Things I've Learned From CERB

[Alexandra-Sky 12606]

I think that I'm not alone in thinking that I was really surprised when first signing up to CERB at how much goes on here. While CERB was originally established as a forum to facilitate both SPs and Hobbyiests' experiences of finding a good match, those of us who are on here regularly know that CERB has far outgrown this single purpose. We regularly have respectful discussions about all sorts of things: politics, sexual health, relationship advice, to name a few.

 

I thought it would be a good idea to start a thread where everyone can share some of the things we've learned as a result of CERB.

 

I'll start:

 

When I first started working, I had already done some work to break down the stereo-type of who clients were, but it was CERB who taught me that people who seek companionship from SPs are often wonderful, respectful and kind-hearted people.

 

I also learned how powerful all of the SPs on here are!

 

XO

Sky

[LeeRichards 177238]

Cool Thread Alexandra

 

My hobby life would have been short if it wasn't for Cerb. Like you, I have learned how wonderful you SP's and hobbyist alike can be. We here are from all scopes of life and are looking for different things. For me it has allowed me to meet with the type of ladies I want to meet with. Great sex yup...on the menu....but...personality and sense of humor is pretty huge with me for an encounter. To be honest I have never been dissapointed with a date set up with someone I have met on Cerb.

 

I have learned a ton!!! About soooo many things. Sex talk yes but also just about world happenings. It has been awesome.

 

Makes me smile and laugh sooooo much more than I did in my life before Cerb :)

[mrgreen760 37785]

"I also learned how powerful all of the SPs on here are!"

 

Bingo!

 

Peace

MG

[datyaddict 2174]

I've only been here a little while, and have so much to learn. I guess the top 2 things are:

 

1. This industry isn't as terrible and fundamentally exploitative as the media would lead you to believe. It's possible to reconcile a respect for women with this hobby. In fact, if you don't have a respect for women, you've got no business here.

 

2. Any joke I come up with, Old Dog has already made.

[Annessa 22743]

Great thread Alexandra....

 

I guess one of the great things that i have learned on here is how to only judge someone when I meet them in person (although there are some xtreme cases that show through posts...or people that change after encounters)....However, in cases with some of the ladies especially, I have been temped to form judgments in type...but once meeting them in the flesh have been open up and been humbled to how sweet they can be.......type format can be deceiving but in person encounters are worth their weight in gold.

 

Writing can be easily mis-judged ....so now i *try* not to form an opinion unless there is an obvious problem or I meet someone and have an in-person tiff :-)

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

I have learned here that our profession is much more sophisticated and organized then what the general public realizes. That there is many more positive sides to this than the "horror" stories that the media puts out there. I also have learned that a community like this becomes more than just a job, or a place to advertise, but get real support from other's, and how important that support is to me and my well-being. I also have learned not to let other people's opinions of other people to cloud my own judgment on who they are as an individual. I love cerb:)

[Nathalie L 112512]

I learned that CERB is a gigantic subculture with it's own rules, guidelines, and (thankfully) bendable social mores. It's a community of people who genuinely care about each other, their environment, and their safety.

 

I love CERB, not only because it facilitates meeting patrons, but because I've made really fantastic connections through this website that I will cherish for a very long time.

[fable 953]

i learned that there are many beautful, powerful and confident women out there

[Winnipegcub 21293]

I think I've always been a pretty respectful guy but CERB has taught me to truly cherish women. I probably lost some of that admiration but the calibre of ladies on here has opened my eyes. Now I look at all women in a very different and positive way. It is so heartening to love women again. Cub

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[castle 38816]

 

2. Any joke I come up with, Old Dog has already made.

 

Or will inevitably top :p

 

Same with a lot of others here cerb helped me dispel a lot of preconceived notions of the hobby and those involved, both from the SP and client side of things.

[Old Dog 179138]

I have learned:

 

1. That the friendships I have fostered here are genuine. Those that have been to my home, and the yet to visit all have a place in my heart. You know who you are... now you know how I truly feel.

 

2. That although we may not always see eye to eye, we can enjoy each other's company despite our differences on certain issues.

 

3. That the most beautiful, desirable women on the planet are also the most intelligent, witty and soulful people I have ever encountered.

 

4. That if the naysayers and abolitionists actually paid attention to what was written here, they would have a completely different opinion about the industry they ignorantly rally against.

 

5. That this is a place that can easily occupy many hours of my time and still not be considered time wasted.

 

6. That sooooo many people set me up for one liners....

 

In actuality, I think I would be a lesser person had I not found this site... you all make me so much better!

