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I have been reading about big AL and Soleil events and posts over the last few days, and was brought to a new found level of admiration to both people involved.....actually now 3 people thanks to one silent generous person. I would like to see if we (CERB) could do something for at least 2 of the people involved. You see big AL put himself out there and opened his life and let us in to something very personal and incredibly brave in his life....... Soleil showed here true heart and her love of life by being part of big Al's life...... I feel both these people should be thanked for sharing this with us and by possibly opening some of our eyes and hearts. I would like to ask to see who would help support the idea of having 2 awards bestowed on 2 very special individuals without having to wait for multiple threads and weeks of voting Soeil.........Service Provider Award big Al........Valued Memebr Award All who agree please add your your comment

A new book came out about a month ago called the Book of Awesome. It is the natural extension of a blogger's project to list 1000 awesome things... not stuff like the Sistine Chapel ceiling (which I must admit is awesome) or the Grand Canyon (also awesome.) He started the blog and book when things were going downhill in his life and needed to see simple things that made him smile. This list has stuff like "popping bubble wrap," "the cold side of the pillow," "the smell of air in a bakery." Simple stuff that makes you smile... sooooo... let's try this out.... Here goes: 1. The feel of twirling soft hair between my fingers 2. A seductive whisper 3. A kiss with a sweet aftertaste. 4. A unexpected smile from a stranger. 5. Something so funny it makes you pee (just a little bit) 6. A steak cooked to perfection. 7. A great hair day 8. The first time she says, "I love you." (that was sappy but how can you argue with it?) 9. An ice cold beer on a hot day 10. An obscure song that just takes you back to that perfect day. your turn!!!!

304. Thunderstorms 305. Making the perfect pancake 306. Soaking in natural mineral hot springs (Baden Baden - 1991) 307. The smell of fresh laundry that has been drying on a clothesline 308. The sound of loons, owls and doves 309. Fresh free-range farm eggs 310. A custom made sandwich from DiRienzo's on Beech (at Champagne) St. 311. Stroking my niece's curly red hair.

Thanks for all the responses! I think what I said may have been slightly misinterpreted...or at least I didn't word it well... I am always polite and personable when I talk to someone on the phone. I do try and do what you say Mod, and "close the deal" :motion:. I never tell them to "just go and look at my website" and be bitchy and condescending in any way.:ablow: I just prefer to ask more personable questions like "Are you from here?" What kind of experience are you looking for?" "Hasn't the weather been awesome?" "Have any plans for the summer?", etc.:?: But on the other hand, I definitely see where you are coming from Mod :idea:, and others with similar views. It is unreasonable to exepect EVERY person that visits your site to read the whole thing. And I do see how the conversation can be an important part of the experience for some, especially since GFE is my specialty. But that's why the Mod is the Mod...he is wise! :bowdown: So please don't think I am dissing all you people who ask questions...that's why I like to be a part of this community...to hear both sides of the story...that's what makes this a great place to be! :-D Julie PS . Thanks for the nomination! :mrgreen:

