Andee

I agree with Erin wholeheartedly! Pubes can be a mild annoyance, but I think if they're trimmed at best and of course, there should be no problem. I am not shaved down there! I am trimmed. Sorry, guys but I'm in my mid 40s, I have very sensitive skin and I am not about to go through the torture of razor burned skin or ingrown hairs so I can look like some prepubescent girl which would in my opinion look utterly ridiculous on me since I am older and heavier. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against women who shave down totally, it's just not my thing and since I keep it trimmed, and clean, the sweetness is just a lick away... And my clients know that and keep coming back...so...:roll:

My mother give a blow job? I don't think so. In fact, before she died, she had a bit of dementia and started swearing and coming out with shocking comments such as...Once she said "There's one thing no one can accuse of being and that is a cock sucker" So in my case, I would say not. But then that is not something you want to think about your mother anyways.... Giddy - up to a better poll!

Like I have said before in other threads, if you're well mannered, are clean (showered) and have consulted my web-site and are satisfied with my appearance, menu selection and rates, then I don't care if you are heavier. I am heavier myself, so that would pretty hypocritical of me to judge... Unless you have some other medical or other condition I should know about to help facilitate the session, then I, for one would welcome you. As for charging you more, I have no idea why you would think such a thing. I do not know how other ladies feel about heavier men. I did have a client once who was over 400 pounds and I was concerned about that kind of weight on my bed, as I have broken more than one box spring in this business, but fortunately I always saw him at a hotel. As for being open minded, not sure what you mean by that...if you're just referring to being heavier, that's one thing, but if it's something else you're specifically interested in, you need to specify what you mean. Depending on the gentleman's size, sometimes it is not always possible to accommodate certain positions, which I am certainly mature enough to work around and not every let anyone feel less than...perhaps some younger SPs might not have the patience for this...I don't know..I would not want to speak for them or anyone else (even in my age range). So there's my two cents worth. Anybody else want to reassure this newbie.

Like Peter Pan, I don't think he really wanted to grow old...I guess he got his wish...

I answer the phone in a friendly, but "business-like manner". I can usually size someone up pretty quick as to whether they are a tire kicker mainly by the questions they ask and the language they use. I try not to get aggressive, but if someone is asking me rude questions, or inquiring about basic details (like "what do you look like again"? or other details that are clearly posted in my ad or on my site, I politely answer the question until I feel perhaps I am wasting my time...then I get assertive and basically cut it off there. I believe that if a guy doesn't remember who he's calling or didn't take 2 minutes to check some details out about me, then forget it. Clarification is one thing, but moronic questioning is another. I must say that most gentleman are courteous and to the point. And I agree with what others have said here, I do not answer the phone unless I am focused and prepared to give that person my attention. There have been times when I've been expecting a call at a certain time and then something comes up, whereby I will answer the phone and ask them to call back, so as to let them know I am acknowledging their call, but I'm just getting out of a taxi, for example. I think this appreciated over not answering the phone, or answering it and being hurried or vague. As for e-mail inquiries I would say the majority of them end up actually booking. Sometimes they don't, but it's still worth it for me to check my e-mails. What I hate are the guys who think maybe I'm in front of my computer 24/7 and e-mail me with "are you available now?" when they could easily pick up the phone to ask. As for text messaging, an initial text or two is fine, but I had one guy attempt to get me to respond to a total of 16 text messages before I finally cut him off. I told him he had to call me in person, and he texted back still asking me stupid questions, and then finally saying he had no minutes to call, only text. Well, in my mind, if you're going to come and see me and are prepared to spend $100 or more, then why don't you have any time on your phone. Sorry, but I red flagged that one pretty good. I do accept text messages because I want to keep my my options open for communication, and I have had successful bookings. But when it comes right down to the final moment, the client has to pick up the phone and speak with me personally. I believe phone mannerisms go both ways...

