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Relax... I know that's easier said than done. You paid the correct fee. She confirmed it was the right amount. As this thread has pointed out, tips aren't usually expected and a little extra isn't going to be taken as an insult. It sounds like you had a wonderful time. You should see her again. Repeat business, as many have pointed out, is the sincerest form of flattery in this occupation, not whether you left $20, $50 or $100 and never see her again. If you feel that strong about it, you can leave a double tip the next time. I'm sure you'll both have a good laugh about your current state of mortification ;-) I'll share a story of my worst payment faux pas. Hopefully it will provide some perspective on your experience. I actually forgot to pay someone once! Imagine how that would feel :-( Fortunately it was someone I see regularly so she knew I wasn't trying to pull a fast one. I had the envelope with me, but we were so used to each other's company, that we both overlooked the payment. Usually, the first thing I do is place the envelope, so something like this doesn't happen. To make matters even more complicated, we met in a city that neither of us lived in and we both left town the next morning. In the end I sent her the money using Interac or PayPal. These things happen... hopefully not often.

I see that Victoria Jolie is going to be hosting a Libero Paradiso event this April in Calgary. These events move around the country and if you're interested it can be difficult to find a recommendation since recommendations are posted by region. I was very fortunate (understatement of the year... or of a lifetime ;-) ) to attend the first event outside Toronto. If you've heard about this event and are curious (who wouldn't be ;-)) here's a link to my recommendation. http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=413194#post413194

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As Mod said it "Has nothing to do with reputation. Police act on public complaints." That's why clients should be discrete when they're coming and going. If you don't draw attention to yourself, you don't draw attention to your service provider.

In the "General Discussion Area - All of Canada", there's a thread listing all the acronyms. You can also google Urban Dictionary for more detailed definitions. There'll be a quiz this Friday ;-)

There's another benefit to asking service questions before booking. If the woman you're communicating with doesn't offer the service you're looking for, she may know someone who does and can provide you with a lead to follow up on. Provided you're communication has been respectful. That will shorten your search. Check out sp's web sites and reviews. That will give you a very good idea of who provides the service you're seeking or who may be game for it, if it's not specifically listed on their web site. You never know. You may find out that that your kinks aren't actually that unusual. We don't discuss our sexual desires often or with many people. As a result, it's easy for us to think that we're way out there. On the whole however, researchers have found that most people's "illicit desires", fantasies or kinks are pretty commonplace desires. Maybe you're vanilla after all lol. Service providers have a wider range of sexual activites that they've been able to explore and and are therefore comfortable with or in fact enjoy. The average person's sexual life remains more restricted by social conventions. Even something like Greek is a relatively easy service to find. Activities such as scat play, golden showers, pain, humiliation or domination will be services provided by very specialized sp's... but they are out there. Kinks may be difficult to discuss in social dating "When do I tell her I want to....? The first time we have sex... tenth time?" Lol You may have discussed your desires with a significant other and had them politely decline ("I'm just not game for that honey"), or they tried it for you and decided it's outside their comfort zone even for someone they love, or they may have passed judgement ("oooo... that's disgusting"). A polite inquiry to an sp will either evoke the first response, a referral to another sp, no response, or... "Ya, I love that..." or "I can do that, but that service costs extra and/or only if you follow these rules..." From your post, you seem considerate and tactful. As long as you do a little research, read a woman's website closely (that cannot be overemphasized) and the first words in your communication aren't "Hey baby, do you...", you should be able to find what you're looking for. Good luck, whatever flavour your kinks turn out to be!

Solicitation in the context of prostitution law means communication in a public place. The courts have ruled that private communication is excluded. Defining public versus private communication is dependant upon the means of communication and/or the place where the communication takes place. Offering, discussing or negotiating compensation (financial or otherwise) in a public place (street, park, bar, hotel lobby etc) is solicitation. It doesn't matter that only two people are participating in the discussion and that no one else hears or observes the discussion. The communication is occurring in a public place. E-mail, snail mail, texting, phone, skype, talking in your home or a hotel room are all private communications. Offering, discussing or negotiating compensation for sex in these situations is legal. These communications are all taking place in private spaces or are communications to which only the particpants have legal access. It's possible that the privacy of these communications may be violated by a third party, but that doesn't make them public communication (i.e solicitation). It just means that the third party has violated your privacy, which depending upon the facts can be a criminal offence. Communication involving more than two people (e.g. negotiatiatung a threesome or an orgy :-)) is still private communication. It doesn't matter how many people participate in the communication. What matters for the purposes of solicitation is how and where the communication occurs. So, communicating by privately by e-mail (legal) and then meeting in public without any further discussion of compensation (legal) is not a problem. I've never heard of the police action which was described as taking place in Halifax. There may be more to it. This tactic has been used to arrest men who have been seeking underage girls, for free or paid sex. If it involved adults it sounds like entrapment, which is an illegal police tactic and would explain why there haven't been any similar cases.

