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Hi folks,

 

I just ran across this thread and read the interesting comments and responses. Aside from the aforementioned cellphones (hearing the 1812 Overture during one playdate was interesting!), poor hygiene, bait and switch, inaccurate details (SP's physical appearance, services, etc), I thought I add in my two cents.

 

FANTASY ISLAND

It's been mentioned before, but I will mention it again. Some hobbiests, myself included, are buying into a fantasy, an hour (or more) at a time. It's an escape, the thrill of a "playdate" with no strings attached. If the fantasy falls flat, it's disappointing. Part of this is, of course, managing expectations. A handful of SPs are very skilled and take great effort to make the rendez-vous fun for both parties. Unfortunately, more and more SPs are not.

 

COURTESY

I guess I am from the old school. Courtesy is quickly becoming scarce in our 21st century lives. Courtesy isn't just "acting respectful".. it's BEING respectful. It can be defined as polite or respectful behaviour or actions. I heard too many stories of either SPs or clients being disrepectful. This hobby, where the level of physical intimacy is at its highest, respectful behaviour cannot be optional. The toes can still curl when mutual respect is observed. In fact, I think it adds to the overall experience.

 

NO-SHOWS

Due to my schedule, I often have to plan SP playdates days in advance. Via email, I set up a playdate with an SP and all looked good. I show up at the hotel lobby and as requested, I called her cellphone. No answer. Called a number of times during the hour I spent in the lobby and outside the hotel, and nothing. Finally got in contact with the SP - three days later! She said she forgot. No biggie as stuff happens. We attempted another date a week later, and again she forgot. I'm all for patience and understanding, but this was just plain disrepectful. I wasn't looking for a "War and Peace" explanation, nor was I looking for some sort of compensation. Simple acknowledgement would have done just fine.

 

Anyway, just my few cents. I have been very fortunate to meet a nummber of lovely SPs and only a few not-so-lovely.

 

CM

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Poor hygiene - Included not SANDED nails and bad breath

Drunk people

Cocaine, weed or crack request (Not a dealer, sorry...)

Refusing or faking to take a shower

Comments or questions about my kid before or during the appointment

Not respecting my guidelines when I make them very clear at the beggining

Abusing of my time without tipping for the extra (half hour or more)

Cell phone ringing

Asking for BBFS or BBGreek

Trying greek when not hard enough and insisting

Being late

Being agressive

Freezer symptom

 

ALL of the above will result as a bad date - no repeat

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To do greek, you must be hard as wood,or it is just a

flopping around pain in the ass mess :)

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hmmm...could of sworn this thread was in regard to sps, not the hobbiest. Interesting.

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hmmm...could of sworn this thread was in regard to sps, not the hobbiest. Interesting.

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Biggest SP turnoffs? What are your biggest turn offs during a date?

 

Other than bad breath and the obvious lol ??

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613 255 5904

 

XOXO

Sin Cindy

 

 

Here is the other thread that ladies were participating in...

http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=22566&highlight=turn+offs

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To do greek, you must be hard as wood,or it is just a

flopping around pain in the ass mess :)

 

You have really "opened" yourself to some smart-arsed comments with that remark, Pete.

 

But I'll bite my tongue.....:butt:

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You have really "opened" yourself to some smart-arsed comments with that remark, Pete.

 

But I'll bite my tongue.....:butt:

 

Actual restraint from Angela :shock: my mullet is curdling :sm185:

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You have really "opened" yourself to some smart-arsed comments with that remark, Pete.

 

But I'll bite my tongue.....:butt:

 

Talk about "smart arsed"..YES.. I am a smart ass, and love a good butt joke..(no not the kinda butt you smoke),and very nice butt on a lady! Angela you crack me up! LOL And I am OPENED for all comments!:smileysmontrefesse: Just nothing goes up my ass other then a lady that really knows her prostate massage technique :shock:

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1) I've had this happen to me several times by a number of Agency based SP's (possibly from the same agency, but not sure).

 

I schedule an appointment for a specific time. When time arrives, I go to the rendez-vous point to make my for the room number. When the SP is still busy, fell a sleep, or had to grab a bite to eat and was late... the Agency proceeded to ignore my calls. I would call several times, spacing out my call to every 10 minutes for about an hour and I never get a pick up.

 

By the time I gave up, I usually call back a few hours later to find out what happened. The agent would tell explain to me why the person wasn<t available, have some excuse and would ask if I would want to reschedule.

 

Question is, why didn't they pick up the first time? Why is the onus on me to call when the SP clearly couldn't meet the time agreed upon? Why would the agency stand up their clients instead of being honest?