NOTE: I was writing this while Shavez posted the above post... Ladies: Bluntly put... A lot of guys call you to see what you voice sounds like, to get a feel for what your personality is like over the phone, to see how professional you conduct yourself, to see if your sweet or rude/cold. etc... they probably read your ad and know the answers they are asking, chances are they just want to "Feel you out" to see if you sound nice!! If your site answers all his questions it may leave very little to ask you over the phone... but the phone call to some of the guys is very important. I am sure most of them DID read your info and site (Sure some don't and those guys are really just idiots and jerks) but many of the guys just want to feel you out a little to see if you sound as sexy as you look to them in the photos. It could also be a first timer who is nervous... MANY reasons exist for this to happen - bait and switch ads on CL is a perfect example... many of the guys are probably SICK of being lied to and they no longer trust the crap info on the ads - they are going to ask everyone questions to see if they slip up too... if you advertise on places where you know they have a lot of BAD advertisers you can expect this MORE!! (CL). The smarter business women know to be kind, polite, flirty, sexy and use this opportunity to "real in the catch" when someone calls them asking questions - Sorry for the phrase but it's true... you got a fish on the hook are you going to let him go easily or reel him in and land the catch!! This is your time to shine and seam the deal! Some companies pay MILLIONS of dollars a year to get consumers to call them and ask questions about products. All the info could be online but companies know that it's a lot easier to sell on the phone or in person (especially with a good sales person on the phone). ... I am not saying you should chat with the guys for hours but a few minutes to land the deal is not a bad thing and unless you are a playboy playmate (or similar) and can get tons of bookings off your photos along you do need to include personality in the mix to land the deal... and it's part of a successful business. If you have the model looks and the personality to boot - look out as your going to be very busy but than again if you don't have the centerfold looks but are a sweetheart and can make the guy feel like a million bucks your going to be very popular with lots of regular clients! If you tell a guy who calls to hear your voice to go to your website instead of talking on the phone with him your pretty much saying "stop wasting my time" (We all know a lot of ladies do this) and I don't blame anyone for hanging up on a person who does this. If I call a company for information and they don't want to answer my questions over the phone... Screw'em! I am going to someone who does offer a more personal service and will take the time to answer my questions. For the ladies who do this and wonder why the other ladies get more appointments and a lot more recommendations it's because your pretty much telling them to go find someone else. I get complaints ALL THE TIME about ladies who are rude to the guys (The guys feel they need to tell me about this all the time in PM's and my reply to them is - good indication to find someone else who is not rude or bitchy to you right?) Some guys (Not all) but some NEED this first phone call to entice them enough to book time with you. I understand you may be busy at the time the phone rings but for heavens sake be nice to the guy, don't answer the phone when you can't talk in quiet and openly, have a sexy intriguing voice message so to add to his fantasy and make sure he comes back... your not selling just sex (especially those who do GFE) your selling a whole package (Sex appeal, lust, eroticism, fantasy, etc) If you do answer the phone and don't have time to answer the questions make sure you leave him wanting more and wanting to call you back. Say I am sorry I would love to talk but I can not right now can you call me back in 20 minutes and I will make some time for you to answer any questions you have... if you sweet and sexy he is going to call back and if you are polite and intriguing on the phone you will probably land the call. It surprises me how some ladies answer their business phone. Sometimes you hear screaming kids, sometimes you here people in the background yelling, some ladies answer the phone sounding like you just woke them up, some sound like they just smoked 50 cigarettes, loud music in the background, and worst of all some ladies (and agencies) are FAR from polite... Still after all these years BLOWS MY MIND but this happens to our staff all the time. On the flip side... You have the ones who answer the phone very sweet, they are super kind and inviting... often bubbly, you know they are genuine good hearted soles, those are the ladies who really stand out and I am sure the ones you have the multiple page recommendations on here for as well. The phone call is just part of the experience for many guys. Does she sound sexy? Does she sound sweet? Is she warm or cold/abrupt? The phone call is a way for the guy to say "I am interested enough to call you now sell me on your services so I will book an appointment with you". Some of you think that your website or photos and text should be enough (maybe it is for some but many need to hear your voice and feel you out over the phone first). You do need to be able to feel out the time wasters and the non-serious guys but that is just part of the business... everyone gets these guys too. Answer 1 or 2 quick questions than take control of the conversation... steer the conversation with something like "How did you find my number?" and "Do you like my photos?" or even to the point "When would you like to come see me I have some time open tomorrow at noon??" (Be in control but be sexy and intriguing) ... by this time they have heard your voice and your personality and if they continue to ask questions that are on the ad where they found you they may be a time waster or maybe they are shy and nervous still. If you rush them, brush them off, send them away to read your info like you don't have time to answer a few simple questions on the phone... they are going to assume a date with you will go pretty much the same way!! EWE!!!! You have to land the deal at the phone call time and know when they are wasting your time so you can move on if need to. It's not easy, it is the art of seduction. If you think they are dragging out the call it's your last chance to land the deal but let them know if they want more they must book some time with you. Something like "I am sorry but I have an appointment right now and have to run, I would love to see you so how bout you give me a call when your ready to come see me??" If you did the job they will set up an appointment right on the spot at that moment or they may call you back in a few days after they spend some nights fantasizing about how wonderful you SOUND! This phone call is your chance to LAND the DEAL and it is why you spend all the time making ads (and paying for ads on high traffic sites and newspapers). The ads can only go so far... that phone call is often what lands the deal so don't blow it by being rude or cold or having screaming kids or mood killing distractions like screaming people or loud music in the background! EWE!! Guys... am I wrong? How much of that initial phone calls lands the deal or not for you? How many of you have been turned off of a lady because of how that phone call went?

Hi Julie, I think that you don't understand what is happening here. The potential client is listening to you ; I mean really listening to you. Often not so much what you are saying but but what you are telling them with the way you are saying it. Hell anyone can write an ad. I could write your ad; but only you can tell me about you. When I contact a lady I alway want to talk. My decission is never made until we talk, it doesn't matter what her picture looks like or her list of service. It is alway the conversation that sells her so don't undersell yourself. Take a few minutes to talk. Remember it is often not the facts but the story that sells the book. Happy selling

I agree with you...Some of us did put a lot of energy in a informative website and while it may be only one question from a guy...making by X20 it is a lot of time consuming repeating the same thing and where the info is already on website.You may be happily surprise to find out thing on that website about the provider that you didnt know.So please help us helping you..Click on the link:razz:8-)