Turn around

[Tomahawk 100]

I just would like to know if has anyone been able after meeting a sp to just turn around go?

I found myself In A very sticky situation when I met this woman and I was so disappointed, but I still stayed even though I wanted to leave. I just didn't want to cause any trouble. Any advice?

[NotchJohnson 214076]

I had booked a meeting with a new lady (in Montreal), I found her listing on bp and when I knocked on her door it was not the girl that was announced in the ad, we had a small talk about the mix up, she said that her and another girl share the same phone number and she was out for a few hours. She had no problem with me leaving even though she offered me the service I refused.

[olderguy 5797]

Had an occasion a few years back where I arrived at the lady's location, went in and there was a child sitting on the couch watching television. I asked "what gives" and she said, "it's okay, he won't disturb us, he'll sit and watch cartoons". The whole situation creeped me out and I handed the lady a twenty for her troubles said "sorry" and walked out. Perhaps I was wrong but it felt right at the time, and I'd probably do exactly the same thing if the situation ever repeated itself.

[Luckyme 41401]

Many years ago, I took a friend of mine from out of town to see a lady who advertised in the newspaper. When the door opened and my friend saw this lady, he just turned around and walked back out. I would have been more polite and offered her some compensation if it was me.

[Athos 108589]

It happened to me this past summer. I booked a provider (not on CERB) who had a pretty good reputation. When the door opened she wasn't unattractive, but really wasn't what I was looking for at all. Pictures were fairly deceptive, but more than that the whole attitude towards the session didn't feel right to me. I showered, came out of the bathroom, apologized and simply said I didn't think she was what I was looking for and left. I did insist she keep the full donation. Most expensive shower I've ever had.

 

Porthos

[Guest c**io**m7]

I have left early from sessions a few times, for several different reasons including an experience with a lady who was in the middle of a breakdown.

 

I left...my money stayed, it happens.

[Wolf Knight 29667]

I've experienced bait and switch (which I was actually expecting) and decided to go through with it based on my assessment of the lady and the situation at the time. However, I've only walked out on one lady and it wasn't a bait and switch she was an apparently well recommended lady. When the door opened I was was a little aghast at the state of the incall and after chatting small talk for a few minutes I realized that there was no way I could possibly be physically intimate with that lady in that environment. I politely thanked her for her time wished her the best of luck and left. My money stayed, I felt too bad for her to take it even though she offered it back.

 

It happens! As an aside my two worst experiences have been last minute bookings spur of the moment.

[Midnite-Energies 110563]

I expect unless someone is a very good actor the lady in question probably felt something was amiss or that you weren't really into the session. If you are picking your providers wisely, there should be no drama or upset if you arrive and then say you don't believe you should continue with the session.

 

At this point, it would be respectful to compensate in some way. I'm sure every provider has their own view on what would be acceptable. I'm assuming this was simply a case of what you thought you were getting from ads, website and other sources did not meet your expectations and was not a B&S?

 

Life is too short to be forcing yourself to do something you don't want to do especially in a "choice" area (as opposed to say family or work obligation). Walking away is good for both in this situation.

[Kate von Katz 49953]

The reality of this industry is that you will run into people who are not advertising honestly. I firmly believe that just like a lady has every right to end an appointment with a gentleman, the gentleman also has that right.

 

We're all human beings, and we all have feelings which can be hurt. Just like it stings a gentleman when a lady refuses him (even the ones who deserve it are often oblivious to what they did and can feel spurned), it can sting a lady when a gentleman refuses them, regardless of the reason. Be tactful, be polite and don't be demeaning or accusatory - that never leads anywhere good.

 

Best thing to do is to be honest but tactful. If she's not as advertised, simply tell her you were expecting something different, and that you do not wish to see her.

 

In some cases, it is helpful (depending on the circumstance) to offer a nominal fee as a sort-of peace offering. This isn't required (and if it is, usually a lady will have it on her website that there is a cancellation fee), but it can go a long way to diffuse a situation that seems to be going downhill fast. Use your judgment with this.

[cinelli 22184]

The reality of this industry is that you will run into people who are not advertising honestly

 

Sad but that is reality.

 

I've only walked once out of maybe a thousand sessions. I went to a semi-sketchy area and things got really sketchy once I knocked on the door...my only thought was GTFO NOW!!

[Guest P**aq]

I've been fortunate to not have been in any sort of precarious situation that compelled me to leave. I usually book long in advance (for me, "short notice" is about 2 days in advance), and have studied every word on her web site before making any initial contact to really get a good impression of her. But I do appreciate reading the advice of those responding to this thread in the event that I am ever in this situation. Leaving with tact and not hurting feelings is a very difficult thing to achieve.

[Ice4fun 78396]

I have never been faced with this situation as the ladies I have met have all been exactly what I expected...lol...actually in most cases even better.

