What is it about anal sex

[Fresh start 17467]

I've only experienced anal sex with a lady a few time, this is fairly new to me. I find the idea of anal sex a huge turn on.

 

I understand this is not for everyone, and I'm not trying to pressure or change anyone views but would like to know why you like it or don't like it. Is it more psychological or physical arousal that you enjoy it?

 

Love to hear all view on this both from men and woman wether its positive or negative.

[Nippongakki 3843]

I've only tried anal sex twice so I'm by no means an expert, but it just wasn't for me. It wasn't bad, but it didn't blow my mind either. I prefer the feel and positional options of pussy. Call me crazy but I absolutely adore pussy! It's my favorite thing in the whole wide world and given the choice, that is always the entry point I'd chose for my penis. I'm not against anal, I don't think it's icky or gross, and if I was with someone who really wanted it, I'd happily oblige, but there is no better feeling in the world than penis in vagina!

[NotchJohnson 214069]

I have done anal with one lady of Cerb who did not offer it on her menu and I must admit it is a total different feeling all together. I think the big thing is that it is/was taboo and now it is more open so it all depends on what the lady likes or the gentlemen likes.

[Midnite-Energies 110563]

I LOVE anal. It's a very intense amazing feeling. There are so many nerve endings that it's a whole different feeling. I love sex period and wouldn't want to chose any one activity over another because it's the whole spectrum that makes it such a wonderful activity.

 

There is also the whole aspect mentally that you're completely opening yourself to someone in ways that may be taboo to some.

 

Mind you, in order to make it good, you need to have the right approach, you can't just force it in and entry should be slow and easy. When it's not, it can have impact on whether someone views it positively or not.

[roamingguy 300291]

Personally it's not something I have thought of trying, but if a lady I was having an encounter with brought the subject up I might be game to try it.

Now a question, are you talking about anal sex with the man as a giver and lady as a receiver, or vice versa, with the lady as the giver (with strap on) and the man as receiver? Or both?

And irrespective, as Tracie points out, go slow and easy and no forcing. Probably lots of lube too. This as in all aspects of an encounter should be a mutually beneficial activity.

A quick rambling

RG

[Guest realnicehat]

Anal Sex! Sodomy! Buggery!

 

I agree, a lot of the turn on is likely the fact that it is still considered taboo (or by some a sin) and isn't readily available. Like anything that isn't that common it brings with it a sense of mystery that makes it seem perhaps more exciting than it really is.

 

Now I don't mean to knock anal sex, what I've experienced has been pretty great. One just needs to keep in mind the preparation required in order for it to be pleasurable for everyone. It's just not something you can dive in to in the heat of passion. An anal quickie just isn't going to happen (unless the lady is forewarned and has time to prepare herself but still....).

 

For me, the turn on is in the anticipation. Not only leading up to the act but the act itself. It can take a significant amount of time for receiver to stretch out and allow you access so just being still and watching, waiting for that first slow gentle stroke, taking your time until you can begin to move with her. I'll admit I came once just watching as a partner finally slid her beautiful ass back over my shaft. I felt pretty bad as she'd done all that work only to have me pop before anything really happened......

 

Also, woman just have such amazing backsides!!! They come in soooo many awesome shapes and sizes, sometimes you just want to be all up in them :)

[oldblueeyez 15475]

I have an anal toy which I sometimes use to both massage my prostate for preventative health reasons and intensify my orgasms. Most of the time it comes out with a little bit of fecal matter on it. Now I can handle a bit of my own poop on a piece of plastic, but I really don't think I can handle somebody else's poop on my penis, even if it was protected by a condom. I can count the times on one hand I've ever changed my kids' diapers, because poop makes me queasy, like puking queasy.

 

That being said, I have no problem licking a nice clean freshly showered anus. :D

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

I am gonna go with realnicehat on this one. I tend to think that the taboo aspect makes it that much more enticing. I remember that everything I ever wanted to do that my parents forbade where the things that I would seek out the most. It's human nature to experiment and the forbidden must be the best, right?

 

Personally, I have no desire to offer up my poop shoot to any kind of entry as it is not arousing to me in the least. I have no issue with those who enjoy it and I quite like obliging a man with such a request (on him not me obviously). If it feels good, great! If it doesn't then the curiosity ends there!

[Secret-Silhouettes 3385]

I love anal and everything to do with it.To me sex is not really complete unless I feel this sensual sensation within(Sapphire)

[Fresh start 17467]

I am gonna go with realnicehat on this one. I tend to think that the taboo aspect makes it that much more enticing. I remember that everything I ever wanted to do that my parents forbade where the things that I would seek out the most. It's human nature to experiment and the forbidden must be the best, right?

 

Personally, I have no desire to offer up my poop shoot to any kind of entry as it is not arousing to me in the least. I have no issue with those who enjoy it and I quite like obliging a man with such a request (on him not me obviously). If it feels good, great! If it doesn't then the curiosity ends there!

