Do they know?

[JuliasUndies 7288]

After all your awesome replies to my situation with my mother, and thank you by the way... I thought about something while reading them that made me really curious... I want to know if your parents know what you do for a living? Or if you are a client, same thing, do they know what you do in your spare time?

Have you told them, if so how? Did you get busted someway? Have any clients been busted by their woman?

So Curious.

Myself, I have never admitted to anything. My dad died before I started and I'm sure my Mom probably knows..One time she said "What am I supposed to tell people, my daughter works in a massage parlor?"

Once, I was grocery shopping with my Mom, and a Client saw me..true story, he actually came up to me and started hugging me and kissing my face and wouldn't let me go. My Mom came up and I "introduced" them (OMG!!) He told her that she has a lovely beautiful daughter and that he loves me, and kept squeezing me (OMG!!OMG!!)

That's the closest I've come to getting busted, oh ya and then he asked me to come by his place that night!!!!

You? :)

[etasman2000 15994]

Or if you are a client, same thing, do they know what you do in your spare time?

Have you told them, if so how? Did you get busted someway? Have any clients been busted by their woman?

 

Spare time ? they don't really know what I do normally!

 

[vague hand wave] he is in computers [vague hand wave]

 

Been busted no. I did get a 2 am phone call from a SP when I was visiting my parents.

 

[vague hand wave] err.....computer support call [vague hand wave]

[JuliasUndies 7288]

Spare time ? they don't really know what I do normally!

 

[vague hand wave] he is in computers [vague hand wave]

 

Been busted no. I did get a 2 am phone call from a SP when I was visiting my parents.

 

[vague hand wave] err.....computer support call [vague hand wave]

 

So droll [vague hand wave] LIKE

[Guest tr*****e]

I've told my parents, I trusted them not to go to pieces. So much for that. Now my mom won't keep quiet about it. I think it has something to do with the fact that I don't share their faith, but that's another story...

[roamingguy 300292]

I'm not embarrassed by seeing ladies, it's just my private, personal life.

Worse case scenario, if my family or friends found out, I would just say that seeing ladies cost alot less than getting married and divorced, and most of my friends/family have been divorced, and paid big for it

RG

[Areez 11906]

i _think_ nobody knew... but even if they do .. lol what i do for fun is my own concern :P

i wont be bringing it up at the family dinner or anything though...

[Miss Scarlett 25073]

Do they know? Yes!

Do we discuss it? No!

 

HAHA, we don't have Sunday dinner and discuss my job. Actually I have not really discussed anything I have done since my "first" job as a teen!

 

Julia's: I had sorta the same thing happen to me at a local Timmies!

 

I was there with my mom, and getting a cup of tea, and a client I had met once before ran up to me calling me by my work name and wanted to book an appointment. I just pretended I didn't know who they were, and made it clear they must be "confused".

 

He caught the hint thank goodness, but it still was embarrassing!

[JuliasUndies 7288]

I was there with my mom, and getting a cup of tea, and a client I had met once before ran up to me calling me by my work name and wanted to book an appointment. I just pretended I didn't know who they were, and made it clear they must be "confused".

 

He caught the hint thank goodness, but it still was embarrassing!

 

OMG! Yes, I totally know that feeling, now I wonder how many girls have had clients approach them in public and call them by their work name or just talking to them at all??

I don't mind a brief encounter saying hi (if we are both alone) but, it's when they don't realize I have someone with me or when a very public place like a Timmies, in line, asking to book an appointment!

I do know this.. Almost EVERYWHERE I go, there is a client..Out with my kids, at the park, pool.., restaurants, bars, movies..my kids Catholic school plays, doctors office, hospital...It's alright, I'm used to seeing everyone and besides it's part of the fun of having a secret world..But I still can't get the hang of when clients cross that line into my life in another way like being the parents of my kids friends or a teacher or my HUSBANDS UNCLE!!!!

