18 years old looking to hire an escort and looking for tips

[gary118 100]

So I am currently 18 and am looking to hire an escort, and this would by first time doing so as well. As such I would like to receive some do's/don'ts. I also am wondering if my age would be a negative aspect in this situation. Another thing is that although I am clean shaven (both facially and down there) I do have body hair would that be a problem? and should I look at independent providers or escort services?

 

I'm sorry if these are basic questions and have been answered elsewhere I would just not like to mess up as it would be my first time doing such a thing.

[BownChickaBown 4829]

Welcome to CERB Gary - you are in the right spot!

As for your questions, there are virtually Tons of threads here for you to read on All those matters. (ex. on: Age; Grooming; Indie vs Agency; 1st Timers; you name it.)

 

Have you read Any/All the Sticky Threads in this Newbie Section yet??

 

Just take your time and go through all the very informative Newbie and Topic Specific threads to learn as much you can. THEN, if you have unanswered questions beyond hobbying 101, start a thread asking specific, informed questions.

 

You obviously know how to join CERB and get to the Newbie section - so enjoy!

--clicky clicky-- Read Read.

 

So simple! Help yourself to help others to help you. ...but it's hard for others to help when one doesn't help themselves (this place is a buffet - just start digesting), or know you yet.

 

As well, if you wanted to quickly talk to people about such introductory stuff - go to the chat room. (Technology this millennium is just awesome!) Many beautiful SPs pleasantly spend time there chatting and are more than happy to answer such questions from polite, respectful gentlemen.

 

Get to know the community and be an active participate and you will find people are more than helpful (...but most people just don't have time to sit around and regurgitate to every new member asking questions the answers which have already been provided on this board, and for which anyone can go get themselves. People would be here all day cutting and pasting the same info. over and over and over and over again for no real reason.)

 

So - If you don't want to mess up - then start studying! :-) We look forward to your years of recos :D

 

PS: As many of us older guys already know: You will mess-up, but that's part of living and learning. Enjoy it! ;-)

[piano8950 32577]

So I am currently 18 and am looking to hire an escort, and this would by first time doing so as well. As such I would like to receive some do's/don'ts. I also am wondering if my age would be a negative aspect in this situation.

 

I can't speak for an SP regarding your age, but I can say with certainty that whoever you do meet, be courteous and incredibly respectful.

 

Another thing is that although I am clean shaven (both facially and down there) I do have body hair would that be a problem? and should I look at independent providers or escort services?

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Physical appearance does not seem to be a limiting factor among professional SPs. However from personal experience, visit an SP when you are comfortable in your own skin. You'll enjoy the experience a lot more.

 

And as for looking for an independent provider or an escort service, I personally decided independents for a wide variety of reasons that were personal to me. Whichever way you decide, I can't think you'd go wrong if you take the time to read reviews.

 

I'm sorry if these are basic questions and have been answered elsewhere I would just not like to mess up as it would be my first time doing such a thing.

 

Ask away. There are some members here who have had bad first experiences back before resources like Cerb.

[DukeSSk 3430]

Regarding age, best to disclose upfront. Ladies who do have age restrictions do say so in their advertisements and/or websites, so take the time to read through those.

 

Best of luck!! :D

[bcguy42 38594]

No, no, no... the GIRL gets the tips! :)

 

Hey, wee hours in the morning. Just couldn't resist.

 

Welcome aboard, happy hunting, dance through the New To This section, find someone that strikes your fancy, do your homework regarding her profile and website, take your heart in your hands, contact her, make an arrangement, ignore the fluttering heart and shaky knees when you get to her door and dive in. The water is wonderful!

[Frank7 3939]

Physical appearance does not seem to be a limiting factor among professional SPs. However from personal experience, visit an SP when you are comfortable in your own skin. You'll enjoy the experience a lot more.

 

From my experience, nothing better to make you comfortable with your own skin then seeing an SP, specialy if you've never had sex before. The session might be akward ( not the ladie's fault) but next time you'll feel confident.

 

Not a big price to pay compared to the other options. =p

[TKDKidd 663]

All I can say is to not expect it to be like a porno, I remember my first experience a few years ago when I was roughly your age and was I ever surprised. Also, these are people too, not toys or tools, treat them with respect, every one I have met thus far has been very nice and if this is your first time with a service provider be upfront with it. They will sit you down, talk you through it and then you'll be able to enjoy.

