Pippen23 1031 Report post Posted March 7, 2015 I respect acco34's point of view, my only problem w sunman was that ok uve paid and had the experience, u didn't enjoy her looks so let's move on, lesson's learned. But to go on here and really had to point out that her face was b*tt ugly and couldn't stand to look at it or wtv he said was cruel...that's not looking for a suggestion or help as he was saying...what if the lady knows who he is and now knows of what he feels of her, you know how hurtful that is to her??? Think about it, not fair for her or anyone being ridicule for their looks like that! He chose her for a reason so if it didn't turned out the way he wanted it then move on, no need to go on here to bash her looks or wtv he was trying to do! Have an awesome weekend guys! 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bianca Jaguar 39183 Report post Posted March 7, 2015 Well said acco34...I can't beleive this thread got to a 3rd page. The 2 first replies were enough in my opinion... enough said... Bianca 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
snaper 350 Report post Posted March 7, 2015 I think that acco34 has hit the nail on the head. This thread quickly got the consensus, that he should compensate the lady for her time, and move on. And next time, he should do more before meeting a new girl to make sure he will not be disappointed. As the thread continued, people attacked sunman01 for being superficial. That is unfair, because whether we talk about it or not, for some people looking for service in this industry, it is 100% superficial and based on looks. When people working in other businesses fail to meet our expectations, we don't rationalize it by saying they are beautiful people. Most people act courteously, accept the situation and move on. (I am not talking about times a business misrepresents their services/offerings). I get that these are unique situations, because what is being sold is so personal. However, it is not a fair expectation that hobbyists are always looking for the beauty within. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Fresh start 17467 Report post Posted March 7, 2015 You have to pay for her time, regardless if you stay or not. So why not stay and see if there's other options. Im sure you can enjoy her company in other ways. Perhaps you can still enjoy a nice massage or a great conversation. I get the fact you may of had other things in mind, but at least you may get something out of it, and who knows maybe it may develop a certain attraction that is not physical. In the end you may even enjoy it. If not chalk that up as a loss, move on. Her feelings stay intact and you took a chance. Consider it a learning experience. 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nicolette Vaughn 294340 Report post Posted March 7, 2015 Pay her a cancellation fee and leave. Do not do her the disservice and stay as some people do and then they bitch about it later on a review board insulting the lady. Doing so is classless and in poor taste. I have asked a few clients to leave upon their arrival in my time as an escort because I did not feel comfortable or wasn't getting a good vibe about them. However, I did it in a way not to hurt to their feelings. While not everyone cannot please everyone, most of us are mature adults so the right thing to do is just be polite, pay her the cancellation fee and be on your way. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andee 220524 Report post Posted March 7, 2015 I know everybody on this discussion are looking at this the wrong way. I ask for opinions or suggestions how to say sorry I am not interested (I payed the SP in full).I feel like you all are trashing me. Next time believe me I will keep my words to myself. There a couple on SP I meet and they are beautiful and nice and easy to talk to. 1 thing i learned is dont say anything and don't ask questions. Thanks for your help... You asked for suggestions and I am basically echoing what a few others have said here. You can just say that something has come up and you can't stay, but you wanted to at least come in and meet her to make things right by giving her the donation because she put the time aside to see you. There is no need to say it's because you don't find her attractive or that you're "not feeling a connection". That is about you, not her, and there is no need to hurt her feelings. It's better to move with kindness when conducting yourself. Also, you can tell her it was nice to meet her and you're sorry you have to run, but for her to have a nice day. You are under no obligation to fluff things up by saying you'll see her another time, because that's just a non-truth that isn't necessary. If what a lady looks like is important to you and could be a deal breaker if she's not up to your expectations, then you need to seek out established, reputable companions who show their face so you know what to expect when she opens the door. Remember though, there are some who post fake pics, so do your research. I suggest you stick to sites like Lyla and escorts-canada which are moderated and fake pics/bait and switch tactics are not tolerated. This will protect you and your wallet. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
vw48 516 Report post Posted March 7, 2015 I agree with what's been generally posted here ... and it sounds like you do to as you say that you paid the lady in full and excused yourself ------ this tidbit was missing from your first post in this thread and could have contributed to the tone you are feeling that people are trashing you. Had your story been different and you'd arrived to find someone who clearly wasn't the person in the pictures you had seen or had been sent ... I'd perhaps respond with different thoughts .. but it doesn't sound like there was any misrepresentation going on. Last year .... I had an experience with a sp that is the subject of a thread in the bait and switch section. My experience was different from the situation presented in the post here but it was still negative. I'd seen pictures of the sp , they were of her for sure but they were in no way recent. Her hair was a foot or more longer and she was considerably more heavy than her pictures ..... to the point that if I had those pics and was tasked with finding her at a mall foodcourt I don't think I could have. On top of this she had a few more restrictions that weren't revealed to me until well after she had been paid and I was trying to make the best of a disapointing / uncomfortable start to our encounter. In the end it was lesson learned for me and I was even fairly restrained and polite when she asked me for a "tip" before I left. Honestly I wish I had just paid her and excused myself .... but that has less to do with how she looked and more to do with how she acted. With the exception of this one My most disapointing experiences (and their haven't been many of them) have always been with service providers who were very very attractive / stunning / gorgeous etc ... and if one was to be able to put a theme to that disapointment it is when a SP comes off in such a way that for the most point it feels like I'm spending time with someone who is just thinking "Lets get this over with" ........ I can't say for certain how often a sp finds herself feeling that way , I know I feel that way in my job some days ...... but I can say that it's possible you missed out on a terrific experience had you rolled the dice. How do you ploitely say no thanks? I think you did just fine, the way you did it. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meg O'Ryan 266444 Report post Posted March 7, 2015 IMHO if Face looks (and I say looks because beauty is in the eye of the beholder) is so important to certain pooners, then perhaps approaching ladies who advertise using photos showing their face or those willing to send you pics of their face should be those you actually book with. Wouldn't that take out the "how to say no thanks" factor? I like the fact that the OP mentionned immediately that he compensated the lady especially because , thru no fault of her own, he was not attracted to her. To me, that is an extremely honest response on his part! To those of you bashing him....no words! Additional Comments: IMHO if face looks (and I say looks because beauty is in the eye of the beholder) is so important to certain pooners, then perhaps approaching ladies who advertise using photos showing their face or those willing to send you pics of their face should be those you actually book with. Wouldn't that take out the "how to say no thanks" factor? I like the fact that the OP mentionned immediately that he compensated the lady especially because , thru no fault of her own, he was not attracted to her. To me, that is an extremely honest response on his part! To those of you bashing him....no words! 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Exotic Touch Danielle 31676 Report post Posted March 12, 2015 Honestly if looks are that important to you then my advice would be to Not book with a lady unless she sends you a face pic then that way no ones feelings would be hurt and your time and money is not wasted She may feel the same way about you but yet still takes the time to get ready and spend time with you...and looks aren't everything Attitude and chemistry is most important at least in my opinion! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
