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I cannot comment on the original poster because I dont know him, but I have seen many attractive men celebrities and confident and sensual men... their reasons always vary and some have been mentioned above, the greatest I feel being nsa encounters (almost the biggest reason why I do what I do!! and love it)...but another reason that I feel should be addressed is discretion: being a celebrity or being newly divorced in a small and gossipy neighborhood may as well be the same boat going up similar rivers....you need what you need....but you dont need the bad luck of the minimal degrees of separtaion to perhaps bring your weekend flings to center stage. High figures have told me they would rather hire a girl for private time than have his and some sweet and too-innocent-for-her-own good girl get their pictures snapped by blood-thirsty paparazzi casing drama among the public and their family and friends (who are probably doing the same but wont admit it). married or newly devorced are no different....they have their reputations...but they also have needs. Similarly there is the attractive charismatic man with the busy schedule....he focuses and loves his work to a point where there is simply no time to invest in courtship, 3 dates, and possibly no guarantee......many work-a-holics I see are happier that they are not devoting half their lives sitting in singles bars and neglecting their professional values just to get that intimacy that so many spend all their energy day-in and day out trying to find..... they can settle their needs privately and in turn live day to day being better (and more perma-smiled) people...we have served our jobs well when us SPs feel we have given what no late-night booty call could have ever offered or drunk easy girl at the singles bar would have given up for free (along with what she may be carrying or the puke-mess in your bathroom you may have to clean up later at your place) ;-) the best part about us....is the *promise*. Us ladies that take our jobs seriously if you are gentleman enough, are here to be everything you want and more from the moment you open the door to our welcoming smile....to the point that we brush the sweat off your forehead.

slow and gentle inserting your finger{i wear a condom} into your lovers ass...i like to have him very excited b4 the hand...haha ...make sure hes in the state where he would say yes to anything you ask...rim him then slowly with insert one finger....keep sucking him and arousing him all the while... {tie him to the bed is necessary}haha once he is comfortable with the feel of your finger move in a bit further ...feel for the prostrate...its feels very similar to your g-stop once you have found it massage it .. i like to give a bj while doing this...and a few other things but i can't be telling all my secrets..wink you will be able to tell if he is enjoying it sand I'm sure he will be...look at his face...i bet his eyes are closed or glazed over...and his making some wonderful sounds... you will know for sure he enjoyed it when he cums like crazy... that's the best way to start....from there you can go to using 2 fingers then toys...but it all takes time...don't expect to be rambing his ass with a strap on the next time you see him....little steps please... hope this helped some.. kisses, Emma A

Sorry, I still would disagree with you. AFAIK most SP are quite clear on their website, time paid for companionship only, anything else that occurs is between two consenting adults. There is no right implied or otherwise. If she doesn't consent to it it does not occur. Full stop. Any inappropriate touching can and should be considered assault. If you want to imply access then a one-night stand or a booty call is far clearer in this regard. Both parties engage in this with a clear goal in mind, sex.

I took today off to go to dinner and then to a sex-workers' pride event at a local club thrown by the group POWER that I'm a member of, the event was a huge success and we generated a lot of support, I was beaming with pride at the cheers generated by the hosts to the plight of realizing what it means to have safety and independance and honour brought to our proffession.....and that it should be deemed as such: a noble proffession. supporters were cheered on too....everyone was appreciated. However the night was not without its batch of naysayers and judgmental ignorants at the end of the evening....i actually lost some "friends" tonight (notice I use the term "friends" loosely) getting caught in debate as to what our world really was about and truly deserved. it leaves me a bit saddened...actually VERY heavy hearted.. but gives me hope in that this was a huge step for Ottawa. A difficult upwards battle is definitely in our future tho. I was basically outed to everyone that I happened to know outside of work tonight who happened to be there (perhaps the shirt that said "I LOVE my job" played a part in this, lol)...but I dont care anymore. This is my life, I've chosen it and those who dont care to see past their own stereotypes yet still attend a night like POWER threw tonight wishing to scoff and cast stones....well I wonder why they showed up in the first place. (??) I for one know a few blokes who showed up seeing if they could meet some "hookers" and "peelers" first hand and were surprised and turned off that there was a homosexual market in ottawa and were disgusted that "queers" were even mentioned tonight. One (no longer) "friend" came up to me at one point and asked me to point out all the "hot whores" that were present. I said (in less polite words) that I regreted ever handing him a flyer. Many people worked long and hard and planned this event thoroughly and delivered an amazing show...full of shout-outs and respectful cheers and amazing music and live performances. I personally would like to applaud POWER (prostitutes of Ottawa Gatineau, Work Educate Resist) for bringing the community together tonight. I for one am not going to let tonight's naysayers affect my pride for my work...if anything I feel sorry for some who judge before they even try to understand. I hope that everyone in support of tonight or in organization of tonight sees the contribution over the judgement and recognizes what a big step they have made for our industry in Ottawa. I for one (no matter what I may have lost tonight...that didn't matter in the first place now that I think of it) have gained more strength from coming to terms with who I am tonight.... ....and I have POWER to thank for it. all my love, xoxo Annessa

