How To Have Sex With Escorts: A Primer

[roamingguy 300291]

For me it's about the companionship of which the sexual side is but one part of it. I enjoy all aspects of the encounter. And I don't see encounters as a zero sum game, that is, whatever I gain is at a ladies loss (irrespective of me being the client), it is mutually beneficial, and both the lady and gentleman should be able to have a positive encounter

RG

[MisterMike 1873]

As an SP, I can only speak for myself and my own methods, but in my reality, people deserve respect, courtesy and politeness from the start, without having to earn it.

 

I don't sit back and watch them try to please me with phrases like "treat me well and I'll treat you well". That's a bribe, plain and simple. And frankly it's distasteful.

 

This thread is a wonderful "think piece" and I have learned a lot from it. Thanks Berlin for originating it and to several ladies for sharing their experiences. Hopefully this will make me a better hobbyist. This forum is an excellent resource in promoting understanding and with understanding comes respect.

 

Although I am new to this "hobby" I would think it is common sense that any woman willing to share her treasures with me is worthy of my full respect and courtesy. The concept of wanting to get "your money's worth" by banging away for the entire allotted time is obscene. If I were a SP this kind of activity would totally turn me off and I would probably consider other career options going forward.

 

It's the same as with any other professional one might need to retain; doctor, attorney, accountant, etc. They are all providing their knowledge and experience but a companion provides all of that and a lot more.....a whole lot more. And, at least in my case, it's more a matter of "want" than "need".

[Guest **l****uz]

...if you are interested in engaging in a full range of sexual behaviour, please realize that "sex" does not simply equal penetration for as long as humanly possible. After awhile it is painful, un-stimulating and rather boring. If a woman is not turned on, she doesn't create those delicious lubricating fluids ...

While we are providing a very intimate service, aimed at generating your pleasure and satisfaction, we have emotions, and physical limits. So keep that in mind the next time you're with your favourite lady.

 

I am very happy to read this post, to see that some people are actually in tune and aware of what these sexual experiences are supposed to be about!

[bigbman 129]

As a male, I have to say that I find the "penetrative sex" rather boring too. I think most of the fun is in the foreplay! ;)

[freddy4escort 260]

Wow what awesome advise! Thanx for sharing. I would love to see you! We'd get along just fine. ;)

[Jdilly 122]

Thanks for the advice. I am meeting my first SP ever tomorrow night in Edmonton and want to have a good experience. I do want to do some "jack hammering" but I also want her to be comfortable and get off as well.

[Cyndall_Kent 6880]

This is extremely well put. The whole experience can be delightful, and sometimes kissing all over someone's body and hearing their noises and seeing their arousal is enough to arouse me! Penetrative sex is GREAT and quickies are fine depending on the situation, but there is soooo much more that can be done!

 

Thanks for writing this, Berlin.

[aubreyxxx 20240]

Thanks for the advice. I am meeting my first SP ever tomorrow night in Edmonton and want to have a good experience. I do want to do some "jack hammering" but I also want her to be comfortable and get off as well.

 

 

I meant to write I hope your first experience was spectacular lol

[Guest t****ster***ke]

it would appear the original poster is essentially saying she does not appreciate being treated like an object, which is fair because a) our society tends to objectify women and b) she works in an industry where people often confuse their purchase of a service with a purchase of a person.

 

i get a sense that a number of the hobbyists on here, and especially those who post frequently, have a more romantic attitude towards the dynamic than the types of people the original poster was referring to. i personally prefer that illusion of romance, because otherwise, it's a very mechanical experience. we are all in it for the release, but the quality of the "finish" is almost always a direct function of the quality in the "build up".

[Harrywatch 200]

Well, some ladies just wanna to finish the sex as fast as they can and pass over to the next partner. In fact, if a lady has had many sex partners, she probably has a difficult to enjoy the sex very much, at least not as much as the lady who doesn't have many sex partners.

[SamanthaEvans 166766]

Well, some ladies just wanna to finish the sex as fast as they can and pass over to the next partner. In fact, if a lady has had many sex partners, she probably has a difficult to enjoy the sex very much, at least not as much as the lady who doesn't have many sex partners.

