just can't do. I love women too much to settle down permanently with a woman. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest m***2 Report post Posted October 16, 2008 It seems like a concensus - me I would love to quit but the temptation is too much. Not unlike many of you have a lot to loose however it is still not enough. I spend up to or over 1K per month and I have been doing that for over 10 years. I dont want to do the math on that with and add a interest rate of 5-6% because I will get sick. Anyway it is what it is and I like it - Like they say work hard play hard. It is a way to treat ourselves. I am think some of our experience counts may out number some SP's :roll::roll: P.S. As a matter of fact I just blew 3 bills a couple of hours ago (shakin my head) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest f***2f*** Report post Posted October 16, 2008 hey you only live once....I plan to have some nice horny memories when I'm sitting in the nursing home in my rocker!!:mrgreen: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest m***2 Report post Posted October 16, 2008 thanks Igotaboner I hear you on that :-P Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Seymour 3970 Report post Posted October 16, 2008 As a matter of fact I just blew 3 bills a couple of hours ago (shakin my head) As long as you are shaking your head in a good way, I guess it was worth it. :-D Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
d*mm*y 887 Report post Posted October 17, 2008 You make choices along the way, I have not always been as active as I am now with SP's but I had several relationships instead. At this point in time the SP side is easier to work with than several relationships. In the future time will tell I am still waiting for the Chrystal ball (it's been on back order for quite some time now) However ultimately I do not think that any of us are capable of being faithful (by us I mean the regulars here) that is just a fact that we should learn to live with, or at O69 says cut it off. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
r100rs 859 Report post Posted October 17, 2008 very hard to quit and not spend the money somewhere else addictively, like drinking/drugging/shopping/eating. We are an impulsive bunch. I justify it like all addicts.....I'm not that bad...it's a healthy hobby(compared with drugging/drinking/overeating)...I get stress relief some exercise life could be worse. but remember there is always Sex Addicts Anonymous. r100rs. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
the lurker 160 Report post Posted October 17, 2008 Often wondered if this is possible. That other site in TO has had many threads on this. From what I have seen and done, no not possible for me. Might be different if I met someone to settle down with, but so far no. Can't even seem to stop the "rippers" and they are twice as expensive! Never regreted my visits, even the not so hot ones, so I guess other than the cash outlays I am pretty happy. You have to be okay with Polyandry though ;) Maybe two jobs... hahaha! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
YoungStud 468 Report post Posted October 17, 2008 I agree, compared to many other addictions, this is pretty healthy physically. I'm not sure how healthy it is emotionally for everyone though. I'm good with it, but my solution is to be pretty honest about what's going on. It's paid casual sex for fun. It can be done in a very friendly and enjoyable and exuberant way. But it's still paid casual sex for fun. GFE describes a range of pleasurable options. It doesn't mean she's actually your girlfriend. I've always been big on emotional fidelity, as opposed to sexual fidelity. And obviously you will not find a lot of emotional depth in most of these casual escort relationships. As long as you don't expect to, it's all good. And one's level of capacity for emotional fidelity really doesn't, in my view, have much to do with one's capacity for casual sex, or how long you will be involved/addicted to this kind of "hobby". I think it's possible to be involved in a long-term emotional commitment with someone while both of you still have casual sex of various kinds, including the kind of long-term "hobby" addiction (if that is really the right word) we're talking about here. I don't think it's either/or. But you do really have to have a high level of mutual honesty and trust and commitment in that long-term relationship. And you have to see the casual sex - paid and otherwise - for what it is - just that, casual. And derive your main emotional satisfaction elsewhere. Then it really doesn't matter whether you can quit the "hobby" or not. To achieve such a long-term emotional commitment is easier said that done, of course. very hard to quit and not spend the money somewhere else addictively, like drinking/drugging/shopping/eating. We are an impulsive bunch. I justify it like all addicts.....I'm not that bad...it's a healthy hobby(compared with drugging/drinking/overeating)...I get stress relief some exercise life could be worse. but remember there is always Sex Addicts Anonymous. r100rs. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Robert101 100 Report post Posted October 17, 2008 I'll stop when Poker does. ;-) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TRman 536 Report post Posted October 17, 2008 Can't quit. Women are toooooo good. tits, ass legs, how can someone be gay (oops)? Thats why lesbians are so cool - we all like the same good looking thing! Like someone recently said -Financial humour of course " I just lost 50% and still have my wife". Women are beautiful and sexy. How can you quit this? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
castle 38816 Report post Posted October 17, 2008 At the moment there is no sign of quitting in my near future, I would like to think that someday I will meet a woman who will be able to top the temptation but at the moment I only know 2 women like that in my life and they are unattainable...for the moment anyway. Any other girl I end up with I just know I'll end up cheating, and that would be unfair to her so I don't bother. Unless I meet some extremely awesome woman whose cool with that...but those kind of women sure as hell are not common. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Poker 125 Report post Posted October 18, 2008 I'll stop when Poker does. ;-) Poker isn't stoping. Shoot had 2 in one day the other day. And still asked the" friends with benefits" for some lol:twisted: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Dreamgirl 246 Report post Posted October 18, 2008 if you know me you cant quit, i addict my gents with black magic lolll Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest f***2f*** Report post Posted October 18, 2008 mmmmm addict me baby...lol:mrgreen: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Seymour 3970 Report post Posted October 18, 2008 Black magic, hypnosis, and domination...sounds like opportunities for discovery. :wink: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PistolPete 61421 Report post Posted October 20, 2008 if you know me you cant quit, i addict my gents with black magic lolll When you put on that sexy tight black magical dress, men can very easily be addicted to you sexy. Just like the song from Robert Palmer- Addicted to love...:mrgreen: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C4EJkI3hN0w Don't you men just love the long sexy legs, and the black short dresses~! oh yeah were all in HEAT Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kubrickfan 12836 Report post Posted October 20, 2008 For me, the answer is easy ... yes. At some point down the road I will likely stop travelling to Ottawa on business (or at least do so a lot less often), and when that happens, I'm pretty much done. I hope to stay in touch with some of the people I have gotten to know, online at least. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
