what not to ask an sp?

[antlerman 17064]

Seymore.......hahahaha...thanks for the rant....

 

ladies.....I can not believe what you have posted that some guys ask......I am shocked......DUH!!......reading your posts is like watching that u-tube video of the Americans and what they know..........

 

What is is with today and common sense.....it is gone........

[Apex2006 1071]

ladies.....I can not believe what you have posted that some guys ask......I am shocked......DUH!!......reading your posts is like watching that u-tube video of the Americans and what they know..........

 

 

 

That's not why you are on u-tube! Your on it for the pron!:grin:

[antlerman 17064]

That's not why you are on u-tube! Your on it for the pron!:grin:

 

 

wakey...wakey dude........I do not watch or download PRON........

[Apex2006 1071]

wakey...wakey dude........I do not watch or download PRON........

 

You should try it! It's to to watch when your having sex!

[Gabriella Laurence 301887]

Well, I would like to add something to what has already been discussed.

 

Gentlemen, when you ask the Lady you are with to extend your rendez-vous by an hour or + (during the actual intimate time), and she agrees, please, do not ask her before leaving...

 

"Do I owe your anything more for the extra time"???

 

xox

[Apex2006 1071]

Well, I would like to add something to what has already been discussed.

 

Gentlemen, when you ask the Lady you are with to extend your rendez-vous by an hour or + (during the actual intimate time), and she agrees, please, do not ask her before leaving...

 

"Do I owe your anything more for the extra time"???

 

xox

 

Does that not make you hot? lol

 

Apex

[Gabriella Laurence 301887]

Does that not make you hot? lol

 

Apex

 

Burning hot but not where you would normally enjoy extreme temperatures!

;)

 

xox

[Emma Alexandra 123366]

Well, I would like to add something to what has already been discussed.

 

Gentlemen, when you ask the Lady you are with to extend your rendez-vous by an hour or + (during the actual intimate time), and she agrees, please, do not ask her before leaving...

 

"Do I owe your anything more for the extra time"???

 

xox

 

thats so uncomfortable....they know they owe us more money....why do that?

I would like to add something too...if you book an hour please don't extend it to 3 and and not expect to pay in one way or another....the other way is--we probably won't see you again and pass your handle on to other ladies so they know what to expect...just thought you should know

[Apex2006 1071]

thats so uncomfortable....they know they owe us more money....why do that?

I would like to add something too...if you book an hour please don't extend it to 3 and and not expect to pay in one way or another....the other way is--we probably won't see you again and pass your handle on to other ladies so they know what to expect...just thought you should know

 

Oh! so that's what I did wrong!:-P

 

LOL!

 

French Bastard

[SamanthaEvans 166766]

A few more "thou shalt nots" from me today.

 

Don't demand to have my phone number. I prefer to work via e-mail until we have a firm booking. I will send you my cell number the night before we meet and I will tell you when to call me. Many escorts publish their numbers: that works very well for them. And many do things the way I do. It's a matter of personal preference.

 

If you say that you really want to talk to me on the phone before booking a meeting, I will remind you that I don't discuss my fee, what I look like, what I am or will be wearing, or anything erotic on the phone. When I call you, don't ignore those restrictions. Yes, I have a lovely voice and a very warm manner over the telephone. Yes, I'm bright, cheerful and reassuring. I'm glad you feel better. But if you break the rules, this is as much of me as you'll ever get!

 

Don't barrage me with e-mail or phone calls after I've turned you down. My statement, "I don't think we're suited for each other. Thanks for contacting me. I wish you all the best," is the end of our interaction.

 

Recently, I've had prospective clients inquire about meeting me for a three or four hour session the first time we get together. My preference is for much shorter, initial meetings which is one reason for asking for substantial deposits in advance of long sessions. I accept credit cards via Paypal and my cancellation policy is clearly explained on my website. Don't say, "You're really asking a lot of a guy you haven't even met. How do I know you won't just run off with my money? This could be a scam."

 

And never, ever say anything like, "You over-priced girls sure expect a lot." Of course we do. We expect reasonable things like that our safety, time and self-respect are as important as yours.

 

Don't ask for the address of my incall location so that you can "be prepared" or "efficient" ahead of time.

 

I tell new clients that I'm near a major intersection. I ask them to call me from an unblocked number when they're near it. Then I give them simple directions to my location. I do not want someone "scoping out" the place ahead of time. I'm in one of Vancouver's finest neighbourhoods. From the intersection alone they should know that there's nothing to worry about in terms of the local traffic and that ample parking is available (and free!).