[Lowdark 5613]

I'm actually surprised that some guys think it's cool to walk up to a lady in public and carry on or arrange dates like that. Indiscreet much? Would they like it if a lady came running up to them at the coffee shop in front of their friends and family on their time and begin carrying on like that? I have actually bumped into a few ladies out and about but managed to be discreet.

[SamanthaEvans 166766]

My parents are both dead and no one in my family knows what I do. I have another line of work that requires meeting with clients and that's a good cover for paid companionship. I'm not ashamed of what I do, but I don't want it to be an issue for my children.

 

As for greeting clients in public, I never do it and I try to remember to tell everyone who sees me that I won't greet or acknowledge them in public. Their privacy is important and so is mine. If a client were to break the rule without my agreement, he'd get moved to the "former client" list immediately!

[chavez 641]

Thanks Julia, I feel for you in so many ways. Until now I didn't feel like I could respond. My natural first responce to say turn the other check. Go to the Sunday supper and when you are alone ask your mother if she wants to tell you why she wants to ( what do you say) leave you out of her will. It is her money after all ( actually not likely all her money, likely her money and your father's, but she can see it however). I expect you were independent before the money and can be independent after. So she is really just hurting her image. Let her explain why she wants to do this. If it is hard to listen to, while she is explaining it, pretend she is explaining how she feels about you sister.

I don't know for sure. My older sister might have been in the buisness, she certainly hinted at it, but never said as much. It didn't matter to me, she was my sister, she was a beautiful person inside and out, she away treated me and everyone I ever met well ( that is why I suspect she may have been in the buisness). Her relationship with my mother wasn't quite as seamless as my relationship with my mother but I think that is because she didn't manage money as well as the rest of us ( there never was a lot). When the end came for my mother she said to me ' I never gave you as much as I gave your sister' I told my mother ' you did what you needed to do. I would never have wanted you to do otherwise'

Julia, at this time in her life , that is what your mother needs to know. She needs to know that she did what she needed to do. What ever she does , let her know that you accept it. I hope that if you do this , she will accept you. If not , the money isn't yours anyway . CARMA . you will get back anything you can release. It worked for me ; it can work for you. Just release it.

Now meeting someone you know:

I don't know if my mom knew that I know what my sister did. I don't know if my sister knew that I knew what she did. I don't know if I knew what my sister did.

IT DOESN'T MATTER. It doesn't matter. I loved them both. They both believed the best in people. They both treated people well. They are both saints in my eyes.

If I met a lady I knew I would have a hard time not to acknowledge them. Lots of the ladies I know by their real names, if I don't I would never use their trade names. About explaining how I know them; not hard.

" that was the lady I was telling you about at the spanish class, she....." Remember the lady that I was telling you about that had the mother with.... that's her. I hope things are going better. " that was Brenda, you remember I was telling you about her. I met her at....

her husband left her after the twins were born. I think it was too much for both of them. Can you imagine?" "This is your mother? (change gaze) Look I have to say your daughter really helped me understand my ( daugher) ( son) (cat)[ what ever I know about the lady], she was a god send.

Look in honesty (ironic) I have learned how to lie. Base it on honesty. The more truth you know the better you can make it work.

That's it Julia, release things, accept things , help where you can. It all comes back. If not now, I think in the next life. So far for me it has been in this life, that might be good, but it could be bad. Maybe I don't have may lives left. My sister would know . lol .....chicas

[mrrnice2 157005]

Hi Julia. An interesting question and I am reading responses. I guess I am just so curious about the women in the industry.

 

As for myself, there is no one who knows of my involvement with women as SP's. For me it is a private personal thing.

 

That being said, I am really not too concerned about friends finding out. Should that occur, then so be it, and my friends are very supportive of me and I believe would be very understanding because of my personal situation. They understand that for me a relationship is not in the cards, probably ever, and that some personal, intimate interaction is a pretty basic and important part of a persons life.

