Honesty in the Business - Good or Bad?

[Midnite-Energies 110563]

I've met a lot of great people but perhaps I just take a more realistic view of the intrinsic nature of the relationship between a john/client and a prostitute/escort/companion is all.

 

Other than real/current photos and accurate description of services offered and yes I acknowledge ymmv is all any one can and perhaps should expect.

 

Peace

MG

 

I see your point and the point that was made by numerous people about the "fantasy" aspect. I guess this is just one more way my perceptions differ from many. The fantasy IS my reality and vice versa. I don't need to lie to create because I feel it and believe it. That does ot mean I'm delusional or dishonest or that I live in some drug induced space, it's just who I am and the way I see things. For me, it's a gift, one that others sometimes have trouble wrapping their head around.

 

I guess everyone needs what they need. Some need to be lied to, to create the fantasy. Some need to have connection, some just need some sexy lingerie and a smokin' body and they're all good. This is what makes us all unique and the world we live in interesting. Thankfully we have this place and this industry where it becomes much easier to find what we're looking for. Not only that but to have amazing discussions involving so many different views that end up supportive of all.

[Guest Ot**w***og****n]

I prefer people who have real thoughts, real feelings and real behavior who are honest and true to themselves without a lot of window dressing or embellishment. What you get from me here in my posts is genuine and I enjoy reading the real deal from others. Same holds true with a face to face. Honesty with tact and diplomacy works best for me. I do not know how people who swing the bull can keep it all straight in their heads.

[roamingguy 300292]

I'll chime in with my two cents worth. I think it's fair to say in this lifestyle there something for everyone. Me, for example, just a sexual encounter I would find empty, but for some other guys, that is all they want from an encounter. I much prefer a longer encounter, but one where you spend time getting to know one another. And if there is a connection/chemistry, then the lady and I will repeat, and likely we will open up even more with one another. And there is nothing more special, JMHO than being intimate with a lady you have allowed to get to know you and she has allowed you to get to know her.

And to establish that connection, well you both have to be somewhat open and honest with one another, and also be discrete, and respect each other's privacy

A rambling

RG

[Midnite-Energies 110563]

LOL @stevemcqueen, that's not exactly what I meant but touche!

[cgnex 1616]

To clarify my earlier comment, when I refer to honesty I suppose the more accurate way of framing it is that I appreciate someone being genuine and real.... To a degree.

 

I don't need or want to know your real name initially. If a level of trust is reached then I would be flattered but its not important. Your name, birth date or any other personally identifiable information is rightly yours and none of my business.

 

The honesty pertains to who you are as a person. I'm attracted to a person as a whole, not just a set of attributes or menu items. Chemistry is important and true chemistry requires a level of authenticity and human connection, at least that is my opinion.

 

Genuine, authentic and honest. Let me know who you are as a person. What you like. How you think. What you believe. Just don't tell me everything and certainly not right away

[DoubleDDLove666 792]

Ive often wondered this

[piano8950 32577]

I think before answering whether or not honest in business is valued, I'd like to figure out in what respects are we talking about honesty?

 

This is a service, perhaps a bit unlike any other services out there, but it is a service. Regarding this, I'm more concerned about honesty when it comes to if a lady likes what she does. If there are simple things she says about her life, or whatever information she'd like to share about herself, its gives a bit of an insight to her, and I do appreciate it. I understand that she's doing this for an income, just like every other member who works in some service related industry who puts a smile at work. But if I can make an experience that I so much enjoy great for her, then fantastic!

 

Intimate details about her life is not what I think of as honesty that really pertains to my interest. I understand that her name is not the one she gave me, I understand that she has probably censored part of her life, but that isn't dishonesty, that's just being safe in a very dangerous world.

 

 

I can say that because of someone's willingness to talk about her life here, I decided against seeing her. I think she's great, but the more she shares, the more I have a tiny bit of concern that I might actually like her if I ever do see her. And I don't want to be a client that thinks they are falling for an escort (not that there's anything wrong with dating an escort, it would probably not happen, and result in hurt feelings). I'm probably being extremely cautious, but I guess that would answer if too much honesty has ever turned me away.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

I am WYSISWYG ( What You See is What You Get). I have been told many, many times that I have a genuine quality about me and this is true.

 

However, there are some details about my life that are none of any one else's business and this can be said for clients as well. I don't need to know someone's life story but I have to say that if I'm comfortable with someone then over time they will get to know a little about me.

 

If a client comes across as secret agent type and expects me to be an open book, forget it. I pick up vibes off people all the time and if I think someone could be stalker material or just plain nosy, they won't be hearing anything about me. In fact, I will take it to the extreme for them NOT to know anything and stop seeing them as a client.

