Escorts and bisexuality

[contraman 5480]

It seems like there are lots of escorts who advertise duos. There's no doubt that clients (like me) find that prospect exciting.

 

But I'm wondering a couple of things and would appreciate the thoughts of the service providers who offer duos on the list:

 

1. Were you bisexual before entering this business?

2. How much of your decision to offer duos a "marketing" move -- give the customer what he wants -- or was it motivated by something else?

3. How do you find your duo partners? Is it important to you to have some chemistry with the third leg of the triangle, or is it more of a "we're both on the job here, let's take care of the client"?

 

Hope these questions don't offend.

[Carrie Moon 68826]

I think I was always bi-curious. I'd still say I'm bi-curious as opposed to bi-sexual because 95% of the time I need a man to be in the mix for me to be into it. I didn't however have any experience with women prior to escorting. For me it's kind of like what happens in vegas stays in vegas.. it happens 90% of the time professionally only where I can stretch my normal limits. I have since starting the business dabbled personally quite a bit as well with 3somes. So.. I'd say it 'opened me up'. Gave me a safe place to experiment and then gave myself permission to do so personally as well.

 

Yes.. it's important to have chemistry with the other lady.. which is why when I see couples I prefer a longer appt so she and I can get acquainted first chatting. If there's no chemistry but respect for one another we don't interact and the client is aware of this before hand. Some clients just want to be serviced by two ladies whereas most others want a 'show'.

 

Yes.. it was a 'marketing move'. I was early in the business and asked by the agency I was working for to do a duo.. and I did it! I tried to do it with a good friend and we were too good of friends so we kept laughing as we 'practiced'. I had to go with someone I had chemistry with but didn't know as a good friend first.

 

My duo partners are ladies I have chemistry with and ask directly.. are you open to doing duos?

[roamingguy 300292]

Just tossing this out for discussion, that's all. If, based on the OP's post, and proceeding on the assumption that ladies are either bi-curious or bisexual if they offer duos (FFM) does that also mean that guys are bi-curious or bisexual if partaking in a duo (MMF)

Another quick item tossing out for discussion, does the issue of bi-curious or bisexual enter into the picture, depending on whether the duo is interactive versus non interactive

BTW just questions tossed out for discussion. I am in no way passing, not even remotely, any sort of judgement. This lifestyle and everyone's sexuality is very much personal, and not for anyone to judge. Not only that, I am hoping for my first menage once the logistics can be worked out, with two very special ladies. But that will be another story for another day :-)

RG

[Cleo Catra 178382]

I've always liked to have sex with --some-- girls. So I only offer duos that I feel that attraction to. I've had some gentlemen request a duo with myself and another SP that I don't advertise with, and I've usually declined because I need to have that spark with the other lady.

[Gia Wren Marlowe 67985]

I've known that I am bisexual since I was 15. I think I actually knew long before then but didn't necessarily link the word to myself until later.

 

I've had threesomes in my personal life long before I started escorting. In fact, I actually lost my virginity in one. So offering duos just seemed natural for me. I get excited about every one of them. And yes, chemistry is very important to me.

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

As far as I can remember I have been a bisexual. At a young age I found a copy of The Happy Hooker and excitedly read certain passages over and over. I never acted on those impulses until I was in my 30's. Professionally, I need to meet someone and have a chemistry before I will agree to a duo. No chemistry = mechanical encounter!

[JennDDD 1588]

I have been afraid of this actually. When I am actually going to be able to meet with an SP, i worry that they aren't actually into women, plus then i have the tubby issue i worry about.

 

I would have to believe that they are going to enjoy being with me to enjoy it myself, and if they start with not really being into women but more marketing, then i worry.

 

but not obsess worry lol.

[roamingguy 300292]

I have been afraid of this actually. When I am actually going to be able to meet with an SP, i worry that they aren't actually into women, plus then i have the tubby issue i worry about.