[silverado17 12689]

1 thing i've learned from cerb the socials are a blast

[roamingguy 300291]

I learned from CERB the proper etiquette in the SP/Client relationship

I learned seeing escorts is mutually beneficial

The other boards come across (at least IMHO) as an us vs them...CERB, us is the ladies and gentlemen combined...there is no them. And instead of us vs them, we are all opposite sides of the same coin

CERB is not a board, it's a community

And I learned and observed, that this community is pretty forgiving (except in really drastic cases where a ban is warranted) of members who make faux pas for lack of a better word.

Some quick thoughts

RG

[damian 257]

I am new to this community and am still learning my way around. But so far it has surpassed my expectations in so many ways. I look forward to making some great connections and following all of these great discussions :)

[Gentleman11 10508]

Its a wonderful feeling for me logging on to CERB, looking forward to sharing with friends on line, some already met in person, others yet-to-be. The overall feel for the site shows by and large and large degree of intellect, informed opinion, fun seekers and those (like me) aspiring to doing all of the foregoing.

 

I took a break from CERB for a couple of months this summer, partially because of a snit I had with MOD and mostly because the summer season is a busy period in my business life.

 

Thank you friends and look forward to seeing many of you at the social. Don't forget Nicki loves Cosmos and Old Dog will drink anything.....

 

G11

[Lowdark 5613]

I've made this point before, but the women I have met on CERB are generally more respectful and considerate than many women you may meet in a social environment (and deserving of all the respect and dignity in the world). I have had the privilege of meeting some very intelligent, caring and warm women and have made valuable friend friend or two as a result.

[Jazzitup 5652]

One of the things I have learned from the people on cerb is the degree of compassion that gets exhibited on probably a daily basis. I have been almost moved to tears by some of the beautiful people that are members here. It is a privledge to have them share what moves them and see how their generous spirits shine.

 

Thank you for touching me with such humanity.

[datyaddict 2174]

Okay, I've actually learned a lot more than what I said before on cerb, but it was about myself. And the #3 thing I've learned about cerb is that I can say something like the following without mockery.

 

I've learned not be afraid of sex.

 

More specifically, I've learned not to be afraid of me having sex. Inexperienced as I was, I had no idea what I'd be like in bed. I was terrified that I'd get so caught up in my own needs and pleasure that I'd be disrespectful, or even possibly cruel. I had no particular reason to think I would be - other than the whole uncertainty of it all. It was a part of myself I'd never experienced. I'd seen perfectly lovely people turn into d!cks when drunk... what if I became a d!ick during sex? Would gentle, joking Jekyll be replaced by a hateful hurtful Hyde? What if, for all my talk of respect, deep down, when it came to it, what if I ended up treating women like objects for own gratification? Worst of all, what if I got so caught up in getting off, that I ignore words like "stop." I frankly wouldn't be able to live with myself.

 

And then the ladies of cerb taught me I was wrong.

 

Utterly wrong. Completely and totally and gloriously wrong. I'm the same me inside the bedroom as outside. The only difference is the number of orgasms. And it's obvious. How could it be otherwise? WTF was I afraid of? Just the unknown. Turns out, I'm as murmery and giggly and sentimental in bed as I am ... well, when drunk<g>. It's a natural extension of every make-her-smile instinct I've ever had.

 

At cerb, I met some amazing ladies, who were then kind enough to introduce me to a part of myself that had never seen daylight. A part of myself that I was afraid of meeting - nobody likes to meet themselves, there's always the chance they won't like what they see. But it turns out it's the same me I've always known.

 

And I am better and braver for it.

 

Thank you, ladies. So Much.

[capitalman 3861]

I learned that Dummpy is not gay.

[Jabba 18389]

Stereotyping is not your friend.

Be more tolerant.

Be more open-minded.

To appreciate my limits.

To explore my limits.

To understand the hobby.

[EvaAdore 7767]

I've learned...

 

... that there is no shame in being an SP.

... that I have a responsibility to myself to explore my sexuality.

... that I am not as shy as I once believed ;)

... there are amazing people in this industry- not the stereotype.

... this business is a lot more organized and respectful than I may have once assumed.

... it's a helluva lot of fun!

[sexnonstop724 1727]

I've spent better part of my life learning stuff..

 

But only since I have joined CERB did I start learning more about myself!

 

And that awareness has changed me in ways I never thought possible.

 

SNS724