[Soleil Sublime 38108]

Personally, I'd like to see more honesty in the industry regarding AGE. It's a pet peeve of mine that almost everyone's age is off by 5-10 years. I do not expect this to be a popular post, but it's how I feel.

[roamingguy 300292]

Personally, I'd like to see more honesty in the industry regarding AGE. It's a pet peeve of mine that almost everyone's age is off by 5-10 years. I do not expect this to be a popular post, but it's how I feel.

 

Just as a sidebar, those ladies who think being youngest is best may in fact be doing themselves a disservice. For some of us guys, well speaking for me only, find myself attracted to women in their thirties and up, right up to their fifties. And seeing a girl who is twenty, twenty one, actually for me it's too young. My age limits are mid twenties and up

Not putting down those that are younger, but if you are older saying you are younger, you may have unintentionally closed the door on a potential client

Some early morning half asleep ramblings

RG

[piano8950 32577]

Just as a sidebar, those ladies who think being youngest is best may in fact be doing themselves a disservice. For some of us guys, well speaking for me only, find myself attracted to women in their thirties and up, right up to their fifties. And seeing a girl who is twenty, twenty one, actually for me it's too young. My age limits are mid twenties and up

 

Completely agree!! I'm more inclined to look for someone around my own age, or older.

[CristyCurves 169032]

Honesty in this or any business is the best policy, imo. But in this business especially where many try to hide their relationships and the fact that they are in this business, being forthright and honest can negatively affect one. In the beginning I told everything about myself, my age, where I'm from, my past vocations, relatives, ect, ect, then some started using that info against me, using it to do harm to some family members, friends and associates so I've since learned divulging personal details can be used against you and others you try to protect from the negativity this business can attract. Its not my policy to want to tell untruths but in the end if doing so protects myself and loved ones then that's what will be done.

[cgnex 1616]

Cristycurves - withholding the personal information you indicated above is certainly reasonable and expected. I think virtually all sensible people would understand and view it as a pragmatic security/safety issue.

 

Sounds like you are genuine and honest in the ways that matter. Something many appreciate.

[Guest D***el B***e]

There is a very fine line between knowing too much and not knowing enough - or saying too much or not sharing enough. Maybe in the type of relationship that are being developed individually between provider and client everyone has to walk that fine line ... wherever the line is in your individual relationship. We're not all the same, we all have our own qwirks, so we shouldn't expect to be treated equally.

[LeeRichards 177238]

Personally, I'd like to see more honesty in the industry regarding AGE. It's a pet peeve of mine that almost everyone's age is off by 5-10 years. I do not expect this to be a popular post, but it's how I feel.

 

Age is merely but a number Sunshine ..... and I am 29 ;)

 

Funny but I very rarely ever look or notice a lady's age ! Many many things attract me to a lady and their age sure isn't one of them.

 

Age would be more a factor for me personally ....... If I am too old to jump then it is kinda hard to jump your bones now isn't it ? ;) Ha

[roamingguy 300292]

Honesty in this or any business is the best policy, imo. But in this business especially where many try to hide their relationships and the fact that they are in this business, being forthright and honest can negatively affect one. In the beginning I told everything about myself, my age, where I'm from, my past vocations, relatives, ect, ect, then some started using that info against me, using it to do harm to some family members, friends and associates so I've since learned divulging personal details can be used against you and others you try to protect from the negativity this business can attract. Its not my policy to want to tell untruths but in the end if doing so protects myself and loved ones then that's what will be done.

 

Hi Christy

Don't worry about not divulging everything about yourself. Reveal to a person only what you are comfortable revealing. But there are parts of

YOUR life that belong to you and you alone. If you let others know a bit more about you they should feel flattered that you like and trust them enough to share that with them. That doesn't mean they are entitled to know everything about you

So keeping parts of your life to yourself, that isn't an untruth, it is normal human nature

RG

[aimtoplease1 1839]

Honesty in this or any business is the best policy, imo. But in this business especially where many try to hide their relationships and the fact that they are in this business, being forthright and honest can negatively affect one. In the beginning I told everything about myself, my age, where I'm from, my past vocations, relatives, ect, ect, then some started using that info against me, using it to do harm to some family members, friends and associates so I've since learned divulging personal details can be used against you and others you try to protect from the negativity this business can attract. Its not my policy to want to tell untruths but in the end if doing so protects myself and loved ones then that's what will be done.

Divulging things about yourself should not be expected...but don't make things up.

The only honesty I look for is pics being no more than 1yr. old...at least some of them...and your age being with in a couple of years of what you say it is and you are STD free as far as you honestly know.