 

I don't think that these generalizations apply to most of us, Harrywatch. Speaking for myself, as one who has had more than "many" partners, I have no difficulty whatever enjoying the sex. I often enjoy it a great deal. Perhaps this is because I take time to get to know the men who visit me and to create an atmosphere where we can be comfortable together and our mutual pleasure increased. In fact, I think that time and experience has enhanced my ability to enjoy everything that goes on between us.

[royalflush131313 3480]

I think a lot of it boils down to respect as well. As with any other aspect of life, if you treat people with respect, you're more likely to be respected back. As clients we are just as responsible as the ladies we spend time with for how much we both an encounter. Again as with anything in life, you get out what you put in. If your only goal is to get in and get off then you're not only disrespecting your partner, you're severely limiting your own enjoyment in what could be a fabulous experience. Obviously the experience is more enjoyable when all parties involved are 'into' it and having a good time. Watching someone else get turned on is an incredible turn on itself. And as Samantha says, the more experience you have, the more in tune you are with your own body and the more you learn what others like. The human body is a wonderful thing. You should take your time and enjoy all it has to offer!

[Phaedrus 209521]

In fact, if a lady has had many sex partners, she probably has a difficult to enjoy the sex very much, at least not as much as the lady who doesn't have many sex partners.

 

Has it occurred to you that some people who have many partners may do so because they enjoy the sex?

[Barnsworth 267]

I have to thank you all for the advice on this thread. I have as of this time never been with an escort, but I intend to have my first experience soon and will heed your words of Wisdom.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Well, some ladies just wanna to finish the sex as fast as they can and pass over to the next partner. In fact, if a lady has had many sex partners, she probably has a difficult to enjoy the sex very much, at least not as much as the lady who doesn't have many sex partners.

 

 

I think the ladies who last longer in this business are people who are sexually comfortable with themselves and while it's a lucrative business, I'm a firm believer in the fact that if you don't like what you're doing for a living then don't do it.

 

I don't do anything I don't want to do and yes, while --some-- do it for the cash, they are usually in and out of this business fairly quickly. I treat this like a business but at the same rate, many ladies provide good service and are not revolving door when it comes to seeing clients.

 

As for women enjoying sex with less partners, then please explain why married men come to see us? Some wives simply no longer enjoy having sex so that puts that theory right out the window. For the record, I'm not judging married men for doing that as that's what we are here for. In fact, I believe SPs do in fact save many marriages.

[Wolf Knight 29667]

As a man who is new to, and considering exploring a SP "experience" this was a wonderful thread. It provided varied thoughts and points of view and served to clarify how I belived an encounter should proceed. Actually, I find this entire community quite enlighting. Thanks to everyone for your contributions.

 

Although I am sure that I possess the "basic" life skills (simple golden rule) to have a positive experience I have to admit that I have been a little nervous of "taking the leap". Now nervous and a little shy may come off as cute and endearing to an experienced, professional SP, however there is a fine line between that and a bumbling idiot (which I really wanted to avoid if possible). Reading through the posts of wonderful SP's that take pride in the experience they provide and the knowledge of genuine hobbists who know the in's and out's (seriously no pun intended) of this field has made me much more comfortable going forward.

 

Kudo's to everyone. Hopefully with a little luck, an open schedule and the help of a certain SP I'll be able to provide contributions of value soon.

 

Chuck

[Athos 108589]

As a man who is new to, and considering exploring a SP "experience" this was a wonderful thread. It provided varied thoughts and points of view and served to clarify how I belived an encounter should proceed. Actually, I find this entire community quite enlighting. Thanks to everyone for your contributions.

 

Although I am sure that I possess the "basic" life skills (simple golden rule) to have a positive experience I have to admit that I have been a little nervous of "taking the leap". Now nervous and a little shy may come off as cute and endearing to an experienced, professional SP, however there is a fine line between that and a bumbling idiot (which I really wanted to avoid if possible). Reading through the posts of wonderful SP's that take pride in the experience they provide and the knowledge of genuine hobbists who know the in's and out's (seriously no pun intended) of this field has made me much more comfortable going forward.

 

Kudo's to everyone. Hopefully with a little luck, an open schedule and the help of a certain SP I'll be able to provide contributions of value soon.

 

Chuck

 

Go with an experienced provider, and explain your situation and your concerns. You won't come across like a bumbling idiot, and you'll leave feeling great about yourself.