That money really seems to be burning a hole in your pocket Jimmy! You've been watching too many movies and tv shows set in LA, New York or Paris etc. :-) Seriously though, it seems like you may be seeking a pornstar experience. Rates for PSE tend to be a bit higher. It's more exclusively focused on the sex, fantasy, role playing, pushing boundaries, swinging from chandeliers... you name it. There's a wider range of services offered than in a GFE session and there tends to be more responsibility for the woman to lead the session. Remember that regardless of what you've seen in porn, the woman ina PSE session still sets the boundaries and calls the shots on what's permitted. There are some touring women who offer PSE sessions. There may be some local women who do as well. Check the ads and recommendations here and on Escorts Canada.

Be careful what you wish for Jimmy. All sp's are exclusive. Remember, they get to choose who they see. Yes, everyone has bills to pay, but women in this industry generally and cerb in particular, don't have to see just anybody. While they offer a girlfriend experience, as one woman said to me she's hoping for a boyfriend experience too! So what does that mean? It starts with respect, being considerate, very, very clean and hopefully there's some chemistry (personal and sexual) that allows you to both click. This is why most women choose to see older men. It doesn't start with how much money you have to spend or how young and good looking you are. As for rates, despite all the discussion this topic can generate, most of the women charge within a similar price range per hour give or take $50-100. The primary difference you'll see with respect to pricing is whether a minimum amount of time is specified. Some will allow half hour appointments while others require a minimum 2-3 hours. Yes, the 2-3 hour appointment costs more, but is generally similar with respect to hourly rate. Why the minimum? There can be a variety of reasons. Some women have other sources of income and this approach works best for their schedules and financial needs. Others prefer sufficient time to make a more personal connection. It can be a difficult business and this is how it works best for some women. In other cases the woman may have a graduate degree, be well travelled or multilingual and is therefore able to easily maneuver through the subtleties of various social and business functions. You're paying for that service as well. If you're curious you can see advertisements and reviews for these women in larger cities such as Toronto or Vancouver. My advise is similar to other posters. Choose someone that you think you're attracted to and that you think you might click with. Forget about "the most expensive and exclusive". You're not choosing different models of cars or designers ("Tell me who's the Lamborghini or Armani of service providers"). It's more personal for both of you than that and remember, you're part of the equation, so you should bring something to the table in addition to money. Good luck.