 

When you say it's not arousing do you mean physically or mentally or both?

 

I understand everyone different, I'm just wondering if its just a mentality thing or eat does feel great for some.

 

Additional Comments:

I LOVE anal. It's a very intense amazing feeling. There are so many nerve endings that it's a whole different feeling. I love sex period and wouldn't want to chose any one activity over another because it's the whole spectrum that makes it such a wonderful activity.

 

There is also the whole aspect mentally that you're completely opening yourself to someone in ways that may be taboo to some.

 

Mind you, in order to make it good, you need to have the right approach, you can't just force it in and entry should be slow and easy. When it's not, it can have impact on whether someone views it positively or not.

 

Wondering the same for you, is it the idea of it that causes pleasure or does it just feel great?

 

Additional Comments:

For the men I'm wondering if its a generation thing, now that its more acceptable in society is going to be more common? Do you think your up bringing influence it at all.

[Guest webothscore]

but there is no better feeling in the world than penis in vagina!

 

The best and most true phrase I have read in the last few months!

[Guest M****ella's C****s (retire]

Do what works for you...It's really that simple in my mind. There doesn't have to be a rhyme or reason as to why you like or how it arouses you, the bottom line is that it does or doesn't...Sooo in terms of anal, for me personally I don't mind giving or receiving..I love strap-on play and anal training others. I think it can be quite sexy and hot...But I also dabble in bdsm and do some domination/submission so you know...What works for me might not work for others...Now in terms of myself, I enjoy anal, but not often...It's not something I would want everyday once in a blue moon to keep things spicy is nice though...For me it works because I enjoy the physical sensation and sometimes its psychological...but the bottom line is it works for me..But I agree with some of the men here...there is no better feeling that can replace the sensation of the first slow slide of a cock entering my warm wet hole...uuhh nothing feels better than that first slow thrust! Yum ^_^ p+v= magical! haha

[NotchJohnson 214069]

In some country/religion a woman must remain a virgin until married but anal sex is Ok, it does not count. So many young girls have anal sex before marriage and some love it so much that this is all they seek after marriage.

[steveyK 4311]

I have experienced anal a couple of times, and for me its not the taboo aspect, but that your partner is giving all of themselves to you. This is the last frontier for a woman, as bj's and vaginas are are the norm for sex, there is only one thing left. I agree that anal sex should not be rushed into, there should be practice first, to make sure all parties are both able and comfortable, then when the time finally comes, and pure ecstasy takes over, it can be a wonderful experience for both! Of course I wouldn't expect to do this every night, but a few times a year would be awesome, and of course the practice would have to be reciprocated on me either with strap on or in an mmf situation! Cool thread....

[Guest realnicehat]

For the men I'm wondering if its a generation thing, now that its more acceptable in society is going to be more common? Do you think your up bringing influence it at all.

 

Well, I was brought up in a household completely lacking religion (lucky me) so there was never a "lose your soul if you fuck the brown hole" aspect for me.

 

I can distinctly remember being a very little kid and hearing another little kid make a reference to someone playing "dinky up bum" but I didn't have a clue what it meant. I just thought it was naughty and funny.

 

Other than books/tv/movies I can't ever recall an actual person saying to me "no sodomy". Well, aside from several ladies saying "NO! Not now, not ever."

 

I guess my only deterrent is simply that poop is dirty so I didn't really want to go there for a long time. To be honest it isn't even something I ask for very often.

 

How common it becomes is hard to say. In fact, I'm don't know if it has ever been uncommon, likely just not talked about. I'm pretty sure that as soon as man figured out that putting his dick inside things felt good it started happening a lot.......

[Philander39 3705]

In some country/religion a woman must remain a virgin until married but anal sex is Ok, it does not count. So many young girls have anal sex before marriage and some love it so much that this is all they seek after marriage.

 

Note sure if it is bad form to cite your own postings but NotchJohnson's comment reminded me of a funny video I saw

 

http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=139882&highlight=God%27s+loophole

[Motorbykerider 4754]

Seeing that I have a LOT of catching up to do, I can never imagine anyone ever wanting to go there as far as I'm concerned. My Chocolate Starfish (sorry, Limp Biscuit reference) is taboo. I wouldn't want to subject any women to that area. If someone even wanted to slip in a digit, I would get incredibly uncomfortable.

I could see me doing it, but only after I really knew someone, or after a bottle of wine.

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

In response to Empty83, I do not like the feeling. I have no mental blocks or issues with it, I just plain don't like it :).

[Wolf Knight 29667]

When it comes to anal too much lube is almost enough.

 

I've enjoyed anal many times and for my enjoyment the lady has to be really comfortable with it and find it pleasurable. Most of my pleasure is usually derived from the ladies pleasure so if she's only so-so about it I'm not interested. Slow and steady is the name of the game for Anal. To a certain degree it might be the taboo aspect of it but for me I actually find visually watching entry to be very erotic and that moment when the head actually "pops" in is exciting. For many ladies anal is pretty cut and dried they either like it or they hate it there's not much middle ground. Anal play should not usually start with going right for cock-in-ass. It's really something to be worked up to over time and usually the lady has to be very "warmed up" from other play.

