Guest P**aq Report post Posted February 17, 2014 I feel a little sheepish posting this as it is a complete rip off of Summers fabulous thread "Ask an Escort" but it has been so eye-opening (and dare I say fun) that I wondered if maybe the wonderful ladies of CERB might have some questions they would like to ask the hobbyists? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Wolf Knight 29667 Report post Posted February 17, 2014 Hey, no worries tit for tat is ok....... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cute0aza0Button 21399 Report post Posted February 17, 2014 What made you finally take the leap? Do you find yourself booking a lady because of her ad or recs or pictures (mostly)? How important is web presence (outside of cerb - website, blog, other ad sites etc) 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Wolf Knight 29667 Report post Posted February 17, 2014 What made you finally take the leap? The need for sexual exploration and after lots of "research" choosing a great lady I was comfortable with.Do you find yourself booking a lady because of her ad or recs or pictures (mostly)? For me on cerb it's a ladies persona and her posts and writings, a well put together ad speaks to me. How important is web presence (outside of cerb - website, blog, other ad sites etc) For me very important, I find intelligence and wit very sexy. I like knowing that a lady has a good head on her shoulders and takes her business seriously. Ask away, but I think because of the sheer volume of clients you'll get lots of different perspectives. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest P**aq Report post Posted February 17, 2014 What made you finally take the leap?Do you find yourself booking a lady because of her ad or recs or pictures (mostly)? How important is web presence (outside of cerb - website, blog, other ad sites etc) Thank you for your questions Megan! What made me finally take the leap was pure need for human intimacy. I was caring for two ailing family members at the time and had no time for myself to date or do much of anything for myself. I tend to book because of ads (you get a feel for her personality) and pictures. I've never really looked at recs before. Web presence is absolutely important! The first time I booked with an SP, I must have read every tab on her website 10 times over to get a good sense of her personality! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Studio 110 by Sophia 150333 Report post Posted February 17, 2014 Have you ever looked at an ad or profile and thought... "wow, she way out of my league?" 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cute0aza0Button 21399 Report post Posted February 17, 2014 Ask away, but I think because of the sheer volume of clients you'll get lots of different perspectives. If course :) just like with SPs I'm overly curious lol Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest P**aq Report post Posted February 17, 2014 Have you ever looked at an ad or profile and thought... "wow, she way out of my league?" Absolutely! Have you seen all the women at this site? I say it all the time! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Studio 110 by Sophia 150333 Report post Posted February 17, 2014 Have you booked a session and not be able to perform as you hoped? If so, how did you handle that? 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Triple HHH 12345 Report post Posted February 17, 2014 The reason I took the leap I wanted more and I felt safer here than having an affair with someone. In regards to who I picked first was due to her Ad, her sexy pictures plus saying to check out her website did for me. That Cerb lady was Miss Emily Rushton, the first pictures I saw of her was her Blue Belle series, she looked so hot, her website was so professional I felt very comfortable. I was in Fredericton at the time smiled all the way back to PEI. Definitely have to travel to St.John or Fredericton this year to meet her again! 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Wolf Knight 29667 Report post Posted February 17, 2014 Have you ever looked at an ad or profile and thought... "wow, she way out of my league?" Yes, at first when I started but perhaps that's part of the appeal for some clients. To have the opportunity to spend time with ladies that we might not get the chance to in "real life". As time has gone on and I've spent more time with ladies I don't think that way anymore as my perception of self has improved. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest P**aq Report post Posted February 17, 2014 Have you booked a session and not be able to perform as you hoped? If so, how did you handle that? Yes that has happened to me before (bound to eventually happen). I will just say that she was wonderful about it and made me feel comfortable in spite of things. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Wolf Knight 29667 Report post Posted February 17, 2014 (edited) Have you booked a session and not be able to perform as you hoped? If so, how did you handle that? LOL....my first session I was so nervous that I couldn't stay hard and didn't orgasm. Luckily the lady was very experienced and still made me feel great and I really enjoyed the intimacy. How I handled it was, pretty matter of factly, we both knew it wasn't going to happen so I just said it. The lady took a more reassuring approach and made me feel like it was ok and normal. I'm so glad I saw who I did and went with experience for my first time. Since others have mentioned her I've decided to edit my post to say Em was my first as well and I'm so grateful. Edited February 17, 2014 by nlwoodchuck add extra info 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Triple HHH 12345 Report post Posted February 17, 2014 Not performing comment with a SP I will be honest here, after meeting Emily Rushton in Fredericton I wanted to see her again, she was on PEI the next year so I booked an Appt. I was so nervous so close to home it happened for the first time, no erection, Emily was very polite with everything understood my situation. For about three years I would not visit anyone on PEI until last year , as I mentioned before a young lady convinced me no one was watching me and 2013 was definitely my coming out year to visiting touring ladies. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Studio 110 by Sophia 150333 Report post Posted February 17, 2014 For those who are married, did you ever go home and feel like it was written all over your face? Or go to work say to your self " they all know what I just did" lol Hope no one is answering as I edit this... For the married Gent's, do you find when you have sexual tension at home, after seeing an SP/MA are you in a better mind frame to deal with family life? Does it alter your mood allowing you to be happier at home? 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300291 Report post Posted February 17, 2014 What made you finally take the leap?Do you find yourself booking a lady because of her ad or recs or pictures (mostly)? How important is web presence (outside of cerb - website, blog, other ad sites etc) What made me take the leap. Well my dating life wasn't too successful, I was in my late 40's, had more than one or two dates in my life LOL and still single. My last g/f turned out to be, well put nicely, a sandwich short of a picnic and stalked me. That was it for dating for me. But three years without female companionship, well I thought I would try escorts. Google and CERB being useful, I had an encounter...the first three not so good, then my fourth encounter, GREAT!!! (I should mention, since she was the major reason for the GREAT encounters, that it was with Lonna Lux, now retired, but for me, always remembered...thanks Lonna for your companionship and many memorable memories) For me, recommendations don't play a large part in who I see. Yes I have read some, but they don't decide for me who to see. That said, I know they do play a major part in deciding for some gentlemen and I do write recos when I have a good encounter. Now I take seriously if a lady I trust and respect says I would like a certain lady, or to avoid certain ladies (that hasn't happened yet). Ladies I know also know me and have a good idea who I would connect with. A lady's pictures, again yes I look at her photos. But that isn't a deciding factor. Really, what hooks me is if I think we will click/connect. The best way for me at least to determine that is reading a lady's posts on CERB. Follow up emails kinda cinch it for me, but now for me, it's primarily CERB board presence. Yes blog posts help but often I may not be aware of a certain lady till she posts on CERB...so ladies I don't know I'm not going to read her blog Don't know if that answers your questions A rambling RG 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
emiafish 30979 Report post Posted February 17, 2014 What made you finally take the leap?Do you find yourself booking a lady because of her ad or recs or pictures (mostly)? How important is web presence (outside of cerb - website, blog, other ad sites etc) I first took the leap in the late 1970's. Means, motive and opportunity combined to make my first SP experience memorable and satisfying. I make my booking decisions based on several factors. I look for someone who will participate in types of sexual activities I enjoy. For example, I love all things oral; so kissing, cunnilingus and fellatio are high on my wish list. I look for someone with the right attitude, note the 'right' attitude can be different on different days. Attitude shows in how a provider advertises, both on CERB and elsewhere. Next I look at the physical - looks do form part of the equation however I tend to cast a wide net. I am older and am hardly a male model, so I do not hold physical appearance very high on the decision tree, but it is still a consideration. Availability also factors into the decision to book. I play when I get the chance, if our schedules don't line up then it does not matter if all other considerations are met. The final aspect to consider before booking with a particular provider is compensation. I play a lot; often two to three times a week for multiple hour long sessions. If a provider catches my eye, but is priced out of my budget, then sadly I let it pass. I do not begrudge any provider who sets their donation levels above my personal limit, but for now, I stick to those who fit into my budget. It is a long winded answer, but I believe you deserve to hear the complete answer. 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest N***he**Ont**y Report post Posted February 17, 2014 I was rebounder when i decided to take the plunge after reading the local news paper. I was feeling emotionally dead and was highly stressed after family issues. ( I am a family resource for my dad who is in his eighties) I looked at the ad and gave it some thought over a couple of weeks and decided to give it a whirl. I went to this Traveling Ladies site and took a look at what was required to make a booking. I had no reference as required as I was "VIRGIN STOCK" at the time and so I emailed the relevent information to her Her response was very pleasant and we exchanged more information about time etc. I was so sure I wouldn't be accepted because of the lack of references. I was very wrong. On the day of our scheduled encounter my phone rang and I heard one of the most pleasant voices I had ever heard.We confirmed the arangements over location etc and I was so glad I had pulled off the road during the conversation. The butterflies began and remained until I arrived at the encounter location. My Hobbyist devirginizing happened then. Thank you Emily Rushton This describes what a First Timer went through and I haven't forgotten what it felt like. IMO Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Wolf Knight 29667 Report post Posted February 17, 2014 For those who are married, did you ever go home and feel like it was written all over your face? Or go to work say to your self " they all know what I just did" lol 100% Honesty, never! For various reasons I hold no guilt for my participation in this industry. It's actually made me a better man in a few different ways. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest P**aq Report post Posted February 17, 2014 Yes, at first when I started but perhaps that's part of the appeal for some clients. To have the opportunity to spend time with ladies that we might not get the chance to in "real life". As time has gone on and I've spent more time with ladies I don't think that way anymore as my perception of self has improved. I've actually noticed a bit of a change in myself since seeing SPs the last couple of years. I've recently met a woman in civilian life, that years ago I would have considered "out of my league". I sincerely believe that I gained a confidence from my time with SPs, to actually pursue this woman with confidence. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Wolf Knight 29667 Report post Posted February 17, 2014 Hope no one is answering as I edit this... For the married Gent's, do you find when you have sexual tension at home, after seeing an SP/MA are you in a better mind frame to deal with family life? Does it alter your mood allowing you to be happier at home? Definitely! The impact is tremendous, there is a therapeutic aspect to the service you provide. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