 

I won't accept calls from a private or blocked number because I don't accept those calls! Period, No text messagesm either. So, don't call me over and over again from your blocked number expecting me to put two and two together, know that it's you AND be delighted to hear from you. It don't work that way! Two plus two equals I can take a nice, relaxing bubble bath in the now-free hour and a half that I'm not spending with you.

 

Oh, and one more? If you've never met me and we've only exchanged a couple of e-mails, don't write to me and say something like, "Aww, Sam... you know I'm a nice guy. I'm sure you can tell that already! Maybe you need all these rules for the psychos, but not for me. So relax, hon. I'm the one guy you should just know you don't need to be concerned about. Chill, babe!"

 

If you think I'm spending my days with psychotically disturbed men as a matter of course.... find another girl. And no, I don't think I can refer you to anyone else,

[brandi 231]

A few more "thou shalt nots" from me today.

 

Don't demand to have my phone number. I prefer to work via e-mail until we have a firm booking. I will send you my cell number the night before we meet and I will tell you when to call me. Many escorts publish their numbers: that works very well for them. And many do things the way I do. It's a matter of personal preference.

 

If you say that you really want to talk to me on the phone before booking a meeting, I will remind you that I don't discuss my fee, what I look like, what I am or will be wearing, or anything erotic on the phone. When I call you, don't ignore those restrictions. Yes, I have a lovely voice and a very warm manner over the telephone. Yes, I'm bright, cheerful and reassuring. I'm glad you feel better. But if you break the rules, this is as much of me as you'll ever get!

 

Don't barrage me with e-mail or phone calls after I've turned you down. My statement, "I don't think we're suited for each other. Thanks for contacting me. I wish you all the best," is the end of our interaction.

 

Recently, I've had prospective clients inquire about meeting me for a three or four hour session the first time we get together. My preference is for much shorter, initial meetings which is one reason for asking for substantial deposits in advance of long sessions. I accept credit cards via Paypal and my cancellation policy is clearly explained on my website. Don't say, "You're really asking a lot of a guy you haven't even met. How do I know you won't just run off with my money? This could be a scam."

 

And never, ever say anything like, "You over-priced girls sure expect a lot." Of course we do. We expect reasonable things like that our safety, time and self-respect are as important as yours.

 

Don't ask for the address of my incall location so that you can "be prepared" or "efficient" ahead of time.

 

I tell new clients that I'm near a major intersection. I ask them to call me from an unblocked number when they're near it. Then I give them simple directions to my location. I do not want someone "scoping out" the place ahead of time. I'm in one of Vancouver's finest neighbourhoods. From the intersection alone they should know that there's nothing to worry about in terms of the local traffic and that ample parking is available (and free!).

 

I won't accept calls from a private or blocked number because I don't accept those calls! Period, No text messagesm either. So, don't call me over and over again from your blocked number expecting me to put two and two together, know that it's you AND be delighted to hear from you. It don't work that way! Two plus two equals I can take a nice, relaxing bubble bath in the now-free hour and a half that I'm not spending with you.

 

Oh, and one more? If you've never met me and we've only exchanged a couple of e-mails, don't write to me and say something like, "Aww, Sam... you know I'm a nice guy. I'm sure you can tell that already! Maybe you need all these rules for the psychos, but not for me. So relax, hon. I'm the one guy you should just know you don't need to be concerned about. Chill, babe!"

 

If you think I'm spending my days with psychotically disturbed men as a matter of course.... find another girl. And no, I don't think I can refer you to anyone else,

 

I didn?t know there was such existence of ample free parking available in Vancouver! ROLFLMOA. Of course I come from the small city of Kamloops where parking and traffic isn?t an issue!

[SamanthaEvans 166766]

Come and visit when you're in Vancouver sometime, Brandi!

[Loki318 1631]

So if I were to give you the name of a respected SP and tells you all about me and give you my cell number then call you from my un-blocked cell phone to talk to you in person, you would still need to ask for my photo ID when we meet?

 

IMHO, I think that I would like to keep a liitle bit of my personal life to myself too! I don't think I can give a complete stranger my address and personal information when all I have is a phone number and a fake name!

 

I MEAN NO OFFENCE THIS JUST "MHO"! You are a sexy woman and I would love nothing more then to meet you one day, but I just wnat to express my thought!

