Guest S***dst*** Report post Posted July 8, 2010 I'll admit I enjoy stimulous in the anal region. It does take trust from your partner for any kind of strap-on play; seriously how could you be relaxed otherwise :P It's definetly something you have to be willing to try. I hear stories of people who "accidentaly" stick it in the wrong hole because "my girls is to afraid to even try it, so I had to" I always ask if they'd like to have a couple fingers stuck up their ass and they almost always reply, "No way man, why would you even think that" Well hey you just did it without her consent... Ganted fingers have nails, likely feel different than a hard cock, and can move in ways a penis can't, it's sorta paralelle(spelling?) Conversely a lot of women I know are to afraid to try anything even going near their bum; finger, tongue or the member. Some are deathly afraid of it and then try it and can't believe how much they liked it afterwards. "Putting in the extra effort to go down there" is really not extra effort. If you want to do it...YOU want to do it, so it's not extra effort. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
whiteman 14028 Report post Posted July 9, 2010 this just doesn't sound right....if a guy is going to go there then it's mostly because HE wants too...he really does need to ask the lady if it's ok...i know many men that are really into it i mean really into it...it's their kind of fetish thing...so you really have to ask the lady be it Escort or real Gf you have to ask... I'm sure it's a fetish for some guys, just like lingerie or foot worship, but it's not a fetish for every guy (meaning that they like it, but don't have to have it). For those other guys, it would just be part of the continuum of the moment. I'd say there's a solid minority of men who would even go down on a woman, let alone go to the O. So of those few men that aren't afraid to go down to the Y there might be another minority who would go down to the O. Additional Comments: I guess the issue everyone is having is the assumption you're making is that every lady will/does enjoy this sensation. Based on the feedback from the ladies so far this is obviously not the case. No matter how good you are at what you're doing, if someone doesn't like something, or has an issue with certain areas of their body it's not going to end well. Best guess is they will grin and bear it but then make a mental note to not see you again. Worst case is you get a boot to the face and then another one out the door :) No, not at all, first of all no one is assuming anyone is going to like anything. This doesn't apply to just DATY vs. DATO, but it could be as simple as some girls like to have their earlobes kissed but not their necks, or vice-versa. If a girl says they don't want their necks kissed again, then you don't kiss their necks again. Believe me, no one is going to kick you out for attempting to give them pleasure. If they don't find it pleasurable then they'll tell you right away, and then you go onto something else. Additional Comments: "Putting in the extra effort to go down there" is really not extra effort. If you want to do it...YOU want to do it, so it's not extra effort. Well yes, obviously you have to want to do it. But let's face it, many people are afraid of that region, beit the one who's going there or the one that's receiving there. So I can't see how you're ever going to even attempt to try there, if you don't have some degree of wanting to go there. But no one is forcing anything here, just like every other sexual act you wait for a bit of feedback and see if the other party likes it before you continue. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Annessa 22743 Report post Posted July 9, 2010 bottom line (no pun intended) is be upfront...and yes there is a serious difference to a girl offering greek who does not offer digits...just because one is smaller does not mean that the person springing that service upon a provider by assuming that its ok has not tended to his side of the bargain. what I mean is, does your penis have potentially long or sharp nails that may scrape your SP?...I should hope not! digits v.s. Greek...not the same deal boys. communicating exactly what you want to do beforehand wil not ruin the "moment" slipping something in where there is an "out of bounds territory" that you assumed was fair play during a session may not only ruin the moment....but may get you shown the door. ...eep! yes we all have our wild sides ...but spontaneity is not the key here (although it may seem very taboo and hot at the moment)....its about respect...and respect and proper communication will have a gal happy to see you again....rather than pretending shes busy the next time you try to schedule (if she hasn't already scolded you) ;-) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
777flyer 1612 Report post Posted July 9, 2010 It's beyond me how some folks are under the impression that, because they are paying someone for a service, they are entitled to do whatever it is they please....... If there is something you would like to do, RESEARCH the ladies site.....if it is not specifically referenced on her site, ask her.........and you will get your answer. Stop assuming something will be fun or comfortable simply because it is something you want to do.... Avoid the hassle, be well informed BEFORE hand...this will ALWAYS make for a much better experience.......IMHO SNK 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
The General 11309 Report post Posted July 9, 2010 It is crazy to think that if you ask and are told no, that the answer would be yes if you just went ahead and did it. What does it really take to check it out with the lady. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Megan'sTouch 23875 Report post Posted July 9, 2010 What does it really take to check it out with the lady. Communication and respect are key to a great encounter! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PistolPete 61421 Report post Posted July 9, 2010 R-E-S-P-E-C-T "To gain respect-firstly give it " "Men are only respectable only as they respect" Ralph Waldo Emerson "Be beautiful if you can, Wise if you want to... But be respected-that is essential. " Anna Gould Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nicolette Vaughn 294340 Report post Posted July 9, 2010 This thread is directed to the SP's, but please feel free to add any of your input. I am an avid fan of DATY/DATO.. and I was wondering if DATO was outside the norm of a GFE experience.. How do SP's feel about DATO? Is it something that should be discussed beforehand? Any input would be greatly appreciated.. I am not a fan of what is more commonly known as rimming ( giving or receiving) and I am not a fan of anal sex/ anal digits either. I honestly don't think it jives with the GFE experience. When people ask what my restrictions are, the above are no nos during an encounter with me. I've had people try to it in the heat of the moment and then expect me to kiss them. Ever hear of pin worms? Fortunateone is right. There are too many ick factors to it. Not to gross anyone out but if you really think about what goes on in that area given its purpose, why would you want to stick your tongue there? To reiterate what everyone else hs said, ask first. Communication goes a long way! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S***dst*** Report post Posted July 9, 2010 Fortunateone is right. There are too many ick factors to it. Not to gross anyone out but if you really think about what goes on in that area given its purpose, why would you want to stick your tongue there? 2 girls 1 cup... all I have to say. "To gain respect-firstly give it " Sadly this is how it is, I just wish respect was given without the need to be earned first; THEN lost when due. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
