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[Guest C*****tte]

What do you find attractive in men? I'm not referring to clients, but a guy you'd meet in "civilian" life?

 

What do you ladies consider to be the perfect man?

 

How often do you meet a client, hope to see him again, but never do?

 

Have you guys ever had a guy absolutely obsessed with you?

 

Do you have a role model within the business past or present?

 

Q1 - I tend to be attracted to brunettes (men or women). I think this started when I was in grade 7 and it just stuck.

 

Q2 - A perfect man? Perfect woman? Perfect human being? Perfect partner? No such thing.

 

Q3 - I have had a few clients tell me they wish they could repeat with me but they have a rule not to repeat. I took them at their word given the mutual enjoyment of the appointment.

 

Q4 I have had some mild infatuations but nothing stalkerish. Knock on wood.

 

Q5 I have friends who have been in the business for many years. We definitely learn from each other. No mentors though.

 

Additional Comments:

When an SP decides to charge an additional fee for certain services (ex: CoF, CIM/SW, etc) is it because she doesn't mind performing these services, but feels that the market will allow her to charge an additional fee and does so as a business decision? Or is it because, while they may not really like it, they feel that they can at least tolerate it and will do so for the additional fee? Or is it some unknown to me third reason?

 

I think this totally varies based on the lady and the climate in which she works. Agency ladies often make a good deal of their money on the upsells so regardless of enjoyment it is in their best interest to charge for acts besides the basic ones. Some ladies charge extra because it is more of a rare or specialized or riskier act and charging a premium keeps it that way. Doing that act is not something their bodies can handle each and every appointment or with every client.

 

Explicit example: a gal may enjoy CIM but every man tastes different and some not good at all. If you did that act every time with a client it might make you get turned off the act all together. So a lady doesn't offer it at all or she charges extra or is YMMV with this act.

 

Additional Comments:

1-Is humour a turn on?

 

2-What is a good way for us to break the ice if needed?

 

3-What is expected if you go past your time agreed on if you are both into deep conversation?

 

4-Is a last minute request a turn off?

 

5-What is your fav charity?

 

6-Without names, do you have a favourite client you would like to see more often?:wink:

 

7-Do you work if you get a cold?

 

Q1 - I like humour as long as it is not at someone else's expense. Exception stand up comedy. That is a bit different.

 

Q2 - I am a pretty chatting person and genuinely interested in the people I meet so to break the ice I ask questions about where people are from, their interests, etc... I know not to get too personal. I like it when a client takes the same approach. It is nice. Bringing a bottle of wine is another way to go. :-)

 

Q3 - I am not a clock watcher but I do my best to keep track of time as a form of mutual respect. On an outcall I am aware that a client may have other things to do so I try to wrap things up on time. I have a pretty busy schedule between school, webmaster work and escorting so I appreciate clients doing the same. Staying an extra fifteen minutes for wrapping up conversation happens sometimes. I do not extend without compensation for intimate acts though. To make an exception for an unpaid extension to a 1 hour would not be fair for those clients who do book and pay for longer appointments.

 

Q4 - Not a turn off, but not likely to be responded to in a timely manner much less be accepted as my schedule is rather overwhelming these days. I do not sit around bathed and dressed waiting for the requests to come in. But this is me and how I work. Other ladies are on call on certain days and times. Just know your provider and work within her availabilities. Pretty simple.

 

Q5 - My favourtie charity is Chez Stella. I also like Doctors Without Borders and Head and Hands.

 

Q6 - I do have clients I would like to see more often, but they only come to Montreal for business and this limits our visits to once or twice a year.

 

Q7 - I tend to stay home when I have a cold but there have been times I have had a cold and still seen a client. It depends where I am in the cold. I have asthma so it can take me some time to get over a cough, but it will have been a couple of weeks since I had other symptoms. I am pretty diligent about handwashing and ask the same of my clients. Even if you are not going to shower always go wash your hands before getting intimate. :-)

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

What do you find attractive in men? I'm not referring to clients, but a guy you'd meet in "civilian" life??

 

Their personality. If a guy has the personality of a door knob then I would rather have my teeth pulled than talk to him for a minute longer.

 

What do you ladies consider to be the perfect man???

 

There is no perfect man. Flaws build character and showing some humility doesn't hurt either.

 

How often do you meet a client, hope to see him again, but never do???

 

Once in a while but it's one of those things where you realize that this is a business and not to cross any boundaries. And then you say "Next!".