 

2) Pictures. Accurate photos are important, bait-in-switch is horrible form. But I have a tendency to be able to read signs of bait-in-switch...

 

Whats even more annoying are the OUT OF DATE photos. I'm fairly young compared to most hobbiests, so I prefer petit SP's under 25 (or looks under-25) with nice boobs and a tight bum. When I see photo's of SP's that fit the above description, SOMETIMES I can be adventurous.

 

But more often than not, the SP is the right person, but significantly aged! Some SPs look 4-5 years older than the photo (which makes a difference for SPs under 30). In a number of cases, the SP has since had a child!

 

I have no problem with SPs with children. But at least some SPs are HONEST about it! Ironically, the honest SPs with children tend to have taken care of themselves, so the pregnancy is barely noticable.

 

Those that are NOT honest, the pregnancy is obvious and it shows in the stretch lines and tummy. I've had one that insisted on keeping her shirt on for that very reason! Definitely not the skinny petit girl in the photo!

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I can honestly say in the few months alone, I have yet to have 1 big turn off with a MA or SP. It could very well be that,the ladies I have been with are very mature,sensual,erotic,experienced and are simply great providers. Therefore I really can't say anything about a SP turn-off to date, and that is the honest truth.:-D

 

Additional Comments:

Now these things below were of nature that happened years past,so in the last few months it has been all great.

 

 

Turn-offs during a date-

 

1) Mood- always ensure that you are really into it (the appointment)I would appreciate if the appointment was canceled rather the lady not being into it. Fully understand if you are tired, having a bad day. Body language and communication really shows when a lady is simply not into it.

 

 

2) Communication- ensure that you are in the mood to also carry a conversation, it gets both parties interactive. I even like dirty talk if we can't talk about the weather:-D If there is no communication than it is a turn off for me. I treat my appointments as real dates.

 

 

3) Listening Devices- Shut them off .I enjoy listening more to music than a T.V. with "Come on Down(Pistol Pete )you're the new contestant on the Price is Right" It just does not sound right if you are going down:shock: Yes shut off your cell phone, very annoying.

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This all reminds me of some Seinfeld episode!

 

Yup. But the episode was hilarious. Right now i'm double-snapping my fingers like Chandler Bing, wishing i'd never read through this thread.

Why...why...WHY?!.. did I keep reading?

 

This thread should be flagged or tagged to warn those who've experienced relatively mild irritants such as TVs or cellphones, to "Read at the risk of severe deterrence to a fun and adventuresome escape".

('kay, suppose the title could be cropped a little)

 

Hope it won't take too long to bury this little "life's reality" deep into the subconscience.

You've mentally towel-snapped me for my favoured 69, lookingforfunxxx !

Damn youuuuuu !

I mean, you know, thanks for sharing, bud...really.

But, Damn youuu ! :cry: (sniffle)

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Trying greek when not hard enough and insisting

 

This is my pet peeve. And please, let me drive for a minute or two before going crazy. :butt:

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Talk about "smart arsed"..YES.. I am a smart ass, and love a good butt joke..(no not the kinda butt you smoke),and very nice butt on a lady! Angela you crack me up! LOL And I am OPENED for all comments!:smileysmontrefesse: Just nothing goes up my ass other then a lady that really knows her prostate massage technique :shock:

 

"Arse" - that word "cracks" me up.

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"Arse" - that word "cracks" me up.

 

It was invented when commedians realized they were never going to get any laughs using "rectum".:exagerefesses:

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below,I posted the link...page 11 of this thread

 

 

 

Biggest SP turnoffs? What are your biggest turn offs during a date?

 

Other than bad breath and the obvious lol ??

__________________

www.sincindy.info

613 255 5904

 

XOXO

Sin Cindy

 

 

Here is the other thread that ladies were participating in...

http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=22566&highlight=turn+offs

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I agree that it would have been much better if she had not told the client. It's not really any of his business.

 

I completely agree! But I was just explaining that there is no such risk if she purchases a proper sponge and uses it properly.

 

This all reminds me of some Seinfeld episode!

 

For those who didn't see it.. it was called the ''spongeworthy'' episode was about the contraceptive sponge.. not the same sea sponge used for periods..

(I have watched every seinfeld episode and many over and over again)

 

The contraceptive sponge has spermicide on it. Elaine bought out the last box at the pharmacy when they went out of production and then decided who was spongeworthy. It was funny how the guys had to often ''sell'' themselves to her for her to use one of these precious devices.

 

Having a medical background I've been requested to remove a few wayword sponges from porn actresses/escorts. I'm obviously not that squeamish.. but I get that guys are!

