Not wanting to disclose username

[ChloeSummers 8409]

Lately I've been getting a slew of people trying to book me, but being uncomfortable provinding a phone number, a username on Lyla or other review sites, or their Twitter handle.

 

I keep getting the vague " privacy reasons" response.

 

Curious, if I give you my work number, and let you into my office to see me, why are you unable to provide a username from a place that allowes you to be anonymous, and is astronomically safer?

 

As an SP I find few things more invasive than meeting someone face to face and sharing your mind, bodies and souls, so it's interesting.

 

I'm not here to criticize, I'm genuinely wondering why, and if there is anything We SP's can do to make you more comfortable with your disclosure.

All the best!

-Chloe.

[Guest S****r]

When they won't reveal their online name, I always assume it's because they have written some harsh stuff online that they know would make us choose not to see them.

[GentMada 2181]

I think it is fair to ask for the board handle OR/AND references when meeting with a new client... I don't see any privacy issue! If the client resists, then IMHO it is a red flag, he has something to hide.

 

Cheers

GM

[Katherine of Halifax 113931]

I have one client I have seen a few times when he visits Halifax. It is always for the whole evening. Dinner and a really pleasant time. However I do not know his name and I never will.

 

He came to me with a very strong reference from a lady I know personally and she guaranteed his good character . There is not one fault I can find with this man. He just has this policy he won't give his name and well lady's can either choose to see him or not.

 

He even shields the dinner bill when he signs off . Once in awhile it bothers me that he will never trust me but it something for me to deal with.

 

At the end if the day it doesn't matter, we have a nice evening and part company until he comes back again. He even has me call or text to ensure I arrive back home safely.

[roamingguy 300291]

Back when I worked I wouldn't give my office number (and where I worked I'll wager if a companion called there she might get a heart attack...but I digress)

I fully gave all other screening information

Name, board handle confirmed by PM, phone (including cell phone carrier company) email, and reference and in all cases but one was that acceptable for screening

The reason I didn't like giving my work number out is first I worked in LE (no not police) and second the office I worked in was small and shared with two other people...there was no privacy if I got a phone call

One lady I wanted to see didn't care about all other screening info, she just wanted my work number. I found this strange, and I didn't book her

All that said, when a prospective client won't trust you with his personal information, why should he expect you to trust him to be alone with him intimately? One is a matter of privacy, one is a matter of safety and security. And a lady's safety and security trump a man's privacy every time

A rambling

 

RG

[Guest st*****ens**ors]

Admittedly I have very little experience, but I know that the first time I contacted a lady I was very nervous about giving out my number or name (I hadn't stumbled on Lyla yet which makes things much simpler)

 

My concern was based on simple ignorance. I didn't know if my information would be used to hurt or embarrass me because I knew very little about...well pretty much anything.

 

So many newcomers may be similar. Point them to Lyla as a resource, and you may find that information is the cure for their concern as it was for me.

[roamingguy 300291]

Admittedly I have very little experience, but I know that the first time I contacted a lady I was very nervous about giving out my number or name (I hadn't stumbled on Lyla yet which makes things much simpler)

 

My concern was based on simple ignorance. I didn't know if my information would be used to hurt or embarrass me because I knew very little about...well pretty much anything.

 

So many newcomers may be similar. Point them to Lyla as a resource, and you may find that information is the cure for their concern as it was for me.

 

I was the same in my newbie days. I thought seeing escorts was about anonymous encounters. When I booked a date with a lady who required full verification/screening, I gave my name to her...it was like, OMG she knows who I am. It felt like Batman unmasked and known as

Bruce Wayne LOL. But I've learned especially from this board about screening/verification and it is a normal part for many ladies of booking dates and seeing companions

 

RG

[Ice4fun 78396]

If I am booking with a lady than the probability is that I have done my homework and confirmed that she is an established and reliable and as such I normally don't have any real concern with providing her with my information including phone number, name, Lyla profile info etc. I have never felt it was necessary to share my profession information or work phone number with a lady.

 

If I have a problem with providing verifiable information that the lady can use in her screening process then maybe I should not be booking.

 

In my experience if you can provide references from other established ladies and you share your profile info from here on Lyla many ladies don't ask for anything more then a phone number and hey communication is kinda important.

 

I would kind of have to agree if someone does not want to share their lyla profile info then there is something not quite right with the situation.

 

Just my Opinion

[ChloeSummers 8409]

I normally take it as a red flag too. Some clients seem to think that girls will go behind their back and give them a needlessly bad review or recommendation, this is untrue. A strong majority of us prioritize safety over everything else.

 

As for gossip, you have to do something pretty terrible like physically hurt the SP, rip off a condom, breach consent and limitations, or be very verbally abusive.

 

There just doesn't seem much reason to do so, but I wanted to be fair and ask, just in case.

