MandalayBay 575 Report post Posted May 13, 2009 I thought it would be interesting and informative to create a thread listing advice that SPs could give gentlemen who hire service providers. This would be somewhat of a "don't do" list, if you may. Here are things that clients have done that have turned me off and made becoming sexually aroused difficult. I'd love to hear from other SPs and hear their advice for gentlemen who hire SPs. MANDALAY'S "DO NOT DO" LIST * I despise aggressive, strong bear hugs. Although you may be excited to see me, do not grab me and give me a strong bear hug. Bear hugs are painful and I can't breath when a man is doing this. It also sometimes feels like my ribs are going to break. Gentleness and tenderness is more of a turn on. Lifting me off the floor in a tight, painful bear hug hurts and is a major turn off for me. * Do not grab my head, man-handle it and force it towards the body part you want me to touch. Words work just as well and physically attempting to force my head somewhere really turns me off. * Shoving your tongue down my throat is also a huge turn off. The tongue is meant to tease, not to make the other person gag. Here is the best article on kissing I've ever read: http://www.ehow.com/how_4678193_kiss-like-porn-star.html * This is topic that I thought would be common sense and wouldn't have to mention, but must be brought up because there are a few men that need to be taught this (not many, but some). When having a shower, one must always use soap on both their genital and armpit areas. Cleanliness is particularly important for me and armpit/genital body odor is a sure way to turn me off. Please make sure every inch of your body has been soaped and rinsed at least once. * Please do not put cologne or any type of fragrance on your genital areas. If it accidentally gets in my mouth, it tastes awful and reminds me of having my mouth washed out with soap when I was a child. LOL * The clitoris has thousands of nerve endings. Biting it and being rough hurts and gentleness is preferred (in my case). 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VedaSloan 119179 Report post Posted May 13, 2009 -don't jackhammer my pussy with your finger. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
a******s.m*****e 187 Report post Posted May 13, 2009 Please don't look me over when I take my clothes off. It makes me feel cheap and makes me wonder if you are sizing me up to see if I am worth the money. And don't walk up to me and grab my ass or my tits. Yes, I am half naked and I am going to handle your cock, but please have patience and let us have a few words of polite conversation about something unrelated before I start massaging you. During the session you can tell me how much you like my tits - or whatever - and you can touch me, but please don't run me over when you arrive. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Emma Alexandra 123366 Report post Posted May 13, 2009 Please don't ask me when your with me, "OK how much do i owe you?" 0r "how much was that worth?" our prices are mentioned on our websites...they don't change once your here or because your good looking...lol 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
caveman 147 Report post Posted May 13, 2009 Please don't look me over when I take my clothes off. It makes me feel cheap and makes me wonder if you are sizing me up to see if I am worth the money. Anita, I know I probably won't be seeing you anytime soon (based on geography), but I would have a hard time abiding by this one. I'm sorry, but if a woman is taking her clothes off in front of me, I'm going to look! When a guy looks at a naked woman, it doesn't mean he's sizing her up, it just means his eyes are open. :-D Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
A***** A***** 510 Report post Posted May 13, 2009 Please don't ask me when your with me, "OK how much do i owe you?" 0r "how much was that worth?" our prices are mentioned on our websites...they don't change once your here or because your good looking...lol I have had people ask me, well since I am good looking, can I get a discount:evil: I ask them "What do you think" They say no, I say "Well you know what to do" they say what, I say, "Hang up the phone" LMAO Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
a******s.m*****e 187 Report post Posted May 13, 2009 Anita, I know I probably won't be seeing you anytime soon (based on geography), but I would have a hard time abiding by this one. I'm sorry, but if a woman is taking her clothes off in front of me, I'm going to look! When a guy looks at a naked woman, it doesn't mean he's sizing her up, it just means his eyes are open. :-D OK, Caveman, I understand. I don't mean looking, I mean that looking-over that guys sometimes give women in a pub, accompanied by cat calls.... Can't really explain. You can look, just don't make me feel like I am a merchandise you just bought :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest C*****tte Report post Posted May 13, 2009 To add to some of the previous comments... Please make sure your anus is very clean. Even if there are no plans to explore that area it still requires daily, thorough, cleaning. I so wish I did not learn that from personal experience... I do like hugs, but they should be gentle. One reason for me is my lingerie looks good, but it does have those pesky wires and when they pushed into the body it can hurt. I am not a fan of the comment "I think you should pay me." When I am seeing a client I have my work hat on. When I go to a stripclub I have my customer hat on. Two very different mentalities required. My priorities are different even if I enjoy them both. Example for the non-sex workers out there. You like to camp. You do so for pleasure. You decide to buy a summer campground and to work there. You are now responsible for other people's well being and enjoyment. You might still enjoy the activities but now your main focus will be on your customers. Sure, it might be great that people pay you to do something you enjoy, but should you pay your campers for being a part of it (say, for swimming or hiking with you?). Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Annessa 22743 Report post Posted May 13, 2009 Example for the non-sex workers out there. You like to camp. You do so for pleasure. You decide to buy a summer campground and to work there. You are now responsible for other people's well being and enjoyment. You might still enjoy the activities but now your main focus will be on your customers. Sure, it might be great that people pay you to do something you enjoy, but should you pay your campers for being a part of it (say, for swimming or hiking with you?). this is an awesome metaphor Charlotte. my addition for now is if you (client) feel that you are coming down with something the night of the date, please postpone....or let us know in advance that you *may* be coming down with something mild even...so us SPs may double up on the ColdFX and get lots of sleep after the date to bulk up our immune system. Its a big respect to me and my health when a client tells me the day before a date that hes not 100% or the following day that he's not feeling well and I should take extra precautions. Us ladies need to protect our health in every way..not just sexually. and sometimes getting sick can mean weeks of taking off work for us....without pay! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