 

I appologise if I am offending anyone!

 

Apex

Apex I do have to agree I dont ask any one to take any kind of risk at all but there are some SP's that I wont even call or contact due to their "security" measures....

 

Loki318

[YoungStud 468]

I try when ever possible to compliment, compliment, compliment. The only questions I ask on a first date are "is this too rough?" "are you OK with this?". SP's have there own bed side manner go with he flow!

 

Very true. Some SPs like to chat about more personal things, especially once they get to know you. So I'll follow her lead in that case, and if I ask questions, they're appropriate to the level she's already established. If the conversation stays at the level of how's the weather, I'm fine with that too.

 

The goal is for her to feel comfortable with you within the limits she's set for her own comfort zone. Because when's she's comfortable with you, you will definitely enjoy your time together more. ;-)

[maturegent 110]

Some SPs do chat about more personal matters, especially if you have established yourself as a regular.

 

if I ask her questions, they're appropriate iaw what she has already established. I also like conversation that stays at the level of the weather and vacation spots. In fact, some of my best holiday plans started off with a chat during a session with an SP. Many of them are very well travelled and have a lot of good pointers to share.

 

The pooner's intention should be to ensure the SP's comfort within the zone she has set for herself. Once she truly feels comfortable with you, you will both relish your time together much more. This is how a great SP/client relationship is born.:-P

[Carrie Moon 68826]

The goal is for her to feel comfortable with you within the limits she's set for her own comfort zone. Because when's she's comfortable with you, you will definitely enjoy your time together more. ;-)

 

The pooner's intention should be to ensure the SP's comfort within the zone she has set for herself. Once she truly feels comfortable with you, you will both relish your time together much more. This is how a great SP/client relationship is born.:-P

 

Ah.. youth and maturity agreeing on one thing. You guys probably get the best results from your appts with your outlook!

[capitalman 3861]

I like to give my real name so when the SP says it to me in the heat of the moment, it makes sense, ya know? I don't want to be called "Capitalman" or some fake name while I'm trying to get off!

 

Quote: "When someone calls or emails me and says...so and so just cancelled on me i'm wondering if you are free...lol....lmao

yea i'm free alright...not. Always great to know your second choice...hahaha "

 

The same applies for us gentlemen. PLEASE don't post a message on the board or send me an email saying "Someone cancelled I suddenly have an opening, do you want to visit?" It's a two-way street. I don't want to feel like I'm second best either.

 

I like a girl that discreetly advertises and doesn't punch me in like a time clock. Ads like "I'm working from 7am until 11pm today and I have one opening left at 3pm" just turn me right off. They make me feel like a number, like a money bag. They make me feel USED. Just my humble opinion, YMMV.

[Parker 19761]

 

I like a girl that discreetly advertises and doesn't punch me in like a time clock. Ads like "I'm working from 7am until 11pm today and I have one opening left at 3pm" just turn me right off. They make me feel like a number, like a money bag. They make me feel USED. Just my humble opinion, YMMV.

 

Some of us have times like that because we do other things in the times not listed.

 

As for the "I have an opening left here", I've said it.

It doesn't always mean that I'm seeing other men that day.

Sometimes I have to drive my sister somewhere, or I have an appointment... ect.

[Annessa 22743]

Some of us have times like that because we do other things in the times not listed.

 

As for the "I have an opening left here", I've said it.

It doesn't always mean that I'm seeing other men that day.

Sometimes I have to drive my sister somewhere, or I have an appointment... ect.

 

exactly. I always hate it when i client thinks I work 24/7. I get together for coffees with friends, spend time with family on a regular basis and (I know...its hard to believe but...drum roll....->) have some ME-time which might involve taking myself out to dinner or an appointment get my nails done/teeth whitened.

 

if i say I'm busy until a certain time, its not always because I'm working until then and am free for more bookings

 

I have said I've had an opening due to cancellations but I dont see many clients a day 1-4 max so if I have a cancellation and a client couldnt see me on a day when they asked for 3 o clock at the last minute and suddenly that space is open because thats the time you requested....well then I'm helping you out in my opinion....not labelling you as second best

 

I dont consider it the same thing around when an SP is being lined up (rudely) as a second option. I had a potential client on here send me a message asking if its okay to call me if the girl he had in mind didnt show up or cancelled.