 

I would have to believe that they are going to enjoy being with me to enjoy it myself, and if they start with not really being into women but more marketing, then i worry.

 

but not obsess worry lol.

 

Well not the same fear Jenn, but in the beginning of this lifestyle I was concerned, me being a middle aged man, bald, glasses and a belly meeting beautiful SP's, some of whom are IMHO model material. They could be in Playboy, Sport's Illustrated Swimsuit Edition or Victoria's Secret catalog or well you get the idea. These women could easily have any man they want. But, for the time of the encounter, the man they want is me, with all my flaws...I'm certainly not someone you'd see on the cover of Gentleman's Quarterly. If they really aren't into seeing men, they sure do a good job acting as if they are. They make me feel like a king, their friend and their boyfriend all rolled into one without making me feel like a client. And I'm sure they do that with all their clients.

I say this because I believe you would get the same experience from SP's. Being treated like someone special, not a client. So I wouldn't worry about that aspect of meeting a SP. Probably your hurdle is having your first encounter, but it's just nervousness. I went through that first encounter nervousness and hurdle, probably everyone does. Once you do it though, you'll wonder why you waited so long

Good luck

RG

[Nathalie L 112512]

1. Were you bisexual before entering this business?

2. How much of your decision to offer duos a "marketing" move -- give the customer what he wants -- or was it motivated by something else?

3. How do you find your duo partners? Is it important to you to have some chemistry with the third leg of the triangle, or is it more of a "we're both on the job here, let's take care of the client"?

 

1. A little bit more than bisexual, perhaps ;) It's escorting that helped me rediscover how amazing sex with men can be when you're with someone kind, gentle, loving, and who listens and appreciates your body in a meaningful way. For a long time I thought that was only possible with women, but I think that's because men my age are immature lovers.

 

I've almost exclusively dated women in my personal life, but escorting has been a great way for me to explore my sexuality with men.

 

2. I only offer full-service and fully-interactive duos with one person, and it's because I like her. Marketing was involved, sure... --coughs--... but I also just wanted to get into her pants? I think that's legit right? --laughs--

 

3. My choice of a duo partner was a pretty organic process. I would only offer duos with someone I was genuinely attracted to which means I don't necessarily 'look'.

 

Of course chemistry is important with the 'third leg', but that's the case with non-duo appointments too... :) sometimes there's chemistry, and there are repeat visits, and sometimes there isn't (although more rarely). That's why I trust patrons to do their market research accordingly and be wise in their choice of who they see/don't see.

[Lou 9208]

I have been in lesbian relationships way before escorting.

 

When I provide duos, whether they are interactive or not, what comes first is not to have a strong sexual attraction toward my duo partner because this could be disappointing. What is essential is that we work in a similar manner, that our personality match, that we both treat our clients with respect, that we are both comfortable with our body and our work and that we are able to laugh together.

 

In my view, the personality/business chemistry comes prior and is essential for the fun to really happen. Many men have told to my duo partners and me that we really seem to enjoy working together and that they appreciate that.

 

Offering duos is a marketing tool since many men are looking to fulfill this fantasy, but it is also one more way to have fun at work.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

1. Yes. I've been in a relationship with a woman and even lived with her for a short time.

 

2. At first doing duos was mostly driven by customer requests or gay for pay because I didn't really know the women until.. read below...

 

There is only one person that I have done duos with where there was a real life spark. We exchanged a long glance out of the blue one day since we both live in the same neighborhood and I saw her getting out of her car one day as I know someone who lived 2 doors away. This was 2 years before we formally met and before she became an SP. I know there was a reason for meeting her. There is a real chemistry there. Now that is fate!

[Guest C*****tte]

I have known I was bisexual since I was 10 or 11 years old.

 

I love doing duos because I enjoy group sex and I adore playing with my girlfriends.

 

I only have duos with ladies I have played with before and know well in my private life. I also prefer to work with ladies who have a similar work ethic and philosphy.