I have had a few clients tell me they "love me", but as I have pointed out to them, if we were ever take up in a day-to-day domestic relationship, with me, they would quickly realize it wasn't really love. I mean how well can you get to know someone in the bedroom? In these two cases, sure we had spent many dates together and talked, but really, they did not "know me". As much as was flattered, I did not have the same feelings towards them so did not even entertain pursuing something. As for when I retire, I would be nice to find someone to settle down with. I am not holding my breath that it will be a client I meet and fall in love with though...the odds of that happening are way too low. But I would need to meet someone who is open-minded enough to accept my past.

Annessa: I did not know about POWER. Thanks for educating us about their presence and being there to represent those of us who didn't attend or would be too chicken to attend. I do love what I do as well, but I still have one foot in the "straight life" and I have been outed myself, often with unpleasant results and other times surprisingly positive results. The ones who I expect to judge me and not accept me were the ones who actually were cool with it. Like you, I had others who I thought were cool with it, show their true colours my asking me ignorant questions, like "when am I going to meet your hot hooker friends"...kind of like the guy you gave the flyer to. I guess in the end, we just have to be true to ourselves, believe in what we're doing, have our support network, and hope and trust that we'll be kept safe along the way and be thick skinned enough to handle any negativity that is sure to come our way...but what comes with anything controversial and "different". My question has always been, if we're suppsoedly so bad, how come we're so much in demand? Every since I read Xavier Hollander's The Happy Hooker when I was 11 years old, I have always been fascinated by this industry. Perhaps that was a premotion of things to come...although I did not get into this until I was 34 years old....Oh well... Thanks for the Rant...

I have worked in-calls in Toronto and Prince George B.C., and it was the same story there...no shows are just a downside of this business. Even my chiropractor says it's amazing the number of people who think it's okay to book with her and not show. But in my experience, Toronto was worse than Ottawa for no shows. I agree with Erin, Craigs is one of worst for no shows, but I have had 2 no shows from CERB as well...so That's why I never give my address out until I know they are in the visitor parking lot. If you don't have a cell phone, too bad buddy...I can't see you. I need to know who's coming to my door. And if you don't have the decency to call to say you're lost, late, or can't make it, then don't try booking again because I will not accept your call. I have my own little list of "noshows" I keep handy that I check against. Sometimes a gentleman will call to apologize later and depending on how it goes, I might give him another chance, but I never go for 3. I am a low-volume SP by choice, so if someone wastes my time, it could mean my earnings for the day. To the ladies who ask for a deposit by PayPal, the reason why I think guys might be reluctant to do that is because of all of the scamming going on right now with these supposed "verification sites" that take your credit card Number and run...it has been very bad in Ottawa lately....it's a great idea, but I can see their point of view as well. In fact some guys have said they don't even want to "look" at my site because they think I am going to ask them for money up front, to which I say, nowhere on my site does it say anything like that. You call me directly, you talk to me directly, you book me directly. It's always the few bad apples that spoil it for the rest....

Teacher says...have to give you E for Effort of Imagination! Now go to the back of the room and sit down.

Never thought of that. Good one. But how do we know in advance who's booking us, to quote a higher rate..HMMM..

Glad to hear that you are considerate enough to make the effort. Not all smokers are as conscientious or smart-thinking like you. I had a short-lived working relationship with a smoking SP. I say short-lived because even though she ran an air purifier in her apt., it wasn't enough, it started to affect me and I always went home reeking of smoke, having to wash everything...my non-smoking clients who wanted duos with us, did like her, but not the smoke. She was not open to my feedback to not smoke in her apt., but because she had no balcony, felt she was entitled because it was her place. She's still around, but not sure how business is for her. To everyone else, thanks for your feedback. It's interesting how some people are under the impression that most SPs smoke. I personally know 4 other SPs here in Ottawa, non of whom smoke. (One takes the occasional drag when she has a drink, but that's rare). So I guess my questions have been answered.