 

Have you guys ever had a guy absolutely obsessed with you???

 

Yes, one in particular. He used to taunt me with his postings on a now defunct review board. He was a personna everyone loved to hate including myself. I ended up meeting him without knowing who he was and within 5 minutes I was 98% sure it was the person from online just based on his conversation with me. Trolls need some loving too!

 

Do you have a role model within the buisness past or present?

 

Yes. Myself! Okay, not to sound too narcissistic but I have been in and out of the business for a number of years and have learned many, many things about myself.

 

Additional Comments:

I thought I'd throw my hat into the ring on this discussion. I hope the questions are not too personal in nature. I bring the topics up because they keep coming up in my head.

 

1) As a number of the ladies travel frequently and stay in numerous cities are there any coping mechanisms that you employ when you don't have your family or friends near-by to socialize with. (I ask because I know I found it rather difficult to move away to a new city. I was at an age where I was no longer participating as a student and thus my ability to meet new people was limited to my fellow co-workers or clients. That being said, the majority of my work is done solo)..

 

I used to travel extensively in this line of work and believe it or not, I ended up on a lot of off the clock dinner dates with clients simply due to the fact that I would be bored out of my mind in a hotel room. Now, don't get me wrong, I never encourage other SPs to go off the clock or have clients come to expect it but at that moment after the appt, it happened. They knew that it was a one time thing ( most were guys from the U.S and never saw many of them again). I also went out of my way to meet new SPs in the area where I was travelling. Many of them became good friends of mine.

 

 

2) Financial security. Whereas I know each individual must take responsibility for their own financial well being, I am interested to know on average does this profession provide for a reasonable means to retire. Assuming one takes the time to invest wisely.

 

File your taxes and find a good investment advisor. Many hobbyists think we make $500-1000/day and that simply isn't true. There were years for me where it was like that though. Depending on how often you work, an SP can make anywhere from 20K -100K/year. Anything above that is insanely ridiculous to believe or the SP is working herself to death or is a sex slave. I think the average escort income lies somewhere in the range between $40-80 K/yr. There are also a number of variable expenses to be deducted from this income such as expenses for incall locations and maintaining your appearance. This doesn't include personal expenses such as rent/mortgage, car, utility bills.

 

If you save your money, it is easy to retire but most escorts don't retire to the South of France. Lets be realistic. We all have bills to pay, families to take care of. I like to think that we are like other people with jobs, expenses, debts, investments to pay for and deal with. We are not hiding hundreds of dollars a day under our matresses. I remember there were years when I was in the business that it was extremely lucractive. And I always filed my taxes to make it legit. After 1.5 years of being in the business I bought my first house in my early 20's with a nice down payment.

 

Additional Comments:

I'll ask a question. Do the ladies prefer incalls or outcalls

If incall, at your home/condo, or do you prefer getting a hotel

If outcall, is the preference for a hotel or the hobbiest's home

RG

 

I am strictly an incall gal unless it is at a nice hotel with a regular. I keep a certain schedule and make it a point to be home at a certain time. I love my bed too much! No late night outcalls for me.

[quick25 137]

Not to get too far off topic but it is a quick fact that certain types of fruit can help with the taste. Such as pineapple. Now back to our regular scheduled programming.:arrow:

 

Explicit example: a gal may enjoy CIM but every man tastes different and some not good at all. If you did that act every time with a client it might make you get turned off the act all together. So a lady doesn't offer it at all or she charges extra or is YMMV with this act.

 

[Parker 19761]

What do you find attractive in men? I'm not referring to clients, but a guy you'd meet in "civilian" life?

 

What do you ladies consider to be the perfect man?

 

 

The perfect man does exist... His name is Patrick Stewart... Mmm...

I was recently talking to someone (everyone who knows me, lol) about this.

 

As for the previous question... Baldness... Something about bald guys really turns me on. /shrug

[roamingguy 300291]

 

As for the previous question... Baldness... Something about bald guys really turns me on. /shrug

 

You mean it's attractive to the ladies:bowdown:...there is hope for me

From a bald guy:rolleyes:

RG;)

[Genwar 101]

Hahaha, that works Boner!!!

 

I have lots of things I call myself, Sexual Therapist. Orgasm Consultant... Hehehe..

*(Hooker's more of the one I use when joking around with friends ;) haha)

 

All in all, I am who I am, I love what I do, and I love people. :)

 

I'm just Sara, and it doesn't matter what I call myself or what you or anyone else calls me.