 

I have only done a duo once with another provider I had not met before hand. They sought me out. She had a much higher rate than mine. They had a weekend appointment in Montreal. The provider was drunk, was sick and then passed out. The client wanted me to stay longer but without paying me more. I found this very disrespectful. It was a disaster.

 

I would like to mention something I have noticed. Many professional duos have been more about m-f action with us ladies taking turns with the gentleman. They may say they want a fully interactive session, but actually do not wish to watch us together. My friends and I are always bummed by this. Not offended, angry, frustrated - just bummed. With couples and in my private life threesomes are much interactive. Not sure what this means, but I find it interesting.

[Guest La***nico***]

I have had a few threesomes with a provider and my husband but have been looking forward to some girl time so I find it very reassuring that the SPs here feel that they can be open about their own sexuality. When I spend the time with a lady, I would want her to be very comfortable with me, as a lady client, not just fulfilling a role, but having an opportunity to have an intimate encounter with someone how craves the touch of another lady.

 

Additional Comments:

I have had a few threesomes with a provider and my husband but have been looking forward to some girl time so I find it very reassuring that the SPs here feel that they can be open about their own sexuality. When I spend the time with a lady, I would want her to be very comfortable with me, as a lady client, not just fulfilling a role, but having an opportunity to have an intimate encounter with someone how craves the touch of another lady.

[lookingforfunxxx 615]

I would like to mention something I have noticed. Many professional duos have been more about m-f action with us ladies taking turns with the gentleman. They may say they want a fully interactive session, but actually do not wish to watch us together. My friends and I are always bummed by this. Not offended, angry, frustrated - just bummed. With couples and in my private life threesomes are much interactive. Not sure what this means, but I find it interesting.

 

I find it interesting that we have had completely oposite experiences. I have had three duos with SPs. I found that while many advertise "fully interactive duos" in reality they would hardly touch each other and when they did I got a "I guess we have to, so lets get this done already" vibe. At first I thought maybe it was just bad luck in my choice of SPs, so I tried again with the same result. I firgured third time's the charm and was again disapointed. Now I've given up on fulfilling this fantasy. After reading your post I'm again inspired to try this again with a duo that has genuine chemistry.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

I find it interesting that we have had completely oposite experiences. I have had three duos with SPs. I found that while many advertise "fully interactive duos" in reality they would hardly touch each other and when they did I got a "I guess we have to, so lets get this done already" vibe. At first I thought maybe it was just bad luck in my choice of SPs, so I tried again with the same result. I firgured third time's the charm and was again disapointed. Now I've given up on fulfilling this fantasy. After reading your post I'm again inspired to try this again with a duo that has genuine chemistry.

 

I think a good question to ask before booking would be if the SPs actually know each other. Some are friends, some aren't. I got lucky with my duo partner because there was just that instant chemistry that is there between us. Sometimes it sucks but don't give up! There are ladies out there who enjoy each other and will knock your socks off. lol.

[emb3750 9398]

I think a good question to ask before booking would be if the SPs actually know each other. Some are friends, some aren't. I got lucky with my duo partner because there was just that instant chemistry that is there between us. Sometimes it sucks but don't give up! There are ladies out there who enjoy each other and will knock your socks off. lol.

 

 

Umm, yup....I remember that afternoon, lol. Spontaneous, hot, sensual...and too short. My bday is coming up soon, might be time to treat myself again ;)

 

E.

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

It certainly is fantastic when those fireworks explode!

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

It certainly is fantastic when those fireworks explode!

 

Yes I won't soon forget! LOL. Especially the last minute ones where nothing is planned, it just happens.

[pearlsglitterandlace 100]

I have had a few threesomes with a provider and my husband but have been looking forward to some girl time so I find it very reassuring that the SPs here feel that they can be open about their own sexuality. When I spend the time with a lady, I would want her to be very comfortable with me, as a lady client, not just fulfilling a role, but having an opportunity to have an intimate encounter with someone how craves the touch of another lady.

