Reflections on 2013

[Guest c**io**m7]

Here we are, nearing the end of another year and some of us take a few moments to reflect on the past 12 months. What went well? What would you have done differently? What did you learn? What didn't go well? What's the action plan for next year?

 

I must admit, 2013 was a reasonable year. Yup, I definitely made a few mistakes and there was certainly some shitty stuff in the family I have no control over but, overall, not a bad year.

 

Work-wise, I found out that I finished #1 over more than 1000 applicants for a pretty major promotion and have been handed some pretty critical responsibilities. Even though these responsibilities exist, I find I am able to discover more free time when I plan my activities properly.

 

Home...well, slightly different...lol. As many know, my SO found out about curiousm7 and my girlfriend. Yes, this can be viewed as a bad thing but, on the other hand, we have been going downhill for quite some time so...really, finding out about C7 will inevitably help both of us move forward towards putting an end to this so we can stop kidding ourselves. On the bright side, I became a grampa in 2013...what an absolute gorgeous beauty my grand-daughter is.

 

Love...yes, I found love in 2013. It was unplanned and, to borrow from a respected Cerb member, it slapped me upside the head (actually, I think it smacked both of us pretty hard). It's taken almost 45 years but, finally, happiness...now we just need to get through a few other complications...lol

 

Sex...there was a little bit in 2013. I think I started the year on a quest for quantity and eventually learned that quantity doesn't mean shit if you are just part of an assembly line. I eventually move to quality and everything changed...couldn't be happier (except maybe higher quantity of the quality) and learned that the highest quality sex comes with love attached.

 

Massage...wow...can't say much except wow. I finally tried it in 2013 and truly wish I had ventured sooner. What did I learn? Sensuality and passion can certainly trump sex almost any day of the week.

 

What would I have done differently? I would have redirected my hobby money to quality. I would have tried massage in January. I would have been honest with my SO and ended my marriage before she found out about curiousm7 and my gf. I would have allowed myself to fall for my gf before I did instead of fighting it.

 

2014 will be interesting. I will continue to dedicate my support, heart, love and loyalties to this wonderful lady. I will be the best damned grampa in the world. I will congratulate my son as he earns his Master's in 2014. I will be proud of my youngest as she embarks in her first year of post-secondary school. I will continue to work my ass off at the office and chase that next promotion until I reach all my career goals.

 

2014 is the year of my children, my grand-child, and myself.

 

2014 is the year of my lady...she will know that I take her, and all that comes with her, with an open heart that is hers to occupy.

 

2014 is the year that love is my #1 consideration because, in 2014, I dedicate myself to being the best I can be to the ones I love.

[emiafish 30979]

Good thread topic, C7!

 

Let's review 2013. This was the year I ended my early retirement and got back to work! It was also the year that saw me get off antidepressants and allowed me to reach climax again, although sometimes I miss the porn star endurance. It was the year I said goodbye to my regular Monday morning play mate. I was also able to scratch a thing or two off of my sexual bucket list in 2013.

 

With steady employment came the ability to plan for the future again. Took a summer holiday in Barbados and planned for a winter getaway in March. 2013 is ending on a high note, I sold a property that I had on the market for 21 months; no more double bills (taxes, utilities, insurance), no more headaches too!

 

I've continued my hobbying ways, perhaps with a touch more restraint. I was burning it up at the start of the year with 3-4 play dates weekly. I think I was treating my depression with liberal doses of pussy. This has slowed down by at least half, I'm much less depressed but still love the kitty. I had the chance to see everyone on my 2013 wish list, some more than once! I'm grateful to have found CERB and the wonderful ladies who work in and visit our city.

 

Most of all, I am looking forward to the new year with optimism. This is something I could not have said a year ago.

 

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to all. :chug:

[Ice4fun 78396]

For a number of years I have not felt that I had a lot to look forward to... it has been a very difficult time for me and my family and to be honest I did not see my way forward....i have been very good at functioning and giving the appearance that life is good when in reality I have been very unhappy.

 

My involvement in this hobby I think has stemmed from a desire to just get away from the real world for a few hours every now and then.

 

Little did I know that I would meet such amazing people.... people who have helped me move forward and to start to look forward to tomorrow again. For the first time in many years I have a more positive outlook for next year.

 

I know that many people will say of course you feel better... Great sex with beautiful women will do that for you... but in honesty it has been the character and integrity of the amazing people (one in particular) that I have met that has had the most impact.

 

Thank You

[Bianca Jaguar 39183]

2013!!! wow...where do i start...