 

If I was ever in a situation where I decided not to continue I think my approach might be determined by what the issue was. If I was faced with a bait and Switch I would not feel any obligation to compensate the lady. I would politely explain that I was expecting someone else and therfore not interested in continuing.

 

If my reason for leaving related more to my personal choice I would feel it would be appropriate for me to fully compensate the lady for her time.

 

I think the reason I have never been faced with this is the fact that I have tended to see the same ladies repeatedly and after a fair amount of homework.

 

[Guest Be***iful****lah]

If she is professional it is her job to ensure you are well informed of what you are walking into. On the other hand, clients should definitely be precise about anything that might cause them discomfort prior to the meeting in my opinion. You are picky about faces? Ask for a detailed description of her face, ask for photos of her smile or just her eyes, or just her profile etc.

 

You want to ensure the location is clean and in a good upscale part of town? Specify that and let her know it's important. (Although in my opinion again that should be a given for a professional)

 

If you are completely taken aback by what you see or feel, I'm guessing there was a bit of information left out.

 

Photos...I actually hope that what I might consider to be the less appealing part of my body is very clearly shown somewhere in my collection of advertised photos.

 

If a client felt uncomfortable for any reason about me, I would want more than anything for him to have the guts to tell me something doesn't feel right. I would admire the honesty. The polite thing would certainly compensate a tiny bit for lost time...but then again what if I was the one who actually made him waste his time because of my false advertising? Who really deserves to be compensated at that point?

 

 

Just some random thoughts on this topic.

 

I would feel terribly unethical knowing someone is forcing themselves to stay and go through with it just out of pure obligation. That is just wrong.

[Ice4fun 78396]

Photos...I actually hope that what I might consider to be the less appealing part of my body is very clearly shown somewhere in my collection of advertised photos.

 

Ok.... just spent some time going through your CERB ads....I can't see anything that I would consider to be "less appealing" in fact every inch looks delicious... besides having you....what am I missing :)

[Guest Be***iful****lah]

Ok.... just spent some time going through your CERB ads....I can't see anything that I would consider to be "less appealing" in fact every inch looks delicious... besides having you....what am I missing :)

 

Awww! Very sweet of you:) Thank you! Ya big flirt you.;)

[piano8950 32577]

The one and only time I booked a half hour. It's as if my subconscious knew something was up. This lady was very well reviewed.

 

I head there, have to wait 30 minutes close to her place (decided to wait a few blocks away at a Tim Hortons) since she said something was up. No biggie. Then she asks me to come. When I saw her, she was very pretty, there were no face pictures, but honestly I thought her to be very attractive. That's where the good stuff ended. It was a hotel room, and it was a massive mess. There was a dog there, which threw me off, but I for some reason was willing to let that go. It was a very surreal experience, I could see, plain as day all her cash on the table. She acted very nonchalant about the whole thing.

 

I paid her, went to the bathroom to freshen up, I honestly did not know what to make of it. I came out pretending to have a stomach ache (I'm sure she saw through my bullshit), and left.

 

I lost a little bit of my money, but that was just a surreal experience. She's active (not on Cerb), and seems very intelligent. Idk what to make of it still.

 

So that was my turn around story. Basically paid the entire amount for waiting and then spending 5 minutes with her.

[MarkOttMassage 369]

I once set up a meeting with an SP, but when I arrived to her place, felt reluctant about the whole thing. She was the person in the photos, but she took them in such a way that hides a lot of "features" I never guessed were there.

 

I ended up paying for a session I did not enjoy..

[Guest Na****a***mers (RETIRED)]

I'll tell you a true story...

 

When I worked for an agency, often 2 girls would share a condo. On one of those days I was having lunch and the other girl was waiting for a client. He knocks, she opens the door and I hear the following:

 

Client:

"Oh you look so much like my friend's wife, it's really creeping me out, I have to leave, I'm so sorry but this is just too creepy".

 

Girl was very attractive and single, so we were clueless what possessed him to say what he said, but it seems like it could be a good excuse for you to use in case you are in that sort of situation again ;)

[Ottawabernie 100]

Being Canadian I think I would have done the same thing as Tomahawk. We do not wish to cause embarrassment. But I agree with Olderguy about the child. There probably is something illegal about the child being on site. Children's' Aid should have looked into this.

 

Is it the same with the Service Provider? Can she turn around when the guy is not to her liking?

[Kracked 120]

Honestly I'm reading this board for a couple of days now because I've always been around escorting services but I have never booked any actual meeting because so many people tell me so many bad things about it and I've always been around this forum because many people recommended it to get real reviews about SP and to know the know-hows of this domain but when I'm reading some of the things I see in this post I cannot believe my eyes that some people think in the way they do.