 

As for my children, that would be a lot more difficult for me, and for them, to have them know. Again it is because of my personal situation, but even my children would understand, after they thought about it and came to terms with my reasons for being here.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Once, I was grocery shopping with my Mom, and a Client saw me..true story, he actually came up to me and started hugging me and kissing my face and wouldn't let me go. My Mom came up and I "introduced" them (OMG!!) He told her that she has a lovely beautiful daughter and that he loves me, and kept squeezing me (OMG!!OMG!!)

That's the closest I've come to getting busted, oh ya and then he asked me to come by his place that night!!!!

You? :)

 

Some people have no freaking clue on how to be discreet. Any client who did that to me I would want to strangle them.. okay not literally but you know what I mean. It would be a done deal right then and there and they'd never see me again. Some people have no respect for other people's privacy and boundaries.

 

Clients and SPs are to stay out of each other's personal life even if they do know some details about them. I have come into contact accidentally with people I know in my day to day life such as lawyers real estate sales people, doctors, mechanics, etc, etc that I've realized are clients of escorts and I turn the other cheek. That's their business and I know how to be discreet.

 

 

As for the original question, I have another job so to everyone else that is what I do for a living.

[E.D. man 691]

I think my family kows, but are silent about it. Because they know that women have treated me badly in relationships.

[cflpoolboss 160]

Being a client I think I would not like it if an S.P walked up in line and asked when I would see her next...That being said for me its also a different part of MY life and thats what I love about it the most.So yes being descrete and respectful in public is without question the top priority,and the answer to the other question is nobody knows what I do with my free time...TKS

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

They knew at one time years ago, but now I do use a cover story. Not that I am ashamed, but I dont want them to stress or hurt because of my decision. They are my best friends. I am sure they must have a suspicion, but we continue with my cover story....

[JuliasUndies 7288]

These are great replies.

It's amazing what some can share with others close to them. It's nice to hear that someone would love you no matter what choices one makes.

When it comes to acquaintances, if they found out, I could care less, I don't go out of my way to hide what I do for them because it is a part of me and a part of who I am as an individual.

I couldn't tell my family. My snob-ish family lol. They would disown me. I guess that's why I question "family values + loyalty" at what point can I consider family members as humans. Seriously, I myself would never be apart of something that I would feel I had to hide who I am and what I do, I do not strive for the acceptance of others and do not fear the loss of companionship because of my choices and such, but when it comes to family, it just seems like I have to follow the code. Funny though how it kinda contradicts itself sometimes. For instance, "Love your family, and put them first" but really it's "Love your family and put them first, be like us, do as we say, and shut up"

Silly random thought now.. I really feel like telling my family, like I have nothing to loose except the acceptance of far then perfect people themselves being someone/something they aren't. If I am cast out, I should probably consider myself lucky if you know what I mean.

Another random thought, my kitty is in heat- Dammit!, she's annoying..good thing she's cute.

[qwertyaccount 15793]

I'm not embarrassed by seeing ladies, it's just my private, personal life.

Worse case scenario, if my family or friends found out, I would just say that seeing ladies cost alot less than getting married and divorced, and most of my friends/family have been divorced, and paid big for it

RG

 

I was going to say the exact same thing!

[Guest S**a*Q]

My parents don't know.

They want me to be a doctor or something.

 

My birthmother knew that I did do it, and she was okay with it.

However, my parents opinions mean more to me, I'd never let them find out. If they did, well then I'll deal with it.

 

I would like to say that they just want me to be happy,

I know that mom n dad want me to be happy but not a hooker.

(Even if being the SMQ SexBot makes me happy...)

 

They would blame it on the "chemical imbalance in my brain".

The illness that makes me do the things that they don't. (Like fun humpies!)

They'd then start the "You should be on medication" rant that I've heard my whole life. :D Just cause I'm not like them...

 

But I'm not like anyone, well not anyone that I know. Hehe!

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

I think it is interesting that you mention, Julia, that when it came to acquaintances, you wont hide it. I wish I could be like that! For me, I live in smalltown. Only the people nearest and dearest to me is let in on my secret. If someone is a mere acquaintance, knows where I live, and what I do, I find it a bad mix. It is so easily used against me such as, extortion, rumors, etc. I find it has been a big impact on the way I socialize.

