Phaedrus

Happy birthday, Toine!

Please re-read my post. I said it was technically possible with a cylinder of compressed air, NOT with just lung-pressure. FYI, I unfortunately DID waste an entire minute of my life reading it. Regrettably, that's a minute I'll never get back. The author of that Cosmo post displays little evidence of any understanding of biology, physics, or - alas - journalism. As so often happens, any relation to reality has been sacrificed to achieve an eye-catching headline.

It sounds like we need to send a huge hug to all who knew kechara.

Sorry, probably wasn't clear... but my post wasn't aimed at you, or at anyone else for that matter. Given that this is the "New to this" section and that this is a sticky thread, it was aimed as much at someone who may read it in the future as at anyone who may read it now. Yes, you, person who's reading this in August 2013. I'm talking about YOU!

I doubt it. The camera's on his car, and as such the footage can always be mysteriously lost if it shows the cop in a bad light. This one did a good job, though, so it goes on TV instead.

I'm having trouble getting my head around the idea that you might be inhibited about something... :)

Perhaps. Something else that's happened over the last few years is the continuing growth of the Internet, and with it online communities such as this one. There is now a wealth of information about the SPs that are available, and how to go about seeing them, that simply didn't exist a few years ago. The existence of a community also provides simple reassurance to the new hobbyist or SP that they are not alone, and that many other well-adjusted individuals are doing the same as them. For many people, it's hugely comforting to know that you're not some kind of freak. I'd argue that the invention of the Internet is of more significance than the invention of ED meds, to be honest.

And not just her. If personal stuff gets out in public, other SPs will notice, and although they might not say anything at the time, they'll definitely bear it in mind should you contact them in future.

Has it occurred to you that some people who have many partners may do so because they enjoy the sex?

This is the most WTF thing I've read for quite a long time...

Cleo, perhaps?

I think RedSeductress and Parker may be out there... but I'm not 100% sure about that in either case, so I'd suggest you ask them directly...

My suspicion is that this sort of thing should probably be left to doctors. I believe Viagra can react badly with some other medications or medical conditions (not sure what, off the top of my head), so things could perhaps become rather less than fun if you gave it to someone who shouldn't have it... I can't believe any reasonable person would expect a SP to provide little blue pills, so there's probably no downside to just not doing so. And unreasonable people will just find something else to be unreasonable about even if you did :)

Look at this. You may have seen it before, but not like this: That's not a photo; it's a pencil drawing. So are these: The artist has a blog, which is worth a look. What really impressed me was his series of snapshots of the work-in-progress that became... this.

It's possible. Perhaps new methods of preventing the transmission of STIs will become available, and condoms will become obsolete. Of course, things could go the other way, too. Gonorrhea will probably become incurable in the not-too-distant future unless we come up with some new antibiotics. And if that happens, things that are currently considered acceptably low-risk by many may go off the menu entirely.

Dear MN2, What have you been doing with everyone? I've just logged in to see no posts at all, all day! Has everyone been at your place and somehow become distracted? I wish you well with your bath, although it sounds to me like you need a bathtub built for two hundred, not just two. Or is the reason your closet is bursting at the seams because you locked everyone else in there so you could enjoy a bath with just one other person? If so, I'll be over in a sec :) All the best Phaedrus

If we're talking about guys who already have jobs and careers, they're quite possibly not interested in actually becoming a RMT. I'd consider being able to give a decent massage to be a useful life skill in its own right. Of course, finding somewhere to learn that's actually compatible with having a current full-time job might be another matter entirely. I get the impression that becoming a RMT involves a significant amount of time and effort...

Thanks, guys. I never really thought to take it up with management at the time. In retrospect, I should have done. Anyway, hopefully others can learn from my mistake. The odd extra song, I can live with (I'll remember and probably avoid that dancer in future, unless she's very good, but I can live with it) and I wouldn't consider it worthy of comment. But this was... different.

