Slappy 115 Report post Posted September 23, 2009 Is it possible for an SP to fall in love with a client? And the client also fall in love with the SP? Whats the chances of that happening?8-) How does it usally turn out if it does happen?? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
antlerman 17064 Report post Posted September 23, 2009 man...there are soo many threads on this on here and other boards.......yes! yes...yes..... we are human...we do have emotions...... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S**a*Q Report post Posted September 23, 2009 Is it possible for an SP to fall in love with a client? And the client also fall in love with the SP? Whats the chances of that happening?8-) How does it usally turn out if it does happen?? My opinion on this is... Yes, just the same as a baker could fall in love with the girl that buys cupcakes every Sunday. Yes, just the same as the girl falling in love with that baker, where she buys her cupcakes every Sunday. Chances all depend on who you are, who they are, and what fate has in store for you. It will be what you make of it... End Thought Transmission... :P I am the love yoda ;) Lol!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
capitalman 3861 Report post Posted September 23, 2009 No sorry, falling in love is not in the rule book. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S**a*Q Report post Posted September 23, 2009 No sorry, falling in love is not in the rule book. Yes, it's not in the rule book and that goes against my whole other post up to there, but even though I agree with you on that one, that it shouldn't happen... There's always the off chance that it does, after all fate is a cruel mistress ;) However, with an SP and a client, maybe there are less chances from the SP side to fall for the client because it's a business transaction or a job to her... But there's nothing that says is can't happen, obviously, he/she shouldn't fall in love all the time, or expect to, but sometimes, things happen. :D Call me the die hard romantic :P Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
caveman 147 Report post Posted September 23, 2009 Methinks Cap was being sarcastic... :-) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
capitalman 3861 Report post Posted September 24, 2009 Yeah, I was being silly.....but then I think it's in every SP's brain to turn off emotions and NOT fall in love.....no matter what. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cat 262460 Report post Posted September 24, 2009 Labels of SP and client limit and define us, we are all human. Can we fall in love? Of course we can. Asking "will it work" is a question that has no answer. What I define as a successful relationship is different from other peoples idea of successful. Accurately define "falling in love" first. It is a phrase that is thrown around and we all assume it means the same thing to all but it doesn't. Is it the physical rush that hits us when we know we are going to get see someone? Is it the constant thoughts of someone that the mind insists on thinking? Is it the impulse that manifests as a physical need to see someone and be in their presence? Is it the chemical reaction that takes place in our bodies that is addictive in its highs and its lows? These are all recognized as initial symptoms of "being in love" but I question if it is indeed love. Society's definition of love is a label of misunderstanding. The concept of love we commonly accept is a two sided blade, the positive emotion we feel towards someone can turn to hatred, possessiveness, envy, resentment and a myriad of negative emotions. Love is a state of being, not a simple human emotion that has duality. Love as a state of being has no negative, it is beyond the human minds manipulation. Do I love my guests, yes I do, each and every one of them. I have several incredible long-term relationships with people who are "clients". Do my relationships fit in the box society trys to impose for love? No they don't. Would I change it? No I wouldn't. Cat 13 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vanessa Kelly 836 Report post Posted September 24, 2009 WOW Cat ...very well said.. Vanessa Kelly Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Emma Alexandra 123366 Report post Posted September 24, 2009 I always think its funny how people assume we don't have a heart...of course we do. We fall in love just like anyone else does. Sure it's not supposed to happen{as some people think} but it does. Will it work? Who knows but if 2 people are willing to give it a try...why not? Who are we to judge? kisses, Emma A 7 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MandalayBay 575 Report post Posted September 24, 2009 There are a couple of former clients I had that I KNOW I could have fallen in love with had circumstances been different in our lives. It had nothing to do with our relationship as Client/SP - but more so that I was already in a relationship with the great love of my life. The gentlemen I am talking about were not in a place in their lives (i.e. middle of sticky divorces, emotionally unready) where they could open their hearts to love. With all that said, I still feel love for them in my heart and always will. In fact, I remain very good friends with one to this day and after retirement. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
coachg 388 Report post Posted September 24, 2009 I would think that it is very possible for clients and sp's to fall in love, as Emma states they are humans with hearts just like everyone else. I know for myself, I have been on the verge of it and it is damn hard to reign in those feelings, but common sense must prevail no matter how hard it is. The way I hobby right now is a part of how it can happen...that being that I am very selective about choosing the type of lady who can provide me with the total overall experience and making a connection that only enhances the time spent together. For me, it is much more than just the sex..though that is still a priority...but it is about dining out together, shopping for lingere or new toys at the sex shop...or just taking a stroll and having some fun. Sometimes the connection sneaks up on you and by the time you realize there is some strong feelings, it is hard to reign them in and under different circumstances you may have even been soul mates. I would never change how I do things and I realize their is a risk of falling in love, but that is one I am willing to take because they ladies provide me some great moments in my life and i totally appreciate that. I could get out and chase women the old fashioned way, but I am not into head games and this way just seems to fit into my lifestyle at the moment. There are plenty of beautiful ladies out there, with great personalities and incredible womanly charms...and hey, who knows...maybe one day the lure will be to great...... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
E.D. man 691 Report post Posted September 24, 2009 It happened to me with an SP in 1992. It is a complicated thing that can happen.All people are human and you never know when love will hit you hard. We saw each other as a client for 3 months and 6 months as a relationship. She still worked. It was hard on both of us and broke up knowing that we had goals to accomplish 1st before we could be together. Basically we broke up because we were in love. It was a mutual agreement. But we alsi figured out that we knew each other since she was 9. I use to deliver papers to her parents house. We went to the same high school together she was 4 years younger. And knew alot of the same people. She is married today with two kids and happy. I have to say she will always be in my heart, because she is the only person I have made love too, who made love back. And what a feeling. feeling both heart beats at the same time. Love is a glorious thing when it is mutual. I have to say she was the only woman evr to give me flowers , just because she wanted too. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