That will never change me on the inside, and that's what matters. Lol!

 

 

SMQ OUT! :D

 

Well Sara, as far as I'm concerned, your'e great! Doesn't matter to me what your called. To me SEXY, Funny, Exciting are just a few of the words that come to mind.

[Apex2006 1071]

Now we are cooken! See how much fun this thread is!

If the ladies have any question feels free to ask too! I think this is a good way for us all to ask the stupid questions that no one else would ask and the good questions that no one else thought of!

If we work together, we can all learn about both sides of this trade!

Or have one huge ORGY!!!!

 

Apex

[Carrie Moon 68826]

Not to get too far off topic but it is a quick fact that certain types of fruit can help with the taste. Such as pineapple. Now back to our regular scheduled programming.:arrow:

 

I understood pineapple for girls.. and cucumbers/celery for guys..

 

but now I'm picturing a dick with a pineapple ring around it!

 

You mean it's attractive to the ladies:bowdown:...there is hope for me

From a bald guy:rolleyes:

RG:wink:

 

 

Yup.. so long as it's freshly shaved (no rug burn for me) I love rubbing a bald head.. and not only with my hands :smile:

[roamingguy 300291]

I understood pineapple for girls.. and cucumbers/celery for guys..

 

but now I'm picturing a dick with a pineapple ring around it!

 

 

 

 

Yup.. so long as it's freshly shaved (no rug burn for me) I love rubbing a bald head.. and not only with my hands :smile:

 

Well first off guess you can call me pineapple dick then;):rolleyes:;), cause I've been/will be eating fresh pineapple (this is day 2) for three days.

And I have heard the same thing about pineaple affecting taste want the ladies to :-P I've also heard eating beef leads to bad taste:sad:...haven't touched beef since Tuesday.

And I'm always freshly shaved, head, face and the boys when I hobby

(very carefull around the boys:shock:)

RG

[fortunateone 156618]

I'll throw in my own question!

 

When an SP decides to charge an additional fee for certain services (ex: CoF, CIM/SW, etc) is it because she doesn't mind performing these services, but feels that the market will allow her to charge an additional fee and does so as a business decision? Or is it because, while they may not really like it, they feel that they can at least tolerate it and will do so for the additional fee? Or is it some unknown to me third reason?

 

The reasoning behind my asking the question is important. I generally feel bad doing something to someone that they don't enjoy and while paying an additional fee for these things doesn't bother me, I would feel cheated if they weren't 100% comfortable with the act (sell the fantasy right? ;)). I wouldn't feel as though it were a mutually desired act, but merely something that is tolerated for money which completely ruins the mood for me.

 

I don't think you can read too much into it. In some areas of the country, adding an extra charge to specific services (like bbbj or even adding GFE to FS sessions) is fairly common. What it does is allows the client to choose the service session, and I think you can be fairly confident that an sp is not offering the service unless she is agreeable to it. If she is not, the option will not be available (there are some non-GFE FS sps for example in some mps in Edmonton. The rate is lower than a GFE FS session. There are many clients who do not want GFE, and having the GFE as an add-on means that the FS only guy does not have to pay as much as the GFE FS guy, which is fair considering he is not getting the same menu as the GFE FS guy.

 

An sp who starts out in this way may find she does the same kind of options wherever she works.

 

The other reason described to me by someone who offers greek at an extra charge, is the additional 100 means that there are fewer takers. This means the # of greek included sessions are fewer than if she did not charge extra, meaning that her body is not undergoing that additional stress as often as it might be. Even someone who enjoys greek is not going to enjoy it 3 times a day 6 days a week, or at the very least that will be super hard on her body, and/or she will end up not being able to do it one day but she won't know ahead of time, which will upset the client. The same might be said for bbbjs. It increases the risk of her health, so an extra charge means that not every client is going to choose to have it, so in the end she won't be doing it every session every day.

[roamingguy 300291]

Another question for the ladies

When initial contact is made by the hobbiest, do you prefer e-mail, text or phone call

I only ask because for the most part I use email (I can think of all the questions I have and write them, with a phone call, I'm sure to forget something, also you never know if your calling at a bad time or not)...but one lady preferred initial communication via phone

And one other question. For most guys that live in major cities, they don't need to book way ahead. For me, living in smalltown Ontario I have to schedule a free weekend (even single guys have responsibilities) ahead of time, plus travel (2 1/2 hrs to T.O, 3 1/2-4hrs Ottawa). Question is this, would someone like me (or me) booking around three months in advance make you suspicious, or would you take the appointment request seriously.