 

i *might have said yes (business is bussiness) if he didnt do the next part:

 

he proceeded to tell me a little bit about himself in a full length email that was copied and pasted from his message to the other SP....he even was aware of this as I just had to comment on the last phrase in the email that said "I'd just love to picture you riding me cowboy style, you sexy cury-haired latina!"

 

disgruntled sigh..... :P

[Emma Alexandra 123366]

Naomi's and Annessa's posts...

its true just because we say we have an opening at such and such a time it doesn't mean that we are seeing people back to back to back....i know for me i like to have at least 1-2 hours in between my guests....sometimes i'm just doing something else....we do have a normal life as well...sometimes i just want to be with friends or family....we all have this....

 

I don't consider it the same thing around when an SP is being lined up (rudely) as a second option. I had a potential client on here send me a message asking if its okay to call me if the girl he had in mind didn't show up or cancelled

 

That's just wrong....lol...damn how would you feel if we said well I'll see you if someone better doesn't call...

 

This whole thing reminds of

that song by Marlyn Manson,"i don't love but i'm going to fuck ya until someone better comes along"....lmao

Not that we love you... but sometimes its fun to pretend even just for a few hours....hehe

the whole thing boils down to RESPECT...

kisses,

Emma

[Belleoftheball 395]

I completely agree. As a sp I dont like being asked personal questions. I never lie about my life or personal likes/dislikes and so forth, I just don't freely give the information out. However if I have been seeing someone for a while and become more comfortable with them, I generally let my guard down a lil and share more about myself...

 

Somethings that I never will answer, nor do I like to have asked are, as stated above, "What is your real name?", and also "Can I see u outside this "hobby"?".

There are some things I like to keep private. :D

 

 

Here is my experience with sp's, as I have seen more than one over the years! Don't ask personal questions. Once an SP becomes comfortable with you then they may reveal a bit about their personal life, but don't force the issue. I would always suggest letting conversation happen naturally.

[Belleoftheball 395]

What would an SP say if us hobby's gave you a fake name?

 

Apex

 

I honestly dont think it would matter. I'm not there to figure out your life... unless of course u want to offer up the information.

 

However for outcalls in hotels... sometimes last names are a must to get past the front desk, unless the gentleman is meeting u in the lobby... which is usually not an option.

[Guest Ou**or**n]

I must say I have no problem at when ladies post availabilities (whether due to cancellations or not). I got started with my fav Ottawa lady when she made it known she had an availability. There is such a thing as being spontaneous and it can be quite fun.

 

I read this and other boards frequently enough that I have a mental list of ladies I'd like to see given their posts and reviews. If one becomes available at short notice I love the chance to see them. My own life sometimes makes it difficult to book too far in advance. I truly don't care how the availability comes up because most ladies choose their clients on a simple 'first book, first serve' basis anyway so there is no way I feel second best if a time slot opens up.

 

I have sometimes seen other ladies on short notice if an appointment with another girl hasn't worked out. This was the topic of a thread here recently. Don't let a lady cancelling bum you out, but instead use your time and budget to see someone else. This isn't a second best thing either. There are so many lovely ladies to choose from. It's like being told, 'sorry we're out of Macallan, ok I'll take an Oban instead'.

 

On the other hand directly asking a lady to be a backup in advance, that's just tasteless.

[etasman2000 15994]

I had a potential client on here send me a message asking if its okay to call me if the girl he had in mind didnt show up or cancelled.

 

i *might have said yes (business is business) ...

 

Maybe you should have asked him if he minded being a backup client just in-case you had a no-show or cancellation that day. Just thinking out loud....

[buggernot 588]

....he even was aware of this as I just had to comment on the last phrase in the email that said "I'd just love to picture you riding me cowboy style, you sexy cury-haired latina!"

 

Maybe he thought that that was your European half? And that you were going to wear a curly wig for him? OK, nothing defensible here, sorry I even tried ;)

 

But since this thread is about what not to say to you lovely ladies, and even though I know some guys will describe themselves in a bit of detail before meeting, reading that he was putting this description in there makes me wonder - how much do you girls care about any of it? I've never bothered with any description at all, just keep things to making a pleasant business inquiry or transaction and that's that. My perspective is that you really don't care so why bother?

 

Would you ladies prefer not to get the overly self-descriptive notes with vivid detailed fantasies of what this potential client you've never met wants to do with you?? Asking about services is a different matter of course...