The General 11309 Report post Posted July 10, 2010 I am not one that ask for something, maybe I should, but once a lady used a condom on her finger and used digits up the backdoor and I have to say it was one of the strongest cums I have ever had, so it stimulates a different part of the body. As for the ladies, it is clear some don't like it, but some do. I have no problem with those that don't like it, but almost every one of them puts down those that enjoy it. Hey, everyone is different and there are many icky things people do, the risk seems to be pretty minimal. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Annessa 22743 Report post Posted July 10, 2010 It is crazy to think that if you ask and are told no, that the answer would be yes if you just went ahead and did it. What does it really take to check it out with the lady. unfortunately some guys think that no means yes....lol. sorry just had to say it. in this world no can sometimes mean "we're well into our session and I've told you so but you did it anyway so now I get to keep my $300 and you get to leave NOW" respect guys...respect...we're only telling this to you for your own benefit! :-) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Hud Bannon 598 Report post Posted July 14, 2010 I agree with Annessa. Two people have to BOTH be totally committed to a course of action to make it truly pleasurable anyway. It's not turn-on to do something to someone that freaks them out or makes them uncomfortable. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VedaSloan 119179 Report post Posted July 14, 2010 Practicing safe sex includes using a dental dam for rimming and so yeah, no actual ick factor. You're just licking latex. It's really no big deal. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bewlayb 7480 Report post Posted July 16, 2010 Practicing safe sex includes using a dental dam for rimming and so yeah, no actual ick factor. You're just licking latex. It's really no big deal. ...waiting... waiting... Okay, it's inevitable, but eventually someone here is going to ask for BBDATO. lol (but, not me ;-P) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
E.D. man 691 Report post Posted July 16, 2010 Myself I need alot of foreplay and if the SP doesn't offer DATY, she is not the SP for me. I giving a good licking more than intercourse, having e.d. eating a sweet pussy is the top of my sex and makes me feel good and if the lady squirts a little I as happy as a clam for a few days. Dam i miss Racheal Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
masterowls 249 Report post Posted July 17, 2010 The bottom line here (no pun intended) is that attempting to perform DATO, or any other act on any unwilling woman, regardless of whether she has been paid or not it is a form of rape. I would suggest, if you are not 100% sure something is okay, it should be confirmed before you attempt it. Not only could you find yourself without an SP, but at her discretion, you could face criminal charges, which would follow you for life. Just an observation. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Grass_Hopper 18263 Report post Posted July 17, 2010 I can't speak for everyone, but I think it's safe to ASSume that if a lady offers Greek, she likely won't mind a little rimming.Posted via Mobile Device I'm offering greek no YMMV, but as fingering and DATY, if your nails are not done properly, or if I suspect any kind of mouth problems (that can result from STD as chlamadia or not) I will not allow any kind of these services... And the last word belongs to ME. BTW, if you have read the newbies section, you would know that GFE is a kind of service, NOT THE OPTIONS THAT IT INCLUDES. A girl that's offering gfe as no obligation of any services you may take for granted. IT'S AN ATTITUDE, NOT A SERVICE... Additional Comments: The bottom line here (no pun intended) is that attempting to perform DATO, or any other act on any unwilling woman, regardless of whether she has been paid or not it is a form of rape. I would suggest, if you are not 100% sure something is okay, it should be confirmed before you attempt it. Not only could you find yourself without an SP, but at her discretion, you could face criminal charges, which would follow you for life. Just an observation. One no, two no's, three no's... YOU'RE OUT! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
masterowls 249 Report post Posted July 17, 2010 I'm offering greek no YMMV, but as fingering and DATY, if your nails are not done properly, or if I suspect any kind of mouth problems (that can result from STD as chlamadia or not) I will not allow any kind of these services... And the last word belongs to ME. BTW, if you have read the newbies section, you would know that GFE is a kind of service, NOT THE OPTIONS THAT IT INCLUDES. A girl that's offering gfe as no obligation of any services you may take for granted. IT'S AN ATTITUDE, NOT A SERVICE... Additional Comments: One no, two no's, three no's... YOU'RE OUT! 1 no should suffice if you say no once and the guy persists, he should be gone. your body, your rules... end discussion.:) Additional Comments: Guys, Lets try to remember here, when we pay for a GFE, what we're paying for for that session is a bit more intimacy in the experience. We want them to treat us less like clients and more like friends/boyfriends. Ok, but let's remember here that cuts both ways. If your girlfriend said "Don't do that, I'm not into it." you'd have to be pretty dense to keep it up right? Why therefore do we expect our lovely SP's to put up with acts they aren't into? Treat our GFE providers like the queens they are, and they'll treat us like Kings. What's so hard here?:) 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Juice 2105 Report post Posted July 17, 2010 Never personally been my thing, but i've happily accomodated two exgfs who'd would've been ready to DEMAND greek ! (Actually, one did:exagerefesses:)Got so our(hers) sexual weekly menu, which started out with a single special weekly Saturday night trip to Athens, quickly became 4 day long weekends...or more! Got so the coach was having me sprint through the bases straight to the duggout. God, why did you break up with a girl like that . . . could you pass me her phone number?! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