And thank you for continuing the conversation. It's good to talk about stuff. Especially since I'm feeling an attack of verbal diarrhea coming on :) Fair enough. I appreciate that not everyone likes to discuss everything, or indeed anything. I sure as hell don't discuss everything myself :) One thing to bear in mind, though: we're all anonymous here. I doubt that your name is really Fred Smith (although I'll concede it might be :) ), and you can rest assured that I'm not known as Phaedrus outside this community. The only time we every knowingly meet other CERBites is when we choose to, and when that happens we do so on an equal footing, knowing that we have a certain amount in common. The one exception is the ladies who choose to post pics of themselves containing readily-identifiable features... but to the best of my knowledge, none of us guys do that. We're all completely unknown, except to the people we've actually met. Going back to the issue of embarrassment, however, I'm sure that there's quite a bit of this goes on with recos. It's noticeable that the younger ladies seem to get recos more frequently than older ones; spinners more than BBWs; and all get fewer recos as time goes by. And I think that some of this is down to the locker-room mentality; we guys are fine with everyone knowing we banged the really hot girl, but the older, less slim one? Not so much, even when we'd actually prefer the latter. And if you'll forgive me ranting somewhat... this annoys me. Nobody here is going to start poking fun at, or judging, anyone else here based on what they do, or who they choose to do it with. I suspect that a lot of us guys are still somewhat intimidated by the locker-room fall-out from that time when you got drunk and made out with the person who your buddies considered unattractive... but I'd like to think that we're all long past that stage, now. I'm sure we've all been there, but haven't we grown up since? Well.... this is one reason why SPs are not like wives or girlfriends :) I've always been very impressed at the extent to which SPs are happy to know that we're having fun, even if with someone else. Seriously: I've never had anyone in this industry give me a hard time because I saw someone else, or didn't see her for a while. And to be honest, if that happened, it'd be a serious dis-incentive to see the SP who was giving me a hard time ever again. We are not here for that kind of girl-friend experience, and the ladies know it! On the other hand, I've had SPs mention other people that they think I should go and see. Really, it can't be emphasized enough: no worthwhile SP will ever pull shit like this. Never. For sure. And there are doubtless others that we haven't thought of. What I'm trying to do here is just to knock down as many of those reasons as I can :) Well... I'd call it inertia, rather than laziness :) But this comes back to something I said earlier: CERB, like any other online community, has far more lurkers and consumers of information than active producers. There's nothing that can be done about this, really; it's just the way the world is. But hell, perhaps the guy who appreciated my reco of a SP is the same guy who wrote the review on the car board that I found really useful last time I needed new wheels, or posted the amusing picture of a cat which just made me smile. Who knows? We can't all be productive everywhere. There just aren't enough hours in the day. But this is why I keep repeating (and I'm about to do it again): all we need to hear is, "I saw X. and had a good time." That's all. A thousand-word essay is not required. The easier and less intimidating we can make it to write recos, the more we'll get, probably. They are indeed. Which, of course, is why we want as many as possible :) Okay. That's enough for one post. Time for a dose of verbal Immodium :)

Dropped by for a bit yesterday afternoon. I met Savannah, who was very nice until she revealed her idiosyncratic pricing structure after the lapdance (I'm all for ladies charging what they want for whatever they like, but be up front about it, please!) Then I spent some time with Rosé, who was very sexy and gave me an awesome lapdance - she's definitely someone who I'd like to see more of. And finally, the highlight of the afternoon... Bridgette, of whom more here :)

I finally had a free Saturday afternoon yesterday, so I took the opportunity to do something I'd been wanting to do for a while.... visit Barb's and meet Bridgette! It didn't take me long to work out who she was... but, alas, she was busy. Still, good things come to those who wait, or so they say. And the wait was most definitely worth it. Bridgette is a delight to look at, and a pleasure to talk to - she's smart, naturally friendly and great at the art of conversation. However, as good as that was... at some point it's time to visit the CR. And that was even better; a very sexy and sensuous lapdance! Lots of fun! I left after that. Sure, I had things to do, but Bridgette was an impossible act to follow. But I'll be back to see her when I can!