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RG, in answer to your question, yes, i would. Like you, I also write recos based on the time i spent with a particular lady, not based on what was written by someone else.

I think there is a difference between references and reviews, the fact that one is done in public and one in private has a huge impact on function. I have read most of the reviews of me and some are accurate, some are interesting and a couple are complete works of fiction. Even if you take into account the subjectiveness of ones point of view I know that a couple of them never actually happened they describe things that just are not true, things I don't own, I wouldn't do (like my eating a steak :confused: I don't even get why one would lie about that :confused: x2 ), etc. My point is sometimes you have to take into consideration that reviews are written for the audience, they are public and just like one might be looking for 'shills' you have to question bad reviews that might be written to harm a girl as well. If you want an accurate picture of what a lady is like take the best two reviews and the worst two reviews and toss them out and then look at what remains. Oh and as to whether you should write one - well if she likes reviews then by all means do so, afterall you'll be contributing to 'what remains' even if yours is one of the best ones ever written because you'll just be adding to the pile of good reviews. References are written for a private audience it's a one on one conversation so there isn't really a reason to pump someone up or to knock them down - there is no personal gain in it. Providing accurate references is something that is valued and it helps build relationships in the industry which is important when you need a reference or information of your own. If I saw a client and my date was fine but he had negative experiences with another lady I would ensure the lady that contacted me was aware of both experiences. I would tell her that though I had a good date she may wish to contact XYZ to see what her experience was because if she felt it was something to warrant a warning (if it was posted on a date check site) or perhaps it came up in a discussion on a board the lady asking for the reference deserves the opportunity to make an informed decision on whether to see the client. No amount of money is worth risking your health or safety and IMHO that is why references are provided, just because I had a good date does not mean the next lady will and withholding information that may be relevant would be irresponsible. I value these references and hope that the ladies I contact will be forthcoming with any information regarding my safety and I feel I should do the same in return.

Getting turned on by the misery of others is not something I will judge you for. I believe we have little control over our sexual fetishes. But I will judge an individual for actively participating in the misery of others. I think maybe the bigger faux-pas was anally raping the woman he paid, if that's what indeed happened. This is crude and inaccurate. Do you really think that there aren't women right here in Ottawa participating in the sex trade as a desperate means of survival? Do you think there aren't women in other countries who use sex work as a means of acquiring wealth? That was a huge generalization!

I recently went home to Quebec City for the week, and while eating dinner with family members, my uncle mentioned seeing a sex worker while he was in Cuba (he used the term 'prostitute', of course). The tone of the conversation was light, and many family members were teasing him because he was intoxicated when he saw her. His intoxication resulted in him penetrating her anally without her consent. The situation was 'funny' because he didn't understand why he smelled like shit until getting back to the hotel. It is small solace to know that she stole all his stuff afterward (a small act of resistance that makes me hope she's ok). I was extremely upset at the candid nature with which my family blatantly accepted this series of events. Their tacit complicity was rather revolting and yet, I'm not willing to say they're 'bad people'. There are way too many factors to take into consideration when trying to understand why something like this is 'celebrated'. There are many differences (many) between sex work in Canada, and sex tourism (although I'm not willing to hierarchasize one as 'more' emancipated than the other). People need to take into consideration things like the global political economy that enables these kinds of environments in the first place, the World Bank, and IMF (and their loaning policies), state complicity in the promotion of sex tourism, patriarchy/misogyny in 'home' states, the fetishization/eroticization of the sexual 'other', racism, a disregard for the lives of certain 'types' of people ('prostitutes' and people of colour, for example) Like I said in a different post (http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=219900#post219900), I'm not willing to say women have no sexual agency, even under conditions of extreme poverty and exploitation. Although I'm not expecting people to admit to engaging in sex tourism (especially after I framed it so negatively by bringing up my recent encounter with it), I wonder what people think about the differences between sex tourism and seeing an escort locally. Please comment on anything I've mentioned that peaks your interest. All of these issues are really important in my opinion.

