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Perhaps this is the right time to bring a subject that has bothered me. I did not mention it in any post and I have not read anyone grumbling about it strictly speaking...some similarities but not explicit as I am displaying it now. As we all know, the New Years are good for resolutions and here is my little input to try to modify a very rough and offensive approach to anyone; do not forget e-mails are an important exposure of your character. I'll start by saying that 90% of the Gentlemen I have met at CERB are genuinely that: "Gentlemen"; When they send a PM they use manners and social skills, and it is not because they could not cut corners and be abrupt like the others; rather they have what I usually call " social civil behavior"...nice acquisition in a person! I'll explain in a minute; My request is that the men as well as the women in this great Board, cooperate here with your thoughts about this issue. It will be great if it does not happen so often and "wonderful" if any of us receives one of those mails ever again...and if you gentlemen are receiving mailings in the rude and vulgar way I am exposing, PLEASE say it now; no person should put up with that written or verbal treatment! Here it goes: I had at least a 10% of the total PM's reading roughly like this: (four examples of what I have received in 3 months ) " I need a BBBJ. Where are you and how much for the job" " How much for GFE and all that fun" "Where do you live and what are your fees" and the worst of all (to me at least) "rates? abilities?" Now, I have to add here that, there was no other words in the PM's....not "hello" no "thanks" nothing...just plain rudeness and a treatment that I am not sure if they use all the time or just when they decide to. It is not too hard to introduce oneself and then approach the person who is receiving the message in an appropriate manner with all the questions one may have. I have talked to other SP's about this, and I was told that, yes, these men are out there. I decided to expose you guys, without saying who you are. Do you think we will respond to you in the same way that we will to a polite PM? Well, you guessed well, we wont. We receive many mails and those ones are not deserving a response. All of you who send messages like those, Please polish your manners from inside out! You are verbalizing your feelings, and much more who makes you unappealing and undeserving.:ablow: Thanks so much..... Tracie

"Reality" tv? No such thing.

I have to agree with Cat in all that she said. Adding one thing...if you don't let yourself fall in love with anyone then how would you know what beauty love is. If you never know pain how will you know joy? Tears and fears are things to learn and grow from...let yourself feel whatever it is that needs to be felt. I have fallen for clients as well...one we were almost engaged....but in the end i chickened out....i just wasn't ready ...do i regret it? nope...are he and i still friends? yup....but if i didn't let myself feel love or loved then i would be a very unhappy person now. I love my clients too and love how i can make them feel and how they make me feel. This business is so much more then sex.....its being a friend as well.. kisses, Emma A

This is were we disagree, i don't think we should ask the Gentlemen to divulge his source in public or confidentially. And I believe that most SP's encourage a dialog, they are not shy to tell you what they don't want and they do want, they like feedback about what are interested in. The golden rule still applies ask for what you want and accept what you receive. The private conversations and relationships that happen between closed doors is private.