As a relative Newbie to CERB, I have jumped into a chat quite a bit over the past week. I must admit I have gotten a lot of compliments and guys pm'ing me to ask me questions. Only negative experience was one guy who did start to get vulgar with his language, so I shut him down PDQ. I think he thought in PM he could get away with it, but I didn't engage. I didn't think to have him banned, but now I know better. I'm a big girl, have been around, so it takes a lot to offend me. I can take care of myself. I have a wicked sense of humour, can think on my feet and type like the wind, so I believe I am a good contributor, but let's face it, it does require time and when I invest an hour or more going back and forth and answering questions between general chat and PM and don't get anything out of it, I have to ask myself how much benefit it really is PR-wise. I would say not a good return from that point of view...but then again I am new, have only been on for a few weeks. I do not have a cam nor wish to use one. I am not sure if that would increase my chances for appointment, but honestly I am not going to sit there and give a show, so what's the point. You wanna know what I look like - go to my site and see my pics or book me! I know a couple of SPs (members) who told me they don't go into chat anymore because it's a waste of time for them. But overall, I would say the guys have been pretty nice. When I have been on, there have been very few ladies come on, and when they did, they didn't stay on long. In short, thought, in terms of PR, was NOT beneficial at all, to me. If it works for other ladies, all the power to them. Any calls I have gotten off CERB were not as a result of chat, and I invested quite a bit of time answering questions with guys who seemed interested and said they were going to book me, but so far haven't. I know the purpose of chat is not to troll for business, but they were the ones who messaged me for more info. ...let's be honest, I'm not here to be some guy's entertainment for hours on end in cyberspace. We all have our priorities. I will continue to use chat, but probably not to the extent I have over the past couple of weeks as a newbie "feeling" myself around. I am grateful that I did not have any "bad" experiences really, that I was made to feel welcome, so at least I can feel comfortable going on even if there are no other ladies present. But, yes, lurkers...they're there....definitely. Hope my feedback helps.

Not so much on CERB, but when someone calls and then they don't remember who they called, and start asking questions that are clearly posted in my ad and if not there, on my web-site, that right there is a turn-off! I am not hard to get along with, but questions like what's your name, again? What do you look like...how old are you, do you offer Greek? What part of town are you in... DUH... if you don't know who you're calling, Buddy, maybe you shouldn't have dialed my number because if you even took 2 minutes to read my ad/website you would know these things and not have to ask and waste m time. I say waste my time because there is no way I am going to spend 10 minutes on the phone or reply to a dozen text messages or e-mails...because those are the ones who seldom book, or show up. If you want clarification, that's another thing...but if you wrote down a bunch of phone numbers and are now too stupid to remember who's who, then bypass my number and move on...because I'm not interested in seein you. And another thing, please don't try to bargain me down! That's an insult. I have not had any bad experiences with anyone from CERB, so maybe those common sense things that Carrie referred to, are working...

My perfect size is 7 inches!

I agree with cumquat...I mean is there actually still such a thing as "dial-up" available? I used Ottawa Freenet years ago...I mean years ago...they were good then for what I used it for, but aren't you limited with what you can download with dial-up? :roll:

I went on an outcall once where the client wanted me to smoke a cigarette on the end of cigarette holder and ask very sultry while I put my foot on his chest, while he whacked off. I pretended to smoke (without inhaling). He admitted later, he was a non-smoker himself, he just bought them for the call, so the smokes went in the garbage. I thought about it later. I was downtown. Maybe one us could have offered them to some street person. What do you think?:twisted:

One of my regulars takes me for a ride on his motocycle. I love bikes too! The best ones are the guys who always ask the can pick me up something, like a Timmies...a phone card, etc. I find that thoughtful. The nicest ones are the ones who are appreciative and always include a tip...which when it happens is a nice surprise. One CERB member treated me to lunch the other day. He brought home-made Indonesian Chicken Curry, Beef and Broccoli, served with Jasmine Rice. It was scrumptious...I took care of the dessert! I have one regular who always put the donation inside a nice card in an envelope. For some reason that makes me feel special.