 

A prime example of this is this post, some SP I don't remember who it was and I'm too lazy to check it up said that, considering a situation where the girl who has posted pictures of her in her advertisement CLEARLY advertised WRONGFULLY and used FAKE PHOTOS of a very attractive girl when she is clearly not the girl on the pictures and even less has the attractiveness of the girl depicted, that when the guy opens the door and see's his deception. He should give the girl some money as a "peace-agreement" and that it wasn't required but it would go a LONG way in defusing a situation....

 

Just think about what you just said for a second... the guy probably had a rough day and wanted to relax and enjoy a session with a lovely Escort and he had expectations and probably though about the pictures advertised in the ad all day long and when he knocks on the door and see's that the girl is really far from being the girl on the photos and not only that, the girl that showed up is NOT EVEN the type of girl that this guy fancies why would the guy care if she has feelings or emotions and she will feel hurt if she is rejected.

 

SHE POSTED FAKE PHOTOS OF HERSELF TO BAIT THE CLIENT... It should be illegal as Escorting services are now legal in Canada/Quebec (at least that's what I heard from a couple people and from an SP and a client and one of my friend so If I'm wrong please correct me) So in my opinion, when something that was illegal becomes LEGAL, it also becomes REGULATED, and there starts to be RULES in advertising and Fake advertising can be a type of FRAUD as much as IDENTITY THEFT is.

 

In my opinion the guy should not only NEVER give her any money, but she should also ask to get some kind of compensation for all the deception that he has to go through to have hoped all day long to meet the girl depicted in the pictures in the ads and then opening the door to an unnattractive lady, the Escort should give him some kind of reimbursement for the time, deception and gaz he spent to get to her location (for incalls)

 

When that girl said that the guy's should give the girl money as a "peace agreement" I was ASTOUNDED... she just TRICKED you and you wanna PAY HER... what this is is doing POSITIVE reinforcement on a very negative behaviour... what should really happen is NEGATIVE reinforcement... get a punishement, and no don't "the fact that she won't get the money" is not a punishement, she didn't lose nothing at all, she just opened the door to an unsatisfied client, HE lost his time, hopes, and money to come to where she lives for a FAKE ad.

 

Not all guys are rich, and it doesn't require a guy to be rich to afford an Escort, I'm on the AFG (Recieving money from government every month while I find a new job to pay for MINIMAL REQUIREMENT expenses) People on AFG recieves 630$ Canadian per month, that is calculated to be the minimal average amount needed for people to just "survive".

 

BUT, I make sacrifices, I don't buy luxury for food, my rent costs about 200$ less than average and I never buy restorants and barely go and never buy alcohol. So in average even without working I can save up to 250$ per month (usually to pay stundent loans and credit card)

 

So if one month I want to spend that 250$ to get a ONE TIME 1h with an Escort, do you really think I will want to compensate a girl who made me spend 15$ of Gaz to go see her? Of course not, I will even me VERY MAD if I don't get my gaz money back, because that's not something I can afford everyday, and not because I can't regularly afford it that I should "NOT GET THAT KIND OF SERVICE" I'm as much entitled to getting that service as anyone else if I'm ready to pay the fees.

 

I do understand that this is my first post but I do think that even if I do say my opinion about some stuff and that I'm against what some people thing, it doesn't make it all negative, there is a lot of good in my post, and also it is my opinion and I share what I think should happen, my fears about stuff like that and what I think is right so I don't think this post should be deleted.

 

It's a very good first post in my opinion and it demonstrate that anyone can enjoy the services of an Escort, not just people who have jobs and get 20$/hour. Students on minimal wages can afford it too, even people without a job could afford it once a month.

 

And I'm always respectful because I'm also registered on 4 Dating websites in which I am very active so I do meet alot of girls who are interested in either casual sex or serious relationship, but most of the time, even the girls who want a serious relationship end up having sex with me on first or second encounter, and I always respect them and even if the sex was bad or I didn't particularly enjoy it I will make it my duty to keep talking to them and be nice to them and if I really don't want to see them again I'll keep them as friends and I'll find a very polite and respectful way to tell them it's not what I'm looking for.

 

So I'm a guy who would be the perfect kind of client for a girl who wants to offer me a GOOD first experience with an escort. It's a shame that people think down on us it's not because we don't CURRENTLY have jobs that we don't have a futur or that we're all hoboes dressing cheaply and having bad hygiene... hygiene is my PRIMARY councern when going to see a girl for a dating site type date. So it would also be for an Escort.

 

But seriously guys, what do you think, what do you REALLY think should happen when you are the victim of BAIT & SWITCH and the girl who opens the door is absolutely not to your taste?

 

Like I said I would ask for an amount equal to what I lost in Gaz or public transportation (Bus/Metro) to get to where she lives. I think that is only fair.

