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[Guest st*****ens**ors]

What besides good hygiene makes a good client? Is it okay to bring a gift?

 

There are threads about this, of course, but, in brief:

 

1. Read a provider's ad or website in its entirety, and abide by any screening/contact requests she makes.

 

2. In your pre-contact, introduce yourself, be courteous, refrain from explicit talk, and ask any questions you might have for clarity about your encounter before you meet.

 

3. Plan to arrive a few minutes early but don't contact the provider until the agreed upon time.

 

4. Enter as directed and be discreet.

 

4.5. Have the agreed upon fee ready before it is requested, and put it somewhere easily visible. I use a simple thank-you card in an unsealed envelope.

 

5. When you meet, be polite and friendly. If you are nervous or uncertain, admit it and ask for her to take the lead -- most providers deal with nervous clients frequently and they want you to be comfortable.

 

6. Scrupulously adhere to any restrictions they require. Never view those as limits to be tested; they are the boundaries of her safety and comfort and need to be treated with utmost respect.

 

7. Similarly, never attempt to negotiate price or time. Those details are entirely at her discretion, and your being in her company at all should be contingent upon your agreement to her terms.

 

8. When in doubt, ask, and be very, very gentle unless/until directed otherwise.

 

9. Don't overstay your time. She may not clock-watch, but you should try to be mindful of the time. It has happened to me, on rare occasion, that I've been invited to stay longer, and I treat that invitation like a privilege, but never an expectation.

 

10. Thank her for spending time with you. Transaction or no transaction, a lady's decision to spend time with you, with any degree of intimacy, is something you should recognize as a gift.

 

11. Exit discreetly.

 

12. Send a final thank you text or email.

 

Gifts, tips and recommendations are optional (and that last is subject to her prior approval). Unless something has gone wrong, I always plan to tip, and I try to bring something, even if it is simply a bottle of wine fresh fruit or something decadent from.a bakery. Reading a provider's website often gives a bit of guidance as to the sort of gift that might be appreciated.

 

I'm sure I've missed something, but in summary, always remember that the woman you are meeting is a person with her own quirks, preferences and vulnerabilities, and that she should be treated with the same care and respect that you'd accord any woman with whom you have an intimate moment.

 

Best regards.

 

Edit * I'm sorry -- I had forgotten this was an "ask the escort" thread and got carried away. Didn't mean to hijack the thread.

[blacklabdog 3049]

All excellent points. lol I did think I was on Ideal Client thread

[Guest S****r]

Well said, stillopensdoors!

:-)

 

There are threads about this, of course, but, in brief:

 

1. Read a provider's ad or website in its entirety, and abide by any screening/contact requests she makes.

 

2. In your pre-contact, introduce yourself, be courteous, refrain from explicit talk, and ask any questions you might have for clarity about your encounter before you meet.

 

3. Plan to arrive a few minutes early but don't contact the provider until the agreed upon time.

 

4. Enter as directed and be discreet.

 

4.5. Have the agreed upon fee ready before it is requested, and put it somewhere easily visible. I use a simple thank-you card in an unsealed envelope.

 

5. When you meet, be polite and friendly. If you are nervous or uncertain, admit it and ask for her to take the lead -- most providers deal with nervous clients frequently and they want you to be comfortable.

 

6. Scrupulously adhere to any restrictions they require. Never view those as limits to be tested; they are the boundaries of her safety and comfort and need to be treated with utmost respect.

 

7. Similarly, never attempt to negotiate price or time. Those details are entirely at her discretion, and your being in her company at all should be contingent upon your agreement to her terms.

 

8. When in doubt, ask, and be very, very gentle unless/until directed otherwise.

 

9. Don't overstay your time. She may not clock-watch, but you should try to be mindful of the time. It has happened to me, on rare occasion, that I've been invited to stay longer, and I treat that invitation like a privilege, but never an expectation.

 

10. Thank her for spending time with you. Transaction or no transaction, a lady's decision to spend time with you, with any degree of intimacy, is something you should recognize as a gift.

 

11. Exit discreetly.

 

12. Send a final thank you text or email.

 

Gifts, tips and recommendations are optional (and that last is subject to her prior approval). Unless something has gone wrong, I always plan to tip, and I try to bring something, even if it is simply a bottle of wine fresh fruit or something decadent from.a bakery. Reading a provider's website often gives a bit of guidance as to the sort of gift that might be appreciated.

 

I'm sure I've missed something, but in summary, always remember that the woman you are meeting is a person with her own quirks, preferences and vulnerabilities, and that she should be treated with the same care and respect that you'd accord any woman with whom you have an intimate moment.

 

Best regards.

 

Edit * I'm sorry -- I had forgotten this was an "ask the escort" thread and got carried away. Didn't mean to hijack the thread.