 

I've been told that for ladies there's a different sensation of fullness with anal and the sensation of orgasm with something in the anus is quite interesting for both males and females. Something to keep in mind there are not many asses that can take a pounding like we might be lead to believe from porn. It's better as more of a slow erotic grinding as opposed to a pounding.

[Guest B**na***oy]

Personally, I never had any attraction to having anal intercourse with a women, but I am quite appreciative of performing DATO and gently caressing the surrounding area on a willing partner.

 

I have been at the receiving end of anal penetration on a couple occasions with TGirls as well as a few prostate massages with MAs. I'm definitely open to the idea for exploration purpose, but have not found it to be a very pleasurable experience yet. However, I find light caressing of the surrounding area, without penetration to be very pleasurable.

 

In my case, it's not so much a mental block or the fact that it falls in the taboo area, it's just that I prefer things to occur on the outside. It's also not a spur of the moment thing, there is a fair amount of preparation that is required, otherwise things can get quite messy and that would generally be a big turn off.

[crankF 12893]

My Hershey Highway lost it's virginity to a trusted lady using a slim prostate toy and I was hugely disappointed, having expected a mind blowing gasm. I may be willing to try again sometime with a different operator.

I myself have not yet driven up the "dirt road", but would give it a try with a willing female friend.

[Cleo Catra 178382]

I have an anal toy which I sometimes use to both massage my prostate for preventative health reasons and intensify my orgasms. Most of the time it comes out with a little bit of fecal matter on it. Now I can handle a bit of my own poop on a piece of plastic, but I really don't think I can handle somebody else's poop on my penis, even if it was protected by a condom. I can count the times on one hand I've ever changed my kids' diapers, because poop makes me queasy, like puking queasy.

 

That is something that can happen, which is part of the reason why some people, both women and men, don't want others touching that area. The fear/embarrassment/queasy, etc. And I totally respect that.

 

I personally like anal, a lot. I've had some of my most intense orgasms that way.

 

But as pointed out above, there always IS a possiblity that something 'unpleasant' may be visible on the condom afterward. Before an anal session, many girls (myself included) do some sort of preparation in order to prevent this from happening - but nothing is 100%. My attitude is, you wanted to fuck my ass, you need to be prepared for that small possibility. If that will gross you out, then it's not an activity we should share.

 

There defintiely have been times when I've been on the giving end of anal play and things are there, but I don't bat an eyelash - I always have tissues and wipes right there, and it doesn't make me uncomfortable at all. The pleasure anal sex can bring to both women and men is way worth the small chance of a mess.

[royalflush131313 3480]

The ass is my favourite body part and I find all forms of anal play a huge turn on....rubbing, kissing, licking, squeezing, spanking, etc., both giving and receiving. I don't consider anal sex or anal play taboo but I think one reason I like it so much is the fact that I don't get to experience it very often. Unfortunately most of the ladies I've been with in my personal life haven't felt the same way so it is a rare pleasure for me. Hopefully I'll be able to experience this on occasion in this hobby.

[LeeRichards 177238]

Hmmm..... How do I word this ? ........ I am a virgin !!!! Well I mean I don't speak Greek..... but I am going to visit Greece before I die and check this all out and learn the language ... Me and my penis like to travel ;)

[Sweet Emily J 172062]

Great conversation, ladies and gents :) I love the viewpoints.

 

For me, anal is a long term goal of mine. :) hehehe. Other people have long term goals like to learn a new language or to travel to a certain country... One of mine is to be able to get fucked in the bum. Tee hee :) I have experimented in the area, and when I am feeling good and really in the mood for it, I really enjoy the feelings and sensations there. Occasionally when I am feeling extra naughty, I use a small anal toy like this one when I masturbate:

 

 

I can get going really good with it, and it gives me super intense awesome orgasms. And for me, it is definitely the physical feeling, but it is also very much the naughty aspect, and the fact that it is considered a "forbidden" area.

 

I have tried full-on anal sex a few times with a former long term partner, but for various reasons, it just has never worked out well... yet. I am well educated about it and know all about how to do it, etc... I just simply have not gotten there yet. It's a slow process for me.

 

I'd really like to get more comfortable with exploring anal pleasure on a partner as well; including strap on and prostate massage, both of which I have quite limited experience with. Admittedly, it makes me a bit nervous, but also very curious and I would love to bring pleasure to those willing partners in a new way... when I am ready.

 

My sexuality is a lifelong journey, so I am in no real rush. I think about anal in the same way that I think about many other sexual experiences; as something to look forward to enjoying and exploring more; something to continue experimenting with and pushing my own boundaries.

 

I also have fantasies about getting double penetrated like a naughty little slut someday as well. :)