 

I think that since entering this lifestyle I've become more comfortable with my sexuality, developed better skills, and in general learned a lot ... both about myself and about how to please a woman. I've tried things (and enjoyed them) that 15 years ago i could never have even imagined.

 

In some ways, if you don't feel like you're very skilled, that's a really good reason to see a professional. You'll do fine, and over time you'll do even better. And believe me, you're not going to get laughed at or made to feel badly about yourself. You'll be treated well, and develop more and more confidence.

 

Go forth and have a great time.

 

Porthos

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

I have had some experience with those that dont seem to understand that each woman is unique and what works with one wont work with another. Anyone who goes at the same breakneck speed and does not change their tempo or position will wear the kitty out. I find that after I have had several orgasms, and the big O, kitty is not interested in anymore penetration. She dries up and no amount of lube will make it enjoyable anymore, and actually hurts. After this happens, its game over for a few days till kitty is recovered.

 

I understand wanting to get your moneys worth. You work hard for your money and want to make sure that at the end of the session, you are fully satisfied. Just remember the kitty is not meant for extended penetration. The porns make it look like this is how it is supposed to be, but in reality, my best O's have been with everything else, then some penetration - maybe the maximum of 15 minutes of penetration. And remember, who needs a 12 inch cock when we have a 6 inch pussy?

 

I still remember a client who would pound away for 55 minutes. No foreplay, just a jack hammer while I grit my teeth. Needless to say, I would not book him after a couple of sessions and no amount of explanation would get him to understand that all he needed was a hole in the wall. After you have had great lovemaking, its kinda hard to go with this type of mentality that we are just an object for their pleasure and that they paid for 60 minutes to fuck me.

[hoffa68 939]

A s a newbie, this was definetley interesting reading. (althoug I didn't read all 12 pages. I do have a life you know ;) ). In what I discovered in my first few days of checking out the escort business, it seems that the SPs on this site seem to be more intune with a more erotica adventure. It appears to me that the SPs on BP (Not all mind you) would be more for the jack hammer types

 

Luckily at my age, the jack hammer days are behind me and a more erotica adventure is needed

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

A s a newbie, this was definetley interesting reading. (althoug I didn't read all 12 pages. I do have a life you know :wink: ). In what I discovered in my first few days of checking out the escort business, it seems that the SPs on this site seem to be more intune with a more erotica adventure. It appears to me that the SPs on BP (Not all mind you) would be more for the jack hammer types

 

 

Sweetie, some of us actually advertise on BP too.....You just need to do your research! Happy searching!

 

Meaghan

[7879893030 211]

Great information available in here.

 

I'm not over the hill and still find woman to be like a great wine, you don't just pop the cork and guzzle it down. You enjoy it and savour the experience, let the air intensify the flavours, maybe even enjoy some items to go with it like Cheese or similar paring.

 

For myself penetration is the end, I like it like any other man, but there is so much more to pleasure then bang bang bang.

 

I'm a newbie and have not booked with anyone yet, still waiting and reading.

[turtle 220]

Wham Bam Thank you mam... Not for me.

Long (at least 50 min) slow foreplay with your partner. Hold touch laugh talk wow what an experience... If only.

Great topic, love to keep learning about love.

[timmiesrun31 100]

865 days as a new member. I have allways looked at escorts from a far but never slept with them. I never know who to trust.

[Eric Northman 16522]

865 days as a new member. I have allways looked at escorts from a far but never slept with them. I never know who to trust.

 

Dude, seriously...just fucking do it. Who can you trust? Everyone. All the ladies who advertise here and have review threads are absolutely trustworthy as far as your needs are concerned.

 

You're not giving them your bank account or SIN number or first born child for fucks sake. Shave your nuts, wash your ass, head to the ATM and have at it. Don't be a pussy.

[geemingyu 100]

Dude, seriously...just fucking do it. Who can you trust? Everyone. All the ladies who advertise here and have review threads are absolutely trustworthy as far as your needs are concerned.

 

You're not giving them your bank account or SIN number or first born child for fucks sake. Shave your nuts, wash your ass, head to the ATM and have at it. Don't be a pussy.

 

That's a great way of putting it Eric! I'll need to make that leap really soon!