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Someone who fulfills all my desires - physical, emotional and mental. Who loves me, knows me, understands me and is totally honest with me about everything that counts. And with whom I can do the same. And on a more specific note, someone who has been or is just as promiscuous as I am, but at heart is a one-woman man emotionally and spiritually.

I am the mother of two kids, a 12 year old and a 17 year old...I became a Sex Worker (this is the term I use with my older child) in my early 40's...I already had a successful career and chose to fulfil what I can only say is my calling at a much later stage in life than many who work in this industry... Has being a parent affected me as a Sex Worker? Yes...there have been a few occasions where I have had to cancel sessions due to one or both of the kids being ill...it is unfortunate but life happens...often when we least expect it...fortunately, clients who I have had to cancel appointments with have been compassionate and understanding... My seventeen year old knows exactly what I do and has never been afraid to ask well thought out, relevant questions....personally, I have always maintained the fact that honest, age appropriate answers are best and will keep the lines of communication open...particularly during tougher adolescent stages...honest, and again I reiterate, age appropriate information about virtually any subject has been the catalyst that has resulted in an established deeper trust between my children and I... Has being a Sex Worker affected me as a parent? Yes...very recently, another Sex Worker reported me to Manitoba Child and Family Services with an anonymous allegation that I was putting my twelve year old at risk for abuse due to the nature of my work... How do I know it was another Sex Worker if the allegation was anonymous? The way allegation was worded was the biggest factor...and some of the accusations made were things known only after I posted them in the Ladies Lounge on another board... I was contacted at home after Abuse Investigators had my younger child taken out of class to be interviewed...a meeting was set up for an Abuse Investigator to come to my house to conduct an investigation the next day... Following a guilt-ridden, sleepless night imagining all the worst case scenarios, I submitted to two hours of questioning and an inspection of my incall space in my home...I was informed that my websites and advertising had been perused bi the agency... I was told that based on the fact that I don't see clients when my kids are home, and that a plan is in place to ensure the kids and my clients do not cross paths, the Abuse Investigator was reasonably sure the file would be closed... Once the report of the investigation was complete, I was called and told that my child was extremely intelligent, articulate and that based on the Abuse Investigators' findings, we were a family who relied on open, honest communication...I was also told the allegations were deemed to be unfounded and the file would indeed be closed... Another important point came from that last call...an assurance that what I choose to do for a living is my business (literally) and since there was no sign of abuse or risks of abuse, I didn't need to worry about this information being passed to any other agency or to LE... This situation, which arose from someone's need to be malicious, definitely affected me profoundly both as a parent and as a Sex Worker....it made me realize how important it is to bring about changing the perception society has of our industry...I also came to the conclusion that "coming out" as a Sex Worker was the first step...This was followed bi the realization that I needed to get more involved with organizations that are working locally, nationally and globally toward ensuring the rights of Sex Workers... For me this is a moral imperative; one that I hope will be taken up bi more Sex Workers and our Allies to create a grassroots movement... This will be the only way to change the thoughts of politicians, legislators and members of our communities... At the risk of sounding preachy, let's all do what we can to make our communities more sex-positive...please....

In Canada? Not that I know of and I have been in the business for 12+ years and in the stripclub business for many years before that. In the USA yes, prostitution is illegal except for the legal brothels outside Vegas. I am not aware of anywhere else in the USA where prostitution is legal. In Canada it's legal unless you tricked into speaking about sex in public. In Winnipeg recently the police were asking the ladies to a hotel and asking them to join them for a drink in the lounge (a public place) before going to the room. If in public you discuss anything that could be related to the call or sex and proceed to the room you have now committed a offense (Public Solicitation). If you make the booking by phone or email (or chatroom or pm) and go to a PRIVATE apartment/condo/house/hotel room/etc... (and close the door so it is just you and him in the room) it is no longer a PUBLIC PLACE so you are free to discuss sex in private for the exchange of money. Prostitution is LEGAL in Canada it's the surrounding laws that make it hard to follow the law. 1) No pimping (Living off the avails of prostitution if you are not the one prostituting) 2) No public solicitation (Aka: discussions of sex in a public place - you can advertise in newspapers and magazines and online without breaking this law) 3) No procuring (Bringing someone into the business) 4) No common bawdy house (No in call locations - this is usually only a problem with multiple ladies are working our of a location or a business like a massage spa offering full service but technically a single lady working out of one location is a common bawdy house by definition but the police seam to ignore this and they should as it's safer for the ladies to work this way and they are not harming anyone) 5) No underage (18 years of age) If you follow those rules your ok so outcall prostitution where you are the only one profiting from your actions, you do not discuss ANYTHING in public and you are of legal age and do not coherse someone else into getting into the business your ok. You also can not legally bring someone to a place of prostitution (Read section 210-212 of the criminal code of Canada - I think we have a link here in the Canada Law on Prostitution page). Some municipalities (windsor, calgary, edmonton, winnipeg that I know of) have municipal licenses (These are ways for the local police and municipal bylaw officers to combat prostitution without dealing with the criminal code - it helps them scare the ladies out of the city as they are not wanted - really it's crap as the "Escort" license says it's for dating and not prostitution as they can not license prostitutes. Note: A municipal bylaw offense is NOT a criminal charge, you do not get a record or go to jail for this. You pay a fine (like a parking ticket)

So I just completed the phone survey. Ladies I promise its painless. In fact its nice to advocate for an industry that is always seen as dirty and criminal. I love what I do and I love the men that I see. I would love too see in my time, escorting become legal and socially acceptable. But before acceptance comes awareness. Lets advocate for Ottawa Sp's, we are educated, beautiful, nurturing lovers, who are wife's, mothers, daughters and sister's. Kisses and big thanks to Erin.