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Disclaimer: The view expressed below is mine and is not shared with the majority of the female population... There isn't a clear line here. It depends on where you are in life, what your life path is and what you want out of the days you have been given. Sheer economics will dictate that it's cheaper to rent, but do you really want to be alone....until the end? I am an abolitionist, no one can belong to anyone else so the concepts of legal marriage to someone who believes in monogamy is ludicrous to me now. Does that mean never falling in love or being committed to someone? Not in my little corner of life, it simply means supporting someone in their decisions even if it means he is going to have a relationship with a 20 something intern on the hill, a brilliant but pretentious 30 something from work or never get the divorce I thought he already had. If one can juggle 4 balls at the same time and smile, then it's all good from my perspective. The funny thing is that people buy into the facade of "this is the one" and when the hormones change and things settle down they think something is wrong. There is nothing wrong, it's the way life rolls out. I believe that the day a man stops hunting is the day his spark has been put out. It shouldn't happen but it does and it's always sad to see. The zest for life is the foundation for appreciating the experience we get to have and men flourish as long as their virility is intact. If that takes juggling multiple women, so be it, as long as he goes to sleep knowing he's happy. On our death beds it's never the things that we have done that concern us, it's the things we didn't have the courage to do that comes into focus. My philosophy is to do everything..... Cat

Indulge me here if you will on a bit of a rant and reminder regarding NO SHOWS. Apologies to anterlman for cutting in on his rant turf!! :) I've heard a number of complaints and concerns raised in the past while from various providers regarding clients who pull no shows and how frustrating it can be for them. I agree entirely that no shows mean time wasted, frustration and lost income and in the end they are just plain rude. In this day and age of communications tools ridding on our hips with a touch of a few buttons we can send a text, email or even an old fashion actual phone call to explain that we might be late, or possibly unable to attend. While it's still frustrating and lost income, the courtesy of the communication is appreciated and expected. I'd like to point out that the same frustrations are experienced from the client's perspective and that hopefully those new to the hobby or just not aware that when a provider pulls a no show it can be equally frustrating, is certainly a waste of time and can also result in lost income. I'm not sure that some providers take that into consideration when bailing out at the last minute or just not showing up as planned. Having recently had to dance through hoops in some cases to meet some established and well recommended ladies only to have the appointments booked and re booked or plain out canceled with little to no notice. Twice this has happened in recent weeks and twice it has ticked me off. I understand that life happens and shit hits the fan every now and then but I would hope and expect that the common courtesy of a phone call or text to explain why you've been waiting in a hotel lobby for 30 minutes is not to much to ask, is it ? This isn't directed to any one in particular by rather to serve as a reminder to all to do unto others as you would have them do to you. Thanks for hearing me out!

This should answer your question :) http://cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=18424

I agree with Annessa, life is too short to waste on people who do not appreciate and respect others time. That said, I have a confession. I am a flake on rare occasions and those out there who think all flakes don't feel remorse are incorrect. It kills me every time. I still have nightmares about the time I cc'd instead of bcc'ing Valentine invitations in '06. To this day I can't send out multiple emails, it literally gives me hives which is why so often I arrive in town without having sent out invites. It's not because I don't want to see and catch up with guests, but I run out of time to send out individual emails to all before my arrival. While in the confession mode, in October I stood a guest up. Why? I had a flake moment and had the time incorrect in my mind. Not in my daytimer mind you, but in my head! He buzzed and I was in the other end of the house putting finishing touches out. I came out thinking I was 20 mins ahead but was 10 mins late. He left, never to return even after I emailed and called with an explanation and apology. I don't think about it because when I do, it flips my stomach and leaves me queasy. At my age, I have learned that life is too short to be irritated or upset by those who walk amongst us who truly miss the bigger picture. They simply are in a place where they are the center of the universe. They may or may not realize we are truly insignificant and yet so precious at the same time, and I accept they may never grasp that we are all part of the same star dust. The day will come, if not in this life experience but the next when they realize that every act carries energy that effects the world on the whole. For now, I simply focus on not letting the negativity enter my little world because really that's all I have to worry about. It makes my world a much nicer place. Just MHO. Cat

in a situation like this, what I've learned is always to remind the potential client that you "may" be available at that time, but unless they can confirm that they absolutely want that time-frame and provide you with a cell number for you to call them on at that exact hour (not "around") that they've requested in case of an emergency, then they do not have an appointment. Enforce that you need at LEAST an hour's notice and you as the SP, need to get that message and confirm it before he can even step a foot near your hotel. seriously tho...lingering in the lobby....while texting over and over...even if he DID go up, do you think the hotel lobby staff wouldn't have watched what floor the elevator stopped at? This shows a client who *ONE* isnt willing to make a solid booking....and *TWO* is not willing to consider their's or your discretion. granted, some people are new and dont understand that this is a business....but hopefully you sent him a polite email afterwards telling him the reasons wht his approach was not "how this works" ...- on the subject of CKs original problem, I have turned into the most anal businesswoman after going indi in this business...and for the better. I find in most cases if I'm dealing with someone (SP, or chick I'm trying to buy somenthing off of Usedottawa.ca etc) that the younger they are, the flakier their business ettiquette is. I have Blacklisted SPs that flake on duos and Blacklisted Graphic Design clients that are no-shows for meetings.....time is money, and I'm not going to let anyone waste my time. I had a Graphics client studder and wonder why I decided not to take on his project after he suggested we meet at a fancy restaurant where I drank for an hour by myself only to have him not show up coz he "forgot" he said "so thats it? you dont need my money? dont you know what I'm willing to pay you??" sound familiar girls? No-shows and flakes are unacceptable in ANY business...whether you're on the service end or on the client's receiving end...and a terrible businesswoman has just as much to lose as a no-show client. That being said, I know there is a warnings section for the gents, but are they allowed to post no-shows etc in that section. No-showing is ridiculous....sometimes a si ple call to say "I'll be 10 mins late" works wonders. commmonnnnnn!

I finally had the great pleasure to meet Lana at her downtown hotel and all i can say is that i had a great time. She is one of the kind. I was nerveous and impressed first, but she helped me to relax... Very sexy as mentioned. She is also a great masseuse.