I've seen Victoria several times, individually and in threesomes. I've always enjoyed her company. She's a sweet woman with model looks, a sexually adventurous streak, and very arousing erotic skills. During pillow talk I asked about her experiences participating in Teatro Erotica sessions in the US and indicated my desire to participate in a group sex session. During the last year Victoria spent a good deal of time planning her Libero Paradiso experience and I jumped at the opportunity to participate and fullfill one more sexual fantasy. The event took place in a luxurious country home north of Toronto, with transportation arranged by Victoria. The home was a three storey building with exposed wood beams and cathedral ceiling in the living area, with lots of large rooms and an outdoor hot tub for playing in. Men dressed in suits and the women wore elegant cocktail dresses or evening gowns. In addition to Victoria, I also knew Keissy Hennessey. I understand there were 18 men attending and the same number of women. The evening began as a typical cocktail party with relaxed and light conversation. Conversation inevitably turned to the evening's upcoming erotic activities. We all eagerly shared our anticipation and nervous excitement. The majority of us, including the women, had never participated in a large group event like this before. I think this openness put us all at ease and heightened our anticipation of enjoying a new sexual adventure together. It was a little like being younger again and you and your girlfriend have agreed that you're going to "do it" tonight for the first time! To heighten the sexual tension, women begin appearing in sexy lingerie and teasingly mingled throughout the cocktail party. Men then quickly disappeared to change into robes. Both the lingerie and robes were quickly discarded as the evening's promise began to be fulfilled. I won't provide a play by play of the whole evening because there was too much going on, with so many people in numerous combinations, for one person to describe it all. Some people chose to participate in a series of one on ones, others threesomes and foursomes in bedrooms. Many of us enjoyed ourselves in the presence of so many others and with such uninhibited carnal joy that you couldn't possibly stop to count how many people you were together with. I do have some vivid memories, so here's a montage of a few scenes. Stepping into the hot tub and joining 4-5 other couples. Beautiful steaming breasts and asses glistening in the night light and bobbing in and out of the water. Long slow deep kisses, bodies close together, hands exploring and stroking parted thighs, cocks and pussies underwater. Moans, cheers, laughter, lingering looks, three ways, swapping partners, women flattering and complementing each other's unique beauty. Me leaning back with my cock and balls alternately in the warm water and cool air, while being stroked and sucked. All of this is heightened by simultaneously being an exhibitionist and a voyeur. Being watched by others in such an unguarded act heightens my pleasure, just as my watching others further turns me on and those around me. Indoors, the "playroom" is furnished with a large wrap around sofa along two walls and is covered with naked passionate bodies. People are in various stages of arousal from slow sensual foreplay to climaxing. I look to my left and see a woman stretched out with feet pulled up while she receives oral from a man kneeling before her. Next to them a woman sits on the sofa back playing with her breasts while a woman kneels on the sofa giving her oral and is herself being fucked doggie style by the man standing behind her. Next a man lays back on the sofa with a woman riding him cowgirl. They are going at it hard. His eyes are closed, face grimaced while she rides him leaning forward over his chest, allowing me to see his cock appear and disappear in and out of her pussie with her ass thrusting up and down. A couple next to them lays length ways on the sofa. She screams as she cums and shudders. He continues to fuck and she has to get him to slow down because she's so sensitive immediately after cumming. Finally, there's a woman on the floor, with a small crowd around her. I can't see what everyone is doing but she's screaming loudly and I can see that she is reaching up and has a cock in each hand. Me, I'm standing in the middle of the room, receiving a blowjob from a beautiful woman on her knees in front of me. I'm looking down at my cock disappearing between her beautiful full lips, while she looks me in the eyes. I'm spreading my legs so she can play wih my balls and thighs. I'm looking around the room at all of the action and I don't want to cum yet. I want this to last as long as possible because it's all such a turn on. I decide that while my partner is concentrating on my pleasure, she's missing all of the action behind her. I reach down and help her up, turn her around and tell her to just take some time to enjoy the sights and sounds. I stand behind her and gently rub my cock on her lower back and ass while reaching around and caressing her breasts and stomach. After lingering awhile we join a couple on the sofa in some four way play. Hands, tongues, lips, tits, nipples, cocks, pussies, eyes, thighs... I straddle my partner while she gives me a hand job and she receives oral from the other man and kisses the other woman. I'm close to cumming. I start to talk dirty, my eyes are half shut, my body tightens. I see her looking up at me. She knows I'm about to cum and with a series of shudders I cum all over her tits, neck and shoulders. She keeps milking me until I'm too sensitive to be touched anymore. That was the first of three times I came that evening. I'm usually a one shot guy. In the following days I walked around in a near constant state of arousal, like a horney teenager. There are a lot of possibilities at a party like this. Everyone had different desires, fantasies and strategies. I just went with the flow and who I clicked with that evening. Although I had never previously met Dolce Mia and Jasmin Thai, I enjoyed their company so much I ended up spending most of the evening with them as my companians and I have to thank them for all the pleasure they shared with me. Since that evening I've been fortunate to see Jasmin again. Even though I knew both Victoria and Keissy, somehow our paths never crossed that evening. I do however remember hearing Victoria's passionate moaning and crying oui...oui...oui! After all her work organizing the event I was glad to hear her enjoying herself! As I said, there's a lot going on and you can't do it all! I'll forever be grateful to Victoria however for hosting the party and inviting me to attend. This was the first Libero Paradiso event, but I understand Victoria is planning more. All of the women I spoke to enjoyed themselves and will be returning along with a few more who were unable to attend the first event.