[judo 894]

Summer what is the best city you have visited and why?

[Guest S****r]

I'm not the girl to ask, as I have only had dates in Ottawa, Kingston and Toronto. I would like to visit out west, but without solid bookings, I don't dare spend the money to get there. ;-)

 

Travelling ladies, what say you?

 

Summer what is the best city you have visited and why?

[nntsci 11075]

Hi Ladies, is valentines a popular date for dates?

 

Just curious... I was going to see my favourite today, but I had to postpone due to some sniffles.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Hi Ladies, is valentines a popular date for dates?

 

Just curious... I was going to see my favourite today, but I had to postpone due to some sniffles.

 

Usually I reserve Valentine's Day for regular clients and/or those I have regular arrangements with if they decide they want to visit on this day. I like to do something special for them to show my appreciation and thanks. The same applies on their birthday.

[Lenore Moreau 1320]

I find Valentine's Day the same as other days, but yes seeing regulars makes it extra special for me ^^

[Guest Prufrock Cummings]

While I was getting ready for work this morning, a thought came to mind. For the guys, we have the benefit of reading all about the women on recommendations here on Lyla, seeing their photos, reading all about them on their websites, etc. so we go into a first time encounter with a great understanding of who they are and what they look like.

 

Then I thought, if the shoe was on the other foot, how would I feel about a first encounter if I knew absolutely nothing about the person I was about to meet. My initial reaction, was wow, I think I would be very nervous!

 

Just wondering how the ladies feel about first time encounters? Exciting? Nerve-wracking? Just wondering how some of your first-time encounters made you feel in advance, and perhaps when you open the door to see who is on the other side.

[Emma Alexandra 123366]

I'm always a little nervous. Hoping I live up to your expections.

[50 Shades Raven 31380]

First time encounters are always a little nervous.

Even after a few years of doing this, I still get butterfies when seeing anyone :-)

 

The anticipation is exciting as the time gets nearer to the appointment.

 

When I don't get these feelings is when I will stop doing this, because then it turns into a job instead of being an encounter between two insatiable adults.

[Tempted Monk 5057]

While I was getting ready for work this morning, a thought came to mind. For the guys, we have the benefit of reading all about the women on recommendations here on Lyla, seeing their photos, reading all about them on their websites, etc. so we go into a first time encounter with a great understanding of who they are and what they look like.

 

Then I thought, if the shoe was on the other foot, how would I feel about a first encounter if I knew absolutely nothing about the person I was about to meet. My initial reaction, was wow, I think I would be very nervous!

...

First time meeting with the new Lady always remind me two things:

- Spy movie: I usually need to call first time to get some instructions like street address, then go there and call again for new instructions...

- One way blind date: I know something about that Lady - at least what she wanted me to know from her ad and website. And for her it is really blind date, she know almost nothing about me, especially about how I look like.

 

On the other hand, one girl told me that waiting for surprise behind the door is one of the most exiting thing in this business. Not sure if many Ladies share this opinion.

[vader75 999]

OK....I know the market in Windsor is not that big but.....

 

Why don't well reviewed ladies take the advantage of visiting locations like Windsor on a monthly or biweekly basis knowing there is not much competition when it comes to top rated escorts?

 

Easy money...right??

 

With proper marketing, I'm sure there is lots of money to be made.

[Veroniquemtl 1554]

OK....I know the market in Windsor is not that big but.....

 

Why don't well reviewed ladies take the advantage of visiting locations like Windsor on a monthly or biweekly basis knowing there is not much competition when it comes to top rated escorts?

 

Easy money...right??

 

With proper marketing, I'm sure there is lots of money to be made.

 

I find that adding new cities to my schedule can be hard because I need to find a good and safe location. It's not always easy to find SP friendly condos or hotels. There's a lot of research that needs to be done before going to a new city and there is a cost attach to that. (location, transportation, where to advertise, cost of advertisement..) Smaller cities can be tricky because it can be a hit or miss as bigger cities we are most likely to get more calls and repay expenses faster.

 

But you are right, it might be worth to give it a try!

 

Hope this helps!

[Rider 100]

I find that adding new cities to my schedule can be hard because I need to find a good and safe location. It's not always easy to find SP friendly condos or hotels. There's a lot of research that needs to be done before going to a new city and there is a cost attach to that. (location, transportation, where to advertise, cost of advertisement..) Smaller cities can be tricky because it can be a hit or miss as bigger cities we are most likely to get more calls and repay expenses faster.

 

But you are right, it might be worth to give it a try!

 

Hope this helps!

 

Is there anything that people that live in a town without regular sp's do to make it more appealing to travel to these locations

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

OK....I know the market in Windsor is not that big but.....

 

Why don't well reviewed ladies take the advantage of visiting locations like Windsor on a monthly or biweekly basis knowing there is not much competition when it comes to top rated escorts?