So, tomorrow is the big day. Lets keep the cons (conservatives) out. Be informed as what they stand on prostitution laws. There is no doubt about it. They want to make it illegal and if they form a majority they will do it (even consensual sex and outcall escorts). If their scandalous corrupt regime is not bad enough for you or if the way they reward the rich and corporations is not bad enough for you or if their massive cuts plan on government spending and social programs to buy jets and build jails is not bad enough for you, then for this reason alone, if you like your hobby you know what your vote should be. Voting strategically is to look at the vote count (link below, thanks to Robx) in your constituency and if NDP is ahead and competing against a con then vote for NDP and if the liberal candidate is ahead and competing against a con, then vote liberal. ABH (Anything but 4 more years of Harper). Project Democracy - Ridings by province http://www.projectdemocracy.ca/canad...ookup/province

You got that right! ;) Land of plenty for whom? Not everyone equally, that's for sure. Ever looked to see how much a single woman with children on welfare gets? There are many opportunities in Canada, but these are not equal opportunities.

He wasn't doing anything, that the rest of society does not already do (whether they admit to it or not) Of course they have to bring this up as anything associated with "escort" or "Massage" must make you a bad person or you must be publicly humiliated for it. People like Jack, cause he is real...Maybe not all his views are something we love 110% but he is down to earth and human and we can all relate to him in one way or another.

Me, going out fishing on a regular basis does it for me...of course I get funny tan lines...like on my head/face...I wear a hat, no tan, but face, tan (btw I'm bald) Always, always, I use sunblock...70 SPF, especially after a melanoma scare a few years back Remember ladies, no tan, no matter how you think it makes you look, is worth getting skin cancer for...and you don't need to be tanned to look beautiful...you are all beautiful already RG

Interresting question Sacha. Actually I am a little suprised that more men havn't given an answer similar to the one I will give: I like meeting women, I like to experience all sorts of ladies, ( sexually and non sexually), and I enjoy the variety that comes with all ages. I am well into my middle ages and often find a lady of say 45 , comfortable(as long as she is at ease with her own sexuality, ie she doesn't want to compete with a young 20 something). A lady of 30 or 35 is frequently more dependable and fun. She knows what she can do, she knows the buisness, and she is interrested in her reputation. A younger lady, say 20 to 24, is a little edgy, but I like that uncomfortable feeling. She often doesn't give a shit about her reputation and can be quite undependable but adventurous with-in her own bounds(not yours). Ladies between 24 and 30 are exactly a blend of the two age groups on either side of them. Almost as adventurous, and more willing to stretch their bounds, if we can make it interresting. Less dependable than they should be, often quite adventurous. There is lots to enjoy in each of these groups. (less than 20 years is a little chancy for me. They really need to have a boyfriend or two first to help them understand their own sexuality). Ladies over 45 years. I'm open. As long as they have a good sexual appetite, we could try it. All that said, I find the the ladies in Manitoba are maybe a little more mature in age than other places. They certainly are more honest about their ages. I tend to think that the working life of a lady in Manitoba is a little longer, especially compared to Toronto. I know a lady that used to advertise her age in Manitoba as 31. She moved to T.O. and dropped 7 years from her ad. When I asked her what her real age is she told me the her Manitoba age was correct but ' everyone here lies' . For her it works easily. That was a year ago. I saw her last month, she could pass for 22 yrs. any day of the week. (lucky girl! well we could all use some luck, right). In the end I prefer all ages, just don't give me attitude.....chicas

We have already discussed this issue at length in a previous thread, but I really do not understand what the deal is about hiding everything about who you are!! You know what we look like, somewhat of what kind of person we are by our posts and Ads, you know our phone number, email and once an appointment is booked you know where we live or recieve our incalls. There are sooooo many things YOU can do to us. What can we really do having a handle on a board? Or a phone number? We do not know anythign about you! So really what can we do? This is our job, its what puts the food on the table and pays our rent! Unless you harmed us in any way, it would be a career ending move if we choose to do something with the info you provide us with. What if we were raped or beaten half to death? The first thing out of your mouth would be "Do you know anything about the person?" NO, because we need the money to live and too many people are making a big fuss about giving a little of personal info, so all I know is he looks like..... and his name is John Doe!! Then we are a no longer considered a victim, we are just clueless! YOU may not be a sicko, a rapist or a murderer, but who says the next guy after you is not???

Dear Doctor Gabby, As your gentleman and your temporary lover,I truly enjoy being your guest of honor and companion for the patient care that I do need time to time. Thanks Doc, I sincerely "enjoy time well spent" with you ;) Pete