 

I started being an SP in 2013...best decision ever. It gave me the opportunity to spend more time with my kids and help them out financially... school, sports activity...feels so good :)

Traveled a lot to different cities and totally loved it!

 

On the personal level...met some amazing people in the industry, SP and clients that I consider really amazing friends :) As for my love life..hmm _____________________;) no prince charming yet haha.

 

Family: Parents are both 82, mom's alzeihmer is not getting any better and my dad is taking it all on his shoulders...being there for them...one day at a time. Kids are doing awesome and I feel blessed to have such wonderful kids!

 

2013 was break year from intensive gym workouts,diete and competition...juggling with the idea of getting back into it. So many things to consider....I'll keep you guys informed as I don't want any chocolate gifts lol I will need all the support I can get ;)

 

Looking forward to 2014 :chug:

BJ xxx

[mrgreen760 37785]

2013 has given me the opportunity to reflect on many things including my participation in the game as I like to call it. In the vein of been there done that I scaled back my activities significantly to almost nothing in 2013 and have been quite content with that decision.

 

Life is about change and moving forward and I will continue to do so in 2014.

 

Have a happy and healthy holiday season.

 

Peace

MG

[Guest N***he**Ont**y]

Lets see what have I done in 2013. I became more focused this year on some important personal issues and I am now happier after arriving at some solutions. Said good bye to a couple of friends who weren't really friends after all which indirectly led to the retiring of The Jokester on this forum. I met some lovely new ladies which I was very pleased about. I am working harder these days hoping to retire all my personal debt within 2014. Life is not to bad these days.

[roamingguy 300291]

2013 has been a year I hope never to repeat

 

2013 saw dad dying (and then passing away) from cancer (leukemia, lung and bone cancer). To call cancer a horrible disease is an understatement.

Mom has been diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's earlier this year.

Without details, because of something my family did, it literally turned my life upside down. Things are still kinda strained in our family, it was close to being estranged between me and my family. And the outcome of what they did I won't know till May 2014

I had to heavily curtail my participation in this lifestyle this year due to family circumstances. I hated doing it but had to postpone many encounters. But I appreciate the ladies for their understanding.

 

There were some positives. First, after three years past the expiry date, our contract finally got settled. Mind you, it was settled in July, and we still haven't seen it on our paycheque, nor the back pay, or the payout of severance pay...should come in Feb 2014...boy the government sure moves slowly

Second positive, while I had to heavily curtail my participation in this lifestyle, I did have two memorable encounters, I reconnected with Emily Rushton, and I finally got to consummate my marriage with Gabriella Laurence

But in this whole year the one real good that stands out, and I won't forget it. One lady and companion, well she is much more than a companion, she is a friend. She has been very supportive this past year, much more so than can be expected in an SP/Client relationship. This lady is beautiful, both inside and out and has a heart of gold. She is Emily Rushton. Emily, thank you, your support and friendship over this past year is appreciated

 

RG

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

This year was a year of change for me. I learned a lot about cerb and how it works. I met some wonderful new people, both providers and hobbyists.

 

However, I was betrayed by someone who I thought was a good friend and all because she misunderstood what someone else told her and the lies she told. It turned nasty and it has made me leery of meeting new providers as a result.

 

My cat rescue continues, and am now standing at 27 spayed/neutered cats that no longer have to endure endless pregnancies and freezing winters. A new puppy has me running most days, she wears me out, but I love her. My old dog is near the end of her life, but she is still happy and active. I hope she makes it through the holidays as she loves finding her presents and hording them.

 

The hobbyists I have met however have been great. Those providers and hobbyists I continue to call my friend I wish you a great Christmas and a safe and prosperous New Year.

 

[Athos 108589]

Well, 2013 was a year of ups and downs. Professionally it has been rewarding, but sometimes difficult. Like RG, I've had to deal with the ill health of aging parents. My mother continues to be in extremely poor health. In 2014 it looks like we will continue counting the days she has left.

 

On the positive side, I met many fabulous people this year, both inside this community and outside it. My children continue to amaze and inspire me and make me incredibly proud.

 

So here is to 2014 .... may it bring everyone health and happiness.

 

Porthos

[LeeRichards 177238]

Well as stated by others 2013 personally at home here it was also a year of ups and downs.