 

Additional Comments:

I have had a few threesomes with a provider and my husband but have been looking forward to some girl time so I find it very reassuring that the SPs here feel that they can be open about their own sexuality. When I spend the time with a lady, I would want her to be very comfortable with me, as a lady client, not just fulfilling a role, but having an opportunity to have an intimate encounter with someone how craves the touch of another lady.

I also find it very comforting to read about the SPs comfort regarding their sexuality. It's been tricky finding threads regarding finding SPs that cater to lady clients. Lucky for me I have found 2 to chat with and hopefully meet up with sooner rather than later.

 

I'm not sure what percentage of clients are women seeking an intimate session with another female, but I'm positive I'm not the only one.

[Regent 35404]

I've always been queer and I date people of all genders in my personal life.

 

Offering duos is of course a marketing thing, but I'm only interested in doing duos with SPs that I feel good chemistry with and can work well with. If I wasn't interested in group play I certainly wouldn't offer it as an option.

 

Currently the SPs that I'm open to doing duos with are all personal friends of mine, and our relationships predate our working relationships.

[Gabriella Laurence 301887]

1. Were you bisexual before entering this business?

I had my first "girl crush" when I was 5 or 6 years old and then got interested in boys a little later. As a young teen/adult, I explored with both sexes and could never make up my mind as to which I loved best so I decided not to pick and enjoy both :) and this is how it's been since.

 

MFF were also part of the exploration process... I felt like Einstein when I realized that I could have the best of both worlds, at the same time, by having 3sums! lol

 

2. How much of your decision to offer duos a "marketing" move -- give the customer what he wants -- or was it motivated by something else?

 

3. How do you find your duo partners? Is it important to you to have some chemistry with the third leg of the triangle, or is it more of a "we're both on the job here, let's take care of the client"?

 

When I first started as a companion, I was asked a few times to participate in MFF by a client that already knew the other lady (but I had not met her yet). I took a chance and went with his suggestion because I trusted him... Two of these ladies turned out to be amazing friends and fantastic duo partners. Today though, I am a little bit more hesitant about doing this (I actually won't) because I realize that one needs more than attraction and chemistry to be able to work together on a regular and long term basis.

 

SO, once I get to know a lady and feel that we have genuine chemistry and attraction for one another (the foundation for a rocking hot duo team) and I see/feel we have a similar philosophy, approach and views about intimate encounters (and the business/admin side of things), this is when I/we will consider offering 3sums as a full interactive duo in order to add some spice to our already exciting sex work.

 

2. I only offer full-service and fully-interactive duos with one person, and it's because I like her. Marketing was involved, sure... --coughs--... but I also just wanted to get into her pants? I think that's legit right? --laughs-

Haha! 100% guilty of the above lol and I am not ashamed to admit it

 

EDIT: I am talking about my duo partners in general... not referring to one lady in particular.

[LeeRichards 177238]

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2. I only offer full-service and fully-interactive duos with one person, and it's because I like her. Marketing was involved, sure... --coughs--... but I also just wanted to get into her pants? I think that's legit right? --laughs--

 

--coughs-- ahem. excuse me. Well I realllllllly want into her pants too !!!! Let's work together Nat ...... you from the front and me from the back..... I reach around and unbutton rubbing up against her, you unzip gazing into her eyes, I slide her pants down a bit from the back, then you a bit from the front and sooooo on slowly until mmm mmm mmm all the way to the floor. I slide them off one leg and you the other..... ;) oopsies we must get the undies now Nathalie.... You want the frontside or the backside ?? ;)

[MightyPen 67414]

Interesting thread! I envy all those who were comfortable enough with themselves and found opportunities to explore early on.

 

Also... am I the only one who can't see the phrase "bi-curious" any more without automatically thinking of "

" ? ;)