And for all the ladies that have, are endulging my need for planning ahead of time, THANK YOU

RG

[Amanda Bella 421]

The best part of being a Sex Worker it is leaning to deconstruc stereotypes about masculine identities. To learn male diversity and to know some guys are coll caring sensitive sweet hearts and some are not, it is something i could never had find out if i was a good girl all the time.

 

Exploration of different sexualities.

 

Meeting different people and sometimes having interesting tete a tete.

 

The freedom to have time to study and read mmmmmmmmm!

[Guest S**a*Q]

Another question for the ladies

When initial contact is made by the hobbiest, do you prefer e-mail, text or phone call

 

 

And one other question. For most guys that live in major cities, they don't need to book way ahead. For me, living in smalltown Ontario I have to schedule a free weekend (even single guys have responsibilities) ahead of time, plus travel (2 1/2 hrs to T.O, 3 1/2-4hrs Ottawa). Question is this, would someone like me (or me) booking around three months in advance make you suspicious, or would you take the appointment request seriously.

And for all the ladies that have, are endulging my need for planning ahead of time, THANK YOU

RG

 

 

I prefer email or PM, as I can write out what I have to say and have time to think. Sometimes when I answer the phone, I'm out or with someone, so I may not have all the time in the world to spend with someone, answering questions. *(I think it depends on when they want the meeting as well...) For meetings months in advance then email is fine, however if they're looking to meet me today, then the phone may be a better option.

 

Coming from Thunder Bay, I can attest to this, as advance bookings were mostly what I dealt with there. I liked knowing in advance what was going on. The advance bookings were good for me, and the clients cause it gave us some email time to get to know each other before meeting. :) I like knowing what I've got going on in advance, whether I be in a small town or in Ottawa.

[Guest r**u]

Am curious... I note alot SPs offer overnight stays and week-end get-aways (one I came across offered a ski-package), how frequent are such encounters? Is this more common than I think... or, are most visits of the one or two hour variety?

 

Roku

[Guest Ou**or**n]

+1 on roku's question, I've always been curious how many overnight sessions SP's get. I personally find the price quite high and I've wondered if it was either a great way to make money or whether it was something most ladies don't really want to do and thus price it high enough that it only happens rarely.

[etasman2000 15994]

I personally find the price quite high and I've wondered if it was either a great way to make money or whether it was something most ladies don't really want to do and thus price it high enough that it only happens rarely.

 

huh? the per hour compensation is always lower for an overnight.

[Guest S**a*Q]

Am curious... I note alot SPs offer overnight stays and week-end get-aways (one I came across offered a ski-package), how frequent are such encounters? Is this more common than I think... or, are most visits of the one or two hour variety?

 

Roku

 

In the year that I've been escorting I've had about 4 overnight calls, 2 each with 2 clients. I enjoy the overnight, but it has to be with someone that I feel comfortable with cause 12+ hours is a long time to spend with someone if there's no connection.

[Amanda Bella 421]

Another question for the ladies

When initial contact is made by the hobbiest, do you prefer e-mail, text or phone call

THANK YOU RG

 

Lately i realised when i have an opportunity to exchange pm/emails to get to know the hobbiest, and to explain what is erotic to me, my boundaries and fantasies. The meetings are way more passionate and based on shared interests which makes for a more meaningfull exchange.

 

 

Like Sarah said when you phone us full of questions asking questions that demands long essay answers, it can be stressfull for i might be busy at the gyn or relaxing with friends.

 

I despise essay type of questions, on the phone. For ex: a guy phone me in Ottawa asking me this:

''How do you feel about these men who visites you?'' I felt very stressed by this question because it requires a complex answer, and it is time consuming and i was very busy when i got the call. But i will answer now.

I feel like some guys are so busy with their careers they do not have time to invest in romantic relationships. Others hire me because they want to learn my erotic strategies to improove their marriages­.

Others need sexual diversity and some just want to know:

 

''What is like to do it with a Brazilian girl'

 

How do i feel about them? Different people cause in us different emotions. In a rare occasion. I felt in love with you. Some of you give me passionate sex without emotional conseqences. And some of you, after making me come over and over again. Then lectures me teaching me valuable lessons for most of you are an educated professionals. I dont mind lectures, in fact i love it!

