grifter76 243 Report post Posted February 27, 2012 Guys what would you do if u found out one your co workers escorts on the side? How would you approach getting her services? ( i hope im bit breaking any rules here!) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gabriella Laurence 301887 Report post Posted February 27, 2012 Guys what would you do if u found out one your co workers escorts on the side? How would you approach getting her services? ( i hope im bit breaking any rules here!) Haha lol I would totally keep your current relationship professional and forget what she does 'on the side' on her own personal time... It is less complicated that way and you have lots of other beautiful companions to chose from ;) Good luck to you! 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Areez 11906 Report post Posted February 27, 2012 Although i do agree with Gabi about keeping things simple... As a guy I have to say the temptation is huuuge... LOL... Is there any way to best say it? probably not ... one of those things in life that you'd best bit your lips and keep buddy in the pants lmao. shucks I know... :p but this would be an interesting thread... hope input from other would enlighten me :D Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jake_1957 1301 Report post Posted February 27, 2012 Personally I would do nothing, as Gabriella said, keep your relationship professional. If you tried to arrange an encounter and told her you knew her and who you are, and she didn't think it would be a good idea to meet, it could effect your relationship at work. If she was ok with the situation and you arranged an encounter and it didn't go as well as you expected, it could effect your relationship at work. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Reddog2402 2217 Report post Posted February 27, 2012 I agree with everyone else's comments - hugely tempting, but the potential downside would just be too serious. It would make for an awkward relationship at work, and could cause all kinds of problems if the encounter didn't go as planned. Lots of fantasy potential there, but just not worth it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300291 Report post Posted February 27, 2012 Well I know where your coming from. My boss is sexy and if I found out that she was an SP on the side, the gears would be turning But before you even think of broaching the subject, think first how it would affect your working relationship after the encounter If you think it is possible to have a good working relationship after an encounter, then you should contact her, ask her if she requires verification information, and tell her who you are. This way you let her know you see ladies, and who you are, and give her the option to decline without outing her in her workplace Whatever you do, don't surprise her, by booking an encounter with her, without letting her knowing who you are. And whether she accepts or declines the encounter, it stays just between the two of you, don't tell anyone else RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
milfhunter1967 2154 Report post Posted February 27, 2012 You stay the hell away from her! I don't imagine she wants any one in your workplace knowing about her "part time job" It could have way to much fallout for you! Like getting fired for sexual harassment, good luck finding another job with that on your resume! Sorry to be harsh but not a good situation! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gabriella Laurence 301887 Report post Posted February 27, 2012 Well I know where your coming from. My boss is sexy and if I found out that she was an SP on the side, the gears would be turningBut before you even think of broaching the subject, think first how it would affect your working relationship after the encounter If you think it is possible to have a good working relationship after an encounter, then you should contact her, ask her if she requires verification information, and tell her who you are. This way you let her know you see ladies, and who you are, and give her the option to decline without outing her in her workplace Whatever you do, don't surprise her, by booking an encounter with her, without letting her knowing who you are. And whether she accepts or declines the encounter, it stays just between the two of you, don't tell anyone else RG Most often I agree with you, RG but not in this case ;) Simply implying you know what she does 'on the side' or even asking about a potential paid date could have negative affects on their professional relationship... It's a risky slippery slope. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Katherine of Halifax 113931 Report post Posted February 27, 2012 It's been quite a few years since I have worked in the traditional world. When I did I was in charge of a staff of mostly men. It would have made me feel very uncomfortable for any of my staff to approach me for any type of sexual paid services after hours. In fact as I remember my staff I can't imagine them asking if they did hear via the grapevine what I did on the side. I had a morning meeting with my staff and it would have felt very awkward to have had a sexual encounter with any of them the night before. Would not have worked for me. Thats just me though. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
backrubman 64800 Report post Posted February 27, 2012 Guys what would you do if u found out one your co workers escorts on the side? How would you approach getting her services? ( i hope im bit breaking any rules here!) I agree with everyone else: tempting (to you), but I'd say nothing and do nothing because I'd think about her feelings first and how she might be embarrassed to have her side line business discovered within the work place. I'd just let it go and keep her secret a secret. Someone else might discover it someday but to me being discreet and truly keeping a secret for a lady is part of being a real gentleman. 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300291 Report post Posted February 27, 2012 Most often I agree with you, RG but not in this case ;)Simply implying you know what she does 'on the side' or even asking about a potential paid date could have negative affects on their professional relationship... It's a risky slippery slope. Actually your right Gabriella, I was thinking with the little gears turning in my head, and the image of my boss in my mind LOL Best to stay away RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gabriella Laurence 301887 Report post Posted February 27, 2012 This thread reminds me of something that happened to me last year in February before exiting the 'professional world' and coming back to this lifestyle... I was employed, loved my job/position but was over worked. It wasn't enough for me to want to stay so I decided to look around for a new job. I was invited to an interview at xxx and was thrilled about it. I was even more excited when I saw who my director was going to be. The interview went extremely well and I was invited for a second interview. I had a very difficult time concentrating during the two interviews- first one not that much because of nerves but I was way too distracted by him- because of the mutual attraction and the intense raw chemistry present. All I could think about was... hummmm... naughty thoughts ;) Not a good sign and it called for trouble if I accepted the position as his 'right hand'. No pun intended lol Long story short, I turned down the job and got his personal number instead! Good times!! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S**a*Q Report post Posted February 27, 2012 I would hate it if one of my friends, someone I worked with or someone that simply knows me scheduled me without me knowing that fact. I wouldn't want to open the door and see someone there that I knew, I think I'd feel like they were deceiving me or something... I'm not sure if I'd be able to go through the meeting or not... If I did, he'd at least get a so-so/not so great meeting cause the whole time I'd be freaking out about him being from the other side of life and things being weird after. I think I'd rather they just come up and talk to me about it. If they admit they are a hobbiest, it would go over way better than if I opened the door and there they were. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NotchJohnson 214069 Report post Posted February 27, 2012 Don't touch that with a 10 foot pole or even a 20 foot pole( no pun intended). Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cleo Catra 178382 Report post Posted February 27, 2012 Someone I used to work with has contacted me on here a few times, but will not tell me who he is. He says if I can guess who he is, he'll tell me. All he'll let me know is that we worked together at a place that had over 2000 employees. Yeah. Like I can guess that. I hate that someone who knows my real name, and who knows what else about me, also knows about this part of my life. I find it very cruel that demeaning that he can message me on here, knowing all that, and have that power to not release the information about who he is. My advice to anyone in the situation the OP mentions is to keep it to yourself. Don't book her. Don't put her in an uncomfortable position. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LeeRichards 177238 Report post Posted February 27, 2012 My advice to anyone in the situation the OP mentions is to keep it to yourself. Don't book her. Don't put her in an uncomfortable position. That pretty much covers my opinion on this topic ! Well said Cleo. Work romances aren't good at the best of times....but this situation should definately be left as a work only situation. For the lady's sake. IMO Also if it did happen it is a time bomb ticking away. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
backrubman 64800 Report post Posted February 27, 2012 That pretty much covers my opinion on this topic ! Well said Cleo. Work romances aren't good at the best of times....but this situation should definately be left as a work only situation. For the lady's sake. IMO Also if it did happen it is a time bomb ticking away. Well said Lee. The only thing I forgot to add is that a true gentleman would not discuss what he knows about this with ANYONE (e.g. coworkers, buddies, wife, girlfriend). It may be (as unfortunate as it would be) that someone else will come upon this knowledge someday and not be so discreet (which the OP has no control over except though total silence and that's not much but it is the very best he can do) but the best thing I can think of is taking this secret to my grave and being as far away from playing any part in her eventual outing if that were to occur. And if it does someday occur, I'd even avoid the "I already knew" kind of comment and in fact have no comment at all other than "So what? Not our business". 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
whatsup 11893 Report post Posted February 28, 2012 It seems the that most state that one should keep the work/escort/hobbyist relationship at bay. I think that if you are compatable and comfortable with each other, you could broach the subject with an open mind and respect each others limitations. He knows he is a hobbyist and she know nows he is a hobbyist, it is a private declaration to each other. If done with a respecting discretion it could be a wonderful thing. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Smirk 1920 Report post Posted February 28, 2012 Work is the place to fantasize about your boss, your secretary and your co-worker. Then take that fantasy to an SP and have some role play fun. J I've been in that situation, several times where a co-worker, or someone I know has approached me. I only accepted the invitation to play with someone I knew once, and I'll never do it again. It changes your working relationship in a way you can never turn back. Never is a long time. Xox Porscha 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lipualipua 4704 Report post Posted February 28, 2012 Sorry, I would go for it but in the manner alluded to by Sara - let her know that I am a hobbiest beforehand. People in this lifestyle are supposed to be well-adjusted individuals, what with the opprobium society throws our way and so can't two hobbiest who happen to be coworkers have fun outside work? P-u-l-e-e-z-e!!!!! Saythe encounter does not go well; so what? In fact such a bad encounter will show how mature either or both of you are. You could brush off that encounter and then try again. It would be nice to be in such a situation and I suspect that the very fact that you are harbouring such an explosive secret will add sizzle to your encounters. Plus, I am certain that it will improve your professional relationship for after all you are two peas in a pod, so to speak. I'd go for it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
whatsup 11893 Report post Posted February 28, 2012 I have had great encounters with co-workers in the past, keep it to yourself and all is good. Do not share over a beer with a buddy. Just saying. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lipualipua 4704 Report post Posted February 28, 2012 Right on, Whatsup! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hunknhot 1067 Report post Posted February 28, 2012 While your predicament is very intriguing I suspect it would eventually end badly for you. Stay away from the company ink and enjoy the secret fantasy. I emphasize the word secret. Guys what would you do if u found out one your co workers escorts on the side? How would you approach getting her services? ( i hope im bit breaking any rules here!) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
phigment 3310 Report post Posted February 28, 2012 Guys a dink. If he contacts you essentially to say he knows who and what you are, he should have the stones to say who he is, not play little guessing games like a 6 year old. To do otherwise is to play power games with information. Really bugs the piss out of me to read this. Someone I used to work with has contacted me on here a few times, but will not tell me who he is. He says if I can guess who he is, he'll tell me. All he'll let me know is that we worked together at a place that had over 2000 employees. Yeah. Like I can guess that. I hate that someone who knows my real name, and who knows what else about me, also knows about this part of my life. I find it very cruel that demeaning that he can message me on here, knowing all that, and have that power to not release the information about who he is. My advice to anyone in the situation the OP mentions is to keep it to yourself. Don't book her. Don't put her in an uncomfortable position. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
grifter76 243 Report post Posted February 28, 2012 Advices heeded and well noted. I guess i opened pandoras box here! So much reply in just a few hours. I guess this is one of those situation you would call... So close, yet still so far! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