Sounds like you're having a blast doing this. Glassware in the bedroom is okay, but in the bathroom (for romantic soaks in the tub, a no-no. Accidents can happen - you can always get some nice acrylic glassware (including wine glasses)). As for the bathroom selection of toiletries, remember spray on deodorant (for men) (obviously not the rub on kind) and combs (for bed head) As for razors, get the 3-4 blade type. A big bottle of mouthwash with little dixie cups is a great idea. Instead of burning candles, why not try those battery operated ones that look like real candles but don't emit a smell. It's true what another member said, you should try to mimimze scents as much as possible due to allergies and smell transferring onto their clothing. That goes for me wearing perfume, I never wear perfume unless it's requested, and that is usually on an outcall. Have fun!

Some of my clients will call ahead and ask if they can bring me something from Timmies... (coffee, donut, ice-cap, etc.). An Indonesian client brought me a scrumptious lunch the other day of rice, and curried chicken and beef and broccoli... I have received other gifts from clients over the years...

Since you asked...if a guy is too small, too hard to keep the condom on...have to hold it so it doesn't slide off...not pleasant for either party. If too big, harder to do good oral. Perfect for me is 5-7 inches for oral. 8 is perfect for intercourse. 8+ can be uncomfortable. Then there is always the issue of how thick he is too. A 9" pencil dick feels different than a 9" sausage dick. Like MandalayBay, I prefer an erect penis that is smaller than a semi-erect one that is bigger. Unfortuanately I am seeing more and more of those (on younger guys even) these days. Makes you wonder about stress and lifestyle.....hmmm.

A client who I saw recently told me the main reason he chose me was because I am an non-smoker. He said this was very important to him as he was very sensitive. Then he went on to tell me about an SP who assured him she was a non-smoker and when he got there, he said her hair and clothes smelled like smoke. For you guys who are non-smokers, do you prefer an SP who doesn't smoke, or do you really care as long as she doesn't smell like an "ashtray" (or even if she does???) For you SPs who don't smoke, does it bother you to see clients who smoke? As a non-smoking SP, I do tolerate clients who smoke (although I do not permit smoking in my house and in 15 years I only had 1 person "light up" in front of me. I can only recall a few guys who have grossed me out, but it wasn't so much that they were a smoker, but that they hadn't showered. I just wondered what others experiences have been with this. Just asking, because I got call out of it!

I already flag those all the time...and will continue to do so, especially the posts that slag others...so I hope that helps.:!: Unfortunately it seems like for every one you flag, 2 more pop up and take its place. That's the disadvantage of free boards...people do whatever they want...make forums out of them etc. Even the community moderating doesn't seem sufficient to stamp it out... That's why I like this board, that nonsense is not tolerated here. Thanks CERB.

Here are some facts to consider: The number of requests for outcalls has dropped substantially over the past 10 years. Unless you work for an agency that is "busy" or an private driving service that has other clientele, don't expect to make a lot of money. 2) The requirement for "security" - I feel safer knowing that my driver isn't going to drive off if the going gets bad. However, no word of a lie...in 15 years, I have never had a driver have to leave his vehicle to come to my aid. A few have had to have a few words with some uncooperative types over the phone...but either I am lucky or those things do not happen as often as some might think (to legitimate SPs who aren't into ripping guys off, that is). And I have worked in some pretty tough places like Fort. St. John, B.C. and Grande Prairie, Alberta. 3) I would be hesitant to advertise your services on the free boards as you will probably get weirdos contacting you (as did one of my drivers). Also, there is the ever-present Ottawa City by-law officers is always out to crack down on what they refer to "gypsy taxis". Better to go "word of mouth" I agree with CK - contact some "reputable" agencies. :wink:

When a young guy (under 30) wants the older woman experience and they call me, most of them are polite and respectful. I get the drift that they may not know much about "how it works", I tell them. When some of them start off like know-it-alls, I usually nip that in the bud pretty good..., but the conversation usually turns around very fast to the point where I've even been called M'am (ugh!). But honestly, being over 40 does have its advantages. I seem to get the young guys who are very respectful. Guys in their 30s and up who like me, it's usually because I'm a little heavier, but also because I'm older, I suppose. Maybe I should ask...