 

Don't ask/Don't tell rule applies here.

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For those who didn't see it.. it was called the ''spongeworthy'' episode was about the contraceptive sponge.. not the same sea sponge used for periods..

(I have watched every seinfeld episode and many over and over again)

 

Wow you must watch a lot of TV (I don't think I've watch 20 episodes of Seinfeld)..and you remember the title of a sitcom to boot!

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Wow you must watch a lot of TV (I don't think I've watch 20 episodes of Seinfeld)..and you remember the title of a sitcom to boot!

 

I do!

 

But that was several years ago and when my friends and I watched these episodes we referred to them constantly in everyday banter. So many of their coloquialisms I still use to this day.. but my all time favorite episode was ''the contest'' to see how long they could go without. It was freaking hilarious.

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ohhhhh Pete

Music is a Must!!

set the Mode . Some Barry White

 

 

 

Turn-offs during a date-

 

1) Mood- always ensure that you are really into it (the appointment)I would appreciate if the appointment was canceled rather the lady not being into it. Fully understand if you are tired, having a bad day. Body language and communication really shows when a lady is simply not into it.

 

 

2) Communication- ensure that you are in the mood to also carry a conversation, it gets both parties interactive. I even like dirty talk if we can't talk about the weather:-D If there is no communication than it is a turn off for me. I treat my appointments as real dates.

 

 

3) Listening Devices- Shut them off .I enjoy listening more to music than a T.V. with "Come on Down(Pistol Pete )you're the new contestant on the Price is Right" It just does not sound right if you are going down:shock: Yes shut off your cell phone, very annoying.

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Sorry for the back peddle.

Yes, it is about the fantasy. For example, yesterday while sitting in a public place a lady walks past with a few male friends. Her outfit is perfect to her figure, her figure is perfect to me, her smile is so bright, her toes are manicured, her nails are done perfectly. Her personality is attractive, desirable and obvious. Complete package. She is a living dream. She doesn't even know the effect she has created in my world. She goes on, and out of sight. The above is real, I didn't stare at her, I just see somethings naturally, I return to what I was doing. :-)

If I continue to the dream sequence, she is a perfect lover; she is also meticulously clean and takes responsibility for her 1/2 of the deal regarding health and I have no worries there in the dream. All interactions are safe. She is a low volume provider, again because of the correlations previously expressed and she is available when I want her. The problem is asking this question is improper, none of my business, unlikely to be answered truthfully and I can accept that. It remains a serious concern 4 me.

What solutions are available?

Winning the lottery and hiring a FT personal mistress.

Maybe LVP's (low vol providers) can PM me.

Maybe this thread has freaked me out too much. :-)

Sorry, responses may be delayed.

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What solutions are available?

Winning the lottery and hiring a FT personal mistress.

Maybe LVP's (low vol providers) can PM me.

Maybe this thread has freaked me out too much. :-)

Sorry, responses may be delayed.

 

You ask for low vol providers without defining what 'low vol' means to you.

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Ironically, the honest SPs with children tend to have taken care of themselves, so the pregnancy is barely noticable.

 

Those that are NOT honest, the pregnancy is obvious and it shows in the stretch lines and tummy. I've had one that insisted on keeping her shirt on for that very reason! Definitely not the skinny petit girl in the photo!

 

You make me think about it now ... Well, my hundred pictures on my website show that I'm a big girl but as you bring the subject ... I don't say on my site that I have kids ( 10yo twins) ... not because I try to hide it but since my kids are not living with me, I never though it was important to say it.

 

My tummy is a desaster ... and no, I don't take off all my clothes when i'm with clients ... I do only if I feel that this person will not be shocked or if he ask me and insist. loll Is it really a turn off for you guys ... a woman with strechmarks?? Or the "turn off" is to the woman keep something to hide her ugly parts?

 

I mean I show all other parts of my body ... I just keep something to hide my belly. It is so "turn off" ? Should I write on my site : hey I had twins when I was 18yo so my belly (and even my mental) was not ready so I'm still having the mark?! :-|

 

Additional Comments:

You ask for low vol providers without defining what 'low vol' means to you.

 

low vol. ... is like I am I guess ... ;)

 

I don't see more than 3 clients by week and mostly regular ones.

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You make me think about it now ... Well, my hundred pictures on my website show that I'm a big girl but as you bring the subject ... I don't say on my site that I have kids ( 10yo twins) ... not because I try to hide it but since my kids are not living with me, I never though it was important to say it.

 

For some people it's a turn-on. yummy mummy :wink:

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