Mood Enhancers ?

[Jizz 100]

I've tried 3 attempts with Sp's now and each time has been a failure.

Either it's nerves or the environment or the mechanical nature of some of the girls I have seen.

Pretty sure it's the nerves mixed with lack of real intamacy..

 

Wanted to know if anyone uses mood enhancers to shake off nerves or help getting the motor running, so to speak.. lol

 

Feel free to PM me if you dont want to discuss on the board..

[mod 135639]

A common tip is to look for a lady who is recommended and try to find one that is good with first time clients (certain Sp's have a real skill for this and if you ask around and read some recommendation I am sure you will find those ladies - they are usually older ladies who have been in the business a while and love what they do but occassionally some of the younger ladies are just naturally good at creating chemistry with new clients)...

 

Second you may want to consider a multi-hour booking with this SP as it will give you time to chat and feel more comfort. Look for recommendations of ladies who people have "chemistry" with. These ladies are usually much more capable of creating intamacy and enjoy that part of the experience also.

[Seymour 3970]

I've tried 3 attempts with Sp's now and each time has been a failure.

Either it's nerves or the environment or the mechanical nature of some of the girls I have seen.

Pretty sure it's the nerves mixed with lack of real intamacy..

 

Wanted to know if anyone uses mood enhancers to shake off nerves or help getting the motor running, so to speak.. lol

 

Feel free to PM me if you dont want to discuss on the board..

 

Jizz, all due respect - I don't think you want to show up for a date under the influence of any substance. Not sure where you're picking your dates from but there are really good providers on this site and of course you can communicate with them to help establish an early rapport before you schedule a date.

Granted - I understand that different factors can have an effect on performance and one is looking to experience something memorable. Use the big head to satisfy the little head. ;-)

[ulixestrojan 3757]

Nerves can be a big barrier. The biggest sex organ is your brain. Try breathing - deep breathes in, deep breathes out, imagine a scene that turns you on, get relaxed. This may sound trite and easy but relaxing is a skill - work on becoming relaxed and cumming will be easy.

[Peachka 4334]

Try some Viagra or cialis. It may help you physically & physiologically.

[Emma Alexandra 123366]

The best mood enhancer is your brain...like what was said before think with your big head first and the little head will follow.

 

Pick a lady for more then the obvious and someone you can talk to and relax with.

 

Please do not see someone under the influence of alcohol or drugs. i'm sure many ladies wouldn't appreciate that....i would send you home...lol

 

The point is to relax and let things happen naturally..

 

kisses,

Emma A

[mod 135639]

I wasn't even thinking "alcohol or drugs" when I read the initial post. I was thinking of porn or toys. LOL... That is a god point however alcohol or drugs are a VERY bad idea (1) they could add to the bad performance ability and (2) many SP's would turn you away if you were noticeably intoxicated.

 

If you are having performance problems Viagra or cialis may be all you need (ask your doctor first however of course).

[PistolPete 61421]

1st most important issue is-your brain,think of it as your 1st date when you were a young 15 year old with a raging hard-on, and want to do something about it:mrgreen:. Once with your date- breathing is key..relax and enjoy yourself,carry self confidence,seek a very highly recommended SP...if it fails again...seek a your family doctor and go for the Viagra or Cialis.

 

 

 

Nerves can be a big barrier. The biggest sex organ is your brain. Try breathing - deep breathes in, deep breathes out, imagine a scene that turns you on, get relaxed. This may sound trite and easy but relaxing is a skill - work on becoming relaxed and cumming will be easy.

[AmberWyld 311]

I've tried 3 attempts with Sp's now and each time has been a failure. Either it's nerves or the environment or the mechanical nature of some of the girls I have seen. Pretty sure it's the nerves mixed with lack of real intamacy.. Wanted to know if anyone uses mood enhancers to shake off nerves or help getting the motor running, so to speak.. lol Feel free to PM me if you dont want to discuss on the board..

 

Hello Jizz,

First off, like the nick name or perhaps it?s the real think I like more! LOL A little humour to break the tension. Now to you problem? you say that you have been with 3 SP?s and all attempts have been a failure. Well, my question is how have your attempts been with non-SP?s? Have you failed there? Or is it just with SP?s? If the latter, then you just haven?t found the right girl to make you feel relaxed and give you a more of an intimate experience. Compatibility is a very important thing, and not just in relationships, but with your SP as well. Maybe even more so since you might be doing things with her that you MIGHT never have done or thought of doing with a partner for what ever reasons. Also, you should consider what MOD said, ?book a multiple hour date?. This will really give you the time to get to know each other, chat, take your time with foreplay and so forth before diving into the naughtier action. Also, something I would add to that, I would find a girl that offers a GFE, or PSE experience because they are more intimate in nature; depending on the girl.

 

Secondly, I would never use any form of inhabitants? such as alcohol or drugs; as these will decrease your sexual stimuli even further causing the outcomes you have been having with the past three SP?s.

 

Thirdly, you have to regain control of your biggest sexual organ, your brain. It controls everything you do and experience. I?ll tell you why? You don?t supply us with enough information for us to give a proper informed guess about what might be at the root of your problem. So I?m going to make a stab at it in general. If I had to guess, I?d say that you are suffering from a case of performance anxiety. You don't need a doctor, drugs, pills, or alcohol;you just need to RELAX. Here?s how this nasty thing works. Say a ?guy? has a less than satisfying sexual experience for one reason or another. Before he knows it, he is replaying the incident over and over in his head, till that?s all he thinks about; especially when with another woman. The proverbial molehill soon becomes a giant mountain. This ?guy? then brings this anxiety to his next sexual encounter. His hyper-consciousness (brain) primes him for more disappointment. And then he again interprets all disappointment as a failure. Begins to doubt his sexual manly hood and so forth?Well, you can see where I?m going with this right Jizz? Your fears become self-fulfilling. Before you knows it, you begins to doubt yourself or resort to matters that make it worse. Your sexual encounters suffer. You soon think you have developed some sort of sexual dysfunction. And your self-esteem takes a nosedive. Your preoccupation with this problem makes it less likely that you?ll be fully present during sex with your partner (SP or otherwise), which pretty much fucks up your sexual responsiveness and any hope for spontaneity or a feeling of intimacy.

