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I read Angel's post and had what they call a moment of clarity. I, too, am an alcoholic. I had well over 10 years of sobriety until I relapsed a few years ago. Since then, my life has transformed into something I never imagined I would be living. Tonight I will drag my sorry ass back to AA. Pride and ego have kept me away - it's hard to admit to failure. But my life now depends on it. Thank you, Angel, for giving me the courage to take what I hope will be a first step back into the world of the living.

Don't let your imagination run away with you. The vast majority of prospective clients have no intention of causing anyone any harm whatever. They see us because they want company and intimacy that will not follow them when the engagement ends. They don't want any drama. Most of the time, in my experience, new clients are a bit shy, a little awkward, eager to make a good impression, anxious about how the meeting will go, very concerned that I may not like them or that I will turn them away when we meet. They're frequently reluctant to make the first move because they don't want to be turned down or to go too fast. Personally, I find all of this to be rather endearing. I want to underscore everything that's been said about honing your intuition. If anything in your early interactions with a prospective client feels "off" to you, take a pass. It's true that you may give up the opportunity to see the greatest guy you will ever meet. Or you might be passing up an axe murderer who's just arrived in your city. You'll never know. What you can be sure of is that not seeing someone means not exposing yourself to risks and that is often a very wise thing to do. I've been in this business for awhile. I turn away about 75-80% of the men who contact me. There have been times when I turned away more than that. I have never, ever been sorry to have chosen not to see someone. In my experience, the women who often have the hardest time with clients tend to be too submissive or too desperate to make some money quickly. The desperate ones take huge, unnecessary risks. They often feel guilty or unhappy that they're in this business and they just want to get things over with, get paid and forget about it all. Women who are too submissive often have poor boundaries, let themselves get caught up in negotiating activities or rates, and are too likely to give in to what the client wants even if it's risky. Women who have a strong sense of themselves, who won't yield or compromise under pressure and who are able to take control of the engagement are less likely to be harmed.

Links already provided for the indies (Escorts Canada and cerb advertisement section) for the OP. But to help the OP with agencies, these are the updated main (established) Ottawa agencies as we speak. 1 - Pink Kitty (PK) Escorts Both in/oucall 24/7 and the link is: www.pinkkittyescort.com 2 - The new Explore-Her agency coming out of the recent Capital Candies and former Tempted2Touch (T2T): both in/outcall young ladies from Montreal WWW.EXPLORE-HER.COM 3 - Ottawa PlayGirls: - The oldest Ottawa agency, after 7 pm but pre-booking daytime possible and outcall only. www.613girls.com/ 4 - Bella Escorts: - New agency, established themselves as a reliable agency in a short time, both in/outcall: www.bellamtl.com 5 - Abracadabra (Discreet Valley) Escorts. Though they seem to have a number of ladies, they keep very much to themselves (don't advertise often). Outcall only. I used to use their services and in most part I was happy. They have real time schedule. www.discreetvalley.com 6 - ALLD Mostly young asian ladies both in/outcall : Significant recent improvement in quality of ladies and service and the link is: http://asianlalaland.yolasite.com 7 - CandyLand again young asian ladies both in/outcall. Started like a lion as a desperately needed reliable asian agency in Ottawa without B & S, 2 years ago. Recent downturn in quality of service and ladies but I still list them as I had great ladies from them in the past and I hope they come back again as Ottawa's established asian agency soon. www.tog2.com I hope it helps. Secret Admirer

I have relationships with people. I don't have relationships with professions.

The most important thing is to trust your gut. If your instincts are telling you something is wrong, than be calm and immediately leave that situation. Your screening process is very important. Make sure you get a name. An unprivate number where your company can be reached at. You can ask for references. Also ALWAYS let some one you trust know where you are. Never go anywhere with out someone else knowing. That is a key factor in my opinion. If you ever have any questions, please feel free to pm me. Anytime. I wish you the best of luck in your journey :wink: Sending you love and hugs xox

With the nordic model how would they be able to do such things? Posted via Mobile Device

It is quite possible so I would say it is true. I was propositioned by the winner of the best supporting actress Oscar a few years back.

Samantha, that is a very good question. We have always maintained that in the event of the pending Zombie Apocalypse, the new guy would smear himself in the animal brains we have stored in the non beverage refrigerator and act as a diversion, allowing the senior members and their clientele to escape with the stockpile of weapons and supplies that we have squirreled away. This way, the new guy becomes an effective recruitment tool to expand our provider base. The less time he is the new guy, the less worries he has in being zombie fodder.