buggernot 588 Report post Posted May 14, 2009 This is a brutally cynical but hilarious take I read on the Best of CL from an escort in Denver. A little jaded but I'm sure you girls can relate to a few of these. Hopefully not all ;) http://tiny.cc/D2330 And some detailed ass cleaning tips http://tiny.cc/DvHb3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
d*mm*y 887 Report post Posted May 14, 2009 This is a brutally cynical but hilarious take I read on the Best of CL from an escort in Denver. A little jaded but I'm sure you girls can relate to a few of these. Hopefully not all ;) http://tiny.cc/D2330 And some detailed ass cleaning tips http://tiny.cc/DvHb3 Excellent threads I have been trying to say this stuff for a while! (well not so much about the ass cleaning) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Annessa 22743 Report post Posted May 14, 2009 ouh! excellent rant-link, buggernot! a little on the bitter side and I dont exactly like her take on non-attractive clients. BUT..I especially can relate to her rant about the serious talk after climaxing...clients feeling dirty and hugging their pillows feeling all wrong and worried that they might have an STD...its such an insult to me and I get angry when a client asks me for reassurrance on my sexual health.... the client takes responsability for seeing or not seeing an escort....its not our responsability to be their therapist because they did and now feel guilty or dirty 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SamanthaEvans 166766 Report post Posted May 14, 2009 I especially can relate to her rant about the serious talk after climaxing...clients feeling dirty and hugging their pillows feeling all wrong and worried that they might have an STD...its such an insult to me and I get angry when a client asks me for reassurrance on my sexual health.... the client takes responsability for seeing or not seeing an escort....its not our responsability to be their therapist because they did and now feel guilty or dirty Hear, hear! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VedaSloan 119179 Report post Posted May 14, 2009 Excellent threads I have been trying to say this stuff for a while! (well not so much about the ass cleaning) I was slightly insulted that she thinks $200/h full service escorts are trashy. Not everyone feels it appropriate to charge that much, and that doesn't make us trashy. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
buggernot 588 Report post Posted May 14, 2009 I was slightly insulted that she thinks $200/h full service escorts are trashy. Not everyone feels it appropriate to charge that much, and that doesn't make us trashy. I've heard $200 girls say stuff about the $120 girls along the lines of, 'how can they respect themselves?!' It's all relative and depends on how snobby/catty you are. Not worth being insulted over... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest C*****tte Report post Posted May 14, 2009 I was slightly insulted that she thinks $200/h full service escorts are trashy. Not everyone feels it appropriate to charge that much, and that doesn't make us trashy. Prices vary based on area and so follows perceived value. It is hard to know what the standard rates were in Denver at the time this was written. Keep in mind often the USA ladies charge more because the work is 100% illegal in most areas. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Labrador 248 Report post Posted May 14, 2009 ouh! excellent rant-link, buggernot! a little on the bitter side and I dont exactly like her take on non-attractive clients. BUT..I especially can relate to her rant about the serious talk after climaxing...clients feeling dirty and hugging their pillows feeling all wrong and worried that they might have an STD...its such an insult to me and I get angry when a client asks me for reassurrance on my sexual health.... the client takes responsibility for seeing or not seeing an escort....its not our responsibility to be their therapist because they did and now feel guilty or dirty So true, time for the men to man up! If you think the sp is not clean leave do not take the chance but it is your choice! Blame yourself, unless you were forced to be there...lol Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Emma Alexandra 123366 Report post Posted May 14, 2009 I was slightly insulted that she thinks $200/h full service escorts are trashy. Not everyone feels it appropriate to charge that much, and that doesn't make us trashy. we all start somewhere...i made a mistake once about saying something about people offering half hours...what the heck? i used to do the same when i first started...so people can charge what they want for how long they what...it doesn't make anyone any better then anyone else...verity is the spice of life...hehe Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
YoungStud 468 Report post Posted May 14, 2009 I was slightly insulted that she thinks $200/h full service escorts are trashy. Not everyone feels it appropriate to charge that much, and that doesn't make us trashy. I've had great experiences for less and not very interesting experiences for more. YMMV is always the golden rule. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Annessa 22743 Report post Posted May 15, 2009 So true, time for the men to man up! If you think the sp is not clean leave do not take the chance but it is your choice! Blame yourself, unless you were forced to be there...lol (joking) I hold a gun to all their heads...why do you think they cry after? (note the joking part) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Suzirider 737 Report post Posted May 15, 2009 This is a brutally cynical but hilarious take I read on the Best of CL from an escort in Denver. A little jaded but I'm sure you girls can relate to a few of these. Hopefully not all ;) http://tiny.cc/D2330 Clearly a case of being forced into the biz at gunpoint :roll: Restraining myself from further comments. :roll: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Apex2006 1071 Report post Posted May 15, 2009 Please don't ask me when your with me, "OK how much do i owe you?" 0r "how much was that worth?" our prices are mentioned on our websites...they don't change once your here or because your good looking...lol Can I run a Tab? :razz: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Apex2006 1071 Report post Posted May 15, 2009 I have had people ask me, well since I am good looking, can I get a discount:evil: I ask them "What do you think" They say no, I say "Well you know what to do" they say what, I say, "Hang up the phone" LMAO Or, you can tell them they have a face for Radio! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
antlerman 17064 Report post Posted May 15, 2009 Can I run a Tab? :razz: hahahahahaah....... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
A***** A***** 510 Report post Posted May 15, 2009 Or, you can tell them they have a face for Radio! :lol: That is so bad, but I just might do it! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
