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I speak only for myself when I say this, but, perhaps calling us "sex workers" is not the best way to make us comfortable. Maybe other SP's agree with me here (or not, who knows?) SERVICE PROVIDER or ESCORT is much better. Don't forget that many SP's view it as selling you their time, not sex. Just food for thought!

 

its all semantics really....

 

re: the original post....I like to dress business casual or like i would on a dressy evening out with friends. as said before there are sexy types of jeans, which when paired with the right high leather boot or high heel and pretty top can look just as flattering. I'm also a fan of wearing nice tight dress-pants in the winter and a blazer overtop of a sexy cleavage top....of course with a nice warm winter-jacket overtop.

 

when i worked in Toronto and my driver would drive me around he would point out the girls who worked for such and such agency who were arriving at hotels looking like they were dressed for prom...it totally drew attention and I'd say "really?"

 

I personally don't like getting requests for short skirts in the winter-time....unless the customer is okay with me bringing a skirt to change into if its that important ...but then again i find that clothing changes take up valuable time that a customer could spend undressing me in the first place ;)

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I always tend to wear dresses anyways when I do incall...outcall it depend on the season and the cold.

 

But funny fact...yoga pants is the most popular clothing request I have, along with wearing a pony tail and glasses. o.O

You know I would have think high heels and stocking...but nope yoga pants and glasses seem to do it for a lot of people

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I suddenly remembered a poll I conducted a while ago and yes almost three quarters of men (73%) prefer a lady wearing a skirt rather than pants and only 15% prefer a lady wearing pants.

 

http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=30112

 

yeah I am not the only one for sure lol!!.

 

The poll is however just somewhat related to this thread (which is asking for preference when greeting a provider, in an outcall situation) but nevertheless shows men's preference in how a lady is dressed. I thought it may enhance this thread if I include it.

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I am really sorry that I used a term that made you uncomfortable.

You are right that SP/escort is the type of language used on this board, and I should recognize that.

 

I didn't mean disrespect by it and was sort of using a term I thought was all-encompassing, and I will be more careful in the future.

 

I also apologize if there is anyone who read my comment and was offended and didn't speak up.

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If you have a preference for an outfit for an outcall, then you should specify it... Otherwise I think most providers will use their judgement in what is appropriate to show up in...

That said, I am a fan of stockings and skirts. There is nothing sexier to me than the edge of a thigh-high peeking out from behind the hem of a skirt!

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It has been suggested a couple times by Peachy and Julie that one should ask for outfit in outcall. I see visiting ladies as guests. Whether it is appropriate to ask a guest what to wear or not still a question mark in my mind but it appears that at least some of the providers are okay being asked what to wear. That said in the past I have asked for wearing skirts on a minority cases when I was really not in mood for pants, and on a few occasions as I mentioned I was told that she does not have skirt or it is too cold for wearing skirt (not to mention winter coat over it lol). Anyways I thought it should go without saying that one going to a party one will be dressed for a party. Good point though brought up in this thread to ask for outfit.

 

The purpose of this thread was not to be critical of anyone. First I was curious to know if there are others who see outcalls who prefer ladies show up in something sexier than pants or jeans and there were plenty and second to let our providers and agencies (agency ladies are the worst dressed in outcalls) know about it if there is a strong preference, and there was.

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Yes communication is important. I see no problems with gentlemen specifying their special requests providing they are polite about asking for what they would like. I also think that it's a good idea for the escort to take the extra measure to check to see what the client preferences are, just so that everyone is on the same page.

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I am mostly an incall client to begin with. So far, I have absolutely nothing to complain about when I visit a lady, be it the way she dresses or not-dresses :icon_wink:. Her beautiful face is what entices me to go and see her in the first place. I have seen ladies wearing beautiful lingeries or suggestive outfits, as well as one lady wearing a beautiful house-coat but nothing underneath which was fine with me!

 

For outcalls, I think it is drastically different. Since I live in a house, to me, discretion is very important. For this reason, I don't have any problem with the fine lady dresses even in jeans. One beautiful lady I saw recently dressed in a pair of tight jeans which showed her spinner body really well and - I love it :icon_biggrin:.