 

It looks to me like performance anxiety is putting a damper on your sexual arousal and short-circuiting your sexual responses. This is nothing to fool around with, so grab a hold of the controlling factor, your brain and JUST ENJOY it all and NOT worry so much about the end product? It will all CUM back to you in the end. So get a hold of your brain, find the right SP or partner, don?t rush it, so a multiple date would be best and enjoy it all my fiend. Enjoy the sights, sounds, smells, touch and so forth? Use all your senses. Take care sweetie and I hope all works out for you?.

[YoungStud 468]

Excellent advice as usual from Amber. In my experience, the more you start to worry about cumming, the more likely you will have problems doing so. Let yourself enjoy all the sexy and sensual things that happen on the way there and not only will you be much more likely to reach the climax of your journey, but it will be a much more enjoyable one as well.

[teched 418]

Amber, great post. Worthy of a nomination I would say.

 

Jizz, relaxation is a big part, but depending on an individuals age and other factors, a trial of something like Viagra or Cialis may be just the ticket. For some these problems develop slowly and will cause ongoing doubts. But these little pills can either eleviate your problem or if they bring success, raise your confidence level to a point where the pill is no linger needed.

 

Be sure to keep us posted.

[Guest i***k***]

You need: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w0aGTYrXMA0

[Emma Alexandra 123366]

You need: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w0aGTYrXMA0

 

the best advice yet...lol

[AmberWyld 311]

Amber, great post. Worthy of a nomination I would say.

 

Jizz, relaxation is a big part, but depending on an individuals age and other factors, a trial of something like Viagra or Cialis may be just the ticket. For some these problems develop slowly and will cause ongoing doubts. But these little pills can either eleviate your problem or if they bring success, raise your confidence level to a point where the pill is no linger needed.

 

Be sure to keep s posted.

 

Thanks sweetie for the nomination!! I am just happy to be here chatting with you all, meeting some of you and having fun with as many of you as I can.

 

Amber

[BootyLoving 2441]

JIZZ???? Hello JIZZ???

 

Where did he go?

[captain 160]

JIZZ???? Hello JIZZ???

 

Where did he go?

 

Maybe he CAME already.. lol

[Seymour 3970]

Now that we've given Jizz some advice, let's cut him some slack - he's likely regrouping and mentally working out his comeback. Sometimes it is easy to forget that mentally, people are in different spaces and might require some extra coaching to demonstrate their full potential.

[AmberWyld 311]

Or perhaps he has found the right girl and has decided to keep it to himself and enjoy the long cold nights with catching up on lost time.... Wish you the best Jizz. As for the rest of us, we can get back to the naughtier of things to do..... each other...

[Jizz 100]

Thanks for the responses everyone and Amber for your elaborate interpretation of what may be the underlying cause.

 

For starters, I never meant using drugs/alcohol to enhance the sessions. I was refering to sexual Mood enhancers, if you google you will find many over the counter products. I was more or less asking if anyone used cialis/viagra to help with the sessions.

 

I have no issues any other time, except when trying with a SP. So I would have to agree with what has been stated, that chosing the right partner is key, and as Amber mentioned, perhaps a multi-hour session would help.

 

I'm guessing that after one great experience, the rest of them will come naturally.

 

Appreciate the feedback, And funny youtube clip.. lol

Cheers!

[Seymour 3970]

Jizz I think you're well on your way. Other forms of mood enhancers can take the form of specific clothing requests that you might request of your date - or perhaps you are the dressing up type. Fantasy role playing (naughty secretary, french maid, horny housewife, schoolgirl, etc. can all be useful forms of arousal and thus mood enhancers. All things to explore once you've created that mental rapport with your lady friend. Happy travels.

[oleman 279]

I'd suggest no drugs or alcohol, of course, no toys or vibes, just a massage encounter where you don't have to do anything at all, and you know she's going to get you off, whether you're soft or hard.

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[YoungStud 468]

Uhm, I think Cialis and Viagra help your dick get hard when you're already in the mood and help you stay harder longer, not improve your "mood". If you're too uptight to get hard in the first place, I don't think they will solve your problem.

 

Anyway, follow up on the other good advice here and as you say, once you're "over the hump", so to speak, the rest will be easy. Good luck!

 

Thanks for the responses everyone and Amber for your elaborate interpretation of what may be the underlying cause.

 

For starters, I never meant using drugs/alcohol to enhance the sessions. I was refering to sexual Mood enhancers, if you google you will find many over the counter products. I was more or less asking if anyone used cialis/viagra to help with the sessions.

 

I have no issues any other time, except when trying with a SP. So I would have to agree with what has been stated, that chosing the right partner is key, and as Amber mentioned, perhaps a multi-hour session would help.

 

I'm guessing that after one great experience, the rest of them will come naturally.

 

Appreciate the feedback, And funny youtube clip.. lol

Cheers!

[esoterica 624]

I'm pretty much always in the mood. If I am not, kissing ALWAYS arouses me.

[PistolPete 61421]

Yes also for mood-set, alot foreplay is always good, mutual deep french kissing,touching, licking, sucking,playing with one and another is always a natural mood high, try it in the shower, or in the bed, either certainly will get you in the mood. ;)

[E.D. man 691]

sometimes its an attraction thing and sometimes its a health issue try cialis:-P