emiafish 30979 Report post Posted February 17, 2014 Have you booked a session and not be able to perform as you hoped? If so, how did you handle that? I was on antidepressants for a while about 8 months ago. They had a sexual side effect that made it difficult for me to reach climax. Oh I still had desire and the ability to get a decent erection, but often I could not cum. Fortunately, I tend to live vicariously through the orgasms of my play partners. Being a cunnilingus aficionado and having a dick that did not pop off after five minutes helped in that area. Seriously, if my partner has a good time, then I had a good time. There was never any sense of embarrassment or shame, a little frustration possibly, if I'm totally honest. Additional Comments: For those who are married, did you ever go home and feel like it was written all over your face? Or go to work say to your self " they all know what I just did" lol Hope no one is answering as I edit this... For the married Gent's, do you find when you have sexual tension at home, after seeing an SP/MA are you in a better mind frame to deal with family life? Does it alter your mood allowing you to be happier at home? Great question! It brings me to the reason I partake in this lifestyle. I have a good sex life with my wife of over thirty years. The only problem is that we have mismatched libido's. When we first met, I was a two to three times a day type guy and she was a two to three times a week type girl. Over the years we've both slowed down a bit; I'm down to 2-3 times a week and she is 2-3 times a month. Long ago we reached an understanding that if I kept my hobby discrete and always put my wife first, then she understood my needs and looked the other way. Having sex with lots of different and skilled partners has made me a better lover. My wife benefits from my practice sessions. Just recently I had a very satisfying play date and a few hours later repeated much of the same activity with my SO. Sure I was tired, but in the end we were both very satisfied and happy. In answer to the question was it written all over my face; no unless you used a black light you'd never know where my face has been. 6 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nerdnerd 449 Report post Posted February 17, 2014 What made you finally take the leap?Do you find yourself booking a lady because of her ad or recs or pictures (mostly)? How important is web presence (outside of cerb - website, blog, other ad sites etc) I'm not sure I can answer if the question is, "the leap to being a hobbyist". As to the second part. The ad is important... unvarying ads might as well be web sites. I'm amazed at the number of ads that fail to tell me the basics of in/out, day/evg, where/how to find out more, and ideally, give me an idea if we are talking about 100s/hr, vs 1000s for a tryst. The pictures are interesting; not so much how lovely/erotic/etc. the lady is, as much as the question of what pictures and what poses she chose, and how she explained the pictures. I appreciate a lady that has her own web site that she controls... so I'm more impressed by a amateur site that I'm sure the lady was involved in creating and maintaining than a super flash intensive site that I know someone else wrote. It's because I'm interested in her thoughts and words. I do like ladies that have a blog... I don't find twitter useful, it's too public. There are at least three ladies where the words in her cerb ad was enough... the pictures were not important. Two of those ladies I did see, and although I haven't seen one of them for almost a year, I read their ads every week. In one, the ad was much better than the experience (I did not repeat). I do look at recommendations, and I do look for reviews on other sites. A disaster or two reported on other site is not a big deal... what matters is how things are/were handled. Additional Comments: Have you ever looked at an ad or profile and thought... "wow, she way out of my league?" No. She may be way out of my wallet's league. I've definitely said, "wow, she's way out of her league. Good luck with that"... 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest N***he**Ont**y Report post Posted February 17, 2014 The ad that I answered to was mysterious in the section of the local paper. Up here the paper is still a good resource as we don't always look to BP here. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
qwertyaccount 15793 Report post Posted February 17, 2014 What made you finally take the leap?Do you find yourself booking a lady because of her ad or recs or pictures (mostly)? How important is web presence (outside of cerb - website, blog, other ad sites etc) My circumstances were similar to romanguy's. Photos are important - I don't want to date someone that looks like an ex-girlfriend. The ad was key because it gave me some insight to the lady as well as some physical details. Not being the biggest guy, things like a lady not being too tall or too big for me were factored in. Some of my friends have dated girls that they spoke highly of that I thought were ugly on the inside, as I dated girls my friends didn't like - recommendations are interesting to read but didn't play a huge role for me. In the end, I was looking for someone I thought I could click with. An outside website/presence can be useful if it has more information that you'd like to share that doesn't fit into cerb's cookie cutter. Have you ever looked at an ad or profile and thought... "wow, she way out of my league?" Yes - all of them! Have you booked a session and not be able to perform as you hoped? If so, how did you handle that? Often - I use those sessions as learning experiences to make the next ones better. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