 

Something interesting which I might add is that - both ladies I saw lately came in casual clothings ( obviously for discretion purpose), but when they emerged from the washroom, they were already in some fine sexy outfits! This showed how they take their job seriously and in a very professional way - which I admire profoundly.

 

So, to me being a vey flexible person, I don't have the need to communicate in advance in regards to dresses because -- it seems the beautiful ladies here know just what to do! lol.

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Perhaps I'm unusual, but I really don't care what someone I'm visiting wears. I find that if I don't make requests, the ladies will usually choose something that they're comfortable in... and people generally seem to look hotter when they're wearing what they want, rather than something they're not entirely sure about.

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Actually Phaedrus, I have a similar attitude as to what a woman wears as you do. When I have a woman over to my place I usually tell them just to wear jeans and a t-shirt or jumper. There are two reasons for that. First, I'm pretty chill at home and don't really like to be overly formal in my own place. A good bottle of wine on either the sofa or at the kitchen table before hand sets the mood perfectly and you don't need to be all dressed up for that! Second, I find every time I tell a lady just to come over in casual clothes they are very appreciative of it. Just means they don't have to go all nuts and find the perfect outfit for really no reason at all.

 

If I am seeing a woman at there place or at a hotel...I swear them greeting me naked at the door is the sexiest thing ever and a major turn on!!!! :D

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If I am seeing a woman at there place or at a hotel...I swear them greeting me naked at the door is the sexiest thing ever and a major turn on!!!! :D

 

Wow, well I've never experienced that but I did have a lady come visit my hotel suite once and something distracted me only a moment after her arrival, so when I looked back in her direction I have no idea what she might have been wearing as she wasn't wearing anything any longer... That was shockingly pleasant :)

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A new requirement on my part:

 

Based on the feedback I received I am making dressing up in a skirt a new requirement for the independent guests. So far my only requirement when I contact indies has been unlimited kissing but nothing else. Now to be dressed up in skirt will be an additional requirement. I don't extend this to agency ladies because I don't communicate with ladies directly in this case. I don't wish it forced on the lady. If she doesn't want then she can turn down being my guest herself. This gives an edge when it come to calling I would prefer to call for indy than agency.

 

It is only fair. For those of us who have strong preference to see our lady guests dressed like a female, we go above and beyond to be good hosts. It is only fair to ask for a little bit that our guests to be dressed in skirt when visiting.

 

Thank you all for your input.

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Perhaps I'm unusual, but I really don't care what someone I'm visiting wears. I find that if I don't make requests, the ladies will usually choose something that they're comfortable in... and people generally seem to look hotter when they're wearing what they want, rather than something they're not entirely sure about.

 

You are not unusual - I am with you on this point as my early post indicates. Well -- except on one occasion when I requested this special lady to wear her lululemon pants. She looks so sexy and beautiful in them that I could look at her and admire ( and drool ! lol ) the whole day !:shehot: wearing them!

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You are not unusual - I am with you on this point as my early post indicates. Well -- except on one occasion when I requested this special lady to wear her lululemon pants. She looks so sexy and beautiful in them that I could look at her and admire ( and drool ! lol ) the whole day !:shehot: wearing them!

 

Agreed. Often there is nothing sexier than everyday clothing.

 

That being said, everyone's tastes will vary and it would probably be worth stating an expectation clearly, if there is one.

 

Yoga pants and a tank top make me drool.

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I love the look of a lady who dresses in what she thinks is sexy and appropriate, and Jeans can be extremely sexy especially when you have a figure like Peachy/Val. I always prefer whatever the lady is wearing is not to revealing my imagination of the not knowing is such a turn on. I like to start slower and build from there

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The professional suit style as a bossy consultant in one of those big corporates!

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Clothing is very important for me. I once made a special effert to see someone (I won't name names, but she knows who she is) because I noticed on cam she was wearing something I found particularly sexy that day.

 

What looks sexy depends on the woman. Some women look really sexy in tight jeans and a nice t-shirt but others are sexier in a skirt and top or dress. In part it depends on what her best assets are. ;)

 

Men can also have personal preferences. For me, I am a breast man and love someting that will show them off nicely.