[johnybird 4391]

If a woman is willing to get intimate with me, without even knowing me, I think the very least I could do is give her my Lyla Handle :)

[Luckyme 41401]

I have absolutely no problem when a lady I'd like to see for the first time asks me for my board handle, phone no. or even a reference from another lady. In fact, the first info. I'd provide her voluntarily are my handles (from two sites) in the hope that this will make her feel as comfortable as possible - keeping in mind that I am a total stranger to her.

 

But having been here for a while, I have come to realize that there's another school of thought some clients have in giving out handles. They are reluctant to share this info. claiming that, by not knowing their handles, the lady would provide her service without biases - and not giving better service or better treatment to an established board member, for example.

 

Personally, I really do not care too much whether this thinking is true or not. I'd rather have a good time with a lady who knows what to expect and is comfortable in seeing me.

[Guest S****r]

I have absolutely no problem when a lady I'd like to see for the first time asks me for my board handle, phone no. or even a reference from another lady. In fact, the first info. I'd provide her voluntarily are my handles (from two sites) in the hope that this will make her feel as comfortable as possible - keeping in mind that I am a total stranger to her.

 

But having been here for a while, I have come to realize that there's another school of thought some clients have in giving out handles. They are reluctant to share this info. claiming that, by not knowing their handles, the lady would provide her service without biases - and not giving better service or better treatment to an established board member, for example.

 

Personally, I really do not care too much whether this thinking is true or not. I'd rather have a good time with a lady who knows what to expect and is comfortable in seeing me.

 

I think there is a bigger need to be aware that a lot of women won't see the guys on the boards who post trash talk about other girls or the industry in general. But the answer isn't to hide their names, the answer is to stop talking trash.

[ChloeSummers 8409]

Real name is fine by me, I mean online usernames only :0 Not sure if that clarifies. If a date took me out to dinner, I would not be offended if the name was covered.

[Charlotte Edwards 8590]

I am wondering if you are able to tell that they are newbies and possibly have little experience, or maybe no board handle, or if they sound like they know what they are doing but are being secretive and evasive and that's why they refuse to give it.

 

I find there's those 2 types, those with no real handle to give, or if they have one they don't post and it tells you nothing about them and is kind of useless as a screening method.

 

And the other type is the well seasoned hobbyist who takes reviewing and his anonymous freedoms very seriously online, and either thinks if he tells you his handle you will be able to tell other ladies, or you will know when he reviews you and say something if you don't like his critique or if something was untrue.

 

It's kind of weird, most guys don't trash ladies in reviews or do anything in session to warrant warning others, but there's a few who are overly paranoid about their online persona and freedoms, and others that really do have bad behaviour online to hide that won't make them the most desirable client to you.

[dread pirate roberts 4036]

I understand someone not wanting to give their real name or a work number, but their Lyla username? I can't see any legitimate reason not to disclose that - reasons, yes, but legitimate ones, no.

[kelly1 100]

Being new to this take my comment for what it is worth but I see both concerns as valid; the SP's need for safety and security and the client's need for privacy. So my question as a newbie is, what is the

best middle ground?

[Charlotte Edwards 8590]

If you don't want to give a board handle you will likely be asked for a reference and your full real name.

 

If you don't want to give your full real name you will likely be asked for a reference (or several) and a board handle.

 

Honestly escorts could care less about who you see and what you do online, unless it's trying unsafe things and mentioning it or being disrespectful hiding behind a username.

 

In my experience those who wanted to keep their real identity separate from their board handle had no problem giving real info and/or a reference but were hiding their board handle because they were quite rude to ladies after the fact and full of themselves online.

 

 

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[johnybird 4391]

Being new to this take my comment for what it is worth but I see both concerns as valid; the SP's need for safety and security and the client's need for privacy. So my question as a newbie is, what is the

best middle ground?

 

 

Being new to this take my comment for what it is worth but I see both concerns as valid; the SP's need for safety and security and the client's need for privacy. So my question as a newbie is, what is the

best middle ground?

 

There is no middle ground. Some SP's won't require any information and some will and the ones that will, will give you a few different options.

 

They are taking the biggest risk with meeting a stranger, so if you want to see that specific lady then you have to give her whatever information she requires that would make her feel the most comfortable.

 

In my Opinion, the more comfortable they feel, the better your experience will be.

 

If you're not comfortable divulging anything, then you just have to find a lady that doesn't require any information.

[Olderismorefun 150]

There is no reason I would wish to hide my username, if anything I would appreciate someone looking to see that I am indeed the person I say I am. If there are ever bad reviews then either I truly deserve it or the other person took something wrong. Either way I would want to know so I could resolve said issue if possible.

 

If you hide then stay hidden otherwise enjoy life and let someone else enjoy who you are!