Yes Hornyguy, good point. I agree that the various Safer Communities and Neighbourhoods Acts across the country apply to prostitution activities but they have primarily been used for activities related to drug trafficking. The Acts are also civil laws not criminal and don't result in criminal charges. In a Saskatchewan case the judge stated "While it refers to criminal activities, the [Act] does not purport to legislate criminal law which is the exclusive domain of Parliament. No person is at risk of being convicted of a criminal offence under the Act. No person is at risk of being deprived of his or her liberty under the Act." In Nova Scotia all of the cases so far have related to drug trafficking. On a personal note, I used to have a drug dealer living across the across the street from me. There were an incredibly large number of cars coming and going at all times of the day. Most of the cars were speeding and were dangerous, particularly to kids in the neighbourhood. The house had been under surveillance for many years and eventually was busted. The house had reinforced doors, bars on the windows, surveillance cameras and guard dogs so even with a SWAT style police entry, it took them a while to get in and most of the evidence was flushed down the toilet. Under a SCAN type legislation it wouldn't have been necessary to get sufficient evidence for a criminal conviction (undercover purchases, possession etc). The Act focuses on the behaviours that put neighbours at risk. Having said that I think there's a pretty good risk that you just move the criminal activity to another neighbourhood. In the case of prostitution, under SCAN legislation it wouldn't be sufficient to show that prostitution is taking place on the property. You have to show how it disturbs neighbours peaceful enjoyment of their property or puts their safety at risk. I don't think independent sp's would meet this standard. As previous discussions on cerb have shown, most sp's providing in service work quite discreetly and expect their clients to behave accordingly. Police have generally ignored this type of business and the adoption of SCAN legislation doesn't seem to have changed policing. High profile massage parlours/bawdy houses are more likely at risk if they and their clients behave recklessly, especially if they are in residential neighbourhoods. Possible examples of this would be very high volumes in a resudential neighbourhood or late night drunks mistakenly going to a neighbouring address at all hours of the day and night. These are usually the types of businesses that are already at risk of getting busted.

Oh ya! I love dirty talk. I don't swear much outside the bedroom, but I love it as an enjoyable part of good sex. Sometimes that's all it takes to add a little flavour to a vanilla session and get the blood pumping! But it can't be like bad dialogue in a porn movie. It has to be said with gusto! For me it's the same as an uninhibited moan, groan or scream. I notice everyone's been standing up for their culture's mastery of "creative" swearing so I have to put in a good word, or maybe that should be a bad word, for the Irish. A good salty Irish sentence can be 90% swearing. The other thing the Irish have mastered is inserting f--k into the middle of a word or name... "David Mcf--kingdonald". If you've seen any Irish movies like "In Brouge" or the "The Guard" you know they don't write dialogue like that in Hollywood. I rest my case for the Irish as both great fornicators and cursers :-)

Since the Criminal Code is standard across the country, Sophia's phrase community "tolerance level" is a good non-legalistic way to look at this. To answer your question using that standard, Quebec would be the most sexually liberal/tolerant society in Canada. Maybe that's part of what makes them a "distinct society" :-) That extends to the erotic and sexual service industries as well. It's more "above ground" and accepted as part of urban life in Montreal for example than any where else in Canada. There are numerous strip clubs, massage parlours, sex aid shops and escorts conducting business in prominent downtown locations instead of in marginal low profile locations. The only other comparable area would be around Niagara Falls. I'm not sure from your comments whether you are equating lap dances and customers touching dancers with prostitution. Lap dances are certainly a very erotic service :-) but they aren't a "sexual service" (intercourse, masturbation, oral etc) and therefore they aren't considered prostitution. As Aubrey and Sophia point out, strip clubs are usually regulated by provincial liquor license regulations or municipal zoning/licensing bylaws and those standards do vary across the country. Here in Nova Scotia for example, no contact is allowed between a patron and dancer. In fact a minimum separation distance of 3 feet has to be maintained. Yet in many other provinces lap dances are obviously allowed. As for how much contact, well that's usually a case of your mileage may vary. I've heard some dancers describe many clients as grabbing and squeezing them "as if they had never seen a woman before." So since it's unpleasant, the dancer is obviously going to spend a lot of time removing the client's hands whereas if the next client is more respecful and has a gentler touch he or she may be allowed much more contact. I hope this helps.

There are no provincial prostitution laws. Prostitution is legal in Canada. Many prostitution related activities (public communication, bawdy houses, underage etc) are illegal, but they are regulated under the Criminal Code of Canada, not provincial law. Some provincial courts have ruled that aspects of the Criminal Code violate the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms. These decisions are being appealed to the Supreme Court of Canada. In the meantime, the Criminal Code provisions remain in place. To get more specific info on the law and current cases you can search the Legal Discussion or Things You Should Know sections of Cerb. You can also google Canadian prostitution laws.