 

I really did not enjoy my first couple of times as there was little conversation beforehand and was more often set up for appointments by others rather than picking myself. Be sure you are happy with who you pick, talk for ten minutes and then enjoy.

 

Also be sure to be clear about menu options. As my first several times were set up for me I ended up with options that weren't beneficial to someone like me and I was not able to enjoy and it wasn't up until about a year ago that I was really able to start enjoying.

 

Also, look to read reviews and get a sense of what an encounter might be like with different providers. Another suggestion would be to use a provider that uses this site, which you are lucky to have being in Ottawa, as certain other sites, which I will not publicly name, are notorious for having no shows, scammers, bait and switchers, etc. who do not want negative reviews posted about them where they post their advertisements. The girls on here are all lovely and great.

[roamingguy 300291]

Contact a lady that interests you. Tell her a little about yourself, including age. And tell her it is your first time seeing a professional companion.

Don't ask about the menu (a faux pas I made in my newbie days but was forgiven for), you'll find your encounter will unfold naturally when you see the lady. Yes, read the recommendations on a lady, but remember every encounter is unique, your encounter with a lady will be special and unique, and not the same as someone else's encounter with the same lady.

Most important, be a gentleman, both in your emails and in person.

And you are seeing a lady and person, and compensating her for her time. Just because you pay her donation, you do not own her for that period of time.

If she has verification requirements, provide that information. It may be scary at first revealing personal information to a lady, but remember, she is at most risk by agreeing to see you, a stranger thus far, alone intimately. The verification is just a tool used by ladies for their safety.

Don't be insulted if she requests it

Finally, a lady appreciates a tip and gift, something you might wish to do.

After all that, most of all have an enjoyable escape with a lady

RG

[JayDC 100]

...Don't ask about the menu (a faux pas I made in my newbie days but was forgiven for), you'll find your encounter will unfold naturally when you see the lady.

 

I've wondered about this as well. What if something on the "menu" requires preparation, and is not something that all clients would request; how would this be handled?

[DukeSSk 3430]

I've wondered about this as well. What if something on the "menu" requires preparation, and is not something that all clients would request; how would this be handled?

 

As long as the lady clearly indicated that she offers the experience in question or is open to suggestions, I don't foresee much of an issue. Just ask politely.

[Athos 108589]

I've wondered about this as well. What if something on the "menu" requires preparation, and is not something that all clients would request; how would this be handled?

 

There's a difference between generic requests of a lady about what's on her menu, or and communicating to the lady that you have certain specific requests/desires and whether she is the right provider for that request. However, on a first meeting I would very much recommend holding those requests until you meet. Ladies on the board might have better advice as to how they prefer these things handled.

 

my own practice is to never ask or discuss anything related to what might transpire on a date in advance. I prefer to go with the flow and see where things take us. If I have specific types of requests, I would usually wait until I had seen a lady a couple of times and developed a bit of a rapport with her.

 

Don't be embarrassed to ask, even when you get into the room for the first time. Believe me, anything you might ask for is ikely something she has heard before.

 

Porthos

[xxxAxxx 21016]

Don't ask about the menu (a faux pas I made in my newbie days but was forgiven for), you'll find your encounter will unfold naturally when you see the lady.

 

I personally disagree, many clients have a particular fetish or specific interests and I for one would not like to have a client leave unsatisfied because he never asked if I offered that and it turns out I didn't. I am a firm believer that if you want something, ASK IF IT'S AVAILABLE. This helps to ensure a good client/SP match rather than throwing your sausage and beans into the dark and hoping for the best. If I don't offer what you're looking for, rest assured that someone does and hopefully other SPs agree with me that being asked what is on the menu is not distasteful. The only distasteful way to approach it would be to ask if there is any reduced costs for such & such services...as most of us know, it's the time you pay for not the service. But asking what services are available should not be taboo, imho. That's like saying it's wrong to ask the McDonald's cashier if Big Mac's come with pickles or not. You're not asking for a price check on a pickle-less burger...simply informing yourself of the...err...toppings. :)

 

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Don't be embarrassed to ask, even when you get into the room for the first time. Believe me, anything you might ask for is ikely something she has heard before.

 

 

Yes, most of us I'm sure have "heard it ALL before" ... I don't think there's much left to surprise me!

[Harrywatch 200]

I think U have the right to do the thing you believe it's right. some people like hair some don't. I like some hair on the body and it turn on me very quick.

