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1963Kennedy that is your choice not seeing Naomi because of a lip ring, but to air it out was not very polite. Having been with Naomi a couple of times, you really don't know what you are talking about with her lip ring, I found it to be very hot, and very sexy.

Well, no, but you would ask your family doctor for a referral to someone who offers different services (ie. ob-gyn, urologist, oncologist). We're not all cookie cutters of each other, offering the exact same experiences. If a client wants to see another provider, I'm more than happy to provide a reference because: 1. It establishes contact with another SP, and encourages that SP to give references him/herself. Pay it forward! 2. It shows that the client is willing to go through the reference procedure. I just don't understand why some people have such a hang-up about them - they ensure everyone's safety. Reviews/recommendations are a way of clients to refer a lady, if you think about it. 3. Refusing a (good) client a referral makes me look like a jackass, and probably ensures that he's going to think twice about booking me again. Possessiveness just doesn't mesh with this line of work - I'm certainly not exclusive with a client, so why should he be exclusive with me? 4. If a petite brunette is what has you hot and bothered right now, I'm not going to be able to fulfill that desire. Plain and simple. On that note, I appreciate a note from the client in question asking if it's okay to use me as a reference. Not to ask permission, per se, but it's a sign of respect. You wouldn't give out a work reference without giving that person a heads up that they may be getting a call.

There are a lot about references and why us ladies take them... I'd like to know what makes them so horrible for the guys? I see a lot of comments in threads about not liking them and I get a lot of e-mails about how horribly unfair it is for me to ask for references.. I see references as a pretty common thing in our world... Specialists, doctors, new jobs, apartments, loans... these all require references.. and I've never heard of one of these places/people being "lacking of class" or "unreasonable" because they ask for references... What makes it different when I ask for them?

Hello hnh, You certainly pose a question that can go very deep and get very philosophical. Many people have tried for a long time to try to define and quantify love. Google it and you will see everything from the mushy heart stuff to a scientist trying to explain the chemical reactions to the clergy trying to explain the inner being. Our perception and our definition of love is deeply based in each of us. It is based on our life experiences, including some we may not even remember. It is further defined by our expectations, our hopes and our dreams. To me the definition of "LUST" is simple. It is simply the strong desire for something...could be anything. Our conversation is is obviously based in a lust for physical contact, sexual gratification or intimacy. But we can also lust for power. We can lust for a new car. We can lust for the latest flat screen...you get the picture (lol, pun intended);). The definition of "LOVE" gets much more complicated. Love is a physical and/or an intellectual and/or a spiritual and/or and emotional bond with another being. While society often uses the term interchangeably with "LIKE" when referencing inanimate objects, to me its silly to love a car or a tv, etc. Some may ask why. I would simply say for there to be love, in my opinion, it has to be reciprocal and your car will never love you back. :lol: Of course there is also unrequited love...but that is a subject for another thread. Back on subject, belladonna said earlier when you feel it, you will know it. In my experience I would agree with that statement. When you fall in love it will feel like nothing else. The essence of the other person will consume your mind, heart, soul and body. Love, true love is unselfish and unconditional plus many, many other things. But time is the true test. If you are not certain...give it time. Be sure. Make sure there is reciprocation. And of course there is the reality check...will it work for both? Time - love and the question of permanence. Will it last? How long? Only that can be answered by the "couple". A large number of people believe we mate or pair for life...then the reality of the divorce rates just slaps you in the face. Is it because it is too easy to divorce in today's society of "do-overs". Or is it because man is entitled to more than one meaningful partnership relationship in his lifetime? Hmmm....:?: Yet another topic. I have many thoughts on this and could go on, but I believe that covers the high spots and gets to your point. Good luck in all your ventures. Have fun. jman47

When you make love with someone on a regular basis you become emotionally attached. That is a simple fact, however you need to understand that it is a relationship of convenience for both sides and one thing in life is for sure, everything changes. I hold a special place in my heart for so many ladies, ex girlfriends, ex wives, ex SP's. The memory is precious and no one can take that away. I know that somewhere in this great big world is someone who is my perfect mate, and I am looking under every rock and leaving no stone unturned to find them. However by definition it has to be completely mutual... can't live without them kinda thing. You may have fallen in love, however she obviously did not. It is natural to have feelings of lose when something that you take for granted is gone, it can be as simple as your favorite coffee cup breaking and for weeks your morning coffee is missing something. Humans hate change, and when things are forced upon us it is even worse. You have the chance for a new beginning.