I've used Rosetta Stone also and found it useful. One of the best features is that it can "hear" your pronunciation and correct you. If you're planning a trip, you should look at some apps for your smart phone. Rosetta Stone is good for general conversation, but there are useful phrases that you'll want to master or have at your fingertips when travelling that Rosetta Stone doesn't focus on such as "I want to book a room for the night", "I'd like a table for two", asking and receiving directions etc. I found that using an app to practice phrases before the trip was an effective and easy supplement to using Rosetta Stone. You can use the apps to practice while you're out for a walk or cooking for example. In a real pinch you can even use them to "speak" for you when you're travelling. In the case of the iPhone some of the newer apps use Siri to translate your speech instead of having to stick to a fixed number of standard phrases. Some good app translation brands are Odyssey Translator, iSpeak, iTranslate, codegent. Good luck

"I teach a masturbation class... If I'm late they start without me"

Love mirrors!!! One of my favourite mirror memories is checking into a B&B and finding a full length 3-way mirror... and a piano stool at the dressing table. Well put those together with a horny couple on holidays... It was beautiful and intoxicating. We got to see ourselves from soooo many angles simultaneously. It's amazing what you can do on and over a little piano stool while seeing your partner and yourself from the front, back and side. The three mirror was great, but the piano stool took it over the top since it was so easy to change views with a little spin. We never left the room until we checked out and we only used the bed for sleeping!!!

It sounds like you might be interested in Tantric sex which emphasizes greater physical, emotional and spiritual awareness between partners. There are some sp's who specialize in Tantra sessions in both Ottawa and Toronto. I'm sure with a little surfing you could discover others as well.

You might be interested in reading the Stardance Trilogy. This was written by the award winning science fiction author Spider Robinson and his wife Jeanne Robinson who was a dancer/choreographer. The first book in the series won both Hugo and Nebula awards for science fiction writing. Without getting into the whole plot, it's so long since I read it that I can't remember it any way ;-) The main concept is movement in zero gravity... therefore dance and sex! http://www.spiderrobinson.com They both used to live in Halifax. Jeanne started the city's first modern dance company, Nova Dance. One of the things that used to bring a smile to my face was that Spider said he appreciated Jeanne because "When I'm lying on the sofa with my eyes closed, Jeanne realizes that I'm working!"

Four things to keep in mind when you're trying to get good value when purchasing business wear. Get good classic product that will not go out of style in a year or two. Invest in good material and construction which will the hold up to years of wear. A better men's wear store will not only do the standard alterations (leg and sleeve length) but also free alterations on the shoulders, neck, chest, back and seat so that the suit is comfortable and also doesn't have any distracting folds and ripples. Since everyone is asymmetrical in their build good alterations will get you a custom fit without made to measure costs. Only buy shirts, ties, shoes etc if they "go with" the suits and jackets you purchase and can be mixed and matched. Avoid impulse purchases of items that may look really good, but they either don't go with anything you have or only go with one suit. A few other things to keep in mind. A store like Harry Rosen doesn't have a lot of staff turnover. The same staff will be there when you go back and they'll get a feel for what you like. Does that sound like another business we know :-) They always have the basics to build a good business wardrobe and they keep all your purchases on file, so anyone can come in and buy you a gift that will go with what you already have. Congratulations and good luck in your new job!

Samantha you've reached a milestone in terms of your number of posts. What's even more impressive is the quality of your contributions! Thanks for sharing your wonderful insights, experience and reflections with us all especially on interpersonal and business issues.

Jack Layton represented a style of politician which used to be common but is very rare today. He was someone whom you could respect and trust regardless of whether you agreed or disagreed with his policies. A very rare quality and something that everyone can try to emulate when we are debating others over deeply held and personal points of view.

I've never met Amy, but her latest Escorts Canada ad indicates she'll be back in Halifax Aug 30 - Sept 2 if you're still interested in meeting her.

Photosynth is my favourite app. It's a 360 degree photo app and the results are amazing. It's an immersive experience. It really is just like being there, whether the image was taken indoors or outside. You can look up, down, left, right, behind you... Every time I show people a picture taken with it they can't believe it. There are several different 360 degree apps, but this one is the easist to use and produces the best results. you can view the results on your iPhone and you can also upload them to the photosynth site. The web site also has tips on how to get the best results. In addition to being able to take a picture from one viewpoint, you can also take pictures from various points around an object, building etc and then rotate the resulting image. http://photosynth.net/

Carrie, thanks for suggesting MusicID. I just downloaded it last night and put it through it's paces. It's incredible! I tried it with early blues, jazz, Latin, classical, rock, soul, R&B, vocals, instrumentals... It was successful about 80-90% of the time, but that included a lot of really obscure music and music that's probably been deleted by labels or never been digitized.