[EmilyRushton 253346]

I personally disagree, many clients have a particular fetish or specific interests and I for one would not like to have a client leave unsatisfied because he never asked if I offered that and it turns out I didn't. I am a firm believer that if you want something, ASK IF IT'S AVAILABLE. This helps to ensure a good client/SP match rather than throwing your sausage and beans into the dark and hoping for the best. If I don't offer what you're looking for, rest assured that someone does and hopefully other SPs agree with me that being asked what is on the menu is not distasteful. The only distasteful way to approach it would be to ask if there is any reduced costs for such & such services...as most of us know, it's the time you pay for not the service. But asking what services are available should not be taboo, imho. That's like saying it's wrong to ask the McDonald's cashier if Big Mac's come with pickles or not. You're not asking for a price check on a pickle-less burger...simply informing yourself of the...err...toppings. :)

 

 

Sorry I have to disagree with you on this. Ladies who wish to discuss services offered usually have a menu listed in ads or on a website. Not all of us conduct business this way and some of us even take great offence when being treated like a pizza.

 

To some people seeing a companion is an experience and not just a single act. If your seeking a certain service and not a complete package find a lady listing her services.

 

I dont have a menu, nor will I ever provide one and my business does just fine. not listing services offered does not mean a client leaves disappointed. I can tell by the 2nd email that I exchange with a client if we will click and menu has nothing to do with it.

 

Just cause a service is available or offered does not mean the client will leave happy.

 

Not every Companion bases her business on a menu.

 

 

 

 

[LuxeMulvari 65764]

Sorry I have to disagree with you on this. Ladies who wish to discuss services offered usually have a menu listed in ads or on a website. Not all of us conduct business this way and some of us even take great offence when being treated like a pizza.

 

To some people seeing a companion is an experience and not just a single act. If your seeking a certain service and not a complete package find a lady listing her services.

 

I dont have a menu, nor will I ever provide one and my business does just fine. not listing services offered does not mean a client leaves disappointed. I can tell by the 2nd email that I exchange with a client if we will click and menu has nothing to do with it.

 

Just cause a service is available or offered does not mean the client will leave happy.

 

Not every Companion bases her business on a menu.

 

 

 

 

 

I will agree with everything Emily said 100% , I feel a rendezvous with me is an experience, not just certain acts.

 

It's the journey, not the destination;)

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

I will agree with everything Emily said 100% , I feel a rendezvous with me is an experience, not just certain acts.

 

It's the journey, not the destination;)

 

I would hate having to adhere to a "script". I mean, come on, isn't it way more exciting to take a journey together and let the moment transpire?

 

I have seen comments where the gent says that his experience was mechanical. While I don't doubt that this happens, I sometimes wonder if their expectations or specific desires were not expressed properly before their meeting. There is a thread (Emerald, was that you?) concerning conversation. It does seem to be a lost art.

 

Why should a menu be necessary? Can you not take the time to engage the lady of your desire and start up a conversation and perhaps voice your desires in order to find out if you would get along?

 

It seems to me that some people are either to shy or too shallow and expect us to be like in a porn movie. Guess what....we are real human women and we don't read minds lol.

 

Kisses to all of you!

[Ashley Ann 75247]

So I am currently 18 and am looking to hire an escort, and this would by first time doing so as well. As such I would like to receive some do's/don'ts. I also am wondering if my age would be a negative aspect in this situation. Another thing is that although I am clean shaven (both facially and down there) I do have body hair would that be a problem? and should I look at independent providers or escort services?

 

I'm sorry if these are basic questions and have been answered elsewhere I would just not like to mess up as it would be my first time doing such a thing.

 

1) Select the lady of your choice

2) Take the time to view her ads and site, if she has one-as many have age restrictions.

2) Contact her via a friendly and respectful email.

3) In the email, indicate your age and that this is your first sp encounter too (although alot of men say this ;) ) as this will help the lady decide if she would like to se you or not.

 

GOOD LUCK :boobies:

[xxxAxxx 21016]

I have seen comments where the gent says that his experience was mechanical. While I don't doubt that this happens, I sometimes wonder if their expectations or specific desires were not expressed properly before their meeting.

 

How can that be possible to do if asking about a menu is "taboo" ???

 

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Why should a menu be necessary? Can you not take the time to engage the lady of your desire and start up a conversation and perhaps voice your desires in order to find out if you would get along?

 

Seems pointless to do that AFTER handing money over, doesn't it?

