Safety - How do you all stay safe?

[Jasmine Rain 23126]

I am also new and have not posted any ads. I will not be starting until the new year. I did start posting a few months ago on various forums as a "prep" for my introduction. I was hoping to be started by now, but alas, me at the wee morning hours on stairs with a little dog, did not work out in my favour. My tailbone being injured has left me with no tail to offer to others at the moment.

 

What I decided on was references from either a forum or provider. I have met a couple of ladies in the industry for dinner and asked all the questions I could. I searched over hundreds of sites. I am still fine tuning what I want to offer, what locations, etc, but I have resigned myself to a motto of "I can always say no"

 

When I think of my what adult companion life will be once I am finally advertising, I get nervous and have to remember that I can always say no. I have to set rules and boundaries and then find clients that will work within them. I would be silly to think I should market myself to clients who enjoy 20 something spinner type companions when I am a mature curvy woman. So there is not only a market for escorts, but there is one for clients as well. I know the market of clientele that I am looking for. They will, for the most part, have no issue with my screening process, and the ones that do are free to look else where with the best of wishes from me.

 

I need to feel comfortable, just as I want to ensure my gentleman callers are comfortable. So for me, I am prepared to say no. I think one thing I have heard a lot of warning about for newbies like us, is we fail to see or feel that we can decline a visit request, or that we can stop the visit during the encounter for any reason. There is nothing wrong with saying no so long as it is professional and honest. In my opinion at least.

 

Good luck and welcome to the board.

[FunAdventures 4501]

I need to feel comfortable, just as I want to ensure my gentleman callers are comfortable. So for me, I am prepared to say no. I think one thing I have heard a lot of warning about for newbies like us, is we fail to see or feel that we can decline a visit request, or that we can stop the visit during the encounter for any reason. There is nothing wrong with saying no so long as it is professional and honest. In my opinion at least.

 

Good luck and welcome to the board.

 

Comfort is something I am very big on as well, for both parties. I think I have come up with a way to ensure that this is the case for me. At least so far it has been working out well. I imagine as I get more experience and get to know the gentlemen, my approach will be continually evolving. But I think it is key to make sure that you are doing what feels right to you so that you can enjoy every moment of it!

 

I also think everyone has something unique to offer, and for that reason you can't please everyone. Chemistry is extremely important. And that's a great thing, if everyone was the same then where would the excitement be?! ;-)

[Ice4fun 78396]

I go on my instincts 100%. I need to hear a voice on the phone. That's my screening method. It's what I go by and no one prospective client can ever get past my radar. I've booked with people who weren't bad clients in a way that would be considered dangerous nor it was a horrible appt but I know I wouldn't want to see them again for other various reasons.

 

I could be speaking to the most polite person on the phone and they could follow all my instructions but I know within 30 seconds and if I don't get the thumbs up that all is okay, they're not going to be meeting me. And if they don't hear back from me after they've contacted me, it's for a reason. Same thing with wots, serial texters/callers and no shows. It could be the smallest thing that sets off my radar. I am very cautious and it's always the voice for whatever reason.

 

I met someone one time and they sounded like one of those cop voices on the phone. I spoke to him a couple of times and while I didn't get those bells going off in my head, there was something about him. When I met him in person he had a few peculiar things about his personality that sort of showed up during the appt but nothing serious, more like annoying where I've had to repeat myself a couple of times and always be assertive.

 

However, there have been several times where my instincts have said no, no and no. And I always listen to them. For the new ladies, never meet a client if you feel uneasy before meeting. If you are low on money, etc your health and safety are more paramount than a couple of hundred dollars. There will ALWAYS be another client waiting in the wings.

 

I have been so impressed by the LYLA women I have met who seem to demonstrate great instincts when it comes to judging people.

 

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[Guest D***el B***e]

Well, what can I say ... How do you stay safe you ask? ... you go for Daniel Boone!!! kind, gentle, funny, well-spoken, tantalizing, exciting, what more do you want? lol lol lmao

[Helena D'Orville 33237]

Oh, Danny! Sacre coquin and so hilarious!

;-)

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Oh and another big red flag is when I realize someone contacting me has no self awareness. Some try to continue on a texting conversation all day long asking question after question long after I've told them I have to go and have a nice day. Once I bid them goodbye and they keep the questions going esp after I've directed them to my website where it is all laid out or they don't call me as requested, then I consider either a waste of time or someone I don't wish to see. If they can't pick up on these cues from me that I have to go, who knows how unpredictable they might be. I dont mind having a quick conversation but will not be answering every question under the skin with many of them being very inappropriate. That's when they're logged into my phone as a wot.

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[VedaSloan 119179]

There is a motherload of info on the web.

 

This is a good place to start: http://tradesecretsguide.blogspot.ca/