[JuliasUndies 7288]

I think it is interesting that you mention, Julia, that when it came to acquaintances, you wont hide it. I wish I could be like that! For me, I live in smalltown. Only the people nearest and dearest to me is let in on my secret. If someone is a mere acquaintance, knows where I live, and what I do, I find it a bad mix. It is so easily used against me such as, extortion, rumors, etc. I find it has been a big impact on the way I socialize.

 

 

Not many people like me because of it, to be honest. Some hear rumors about me and never talk to me again. But hey, I'm so glad these people are out of my life, it's like a filter. I don't want people like that in my life, people that judge me or will only like me because of status, education, work.. I had too much of that being a single teenage Mom-

[Paradise Spa 24019]

This is a combined reply on your two recent threads....this one and the one about your Mom's will.

 

Julia red bells are going off in my head that you want to share with your Mom what you do for a living...do you deep down want to come clean with her? If so another approach would be just to tell her the truth and in all fairness she is still going to love you no matter what as you are her daughter. Just be honest and straight up with her and tell her if that is what you want to do also let her know that if she cannot support your choices and love you the right way a parent should then you will turn the cheek on the relationship. I guess my point is take control of your life the way you see fit and stand tall and make her respect you period end of story. If you demand respect she will give it too you....and if she doesn't then she will be the one losing out on having a relationship with you.

 

I shared with my parents what I did for a living. I was honest with my parents because I am not the type of person to keep secrets as it just felt wrong in my heart. I didn't expect them to agree with my choices but I demanded they support/respect my choice because it was my choice of what I wanted to do in my own adult life.

 

All in all sweetie, I hope that all of our comments are able to help you in doing what you feel is right in your heart :) Angie xo

[ekimout 188]

Do they know? Yes!

Do we discuss it? No!

 

HAHA, we don't have Sunday dinner and discuss my job. Actually I have not really discussed anything I have done since my "first" job as a teen!

 

Julia's: I had sorta the same thing happen to me at a local Timmies!

 

I was there with my mom, and getting a cup of tea, and a client I had met once before ran up to me calling me by my work name and wanted to book an appointment. I just pretended I didn't know who they were, and made it clear they must be "confused".

 

He caught the hint thank goodness, but it still was embarrassing!

 

I know this was not the original intention of this thread, but it has brought to light one more time, the issue of discretion. And for that, it's a great reminder. Guys! Please! How would you feel if your favourite SP approached you in public, and left you to explain to your girlfriend, wife, brother, sister, mother, father (although he might like it), co-worker, or even your boss? I'm sure you're excited to see her, but control yourself, you're not a kid. Other people are involved, it's not all about you. Move on with your day, and use it as a reminder that perhaps you should get in touch with her to book your next appointment.

 

Now back to the question at hand. No, my family and friends do not know of my hobby - to which I partake from time to time, not on a regular basses. I feel it is a private part of my life that I wish to keep private. It adds to the mystery and makes the experiences that much more pleasurable. I do have a few very close friends that we have discussed, strip clubs, escorts, massage parlours, etc., but as general conversation.

[Angeltbay 612]

both of my parents are dead too, and (hey both also remarried) my entire immediate family knows what i do. Actually, my stepmom, and my older sister used to do the same thing! i guess it runs in the family, lol

[Guest tr*****e]

When I first got involved in this, I was excited! So I bragged to guys at work, told my parents, etc. Then I found out that no one else seemed to really care that I was happy, they either made fun of me for 'having to pay for it' or told me how wicked I was. Me and my mom have been through a lot together, so I thought she would at least be happy for me. Noooo, now everytime she looks at me, she tries to make me feel guilty about it. I don't even feel like I can trust her with my inner thoughts anymore - phooey. That kind of ties into the fact that I no longer share my family's faith, but that's another story. So anyway, yeah. Broadly speaking, people don't really get that this is what I've chosen and it makes me happy.