The recent passing of my mother made me relaize a few things: how important family and friends really are. OVer the past week i have learned that i have many friends here on CERb...good friends..friends that i have no idea how i would have gotten through this last week without. YOU know who you are...i want to share this poem that was read at my mom's funeral...something we should all think about...i love you guys...kisses and many many many thanks Emma A The Dash Poem By Linda Ellis I read of a man who stood to speak At the funeral of a friend He referred to the dates on her tombstone From the beginning to the end He noted that first came her date of her birth And spoke the following date with tears, But he said what mattered most of all Was the dash between those years For that dash represents all the time That she spent alive on earth. And now only those who loved her Know what that little line is worth. For it matters not how much we own; The cars, the house, the cash, What matters is how we live and love And how we spend our dash. So think about this long and hard. Are there things you'd like to change? For you never know how much time is left, That can still be rearranged. If we could just slow down enough To consider what's true and real And always try to understand The way other people feel. And be less quick to anger, And show appreciation more And love the people in our lives Like we've never loved before. If we treat each other with respect, And more often wear a smile Remembering that this special dash Might only last a little while. So, when your eulogy is being read With your life's actions to rehash Would you be proud of the things they say About how you spent your dash

{I think part of the thrill for men is the feeling of OWNING a woman. All you have to do is to read between the lines when they talk about their adventures... } I'm so sorry but i do not agree with this line at all...just because someone gives me a gift to spend time with doesn't mean they own me...i still have the right to say NO to anything i am uncomfortable with ...the word OWN is not appropriate here...

Humm Emma this sounds very familiar to me for some strange reason. I do want to add that the prostrate gland is a small Walnut size bump (if you are healthy) and should feel soft and possibly have some ridges on it. The best way for a newbie to experience this from a mans perspective is on his back. being on all fours is all little intimidating if you've never had one before. So on his back you can start by lubing his ass. You can rim him with your tongue if your comfortable doing it, but lubing should be sufficient. Then I would suggest slowly rubbing the anus and gently and slowly inserting one finger. Always remember slow going in and slow pulling out. This feels the best. Once your finger is in then look for the Prostrate which should be about 2 or more inches in and up towards his balls. Once you have you can rub it gently in circles, side to side or whatever your lover responds to. You'll know when you reach the spot by the way he squirms. You can ask if if he's comfortable and continue massaging. A BJ is wonderful during a PM. Cumming with your finger still inserted is to die for. A man can actually have an orgasm just through getting his prostate massaged. Hope this information from a mans perspective helps Hun

Reading this thread brings many thoughts to mind and heart. Because of the negative perceptions of this business, many SPs leave with no option but to simply cut ties. It is a struggle for an SP to leave for many reasons. Never assume the decision was flippant in any way. There is an emotional commitment to her clients and walking away isn't done on a whim. Most feel that terminating all contact is the only way to go. The shame and social rejection that comes from publicly admitting our profession is overwhelming to all those that do not have the inner fortitude to withstand and come thru it. Other professions allow a forwarding address and relationships developed are allowed to continue and are considered valuable, but in this there are so many challenges it is almost impossible to maintain relationships if a woman has been an SP in secret. The one reason that is consistent with all of those that leave for romantic motivations (which in my experience is the #1 reason for retirement) is the insecurity that comes from their SO. The fallout is usually nuclear in proportion if it is found out that there is a continued relationship with a guest after she has "squared up". Even the most stable of men will have issues with her work, and it will undermine everything in the union, and SPs realize this. It takes an extraordinary man to accept that her work isn't a threat, and underneath the facade SPs want most to be loved and accepted. So they are faced with a choice...the man who wants to love them forever or the man that wants to love them for an hour a couple of times a month. It's a huge gamble in my opinion. If a man cannot accept me in my entirety including my work, then he is not the man for me. From my perspective, a complete cessation of contact with my guests would be akin to cutting off a limb. First and foremost they are my friends. I tried to refer many of them this summer to other SPs and it was an complete and utter failure. The reason I continue to travel back to Ottawa is because I have guests here that count on me and leaving them hanging simply isn't an option. Does that mean we are to close? What is too close? Is loving someone wrong if it isn't in the "traditional" sense? I think the posts above show that guests truly are more than a venue to generate money and I want hobbyists to know that most professional SPs invest themselves emotionally in very deep ways. Always remember this profession doesn't usually attract the woman that is strong and whole. We become SPs because we are trying to fix the financial crunch and do not understand the emotional side of things until we are in it. Some find wholeness, it gives us so much. Others are destroyed by it. I find my work rewards me back in direct proportion to what I invest in it. Each and every one of us are bent in our own unique way. The common perception is that we are money hungry and greedy, but for the good ones it isn't true. We have an unusual ability to love and let go when the time is right. In the grand scheme of the Universe, all relationships are simultaneously precious and insignificant. We must live in the moment, cherish what is now and accept that nothing in this world is stable. Not the concrete buildings we reside in, the earth below our feet or the experiences shared. Every relationship I have is treasured for what it is right now. Tomorrow, if circumstances have changed, I will remember fondly as every experience builds who we are as people and that is what we are here for... Catherine