 

But when you have aging parents, siblings, family, a job plus trying to grow businesses, kids and either reno's or houses to build I believe that will be something I say every year for many to come. ;)

 

What I will reflect on is what I have learned from my experiences with my Cerb lady friends. Last year about this exact same time, I sat in this exact same office and reflected on the past year and started to plan for the upcoming year. I decided that from the hobby side of things I wanted to try and do more extended visits, dinner dates, overnighters, 24 hrs, 48 hrs just whatever is in the cards. I wanted to really get to know the ladies and them know me. Just be ourselves and relax and have fun and forget about stuff. Smile, laugh, eat, drink, be merry, shag, giggle, prance around nekkid.....just whatever. Ha.

 

What I really learned is............that the bonds that are developed from the time spent conversing and getting to know each other is key....for me. The caring, and the admiration and the "wanting" to see someone for the first time.... and again and again is amazing. It makes me smile.....daily :) When you get together it can make the whole experience awesome and perhaps sparks can fly and become quite intense :)

 

I learned that you can keep it simple but still sincerely care for people very much.

 

I ultimately realized that YMMV for me was ...... that a lady wants and looks forward to spending time with me. When I can see it in her eyes. That's it.

 

and... I realize I am not your average bear when it comes to this hobby....but for many or most this is another life. For me it is a very big part of my life and I am happy and proud to say that it is. When my business routes its clients and travels to areas so I can see gals I want to spend time with....then that is definitely part of my life. Profit margin down, sperm count down, lost calories...wait that is a good thing. Smiles and memories and good times baby !!!

 

Money can't buy you health.....but it can take you to places of happiness. :) You only live once.

 

Cheers to 2014 peeps and all the good things in life !!!! :chug:

[Triple HHH 12345]

2013 was a great year for me, my personal side of life is good, enjoying my job, all my family are doing well.

On the Cerb side I finally got the courage again to visit a SP on the Island, after visiting a very pretty and skillful lady from the west a few times she helped me get rid of my paranoia that everyone was watching me. I became more comfortable with the lovely cerb ladies I did get to visit and also going and coming from these visits, really looking forward to 2014, I believe it will be a year to remember for me!!!

[Guest **cely***r***ne]

I just have to say what?

Where did the year go?

 

The past year I have been barely here, and as much as I miss it and you, my most precious gift (was actually dec. 2012 but hey) my son is pretty much my whole life. I am breastfeeding and that makes travelling very hard! So I did have to back off a bit. BUT this coming year my goal after the weaning, is to be back on my saddle (you).

 

2013 has had its many ups and downs. Lost love and passing of family members to unexpected trials and tribulations. However 2014 is the year of light which for me means rebirth and new beginnings! Here's to a wonderfully blessed year ahead!

[someguy 67067]

Yes this year went by so quick. I had planned to meet only a few new women and to repeat with many of my regular's which I did. However I got carried away and did see quite a few new women. Who all exceed my expectations and became friends. I also saw my regulars quite a few times this year also and my list of regulars has doubled. And I have chatted with many new women in Chat and PM and also have added them to list of women to meet in 2014. Made many new chat friends on Cerb. This year has been great, I haven't met one woman that I haven't enjoyed the company with. I've learnt to be more confident and learnt how to please a woman in many ways:)

Looking forwards to see what 2014 brings. And hope to see more of the wonderful women of Cerb :)

[Nathalie L 112512]

This year has been quite something. I don't even know where to start.

 

It's been a year of momentous personal growth and the concretization of really important interpersonal relationships. It's been a year of friendships lost and found again, giggles, laughter, love, and hardship.

 

In 2013 I traveled South America for a month, presented my master's research at an academic conference, met many of my academic crushes, decided to take a year off between my MA and PhD, and decided to (potentially) not pursue a PhD at all.

 

Lately I've been thinking of doing another master's degree in therapy/counseling. I love being self-employed, and one of the things I love the most about being an escort (excluding the sex) is the interpersonal connection, empathy, and compassion. I think I would be a good therapist :)

 

I feel like it's been a year of many shifts and changes. What would I have done differently? Nothing. I'm exactly where I should be, doing exactly what I need to do. I've never been one to experience much regret. What's the point? It is what it is. I take all such moments as an opportunity for growth, an opportunity to make sure I learn and don't make the same mistake twice. I think I've done a good job so far.

 

What's my action plan for next year? Finishing my master's degree! The winter semester is going to be really intense... I have one course left, and my entire thesis to write before I defend it in April. Wish me luck!

 

Then, when April is done, I want to basque in the accomplishment and maybe do a little bit more traveling. I would love to go to Japan in late March or early April (2015) for the bloom of the Cherry Blossom trees... I want to sing in a karaoke bar, buy random stuff from vending machines, and visit an extravagant host lounge. I know that's 2015, but I'll plan it in 2014. ;)