 

One other thing I like is when the lady dresses in layers with nice lingeree under her outfit. While it may make for easy access to have nothing under and some may like that look, I prefer the tease of gradually revealing her body.

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Sometimes dressing up in something that triggers the other person's fantasy works very effectively. If I have a good looking client who is twisting my balls in the office, it would be a good time to get an sp that resembles her and dress like her. Revenge screw time! The little provocation would get me into a mood, and I have an excellent release. In my head, I've unloaded my real world frustration and head back to the office with a clear mind to more effectively resolve the problem at hand more creatively. SPs has many times help to resolve a lot of frustrating HR problems.

 

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On the flip side, I try to look good for the SP as well, because we all make superficial assessment about each other based on visual cues. Hey, we're all human!

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I've been in this hobby for a long time, as some people may know. These days, I'm mostly into massage rather than escorts. I'll see escorts on occasion if I've gotten to know them from here or elsewhere. Anyways, when I first started, I was almost exclusively into outcall escorts. That preference eventually evolved to incall escorts, and then eventually to massage.

 

I think there was one incident with clothing that made me stop with outcalls altogether. One lady, who I don't even remember the name of anymore, came over wearing nothing but a t-shirt! It was a slightly longer t-shirt that acted a bit like a mini-skirt, but nothing else underneath! This was at the same time, my greatest fantasy and my biggest nightmare! :icon_eek: It was in the middle of the day and it was a residential neighbourhood, and kids were all around playing on the street. I couldn't believe she did that, I had made no requests for clothing up until then, but after that I made sure that I told the providers to dress conservatively. And then a short time after that, I decided it was safer for me to go with incalls, instead of making this request all of the time.

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I'm one who also prefers outcalls, and maybe I'm the exception to the rule....but I actually prefer the casual wear (jeans, t-shirt, etc). However she would normally dress on any other given day is actually my preference. Actually come to think of it I think this applies to Incalls too.

 

I find the casual wear really helps with the fantasy aspect of hobbying. For me, it really helps take me out of the "SP/Client" reality of the situation and puts me into the fantasy mind frame of this being a spontaneous, casual encounter with a friend w/ benefits or with someone I just met, (example: just meeting someone at the supermarket, sparks fly, and she invites herself back to your place....or vice versa.... for a naughty fuckfest! ;) )

 

No one goes to the supermarket wearing 8 inch stilettos, lingerie and little else :p

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Jeans, sexy boots, nice top ... sounds good to me. Somewhat more formal ... a nice tight pencil skirt and a revealing blouse, or a little black dress if it's an evening encounter.

 

There's always time to change into sexy lingerie after the lady arrives ... or better yet, just get naked!

 

Porthos

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I know that i prefer a women dressed to the nines, a sexy dress with full scale lingerie underneath it. If you wish to blend in there is nothing wrong with a trench coat. Remember its always unsexy to have a woman put her high heels on when she gets to your place.

 

 

DoM ;)

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Really? A tshirt only? Wow

 

When doing outcalls, the last thing I want to do is attract attention to myself. Being a 90's metalhead I know how to do that all by myself.

 

However, if Im going to a 4-5* hotel I might have the sexy dress and lingerie on but I will have a long coat to cover said clothes. And I usually carry a briefcase with bagged toys, condoms, etc; then I cover it with books and papers.

 

If ever confronted I am able to feign outrage that they would have thought such a thing about me.

 

Once inside a Gents space however, that all changes.

 

If I am visiting a regular at his location, I still try to dress accordingly but much more casual and more sexy (no jeans). Of course YYMV as I only do evening outcalls.

 

And yes I have been known to answer my door naked (a turn on for one of my regular Gents) but always behind the door.

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Really? A tshirt only? Wow

 

When doing outcalls, the last thing I want to do is attract attention to myself. Being a 90's metalhead I know how to do that all by myself.

 

However, if Im going to a 4-5* hotel I might have the sexy dress and lingerie on but I will have a long coat to cover said clothes. And I usually carry a briefcase with bagged toys, condoms, etc; then I cover it with books and papers.

 

If ever confronted I am able to feign outrage that they would have thought such a thing about me.

Has that ever happened, that they've confronted you?

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