 

As for the situation with the kid, I would have left saying this is a totally innapropriate situation and you should clearly get some help for this kid.

And what I think about all other situations, clearly I disagree with everyone who left without getting any service at all and left their money to the escort, I do not think in any cases exept where she really was what she advertised and the place was as advertised but you just don't feel it at that time, then yes FULLY compensate her, otherwise, you should take your money back if the reason you turn back is because of a very unethical situation or the fact that the place/person is not as advertised

 

Altho, if a girl shows only her face and she ends up being 250 pounds, I do think you should discuss with her what price she would like for no service at all and then maybe just leave her a note to please put photos that shows her weight a bit more because you are dissapointed, but she still has the right to show only her face when she is fat, personally if she has a pretty face and nice boobs, I won't care how fat she is, given it's not a 350lbs whale...

 

That pretty much sums up all I had to say for this topic, but I have SO MUCH MORE to say about so many things...

 

I'm looking forward to becoming a known member here, so Peace Out, and Hail to my first of many posts.

[MarkOttMassage 369]

I like what you said and I completely agree. When such a situation takes place, I find it unfair for the guy to walk away without compensation. It's absolutely rediculous that he would be forced to pay her something. I really don't want to pay 2 hours of minimum wage work to CANCEL an appointment with a LIAR

[Midnite-Energies 110563]

First off, let me say that anyone who finds them self in a B&S situation or a fake advertisement or whatever, has no obligation whatsoever to compensate the individual. When it comes to this, I think I missed in the thread where someone said to compensate. I'm not sure what to say about your thoughts on actually asking to be compensated without sounding rude.

 

In my knowledge, many situations of this sort actually involve other people who attempt to intimidate, bully, threaten etc. and the only thought at that point should be your safety. Be thankful you were able to step away from the situation intact; there have been others who have had their money stolen. In the other situations, if they are willing to go to those extremes, you are potentially looking at an elevation of the situation. If someone is willing to B&S you, who's to say they won't also scream, make accusations, get others involved etc? I'm not sure asking for compensation is the safest bet. There are avenues of disrupting, preventing and warning that can be followed afterwards but again, your safety should be paramount.

 

A couple of the posters alluded to issues but didn't specifically state the issue. If it's a case of the pictures and advertising being real but the reality in person did not meet expectations, that is when compensation might come into play. By that I mean, if most of my pics are face or breast pics but I say I am a BBW and you show up expecting a spinner, I advertised truthfully but the expectation was incorrect. In that situation, yes, it would be a good gesture.

 

If the person is using old pics, wrongfully advertising, or even is not well presented, that would be up to the client in question. Personally, because I believe in honesty, I would not. If it's a matter of her looking like your best friend or there are kids in the hotel corridor or other personally upsetting little things, then yes, compensation would be a nice gesture.

 

Much of this is personal and what you would or would not feel comfortable doing. You might be comfortable with a confrontation to demand compensation at a B&S while many others would be happy to just get out of there intact, hopefully with money in hand.

 

This is one of the great things about CERB, you have the ability to read posts, read recos, see info on B&S and fakes and talk to other hobbyists. Like anything else, it's important you do your research and think about what you see/read. This is like any other industry that involves people, you have both good and bad and have to determine what works for your own personal comfort.

 

Beyond that, welcome and good luck with finding who and what you're seeking.

[loopie 15358]

I have left a rendezvous early one time, and it was one of only two bad experiences I have had in this hobby.

 

The SP was just really unprofessional. The SP lived with a roomie who was home and watching some sitcom and laughing really loud in the next room. And the SP's mobile rang like 20 times while we were together and she would always pick it up and check it every time. She was good looking and seemed like she wanted to please me, but I just couldn't get in the mood with all distractions and so I left.

 

From what I saw she did not stay in the business very long.

[Gabriella Laurence 301887]

I'll tell you a true story...

 

When I worked for an agency, often 2 girls would share a condo. On one of those days I was having lunch and the other girl was waiting for a client. He knocks, she opens the door and I hear the following:

 

Client:

"Oh you look so much like my friend's wife, it's really creeping me out, I have to leave, I'm so sorry but this is just too creepy".

 

Girl was very attractive and single, so we were clueless what possessed him to say what he said, but it seems like it could be a good excuse for you to use in case you are in that sort of situation again ;)

 

Natasha,

 

I have to tell you that this has happened to me too in the past but I was the one who got "creeped out" by my gentleman's resemblance to a family member of mine. There was absolutely no way in hell I could get intimate with him because of it.

 

We talked for a while and I took the time to explain the situation to him. He fully understood and respected my decision as the last thing he wanted me to feel was uncomfortable during our time together and/or obligated to do somehing I didn't want to do.

 

So what possessed him to say that to your friend? Maybe the truth ;) Maybe it was something else too but we'll never know...