This is why independents need your support! From the sound of it, that is pretty much exploitation, and should not be supported. The men should tell the management that they won't go there unless the ladies are treated better. Don't know if it would change anything. I just can't believe how awful and greedy some people can be. I really feel for anybody stuck in that situation.

I have been in MMF encounters a few times in my life. The first one when I was 17 and that one turned into a MMMF, but all of us being inexperienced it was only ok. Much later I experienced it again and this time I had two inexperienced partners that were very open minded and willing to experience new things. It was her first experience with anal and she enjoyed it so we tried DP vaginal anal with her stradalling me and the other guy from behind. That went very well so we took it one step further. I was lying on my back and she did reverse cowgirl, vaginal, then leaned back onto me and he got on top and inserted to double her pleasure. That is when she she reached out and grabbed him by the throat and in a very husky voice said "Don't stop or i'll kill you!" Needless to say she had a very very good time! A few months later they approached me to try it again!

.....want to sleep with Xenia Onatopp (James Bond Goldeneye) Gives a whole new meaning to the term unsafe sex RG

The best thing you can have as a weapon is your intuition and ALWAYS listen to your instincts. Even if the situation poses no physical threat, there have been times in the past where I wish I had listened to myself and not seen a guy who just wasn't my type. Now if I sense they get there and don't seem into the encounter or they are acting weird, I will ask them to leave. Always listen to what a guy says on the phone and the type of quesitons they ask. This is always an indication of what they will be like. I would suggest that you talk privatley to a few ladies here who are always happy to offer advice to new SPs. And good luck!

There is having sex, which is one thing, and being pounded for an hour--which is something totally different. Sadly, the latter is not a fun experience for anyone but the guy and frankly, I'm not a blow-up doll. If that's all you want, please just wank off. We are human beings and just because you are paying for my services doesn't mean you get to do whatever you want. I offer the services I am comfortable offering, and I do not view full service or sex as simply being pounded. As I said in my original post, I am aware that you are paying for a service, but you must remember that you will be satisfied within the boundaries of the service provider. Paying gets you in the door, what the two of you get up to is still largely determined by the provider. So let's not forget that.

This has been well covered so I will keep this short. I have had many a conversation in my adult years with my grandfather who spent his entire military career in Europe during WWI. He was single, whether that actually mattered, but regardless he always told me it was for "companionship" more than the sex. To talk to and touch a lady and relax and unwind and .....yes have sex, but have fun and laugh. He became friends with one and saw her every time he had a chance, which was rare. There where the ones indeed that wanted to get their rocks off but in his experience it was about the companionship and closeness for him and the majority of what he saw. I realize this was war time but really.....I don't think things have changed that much since then. My opinion only.....It always has been about the combination of companionship and sex, and fun ! This all can lead to sooo many wonderful and amazing experiences. In my case laying on your back for an hour doesn't work. But Hey....thats just me :)

There are escorts and there are companions - just like there are amazing clients and not so wonderful ones. there is something for everyone, but it is about finding what you are looking for. Not everyone is seeking a slam..bam..thank you maam...There is way more to this business than just sex....A lady has every right to voice her opinion when she offers so much more than sex....I am very sorry that you feel that it is a lady's job to just lay on her back and take it.....

First off, IslandIndependant, apologies for my earlier response. Seriously I don't function well without a morning pot of coffee, and should have waited till I got home from work before replying I read the lines starting with "If a man is paying..." and honestly, it sounds, even now more like some guys who have made posts that are disrespectful towards SP's For me, and I'm sure for a lot of the gentlemen here, seeing a escort is more than just about sex. Yes, most definitely, sex is part of the encounter, but not the whole encounter. I like the entireity of the encounter, the initial meeting, conversation, sex, kissing/cuddling Another way to put it, I like encounters of two to three hours. I'm fifty years old...do you really believe I have two to three hours sexual stamina at my age?...no, I like the company of women for more than just sex. I don't know whether you have such a narrow shallow view of escorting because it was your mindset before entering the profession, or you have only met guys as clients who view you solely as a means for their sexual gratification. But it should be mutually beneficial. And that, for me doesn't mean money for sex. It means money to compensate for the lady's time, with the benefit of no relationship complications. What happens during the time can be mutually enjoyable and pleasurable. Seeing ladies shouldn't be a zero sum game...that whatever the gentleman gains is at the lady's loss Some coffee laden thoughts RG