geo007 203 Report post Posted September 24, 2009 From a client perspective, and from a personal experience, yes you can fall in love with an SP. Will it last, very difficult unless it is mutual and readjustments are made to each others lives to be acceptable to both. Who can say.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cato 160314 Report post Posted September 24, 2009 What a great thread this has turned out to be! Well said, everyone. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Leah 220 Report post Posted September 24, 2009 Yes Cat very very well said:grin:. I had to stop seeing a guy that kept telling me he was falling in love. It makes it to uncomfortable for me all the texts and calls.:shock: it got a little crazy but in the end it was the best thing to do end it!!:-D Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PistolPete 61421 Report post Posted September 24, 2009 I think it could happen as well, but falling in love could be a risk that either party may not be totally comfortable with. After all the lady certainly has her life and so does the hobbiest, can they both be compatible? can their daily routines be compatible? Don't get me wrong, I've always found that a piece of my heart goes out to the wonderful ladies I have met, and I surely love the time spent with them. I started a thread a while back, how I found myself really infatuated about a provider, the feed back from everyone was awesome, to define infatuated- "to inspire or possess with a foolish or unreasoning passion, as of love." Is more along my lines when I meet some special ladies.;) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PistolPete 61421 Report post Posted September 24, 2009 Here is the link I started back in 2008.. http://cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=6291 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S***e Report post Posted September 24, 2009 If I could fall in love with any woman why not with an SP? Or perhaps the other way around? If both of us were unattached, I see no immediate harm in it whatsoever. How things transpire down the road as far as the relationship surviving or flourishing (as she continues in her chosen profession) goes would have to depend on two very strong people who are verfy much in love with each other, are mutually understanding, willing to compromise and that they be very secure in the relationship with a high level of trust on their part. The older I get, the more I understand situations and am more inclined to be accepting of them. There are some great people around and we shouldn't close the door to any possibilty. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cato 160314 Report post Posted September 24, 2009 Here is the link I started back in 2008..http://cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=6291 Pete, thanks for this link. I know exactly how you were feeling back then. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
coachg 388 Report post Posted September 24, 2009 If I could fall in love with any woman why not with an SP? Or perhaps the other way around? If both of us were unattached, I see no immediate harm in it whatsoever. How things transpire down the road as far as the relationship surviving or flourishing (as she continues in her chosen profession) goes would have to depend on two very strong people who are verfy much in love with each other, are mutually understanding, willing to compromise and that they be very secure in the relationship with a high level of trust on their part. The older I get, the more I understand situations and am more inclined to be accepting of them. There are some great people around and we shouldn't close the door to any possibilty. Great words of advice from a old dog, but a damn sharp dog...I echo your sentiments exactly. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AttilaTheHun 356 Report post Posted September 25, 2009 Absolutely, an SP can fall in love, whether its with a client or not. Just because they do a job providing pleasure for clients, I believe that they long for a "normal" relationship just anyone else. In fact I believe that they long for more than ordinary people. Imagine an SP trying to get emotional fulfillment in a 1 or 2 hour session and then watching the guy leave to go back home. I believe that when 2 people find each other, are very deeply in love and committed that they can overcome all circumstances even if she is an SP. There is a deeper level of respect and compromise that has to be there for it to work. I also believe that both people have to be very secure, not be possessive or jealous and feel good about themselves to be in this type relationship. Although many men dream of falling in love with their fav SP, think about it real hard before you get too involved. Having the love of your life, leaving you in the middle of a quiet evening together evening to meet a client at his hotel room and then coming back home to you may be very difficult for some to handle. Then there are the White knights who want to save the escorts by falling in love with them and then trying to convince them quit the business. It rarely happens but it does. If you think you can handle then go for it. You just may find the love of your life and may you live happily ever after. ATH 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Slappy 115 Report post Posted September 25, 2009 Thank you to everybody for all the great comments regarding this thread. all points were well said.8) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
spud271 47779 Report post Posted September 25, 2009 Since we're back on this subject again, I might as well tell my story again. I have definitely been in love with an SP, as well she was very much in love with myself as well. We dated for over 2 years and we have recently spend a bit of time together again and the feelings are certainly still there. The meaning of love varies from person to person, and don't follow what society tells you love is supposed to be. The only true meaning of love is what your heart tells you it is...when it's time, you will know! :D Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cat 262460 Report post Posted September 25, 2009 Yes Cat very very well said:grin:. I had to stop seeing a guy that kept telling me he was falling in love. It makes it to uncomfortable for me all the texts and calls.:shock: it got a little crazy but in the end it was the best thing to do end it!!:-D Darling Leah, This is exactly what I mean by the emotion we call "love" which in fact isn't. Love is never needy, or insistent. It does not impose itself on the inner peace we all strive to achieve. This unstable emotion feeds a part of our brain that hinges our happiness on things that are transient in nature and because change is inevitable, dooms us to a letdown when things finally change. There is no person, possession, circumstance or event that will ever make us happy, because if happiness is gained from any of these it will change to disappointment when the life current flows. Happiness comes from being at peace with this very moment no matter what it holds. Love is the ability to look at the "Now" and appreciate all the aspects it presents... Cat 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