 

Easy money...right??

 

With proper marketing, I'm sure there is lots of money to be made.

 

I think it was because Windsor had a bad rep in the past with bylaw before the laws changed and barely anyone offered incalls as a result. I've been told outcalls are popular there but this is why I never visited for this reason. I don't do late nights and outcalls. Unless incalls became more prevalent there, it may take a while before you see a change.

[Florence Champagne 1130]

What is the best thing about being an SP?

The freedom to have a flexible schedule this is the biggest advantage. This leaves me more time to travel and read so many books. Meeting interesting and wonderful people is great too. :)))

[Lephturn 2649]

Thank you Summer for starting this wonderful thread. I have read every single post and learned much.

 

When you escorts are assisting a gentleman who wants to last longer, what sort of things do you think are effective?

 

I would also like to say that the ladies I have been with have been the most warm, caring, and wonderful to me. I appreciate every one of you and what you do. I really do think it is a special kind of healing that many of you provide. For so many men suffering from various forms of E.D. or even simply a lack of confidence in the bedroom, you are amazing. Thank you.

[Guest]

I make them laugh, it relax them and take the focus away...

 

I have tons of funny stories that happened to me,not funny on the spot but after yes... I am very clumsy and it makes fodder for my laughing material

and after we relax that way we can get to the action...

[coolmark71 1000]

Lot's of very good information here, thank you for starting this thread.

 

One thing that has piqued my curiosity: In the event of retirement of the SP, if a client learns of this from them, what would be the appropriate thing to do? Wish them the best or depending on the 'relationship' (rapport, etc.) a parting gift? What would be the appropriate etiquette?

[Guest S****r]

I keep a tube of a special product on hand just for this issue.

 

Thank you Summer for starting this wonderful thread. I have read every single post and learned much.

 

When you escorts are assisting a gentleman who wants to last longer, what sort of things do you think are effective?

 

I would also like to say that the ladies I have been with have been the most warm, caring, and wonderful to me. I appreciate every one of you and what you do. I really do think it is a special kind of healing that many of you provide. For so many men suffering from various forms of E.D. or even simply a lack of confidence in the bedroom, you are amazing. Thank you.

 

Additional Comments:

Lot's of very good information here, thank you for starting this thread.

 

One thing that has piqued my curiosity: In the event of retirement of the SP, if a client learns of this from them, what would be the appropriate thing to do? Wish them the best or depending on the 'relationship' (rapport, etc.) a parting gift? What would be the appropriate etiquette?

 

That's very thoughtful of you, but I don't think anyone expects a special gift or anything. I have seen many women go into retirement and then come back again on more than one occasion, anyway. Just wish them well, I think.

[Guest]

And you'll know you achieved favourite status if she tells you I am retiring but not for you...

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Lot's of very good information here, thank you for starting this thread.

 

One thing that has piqued my curiosity: In the event of retirement of the SP, if a client learns of this from them, what would be the appropriate thing to do? Wish them the best or depending on the 'relationship' (rapport, etc.) a parting gift? What would be the appropriate etiquette?

 

Definitely wish them well and if you wish to give her a gift which is something that she likes, I'm sure that she would consider it thoughtful.

 

As Lily said, if an SP tells you she is going into retirement but will still see you, consider that a compliment. While clients come and go, there are quite a few I don't think I could stop seeing because I really enjoy spending time with them.

[casey 2936]

This question could be a bit funny and entertaining...

I would like to ask the ladies about various envelopes that you may have seen to keep the donation.

What is the most memorable/thrilling/funniest/creative envelope that you have ever received? My mind would guess something like a fragrant envelope, a recycled envelope with words "Top Secret/High Priority" on it or with other secret insignia, condom box, rolled notes inside a lozenge container etc.

 

Or you can share with us the other extreme, the filthiest and worst envelope that you have ever encountered, e.g. food wrapper, used napkin etc.

 

If you find those envelopes interesting, do you collect them as memorabilia?

[Guest S****r]

I can't say I have ever received any such thing. Most who use an envelope do so in order to be discreet, so it is either in a thank you card, or a plain white envelope. Those who don't feel the need for such discretion, just put the cash down.

 

I have saved some of the cards because some are quite touching.

 

This question is a bit funny and entertaining...

I would like to ask the ladies about various envelopes that you may have seen to keep the donation.

What is the most memorable/thrilling/funniest/creative envelope that you have ever received? My mind would guess something like a fragrant envelope, a recycled envelope with words "Top Secret/High Priority" on it or with other secret insignia, condom box, rolled notes inside a lozenge container etc.

 

Or you can share with us the other extreme, the filthiest and worst envelope that you have ever encountered, e.g. food wrapper, used napkin etc.

 

If you find those envelopes interesting, do you collect them as memorabilia?