 

Additional Comments:

It seems to me that some people are either to shy or too shallow and expect us to be like in a porn movie. Guess what....we are real human women and we don't read minds lol.

 

We don't read minds, and neither do gentleman paying for a service. I still don't understand why it's so "wrong" to discuss it b4 hand. Once a gentleman is in my presence, I certainly don't plan to talk business, it's about time TO GET DOWN TO BUSINESS!!!

And last I checked, asking about GFE services like DFK & DATY had nothing to do with porn.

Those of you who do things differently than me, by all means continue to enjoy doing so. I still won't tell clients it's wrong of them to ask questions.

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

I NEVER said asking about a menu was taboo...simply stated that a menu shouldn't be necessary. As far as handing over the money first...buyer beware. Do you homework, engage in a frank conversation before you step out. Why would you agree to meet someone expecting, for example Greek, without even asking her if this was a restriction regardless of whether she advertises it or not? Talk IS actually cheap and invaluable.

[xxxAxxx 21016]

3) In the email, indicate your age and that this is your first sp encounter too

 

 

I don't think this should be a requirement. If the lady has preferences it's on her to ask your age....most SPs don't care about the number, it's all about how you present yourself.

 

Additional Comments:

I NEVER said asking about a menu was taboo...simply stated that a menu shouldn't be necessary. As far as handing over the money first...buyer beware. Do you homework, engage in a frank conversation before you step out. Why would you agree to meet someone expecting, for example Greek, without even asking her if this was a restriction regardless of whether she advertises it or not?

 

oops misunderstood your other post! Glad I'm not the only one who thinks this way, phew!

[Ashley Ann 75247]

I don't think this should be a requirement. If the lady has preferences it's on her to ask your age....most SPs don't care about the number, it's all about how you present yourself.

 

 

Well then I guess I am one of the very few sp's who have age restrictions. I do not feel comfortable seeing someone who is 18 yrs old, therefore I would not see them. But hey , maybe it is just me.

 

Also, it is my opinion that TMI is much better than not enough when composing messages to set up an encounter via this business.

[Rounding Third 9567]

Sorry

Not every Companion bases her business on a menu.

 

 

 

 

 

..and not every client thinks in terms of a menu...

[Wolf Knight 29667]

Personally, my preference would be the approach of Emily and Luxe as it lets the experience unfold much like any date would onfold and maintains a level of anticipation and mystery that I tend to prefer.

 

However that said, this is a business and like many other businesses it's only realisitic to expect that some clients might desire to have an understanding of of the services provided. It's really just a matter of personal preference how each entreprenure chooses to run their business and promote what they offer. Bottom line there is no wrong or right.

 

(Personally, I wouldn't hire a cleaner unless I confirmed that he/she was going to clean the "whole" house and not just the bathrooms. But I don't usually tend to desire a air of mystery and anticipation from my cleaner).

 

If as a client you feel that additional clarification regarding the extent of the experience that an SP provides you should ask in a respectful manner. If you have concerns better to have them addressed up front rather than during which could result ina less that desireable experience for both you and the SP.

 

Chuck

[piano8950 32577]

I'm unfortunately going to derail this thread a bit more, but I'm a bit confused with some of what's been said. So for clarification purposes...

 

Sorry Ladies who wish to discuss services offered usually have a menu listed in ads or on a website. Not all of us conduct business this way and some of us even take great offence when being treated like a pizza.

 

 

This whole 'menu' discussion is a bit puzzling. Suppose a client likes certain acts, something that varies from one provider to another. Prior to booking with someone, by asking if that provider is okay with that particular act, I don't think constitutes treating someone like a pizza.

 

Even if it's just finding out what's someone's limits are, I think I'd like to know that prior to seeing her then after I've paid her. I don't think I've ever met an SP with a plan of what I'd be doing, but I'd like to be completely cognisant of what I can expect, and what to stay far far away.

 

And I would think that everyone would take great offence when treated anything less then a human.

 

 

no one want to feel like a pizza,there's a huge difference in the way you ask.

 

I think this falls in line more to what I think.

[Isabella Gia (Banned) 53881]

I agree with Piano. I do not advertise particular activities but do not get offended if someone politely asks me if a certain activity is a possibility and it is I'm very clear that no activity can't be guaranteed as there are certain factors that may make me decline. I think is fair for a potential client to ask in order to have more odds for the encounter to go the way he expects.