pandacrazy 185 Report post Posted March 3, 2011 something has kept me away from the hobby for a while now and i don't know if it is a justifiable reason or not to do so. I used to be decently shaped a few years ago but unfortunately, some stress came up in my life and i got what we call a " stressed stomac" which reduces the amount of food you usually eat or how fast you digest.. and here comes the point. My weight dropped down to 130lbs and i am 5'8... kinda bothering me because when i visit a sp or mp, I wanna look good etc and that weight proportion kinda ruins it all because it is not attractive at all with all those muscles guys around that sp/mp pempers :( a Mp/sp would be a great stress relief but yea... My weight kinda stops me from visiting one :( I wonder if i am just complexing for nothing or I have good reasons to stay away from the lobby because that Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jughead 45 Report post Posted March 3, 2011 The most important thing is how you treat them, interact with them., if your gentle and can show them a good time. My guess would be an sp or mp wouold gladly spend time with a gentleman regardless of looks rather then the best looking jerk. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Megan'sTouch 23875 Report post Posted March 3, 2011 I speak in full honesty when I say that I don't care if my clients are attractive or not. It's not something I even think about. I care first and foremost about respect/hygiene, and second I care about your personality. I know this probably sounds like total bullshit "I don't care what you look like, just your personality" but it's the truth. Harsh reality is that I don't do this for my own sexual satisfaction, so why would I care what you look like? I've met many men who are not physically attractive, but after a couple sessions, they warm up to me and I find them quite charming and attractive. 8 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted March 3, 2011 something has kept me away from the hobby for a while now and i don't know if it is a justifiable reason or not to do so. I used to be decently shaped a few years ago but unfortunately, some stress came up in my life and i got what we call a " stressed stomac" which reduces the amount of food you usually eat or how fast you digest.. and here comes the point. My weight dropped down to 130lbs and i am 5'8... kinda bothering me because when i visit a sp or mp, I wanna look good etc and that weight proportion kinda ruins it all because it is not attractive at all with all those muscles guys around that sp/mp pempers :( a Mp/sp would be a great stress relief but yea... My weight kinda stops me from visiting one :( I wonder if i am just complexing for nothing or I have good reasons to stay away from the lobby because that How do you get this stressed stomach...I'd love to lose a few pounds...just kidding btw Alot of us are not GQ or Muscle and Fitness magazine cover material But it's the guy inside that counts...be a gentleman, treat them with respect, always good hygiene, that's what is important...and that's what the lady wants A male model that treats a woman like crap, well no sp/ma wants to see someone like that, but a guy who's a few pounds over (or under) and shows respect...it goes a long way My 2 cents RG 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cat 262460 Report post Posted March 3, 2011 Megan, JH and RG have made the point. It is not the appearance that matters, it's the attitude one approaches with. As long as your hygiene is good and you are smiling, I do not know of a provider that would not welcome you. Have faith and step off the edge... cat Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LJCC 100 Report post Posted March 3, 2011 Harsh reality is that I don't do this for my own sexual satisfaction' date=' so why would I care what you look like?[/quote'] Hi Megan, I should preface my comments by saying that I am a complete newbie and have not yet been with an escort, so I don't have any experience to validate my thoughts on this. I appreciate the honesty of your response. I think it's very true of any profession. For example, while my line of work is very different, I have clients who may lack in budget or scale of project but are very respectful, empowering and fun to work with- these clients always get my full attention and consideration. I suppose that holds true for any relationship, professional or otherwise. I find the point on sexual satisfaction very interesting. Do you find your clients are frequently concerned with your satisfaction - whether it be explicitly sexual or otherwise? I may be in the minority, but even though I'd be paying, I would only enjoy the experience if I knew the woman I was with was also enjoying herself - or at least convincing me that she was (and I have a pretty good bull#$!t meter) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SexxxyRebecca 57984 Report post Posted March 3, 2011 I agree totaly with Megan. For me, the most important its not what you look like but more the way you will treat me. Even if you look like the guy on cover of magazine but you act like a jerk, sorry I won't have fun with you!! Great attitude, respect and hygiene are the most important things when you meet an sp or a mp. Personnally, its not with the most good looking guy that I had the most fun!!! Anyway, if the girl judge you by your physic... she doesnt deserve your visit...! Make the good choice, CERB is a perfect place to meet amazing women. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Boomer 33202 Report post Posted March 3, 2011 I approach this from the opposite direction. I've turned sixty, and over the years my weight has crept up to a point where I am 50lbs over where I'd like to be. So, what I've found is if you shower, brush your teeth, and show the ladies in question the respect they deserve there is no problem. They are interested in your attitude, and want to have you as a regular client. So cheer up, get back in the saddle and enjoy yourself. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rodehard 2058 Report post Posted March 3, 2011 Broken and busted up more than once, a body that looks like road map and a little more weight (okay, maybe a lot more!) than I should be carrying........... and well over 50! Never stopped me from from having fun with the ladies! The point is that the "Big Three", a genuine attitude reflected in your smile, hygiene and respect is all you need to bring to the rodeo. Good looks and a "killer buff body" will not get you very far without the "Big Three" I agree with Boomer, its Cowboy Up time! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
renegade 11027 Report post Posted March 3, 2011 I couldn,t agree more rode-i,d love to look like i did 10 or 15 years ago i,m there mentally but if i wait till i get back there physically i,d never see another lovely cerb lady !! and thats not something i,m willing to miss !!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
antlerman 17064 Report post Posted March 3, 2011 man...look at my avatar....I am not far off that......really..... I have met many of the ladies here...and i can tell you each and every one has made me feel special....happy...and alive...... you do not have to be a God to be with these beautiful women......you just have to treat them like a Goddess..... 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andee 220524 Report post Posted March 3, 2011 Megan summed it up perfectly. I would much rather appreciate a courteous and agreeable client, than someone who merely "looks good". Unless you have any other medical problems that would prevent you from having sex, I would say, most ladies would not have a problem seeing you. Good luck and happy hobbying when you do decide to take the plunge. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kubrickfan 12836 Report post Posted March 3, 2011 (edited) Panda -- To sum up the responses so far, sounds like you are worried about nothing. The only other suggestion I have is to strike up a brief online conversation with a lady here that interests you and let things happen naturally. Best wishes, Edited March 4, 2011 by Kubrickfan misspelled word Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Megan'sTouch 23875 Report post Posted March 3, 2011 ..you do not have to be a God to be with these beautiful women......you just have to treat them like a Goddess..... I love this! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ottanon 2930 Report post Posted March 4, 2011 I would not worry about it. Even us short , old, fat guys dont have a complex about it. Its all about the attitude :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
moonshine 399 Report post Posted March 4, 2011 To the OP: You shouldn't dwell on this one bit. I'm probably not too far off your size and used to pull the insecure thing with girls when I started taking my clothes off. I either got, "Are you kidding me, you've got nothing to worry about", or a hint of thinly veiled disdain for my lack of confidence. Girls are much different than guys when it comes to physical apperance and are more likely to be turned off by insecurity than looks - and that's in general life. Most who become sp's are typically indifferent and care more for personality because this is a service, not a dating game. That's not to say they don't find certain physical attributes to be attractive but, in all seriousness, if they only took the really dapper and handsome clients, pretty much all of them would be poor and looking for another line of work. Sorry if it sounds like I'm calling all you guys ugly ;) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
scribbles 6031 Report post Posted March 4, 2011 Nah, that's alright. I am at one with my fugliness, Jedi-like. :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Paradise Spa 24019 Report post Posted March 4, 2011 something has kept me away from the hobby for a while now and i don't know if it is a justifiable reason or not to do so. I used to be decently shaped a few years ago but unfortunately, some stress came up in my life and i got what we call a " stressed stomac" which reduces the amount of food you usually eat or how fast you digest.. and here comes the point. My weight dropped down to 130lbs and i am 5'8... kinda bothering me because when i visit a sp or mp, I wanna look good etc and that weight proportion kinda ruins it all because it is not attractive at all with all those muscles guys around that sp/mp pempers :( a Mp/sp would be a great stress relief but yea... My weight kinda stops me from visiting one :( I wonder if i am just complexing for nothing or I have good reasons to stay away from the lobby because that Love yourself for you first and foremost.....no sp/mp will judge you b/c of your weight.....men that are secure, confident and respectful is much more desirable for woman ....good luck buttercup :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Maverick 2873 Report post Posted March 4, 2011 It's easier for others to like you if you like yourself. We should all strive to accept our own bodies, and it will facilitate others accepting us. Besides, most good looking guys are jerks anyways ;) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