Thank you.

[VictoriaJolie 64127]

Am curious... I note alot SPs offer overnight stays and week-end get-aways (one I came across offered a ski-package), how frequent are such encounters? Is this more common than I think... or, are most visits of the one or two hour variety?

 

Roku

 

 

 

I personally get more overnight in the Usa than Canada,i have found that my golf packages and ski/snowboard packages can get quite popular.

[Apex2006 1071]

I personally get more overnight in the Usa than Canada,i have found that my golf packages and ski/snowboard packages can get quite popular.

 

 

How is your golfing now?

 

:grin:

[VictoriaJolie 64127]

How is your golfing now?

 

:grin:

Not great but will improve next summer ;)

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[Kyra.Graves 23779]

Am curious... I note alot SPs offer overnight stays and week-end get-aways (one I came across offered a ski-package), how frequent are such encounters? Is this more common than I think... or, are most visits of the one or two hour variety?

 

Roku

 

I find my 4-6 hour date to be my most common request, then depending on the time of year and my marketing I may do more introductory type of dates (2-3hr) or more overnights which tend to be more common with those I've met previously. Weekend getaways and travel arrangements tend to be planned well in advance and are more common with those I know, I have only gone on one or two travel dates with people I have not previously met and we did communicate extensively in advance to be sure we had a good feel for each other.

I can't speak for other ladies but I find that having weekend packages, suggested outings, etc. listed on the site isn't so much about the date package itself but more about letting your potential clients know what type of dates you are interested in and the type of companion you are. If you focus on extended dates, travel and outside interests then your potential clients know you prefer dates that have an activity, some conversation and some interaction outside of the 1hr inside the hotel room, if on the other hand you are uncomfortable for whatever reason in a more social environment a lady would likely focus on shorter 30min-1hr dates (or something appropriate) and your potential clients can see you prefer a more intimate setting.

[VedaSloan 119179]

Being only 21 myself heres a question for you ladies, do you prefer older men or younger men?

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I don't care how old you are (provided you're legal) as long as you are respectful.

 

1-Is humour a turn on?

 

Abslutely! Guys who can make me laugh can get me to do just about anything :)

 

2-What is a good way for us to break the ice if needed?

 

Tell a joke!

 

3-What is expected if you go past your time agreed on if you are both into deep conversation?

 

On the whole, I'm not too much of a stickler about this sort of thing, though I do appreciate it if you at least offer to pay for the extra time.

 

4-Is a last minute request a turn off?

 

My feeling on last minute requests is that (and I may be wrong) those types of guys will see whoever happens to be available (for the most part). I would prefer someone who definitely wants to see me and not just because I happened to be the only one available when you called.

 

5-What is your fav charity?

 

While neither of these are charities per se, I still support them as much as I can: POWER (Prostitutes of Ottawa Gatineau Work Educate Resist) and PCCO (Pro-Choice Coalition of Ottawa) and of course, the Humane Society.

 

6-Without names, do you have a favourite client you would like to see more often?:wink:

 

Hell yeah :)

 

7-Do you work if you get a cold?

I do not. No point in making someone else sick.

 

What do you find attractive in a man?

 

Deep voices, confidence, authority, and a great ass.

 

Does the perfect man exist?

 

No one is perfect. But there are a few who come close.

[Guest willowindartmouth]

Hello... how does one post on here. i singned up for a account but cant figure out how to post....rrrrr

[Victoria Banks 21899]

1-Is humour a turn on?

 

Yes..laughter is contagious

 

2-What is a good way for us to break the ice if needed?

 

A passionate dfk

 

3-What is expected if you go past your time agreed on if you are both into deep conversation?

 

I dont expect anything if its 20 min or under..

Its happened except were into other deep things ;)

 

4-Is a last minute request a turn off?

 

Yes..

I prefer at least an hour and a half in advance and rarely take last minute bookings lately.

 

5-What is your fav charity?

 

The Ottawa Mission

 

6-Without names, do you have a favourite client you would like to see more often?

 

Yes very, very much

 

7-Do you work if you get a cold?

 

No way. I don't feel 100% and don't want to get others sick.

 

 

What do you find attractive in a man?

 

Good hygiene, well mannered, tall, shaved balls :bjs: good tasting cum, open minded, deep voice

 

Does the perfect man exist?

 

Probably very close.